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- ʻO ka pepehi kanaka i nā keiki: pehea e wehewehe ai i kēia makemake e make koke?
- Wahi a Inserm, 37 mau keiki mai ka 5 a hiki i ka 10 i pepehi iā lākou iho i ka makahiki 2009. Manaʻo paha ʻoe e hōʻike ana kēia mau helu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, me ka ʻike he paʻakikī ke hoʻokaʻawale ma waena o ka pepehi kanaka a me ka ulia pōpilikia?
- No laila ʻaʻole kūpono ka manaʻo o ka pepehi kanaka i nā keiki liʻiliʻi?
- Pehea e wehewehe ai i ka paukū i ka hana i nā keiki akā naʻe?
- Hiki ke loaʻa nā hōʻailona evocative o kēia pōʻino?
- No laila he aha kāu ʻōlelo aʻo i nā mākua?
ʻO ka pepehi kanaka i nā keiki: pehea e wehewehe ai i kēia makemake e make koke?
Mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka makahiki, ua ʻike ʻia kahi moʻolelo ʻeleʻele o nā pepehi kanaka mua. Hoʻopilikia ʻia ʻo Matteo ma ke kulanui, ʻoi aku hoʻi ma muli o kona lauoho ʻulaʻula, ua pepehi ʻia ʻo Matteo he 13 makahiki i ka lā Pepeluali i hala. Ma Malaki 11, 2012, ua ʻike ʻia kahi keikikāne Lyon he 13 mau makahiki e kaawe ana i loko o kona lumi. Akā, pili ka pepehi kanaka i ka muli loa. Ma ʻEnelani, i ka waena o Pepeluali, he keikikāne 9 mau makahiki, i hoʻoweliweli ʻia e kāna mau hoa kula, a ua hoʻopau i kona ola. Pehea e wehewehe ai i kēia māhele i ka hana i nā keiki a i ʻole nā ʻōpio? ʻO Michel Debout, Pelekikena o ka National Union for Suicide Prevention, e hoʻomālamalama iā mākou i kēia hanana koʻikoʻi ...
Wahi a Inserm, 37 mau keiki mai ka 5 a hiki i ka 10 i pepehi iā lākou iho i ka makahiki 2009. Manaʻo paha ʻoe e hōʻike ana kēia mau helu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, me ka ʻike he paʻakikī ke hoʻokaʻawale ma waena o ka pepehi kanaka a me ka ulia pōpilikia?
Manaʻo wau he hōʻike lākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ke make ke keiki ma lalo o 12 makahiki, aia kahi hoʻokolokolo a hoʻopaʻa ʻia ka make e nā institutes helu. No laila hiki iā mākou ke noʻonoʻo aia kekahi hilinaʻi. Eia nō naʻe, he mea nui e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o ka pepehi kanaka i nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio. ʻAʻole manaʻo kekahi mea liʻiliʻi e like me ka 14 makahiki. Ua hoʻokō ʻia kekahi mau haʻawina e pili ana i ka pepehi kanaka ʻōpio. ʻO ka hoʻāʻo pepehi kanaka, ʻo ia ka mea maʻamau i ka wā ʻōpio, i kēia lā he psychological, psychoanalytic, medical interpretations… No ka muli loa, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka helu, ʻoi aku ka haʻahaʻa, ʻaʻole maopopo nā kumu. . ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo e hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio maoli no ka pepehi kanaka, ʻo ia hoʻi ka manaʻo e pepehi iā ia iho i kahi keiki 5 makahiki.
No laila ʻaʻole kūpono ka manaʻo o ka pepehi kanaka i nā keiki liʻiliʻi?
ʻAʻole ia he nīnau no ka makahiki akā no ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa pilikino. Hiki iā mākou ke'ōlelo mai ka 8 a hiki i ka 10 mau makahiki, me kahi āpau o hoʻokahi aʻelua paha makahiki ma muli o nā kūlana, nāʻano hoʻonaʻauao, ka moʻomeheu pilikanaka, makemake paha ke keiki e pepehi iā ia iho. I loko o kahi keiki liʻiliʻi he mea kānalua. ʻOiai inā i ka 10 mau makahiki, ua manaʻo kekahi i ka pilikia, i ka weliweli o kā lākou hana, ʻaʻole maopopo lākou e alakaʻi iā lākou i kahi nalowale mau loa. A laila i kēia lā, hoʻololi ʻia ke ʻano o ka make, ʻoi aku hoʻi me nā pāʻani wikiō. Ke make ka meʻe a nalowale ke keiki i ka pāʻani, hiki iā ia ke hoʻi mau a hoʻololi i ka hopena o ka pāʻani. ʻO ka virtual a me ke kiʻi e ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻonaʻauao i hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā manaʻo maoli. ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ka waiho ʻana i kahi mamao e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka impulsivity. Eia kekahi, ʻo nā keiki, pōmaikaʻi iā lākou, ʻaʻole e like me ia manawa, i kū i ka make o ko lākou mau mākua a me nā kūpuna. I kekahi manawa, ʻike lākou i ko lākou kupuna kāne. Eia naʻe, no ka ʻike ʻana i kāu finitude ponoʻī, pono ʻoe e hoʻopā ʻia e ka make maoli o kahi mea aloha. ʻO ia ke kumu, manaʻo wau he mea maikaʻi ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi holoholona a nalowale i kekahi mau makahiki ma hope.
Pehea e wehewehe ai i ka paukū i ka hana i nā keiki akā naʻe?
ʻO ka hoʻokele ʻana i nā manaʻo, ʻaʻole like ia i nā keiki a me nā pākeke, he mea pili loa ia. Akā pono mākou e nīnau mua i ka ʻāpana o ka impulsivity i ka hana i hoʻohālikelike ʻia me ka manaʻo. ʻOiaʻiʻo, no ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ua pepehi ke kanaka iā ia iho, pono kāna hana i ʻāpana o ka manaʻo, ʻo ia hoʻi ka hoʻoweliweli ʻike iā ia iho. Manaʻo kekahi poʻe he pono e loaʻa kahi papahana o ka nalo. Eia nō naʻe, i kekahi mau kūlana, loaʻa iā mākou ka manaʻo ua makemake ke keiki e pakele i kahi kūlana paʻakikī e like me ka hoʻomāinoino. Hiki iā ia ke kū'ē i kahi mana a manaʻo iā ia iho he hewa. No laila, holo ʻo ia i kahi kūlana āna i ʻike ai a paʻakikī paha me ka makemake ʻole e nalowale.
Hiki ke loaʻa nā hōʻailona evocative o kēia pōʻino?
ʻO ka mea mua, pono e hoʻomanaʻo ʻia ʻo ka pepehi kanaka i waena o nā keiki he mea laha loa. Akā, i ka wā e iho ai ka moʻolelo, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻomāinoino a i ʻole ka hoʻomake ʻana, hoʻopuka ke keiki i nā hōʻailona i kekahi manawa. Hiki iā ia ke hele i hope i ke kula, ho'āla i nā hōʻailona like ʻole ke hoʻomaka i nā haʻawina: ʻeha, ʻeha ʻōpū, ʻeha poʻo ... Pono ʻoe e makaʻala. Eia kekahi, inā hele mau ke keiki mai kahi wahi o ke ola a i kekahi, a hōʻike ʻo ia i ka huhū i ka manaʻo e hele i laila, i loli ai kona ʻano, hiki i nā mākua ke nīnau iā lākou iho i nā nīnau. Akā e makaʻala, pono e hana hou ʻia kēia mau ʻano hoʻololi a ʻōnaehana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono e hana keaka inā i kekahi lā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e hele i ke kula a makemake ʻo ia e noho ma ka home. Loaʻa ia i nā mea a pau…
No laila he aha kāu ʻōlelo aʻo i nā mākua?
He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i kāu keiki aia mākou ma laila e hoʻolohe iā ia, pono ʻo ia e haʻi pono inā he mea e hoʻopilikia iā ia a noʻonoʻo paha i ka mea e hana nei iā ia. ʻO ke keiki pepehi kanaka e holo i ka hoʻoweliweli. Manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻoholo i kahi ʻē aʻe (inā loaʻa kahi paʻa a hoʻoweliweli mai kahi hoa, no ka laʻana). No laila, pono mākou e hoʻokau iā ia me ka hilinaʻi i hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana e hiki ai iā ia ke pakele a ʻaʻole ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe.