Ua hoʻokuʻu ke kula i nā keiki kāne i lalo?
Iune 28, 2007 - ʻAʻole mālama nui ke kula i nā keikikāne, no laila ka makemake ʻole o ka hapa nui o lākou i ka hoʻonui ʻana i kā lākou aʻo.
ʻO kēia ka nānā a ka psychologist William Pollack1, mai ke kula kiʻekiʻe ʻo Harvard University of Medicine. Hiki ke ʻike ʻia kēia ʻano ma United States a me Kanada e like me ka hapa nui o nā ʻāina Komohana.
ʻAʻole ʻokoʻa ʻo Quebec: "ʻEhiku mai loko mai o nā kulu he ʻumi he kāne," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. Ke piʻi aʻe nei ka helu haʻalele i loko o nā ʻohana pilikia: 43% o nā ʻōpio Quebecers mai kēia mau kūlana i loaʻa ʻole nā palapala puka kula kiʻekiʻe.
Ma mua o ka haʻalele ʻana, he paʻakikī nā keiki kāne e ʻimi i ko lākou wahi i ke kula. "Eia nō naʻe, loaʻa iā lākou i ʻelua mau manawa ke kōkua ma mua o nā kaikamahine", noi ʻo William Pollack. Ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, ke ʻino nei nā keiki i nā papa kūikawā - kahi e loaʻa ai nā keiki i ka pilikia. Hōʻike lākou ma lalo o 70% o nā helu i kēia mau papa.
Pehea mākou e aʻo ai? “He nui nā kaikamahine e aʻo ma ka hoʻolohe ʻana i kā lākou mau kumu a i ʻole ka nānā ʻana. No nā keikikāne, makemake lākou e aʻo e ka hoʻokolohua - ma ka hana ʻana iā lākou iho. ʻAʻole kūpono ka hapa nui o nā papa i kēia ʻano hana. A ʻo kahi hopena, luhi a hoʻomaha ʻole paha kahi keikikāne a kapa ʻia me nā pilikia o ka lawena, ka maʻi maʻi deficit, a i ʻole ka maʻi hyperactivity.2. " William Pollack |
“Heʻuʻuku paha ko lākou mākaukau mai ka hānau ʻana? ", Launches William Pollack ma ke ʻano he hoʻomākeʻaka. ʻAʻole pane pololei ka psychologist i kāna nīnau ponoʻī. Akā nā hiʻohiʻona āna i hāʻawi ai e hōʻike i kāna kuhi e hōʻike maopopo ʻaʻole ia i pili iā ia.
Wahi a ia, ʻaʻole mahalo ka ʻōnaehana kula i nā pono kikoʻī o nā keikikāne. He laʻana maikaʻi ka manawa hoʻomaha. I mea e māʻona ai kā lākou pono e neʻe, pono i nā keiki kāne kula he ʻelima mau manawa hoʻomaha. “Akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻole ke loaʻa iā lākou hoʻokahi. A i kekahi manawa ʻaʻohe mea iki, ”i ʻōlelo ʻo ia me ka minamina.
Ma ke kula nui pū kekahi
Ke hoʻomau nei kēia hoʻokaʻawale ma waena o nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne a hiki i ke koleke. "Ke hana maikaʻi nei lākou a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā lākou holomua ma mua o ka ʻumi mau makahiki i hala," i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka psychologist ʻAmelika.
Ma nā ʻāina Komohana, 33% o nā wahine mai 25 a 45 mau makahiki he kekelē lākou i hoʻohālikelike ʻia me 28% o nā kāne i ka makahiki like.3. No laila e hoʻonui ākea paha ka hakahaka i loko o kekahi mau makahiki e hiki mai ana.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo William Pollack i nā ana o nā haumāna o ke kula nui. Hāʻawi ka mea mua i nā hola ʻekolu i kā lākou aʻo ʻana i loko o hoʻokahi pule. Hana nā wahine ʻōpio i ʻelima mau manawa keu!
Pāʻani e "kanaka maoli"
No ke aha e hālāwai ai nā keiki a me nā kāne ʻōpio i nā pilikia he nui i ke ala i ke kūleʻa i ke aʻo ʻana. Ua wehewehe ʻo William Pollack iā ia i loko o kahi ʻōlelo haʻalulu: “
I kekahi manawa unconsciously, ʻohana a me ke kula aʻo iā lākou e kūlike i ka mea a "uaua, mana," macho "kāne e, e like me ia. Hopena: aʻo lākou e hūnā i ko lākou naʻau maoli. "Nui ke kaumaha o ke keikikāne, hoʻokaʻawale a hoʻopilikia ʻia inā paha he kolohe, hauʻoli a hilinaʻi paha lākou i ka nānā mua ʻana," hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo ia i kāna puke maikaʻi loa, Keikikāne ʻoiaʻiʻo4.
ʻOi aku ka makaʻu, no lākou, o ka nalowale honua ʻana. Inā mākou e noʻonoʻo i ka hōʻāla ʻana i ka lāʻau, ke kaumaha a me ka pepehi kanaka ʻana i kahi e hōʻike pinepine ʻia ai, hoʻomanaʻo ka mea noiʻi.
Hoʻohui hou me lākou
He aha ka mea e hana ai e kōkua iā lākou? "E hoʻopili i kahi naʻau," i kāhea ai. Pono nā mākua a me nā kumu, e like me kāna, e launa hou me nā keikikāne: pāʻani pū me lākou, hoʻolohe i kā lākou mea e ʻōlelo ai ... Kāhea pū ʻo ia i ka hoʻomaikaʻi hou ʻana i nā hana a nā mea aʻo - ma ke kula mālama keiki a me ke kula ʻo wai ke kuleana. makamae loa ia i nā keiki.
Kuhi ʻo William Pollack i ka nānā i nā hoʻokolohua i hāpai ʻia e hāpai i ka kūleʻa i ke aʻo ʻana no nā keiki kula5, me ke aʻo ʻana. "I nā kula āpau kahi i hoʻokau ʻia ai ke aʻo ʻana, ua heleleʻi ka hapa haʻalele. Hiki i kēlā me kēia keikikāne ke hana i kahi pilina kūikawā me kāna kumu, "i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia. Nui loa ka hopena.
"He mana loa mākou," hoʻomau ka psychologist ohohia. Hiki iā mākou ke huli i ke kai ... a kōkua i kā mākou poʻe keiki ʻaʻole wale ma ka makahiki 4 a me 5, akā i loko o ko lākou ola. “
ʻO nā keiki loea a hauʻoli hoʻi? ʻO ka hoʻolaʻa ʻana i nā keiki hiki ke uku nui. Hoʻomaopopo ʻo William Pollack iā mākou i kēia me ke koʻikoʻi ʻana i ka hopena o ke aloha a me ka mahana o ka ʻohana a me ke kula i ka hopena o ka holomua o nā keiki.
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ʻO Johanne Lauzon - PasseportSanté.net
1. ʻO William Pollack ke kumu o Keikikāne ʻoiaʻiʻo, kahi puke i ku i ka hale kūʻai puke US i ka hopena o ka makahiki 1990. Ua kākau pū ʻo ia Leo o ke Keikikāne ʻoiaʻiʻo et Puke Hana Keikikāne ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ua hāʻawi ʻo ia i kahi haʻi ʻōlelo i ke ana o ka 13e ka puke o ka ʻaha kūkā ʻo Montreal i mālama ʻia mai Iune 18 a 21, 2007.
2. Unuhi manuahi, huki ʻia mai Keikikāne ʻoiaʻiʻo : www.williampollack.com [kiʻi ʻia ma Iune 27, 2007].
3. ʻIkepili mai ka Hui no ka Hoʻohui Hoʻokele Waiwai a me ke kūkulu ʻana (OECD), i kuhikuhi ʻia e William Pollack.
4. Keikikāne ʻoiaʻiʻo i paʻi ʻia ma ka ʻōlelo Palani: Pollack W. E nā kāne maoli, Varennes, ʻEditions AdA-Inc, 2001, 665 p.
5. Ua kuhikuhi ʻo William Pollack i ka hana a Robert Pianta o ke Kulanui o Virginia. ʻO kahi laʻana: Hamre BK, Pianta RC. Hiki i ke kākoʻo aʻo a me ka naʻau i loko o ka lumi papa mua ke hoʻololi i nā keiki i ka makaʻu ʻole i ke kula ʻole? Keiki Keiki, 2005 Sep-Oct;76(5):949-67.