Nā pāʻani no nā kaikamāhine a i ʻole nā ​​pāʻani no nā keikikāne?

Kaʻa kaʻa a ʻaina paha, e koho lākou!

ʻO ka hapa nui o nā puke pāʻani he mau ʻaoʻao i hoʻolaʻa ʻia no nā kaikamahine a i ʻole nā ​​keikikāne. Ma kahi mamao loa, hoʻoikaika nui kēia i nā keiki. He mea nui e hiki i nā mea a pau ke pāʻani me ka laulā ākea i mea e hoʻomohala ai i ko lākou hiki.

I kēlā me kēia makahiki, ʻo ia ka hoʻomana hoʻokahi. I loko o nā pahu leka a me nā hale kūʻai keʻena, e hōʻiliʻili nei nā papa inoa o nā mea pāʻani Kalikimaka. ʻO nā umu liʻiliʻi, nā kaʻa kaʻa mamao, nā pēpē a i ʻole nā ​​​​pāʻani kūkulu hale, ua māhele ʻia nā kala i ʻelua: ʻulaʻula a i ʻole uliuli.. ʻAʻohe malu, e like me "'ōmaʻomaʻo-hina" no nā keiki liʻiliʻi hilahila a i ʻole "ʻalani ʻalani" no nā kaikamahine daredevil. ʻAʻole. Ma nā ʻaoʻao a me nā ʻaoʻao, ua hoʻokaʻawale maikaʻi ʻia nā ʻano. Loaʻa iā lākou nā meaʻai, nā mea e pono ai ka hale a i ʻole ka lole kahu hānai (ʻaʻohe kauka, mai hoʻonui!) A i ʻole ke kamāliʻiwahine; iā lākou nā kaʻa, nā mea hoʻouka kuaʻa, nā mea kaua a me nā mea huna o ke ahi. ʻO ka Mele Kalikimaka i hala, ʻo ka papa inoa o nā hale kūʻai U wale nō i hana i ka leo ma o ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā mea pāʻani e hōʻike ana i nā kāne ʻelua. Ke hele nei i hope i ka ulu ʻana o ke kaiāulu, mai ka makahiki 2000, ʻO ke ʻano o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o ke kaikamahine a me ke keikikāne.

Lego me nā lauoho nani

I nā makahiki 90, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kahi ʻulaʻula e like me nā kulu wai ʻelua e like me Pippi Longstocking, e hōʻike haʻaheo ana i kahi hana Lego paʻakikī. I kēia lā, ua hoʻokumu ʻia ka "Lego Friends", kahi hoʻololi "no nā kaikamahine". ʻO nā kiʻi ʻelima he mau maka nui, nā pale a me nā lauoho nani. He nani loa lākou, akā ke ʻike aku nei iā lākou paʻakikī ʻaʻole e hoʻomanaʻo i nā makahiki 80, kahi a mākou i pāʻani ai no nā hola, nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne, me nā poʻe poʻo melemele liʻiliʻi kaulana, me nā lima lima a me ka minoʻaka enigmatic. ʻO Mona Lisa… PhD haumāna ma ka ʻepekema, ʻike ʻo Mona Zegaï i kēlā ʻike ʻia ka ʻokoʻa kāne ma nā papa inoa i nā ʻano o nā keiki. Ma nā kiʻi e hōʻike ana i ka pāʻani ʻana o nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi, he ʻano kāne ko nā keiki liʻiliʻi: kū lākou ma ko lākou wāwae, lima ma ko lākou pūhaka, ke ʻole lākou e paʻa i ka pahi kaua. Ma kekahiʻaoʻao, he mau hiʻohiʻona nani nā kaikamāhine, ma ka tiptoe, e hoʻomoe ana i nā mea pāʻani. ʻAʻole wale nā ​​ʻaoʻao ʻulaʻula a me nā ʻaoʻao ʻulaʻula wale nō nā papa inoa, akā ke hana nei nā hale kūʻai. Hoʻopaʻa ʻia nā aisles: ʻelua mau kala o nā papa e hōʻike maopopo ana i ke ala no nā mākua i ka wikiwiki. E makaʻala i ka mea nāna e lawe i ka ʻoihana hewa a hāʻawi i kahi pahu kīhini i kāna keiki!

Nā pāʻani no nā kaikamāhine a i ʻole nā ​​pāʻani no nā keikikāne: ke kaumaha o ka maʻamau

ʻO kēia mau hiʻohiʻona o nā kāne ma nā pāʻani he mana nui i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka ʻike o nā keiki a me kā lākou ʻike i ka honua.. Ma o kēia mau mea pāʻani, ka mea i ʻike ʻole ʻia, hoʻouna mākou i kahi leka maʻamau: ʻaʻole pono mākou e haʻalele i ka ʻōnaehana kaiapili i hāʻawi ʻia e ka hui. ʻAʻole ʻoluʻolu ka poʻe i komo ʻole i loko o nā pahu. E haʻalele i nā keikikāne moeʻuhane a me ka noʻonoʻo, e hoʻokipa i nā loulou huikau. ʻO Ditto no nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi, kono ʻia e lilo i mea ʻaʻole lākou āpau: ʻoluʻolu, haʻahaʻa a hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā lākou iho.

Nā pāʻani "Gendered": kahi pilikia o ka hana hou ʻana i nā like ʻole ma waena o nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne

ʻO ka pahuhopu mua a mākou e hāʻawi ai i nā kaikamāhine: eʻoluʻolu. Me ka nui o nā sequins, lipine a me nā frills. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka mea i loaʻa i kahi keiki 3 makahiki maoli ma ka home, ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole i mau ke kaikamahine liʻiliʻi (inā loaʻa!) ʻoluʻolu a palupalu paha i ka lā a pau. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻoholo e piʻi i ka sofa me ka haʻi ʻana he mauna a wehewehe paha iā ʻoe he "tain conductor" a e lawe ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ko Grandma. ʻO kēia mau pāʻani, a mākou e pāʻani ai a pāʻani ʻole paha ma muli o kā mākou kāne, hiki ke loaʻa i ka hopena i ka hana hou ʻana o nā like ʻole.. ʻOiaʻiʻo, inā ʻaʻole hāʻawi ʻia ka hao a i ʻole ka mīkini hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka polū, me ke kiʻi o kahi keikikāne e hoʻomaʻemaʻe, pehea e hoʻohuli ai i ke kūlike ʻole i ka māhele ʻana i nā hana o ka hale ma Farani? Hana nā wāhine i ka 80% o ia mea. Ditto ma ka pae uku. No ka hana like, e loaʻa i kahi kāne ma ka ʻoihana pilikino he 28% ʻoi aʻe ma mua o ka wahine. No ke aha mai ? No ka mea, he kanaka ia! Pēlā nō, pehea lā e hiki ai i kahi kaikamahine liʻiliʻi ke kuleana ʻole i ka lole Spiderman ke hilinaʻi i kona ikaika a i ʻole kona hiki ma hope? Eia nō naʻe, ua wehe ʻia ka pūʻali koa i nā wahine no ka manawa lōʻihi… He ʻoihana maikaʻi kēia mau wahine ma laila, ʻaʻole haʻalele hou i kā lākou mau kāne ma ke kula ma mua o kā lākou mau hoa kāne. Akā ʻo wai ka mea hāʻawi i kahi kaikamahine liʻiliʻi i ka pū mīkini liʻiliʻi, ʻoiai inā ʻo ia e uē no ia? ʻO kēia ma ka ʻaoʻao o ke kāne: ʻoiai e māhuahua ana nā hōʻike kuke me nā mea kuke, hiki ke hōʻole ʻia kahi loulou i ka mini-kuki no ka mea he ʻulaʻula. Ma o nā pāʻani, hāʻawi mākou i nā hiʻohiʻona ola i kaupalena ʻia : ka hoowalewale kaikamahine, ka makuahine a me ka hana hale a me ka ikaika o na keikikane, ka epekema, ka lealea a me ka naauao. I ka hana ʻana pēlā, pale mākou i kā mākou mau kaikamāhine mai ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kā lākou makemake a ke kāohi nei mākou i kā mākou mau keikikāne i makemake ma hope: "e noho ma ka home e mālama i kā lākou pēpē 10". I ka makahiki i hala ua paʻi ʻia kahi wikiō ma ka Pūnaewele. ʻIke mākou i kahi kaikamahine 4 makahiki i loko o kahi hale kūʻai mea pāʻani e hōʻino nui ana i kēia kaʻawale ʻana, ʻoiai nona, ua ʻoi aku ka nui o nā mea: "" ("makemake kekahi mau kaikamahine i nā superheroes, nā aliʻi wahine ʻē aʻe; makemake kekahi mau keikikāne i nā superheroes, nā aliʻi wahine kekahi. ʻO ka wikiō a Maida ma ke kūʻai aku ʻana e nānā ma You Tube, kahi meaʻai.

E ʻae i nā keiki e pāʻani me nā mea āpau!

Ma waena o 2 a me 5 mau makahiki, he mea nui ka pāʻani i ke ola o ke keiki. nā mea pāʻani kaʻa kōkua iā ia e ulu, e hoʻoikaika i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana o kona mau lima a me nā wāwae. Eia naʻe, pono nā kāne ʻelua e hoʻoikaika, e holo, e piʻi! ʻO ʻelua makahiki ka hoʻomaka ʻana o "pāʻani hoʻohālike”. Hāʻawi lākou i nā kamaliʻi i ka manawa e hōʻoia ai iā lākou iho, e hoʻonoho iā lākou iho, e hoʻomaopopo i ke ao o nā mākua. Ma ka pāʻani "hoʻohālike", aʻo ʻo ia i nā ʻano a me nā ʻano o kona mau mākua a komo i kahi honua noʻonoʻo waiwai loa.. ʻO ke kamaliʻi, ʻo ia hoʻi, he kuleana koʻikoʻi: pili loa nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne iā ia. Mālama lākou i kahi mea liʻiliʻi, hana hou i nā mea a ko lākou mau mākua e hana ai: ʻauʻau, hoʻololi i ka diaper a i ʻole e ʻāhewa i kā lākou pēpē. ʻO nā paio, nā huhū a me nā pilikia i loaʻa i kahi keiki liʻiliʻi e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia i waho o ka pēpē. Pono nā keikikāne liʻiliʻi a pau e pāʻani. ʻO ka pilikia, inā mākou e hoʻokūpaʻa i nā stereotypes moe kolohe, ma o ke kaiapuni a me nā pāʻani,ʻo ia ka hāʻawiʻana i nā keikikāne (a me nā kāne e hiki mai ana!) A macho orientation.. ʻO ka mea like ʻole, e hoʻouna mākou i nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi i kahi leka e pili ana i kā lākou (manaʻo ʻia) haʻahaʻa. Ma ke kula hānai Bourdaria ma Saint-Ouen (93), ua hana ka hui no kekahi mau makahiki ma kahi papahana hoʻonaʻauao e pili ana i ke kāne. ʻO ka manaʻo? ʻAʻole e holoi i nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā kāne, akā e hōʻoia i ka like ʻana o nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne. A hana nui ia ma ka pāʻani. No laila, i loko o kēia kahu hānai, kono mau ʻia nā kaikamahine e hana i ka hana lima. Ma lalo o ke kiaʻi ʻana o ke kanaka makua, hāmare lākou i nā kui i loko o nā lāʻau lāʻau, e hahau ikaika loa ana me ka hāmare. Ua aʻo ʻia lākou e hoʻokau iā lākou iho, e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole", i ka wā e hakakā ai lākou me kahi keiki ʻē aʻe. Pēlā nō, koi pinepine ʻia nā keikikāne e mālama i nā pēpē a hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. Mai ia manawa, ua hopu ka poʻe kālai'āina. I ka makahiki i hala aku nei, ua hoʻouna ka General Inspectorate of Social Affairs i kahi hōʻike i ke Kuhina Najat Vallaud-Belkacem e pili ana i ka "kaulike ma waena o nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne i nā hoʻonohonoho mālama keiki". Ma waho aʻe o ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka ʻike ma waena o ka poʻe ʻoihana kamaliʻi e pili ana i nā pilikia stereotyping, mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka makahiki kula 2013, pono e hāʻawi ʻia kahi puke puke a me DVD no ka like ʻole i nā mākua a me nā mākua.

ʻAʻole pili ka ʻike kāne kāne e nā pāʻani

ʻO ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine e pāʻani me nā ʻano pāʻani ʻelua, me ka hopohopo ʻole e pili ana i nā kala (a i ʻole e ʻimi ana i nā waihoʻoluʻu "neutral": ʻalani, ʻōmaʻomaʻo, melemele) he mea nui no kā lākou hana.. Ma o nā mea pāʻani, ma mua o ka hana hou ʻana i kahi honua o ka like ʻole, ʻike nā keiki hiki iā lākou ke hoʻonui i nā palena kāne: hiki i nā mea āpau. ʻAʻohe mea i mālama ʻia no kekahi a i ʻole a hoʻomohala kēlā me kēia i kona mau mana, e hoʻowaiwai ana iā ia iho me nā ʻano o kekahi kāne a i ʻole kekahi. No kēia, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e makaʻu iā ʻoe iho : ʻO kahi loustic e pāʻani ana me nā pēpē ʻaʻole e lilo i kāne kāne. Pono mākou e hoʻomanaʻo? ʻAʻole pili ka ʻike kāne kāne i nā pāʻani, aia i loko o ke "ʻano" o ke kanaka, pinepine mai ka hānau ʻana. E ʻimi pono i kāu hoʻomanaʻo: ʻaʻole anei ʻoe i makemake i kahi pāʻani i mālama ʻole ʻia no kāu ʻano? Pehea ka hana a kou mau mākua? Pehea kou manaʻo ma hope? E kākau iā mākou ma ke keʻena hoʻoponopono, makemake mākou i kou mau manaʻo ma ia mea!