E kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā smartphones a me nā kamepiula, he categorical mākou: he mea pono a pono hoʻi, akā he hewa. He ʻokoʻa ka manaʻo o Katerina Demina ʻohana: ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā hāmeʻa ma mua o nā minus, a ʻoi aku hoʻi, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke kumu o nā paio i loko o ka ʻohana.
Psychologies: ʻO ke ahiahi home — kamaʻilio ʻo makuahine ma kahi ʻelele, pāʻani ʻo makuakāne ma ke kamepiula, nānā ke keiki iā Youtube. E haʻi mai iaʻu ua maikaʻi?
Katerina Demina: Maikaʻi kēia. He ala ia e hoʻomaha ai. A inā, ma waho aʻe o ke kau ʻana i nā hāmeʻa, loaʻa i nā lālā o ka ʻohana ka manawa e kamaʻilio pū me kekahi, a laila maikaʻi loa ia. Hoʻomanaʻo wau ua hele ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa - ʻekolu keiki a ʻekolu mau mākua - e hoʻomaha i ke kai. I mea e mālama ai i ke kālā, hoʻolimalima lākou i kahi hale liʻiliʻi ma kahi kauhale liʻiliʻi. I ke ahiahi, hele mākou i ka cafe kahakai hoʻokahi a, e kali ana i kahi kauoha, noho, kanu kēlā me kēia i kāna kelepona. Ua like paha mākou me he ʻohana ʻino, haki. Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua hoʻopau mākou i ʻekolu pule i ka ihu, a loaʻa ka Pūnaewele ma kēia cafe wale nō. ʻO nā hāmeʻa kahi manawa kūpono e noho hoʻokahi me kou mau manaʻo.
Eia kekahi, pili paha kāu moʻolelo i kahi ʻōpio. No ka mea, ʻaʻole ʻae ke keiki kula mua iā ʻoe e noho i kahi kamaʻilio a i ʻole kahi pāʻani pūnaewele. E lawe ʻo ia i ka ʻuhane mai ou aku: nona, he mea waiwai nui ka manawa i hoʻohana ʻia me ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine. A no ka ʻōpio, ʻo ka manawa leʻaleʻa me nā mākua ka mea liʻiliʻi loa o ke ola. No ia, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā hoa.
A inā mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi kāne? Hoʻi ka kāne a me ka wahine i ka home mai ka hana a, ma kahi o ka hoʻolei ʻana iā lākou iho i loko o nā lima o kekahi, pili lākou i nā mea hana ...
I ka pae mua o ka pilina, i ka wā e pau ai nā mea a pau i ke ahi a heheʻe,ʻaʻohe mea e hiki ke hoʻohuli iāʻoe mai kāu mea aloha. Akā i ka manawa, piʻi ka mamao ma waena o nā hoa, no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke puhi i nā manawa āpau. A ʻo nā hāmeʻa kahi ala hou e kūkulu ai i kēia mamao loa i ʻelua. Ma mua, ʻo kahi kaʻa kaʻa, lawaiʻa, inu, TV, nā hoaaloha, nā hoaaloha i lawelawe i ke kumu like, "Hele wau i kahi hoalauna, a hoʻoulu ʻoe i ka porridge i kēlā me kēia ʻelima mau minuke."
ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohui mau me kekahi. ʻO ka luhi, lawe ʻo ia i ke kelepona, nānā iā Facebook (kahi hui extremist i pāpā ʻia ma Rusia) a i ʻole Instagram (kahi hui extremist i pāpā ʻia ma Rusia). I ka manawa like, hiki iā mākou ke moe ʻaoʻao ma kahi moe a heluhelu kēlā me kēia i kā mākou lipine ponoʻī, e hōʻike ana kekahi i kekahi i kekahi mau mea ʻakaʻaka, kūkākūkā i nā mea a mākou e heluhelu ai. A ʻo kēia kā mākou ʻano pili. A hiki iā mākou ke noho pū i nā manawa a pau a i ka manawa like e inaina kekahi i kekahi.
Akā, ʻaʻole anei nā kelepona a me nā kamepiula e hoʻoulu ai i nā paio ke "holo" kahi mea aloha iā lākou, a ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kiʻi aku iā ia?
ʻAʻole hiki i nā hāmeʻa ke kumu o ka hakakā, e like me ka hiki ʻole ke hoʻohewa ʻia ke koi no ka pepehi kanaka, a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopiʻi ʻia ka peni no ke kākau ʻana i nā talena. ʻO nā kelepona a me nā papa he mea hana no ka leka uila. Me ka metaphorical — ʻano like ʻole o ka pili ʻana a i ʻole ka huhū. Malia paha ua paʻa ka pilina ma nā humuhumu no ka manawa lōʻihi, no laila, ke hoʻi mai nei ke kāne i ka home mai ka hana, hoʻomake i kona poʻo i ke kamepiula. Hiki iā ia ke loaʻa kahi haku wahine, hoʻomaka e inu, akā ua koho ʻo ia i nā pāʻani kamepiula. A ke hoʻāʻo nei ka wahine e hoʻopili.
ʻAʻole pili kahi kanaka, nā hāmeʻa wale nō, no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi me lākou. He pōʻino kēia?
Huikau anei kakou i ke kumu a me ka hopena? Loaʻa mau ka poʻe i hiki ʻole ke kūkulu i nā pilina. Ma mua, ua koho lākou i ka loneliness a i ʻole nā pilina no ke kālā, i kēia lā ua loaʻa lākou i ka puʻuhonua i ka honua virtual. Hoʻomanaʻo wau ua kamaʻilio mākou me kahi ʻōpio 15 makahiki i kona ʻike ʻana i kahi pilina kūpono me kahi kaikamahine nona iho. A ʻōlelo ʻo ia me ka minamina: "Makemake au e kau ʻia ma kuʻu kuʻekuʻe ke makemake wau. A inā ʻaʻole pono, ʻaʻole ia i ʻālohilohi. Akā ʻo kēia ka pilina o ke pēpē me ka makuahine! Ua ho'āʻo wau e wehewehe iā ia no ka manawa lōʻihi he kamaliʻi. I kēia manawa ua ulu ke kanaka ʻōpio a ke kūkulu nei i nā pilina makua ...
He ʻano maʻamau ka pakele ʻana i ka honua virtual no ka poʻe i oʻo ʻole a hiki ʻole ke hāpai i kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe ma hope o lākou. Akā, hōʻike wale nā gadget i kēia, ʻaʻole kumu. Akā i loko o kahi ʻōpio, ʻo ka addiction gadget he kūlana weliweli loa. Inā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e aʻo, ʻaʻohe ona hoaaloha, ʻaʻole hele wāwae, pāʻani ʻo ia i nā manawa a pau, kani i ke kani kani a ʻimi koke i ke kōkua. He hōʻailona paha ia o ke kaumaha!
I kāu hoʻomaʻamaʻa, aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona i ka wā i hoʻopilikia ʻole ai nā hāmeʻa i ka ʻohana, akā, ma ke ʻano ʻē, ua kōkua?
E like me kou makemake. Kāhea ko mākou hoa noho he 90 makahiki i kāna mau moʻopuna a me kāna moʻopuna i ka lā a pau. Aʻo pū ʻo ia i ka poema me lākou. Kōkua me ka ʻōlelo Farani. Hoʻolohe ʻo ia i kā lākou pāʻani ʻana i kā lākou mau ʻāpana mua ma ka piano me ka palaka. Inā ʻaʻole i haku ʻia ʻo Skype, pehea ʻo ia e ola ai? A no laila ua ʻike ʻo ia i kā lākou mau hana a pau. ʻO kahi hihia ʻē aʻe: ua hele ke keiki a kekahi o kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku i kahi pilikia ʻōpio koʻikoʻi, a ua hoʻololi ʻo ia i ke kamaʻilio kākau ʻana, ʻoiai inā aia lākou ma ka hale like. No ka mea, ʻo kāna "E ʻoluʻolu e hana i kēia" i loko o ka ʻelele, ʻaʻole ia i hoʻonāukiuki iā ia e like me ke komo ʻana i loko o ka lumi: "E haʻalele i kou manaʻo mai kāu pāʻani, e nānā mai iaʻu a hana i kaʻu e ʻōlelo aku ai iā ʻoe."
Maʻalahi loa nā hāmeʻa i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā ʻōpio. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻouna iā lākou i nā mea āu e makemake ai e heluhelu a na lākou e hoʻihoʻi i kekahi mea. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka mālama ʻana iā lākou me ka ʻole o ke komo ʻana. Inā ʻaʻole makemake kāu kaikamahine e hele ʻoe i ke kahua kaʻaahi e hālāwai me ia i ka pō, no ka mea nui ʻo ia a hele pū me nā hoaaloha, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻouna i kahi kaʻa kaʻa nona a nānā i ke kaʻa i ka manawa maoli.
ʻAʻole hiki ke hahai iā mākou e hopohopo nui?
Eia hou, he mau mea hana wale nō nā gadgets. ʻAʻole lākou e hopohopo nui iā mākou inā ʻaʻole mākou hopohopo ma ke ʻano.
He aha nā pono ʻē aʻe, ma waho aʻe o ka kamaʻilio a me ka manawa kūpono e noho kaʻawale, e māʻona lākou?
Me he mea lā iaʻu ʻo ka mea nui loa ʻo ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā hāmeʻa i ka manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi, ʻoiai ʻo ʻoe wale nō. ʻO ia, inā makemake ʻoe, he ala e hoʻoponopono ai i ka hopohopo existential a me ka haʻalele. A ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo he hoʻopunipuni. No ka mea, he mau hui hoihoi ko ka poʻe o kēia wā, a he mau hoa hana a me aʻu i ʻike ʻole ʻia e mākou, akā he mau hoa pili. A hele mai lākou e hoʻopakele, kākoʻo iā mākou, aloha, hiki iā lākou ke ʻōlelo: "ʻAe, loaʻa iaʻu nā pilikia like" - i kekahi manawa he mea waiwai ʻole kēia! ʻO ka mea e manaʻo nui ana i ka hōʻoia ʻana i kona hanohano e loaʻa iā ia - e hāʻawi ʻia ʻo ia i nā makemake. ʻO wai ka manaʻo e pili ana i ka pāʻani naʻauao a i ʻole ka saturation naʻau, e loaʻa iā lākou. ʻO nā hāmeʻa kahi mea hana maʻamau no ka ʻike iā ʻoe iho a me ka honua.