Makuakāne: inā paha e hele i ka hānau keiki

He kuleana anei ka noho ana o ka makuakane ma ka hanau ana?

"No kekahi mau kāne, he kuleana ka hele ʻana i ka hānau keiki, no ka mea, hilinaʻi nui kā lākou mau hoa i ko lākou alo. A inā ma kahi o 80% o nā kāne e hele i ka hānau keiki, manaʻo wau pehea ka nui o lākou i koho maoli, "wahi a ka pale keiki ʻo Benoît Le Goëdec. ʻAʻohe manaʻo o ka makua kāne a paʻakikī iā ia ke haʻalele, no ka makaʻu e ʻike ʻia - no ka makua kāne ʻino a i ʻole ka makaʻu. E makaʻala hoʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻohewa iā ia: ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hele ʻole ʻana, ʻaʻole ia he makua kāne ʻino, akā hiki i kekahi mau kumu ke koi iā ia e hōʻole e komo.

No ke aha i hōʻole ai ka makuahine i ka hele ʻana o ka makua kāne i ka wā hānau?

I ka wā o ka hānau ʻana, ʻike ʻia ka pilikino o ka wahine. ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana i kona kino, kona ʻeha, ʻaʻole i kaohi hou ʻia e hiki ke paipai i ka makuahine e ʻae ʻole i ke alo o kāna wahine. Ua hōʻoia ʻo Benoît Le Goëdec e pili ana i kēia "makemake paha ʻo ia e ʻoluʻolu e pili ana i kāna ʻōlelo kino a me kāna ʻōlelo, ʻaʻole makemake i kāna hoa e nānā iā ia inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia a hōʻole e hoʻihoʻi iā ia i ke kiʻi o ke kino holoholona". Ma kēia kumuhana, ʻoi aku ka makaʻu ʻē aʻe: ʻike ke kāne i ka makuahine wale nō a hūnā i kona ʻano wahine. ʻO ka hope, makemake nā makuahine ʻē aʻe e noho kaʻawale no ka mea makemake lākou e hauʻoli piha i kēia manawa - me ka manaʻo ponoʻī - me ka ʻole e kaʻana like me ka makuakāne.

He aha ka hana a ka makua kāne i ka wā hānau?

ʻO ka hana a ka hoa e hōʻoluʻolu i kāna wahine, e hoʻopaʻa iā ia. Inā hiki i ke kāne ke mālama iā ia i ka mālie, e lanakila i kona kaumaha, loaʻa iā ia ka manaʻo o ke kākoʻo ʻia, kākoʻo ʻia. Eia kekahi, "i ka wā o ka hānau ʻana, hoʻokomo ka wahine i kahi honua ʻike ʻole a ʻo ia, ma kona alo, hāʻawi iā ia i ka hilinaʻi a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hoʻi hou i kona ola maʻamau", e like me Benoît Le Goëdec. Hōʻike ka hope i ka pilikia o kēia manawa: ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole he hoʻokahi pale keiki i kēlā me kēia wahine e alakaʻi i ka hoʻololi ʻana i ke kuleana o ka makua kāne. Ua lilo ʻo ia i mea ikaika loa ma ke ʻano, no ka laʻana, ua noi ʻia ʻo ia e nānā i nā kūlana o kāna wahine, ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia e hana.

ʻO ke alo o ka makua kāne i ka hānau ʻana: he aha nā hopena i ka paternity?

ʻAʻole loa no ka mea ʻokoʻa ka ʻike, ka manaʻo o kēlā me kēia. Hōʻike kēlā me kēia kanaka iā ia iho ma kona ʻano ponoʻī. Eia kekahi, ʻo ka hele ʻole ʻana i ka hānau ʻana ʻaʻole ia e hoʻohālikelike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka makua kāne maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. E ulu liʻiliʻi ka pilina ma waena o ka makuakāne a me ke keiki. ʻAʻole pono mākou e poina ʻaʻole pili wale ka hānau ʻana o ke keiki: aia ma mua, i ka wā a ma hope o ka hānau ʻana.

ʻO ke alo o ka makua kāne i ka hānau ʻana: he aha nā pilikia no ka moekolohe o nā kāne?

Hiki i ka noho ʻana o ka makua kāne i ka hānau ʻana ke hopena i ke ola wahine. I kekahi manawa, manaʻo ke kanaka i ka emi ʻana o ka makemake ma hope o ka ʻike ʻana i ka hānau ʻana o kāna keiki. Akā ʻo kēia emi ʻana o ka libido hiki ke loaʻa i kahi makua kāne ʻole i kēia manawa, ma muli o ka hoʻololi ʻana o kāna wahine i kona kūlana ma kekahi ʻano, lilo ʻo ia i makuahine. No laila ʻaʻohe kānāwai ma ia mea.

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Ke alo o ka makua kāne i ka hānau ʻana: pehea e hoʻoholo ai?

Inā lawe ʻia ka hoʻoholo e ʻelua, pono loa e mahalo i ke koho ʻana o kekahi a me kekahi. ʻAʻole pono ka makua kāne e manaʻo he kuleana a me ka makuahine e huhū. No laila, pono ke kamaʻilio ma waena o lāua. Eia naʻe, hiki pinepine i ka wela o ka hanana e hoʻololi ka makuakāne i ka wā e hiki mai ana, no laila, mai kānalua e haʻalele i kahi lumi no ka spontaneity. A laila, hiki iā ia ke haʻalele i ka lumi hana i kēlā me kēia manawa inā manaʻo ʻo ia he pono e hana pēlā.