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A hiki i 4 mau makahiki, ʻaʻole maopopo i kahi keiki i ke ʻano o ka make, ʻo ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kēia maʻamau e hele mai ma kahi o 11 mau makahiki. nona iho na kanaka makua.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hopohopo nui ka poʻe mākua, manaʻo pinepine lākou i ka hewa nui, a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka "pehea e haʻi aku ai i kahi kaikunāne a i ʻole kaikuahine" he kumu ia no lākou e hoʻohuli iā lākou iho a paʻa i ka hana. "Pehea e haʻi ai i kahi keiki e pili ana i ka make ʻana o kahi kaikunāne (kaikuahine)" ʻo ia ka pilikia o nā pākeke, ʻaʻole he keiki.
Mai hoʻonohonoho i ka haʻalulu hiki ʻole ke hoʻomaopopo.
Maikaʻi loa nā keiki, a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe maopopo i ke kumu o kou ʻano paʻakikī, e hoʻomaka ana ke keiki e hoʻoluliluli iā ia iho a hoʻomaka paha e noʻonoʻo i ke Akua. ʻOi aku ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka hoʻomaha ʻana me kāu keiki liʻiliʻi, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ko lākou olakino noʻonoʻo.
E hana i kahi kūlana maopopo.
Inā ʻaʻole maopopo ke keiki i kahi i hele ai kona makuahine (kaikuahine, kaikuaʻana ...), no ke aha e hāwanawana ai a uē paha nā mea a pau e pili ana i kekahi mea, hoʻomaka lākou e hana ʻokoʻa iā ia, mihi iā ia, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ia i hoʻololi i kāna ʻano a ʻaʻole maʻi. hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hana pilikino me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia.
Mai hoʻolilo i ke keiki i mea waiwai nui.
Inā make hoʻokahi keiki, hoʻomaka nā mākua e haʻalulu i ka lua. ʻO nā hopena o kēia ka mea kaumaha loa, no ka mea, ma o ke ʻano o ka manaʻo ("ʻAe, hiki i kekahi mea iā ʻoe!"), A i ʻole ma ke ʻano o ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā pōmaikaʻi kūlana, pinepine nā keiki i kēia. ʻO ka hopohopo kūpono no ka palekana kekahi mea, akā ʻo ka hopohopo hopohopo kekahi mea. ʻO nā keiki olakino a maikaʻi loa e ulu aʻe i kahi i hoʻoluliluli ʻole ʻia.
Kūlana kikoʻī
ʻO ke kūlana he kaikamahine ʻōpio i make, he kaikuahine liʻiliʻi kona (3 makahiki).
Pehea e hōʻike ai?
Pono e hoʻomaopopo ʻia ʻo Alya e pili ana i ka make ʻana o Dasha. Inā ʻaʻole, manaʻo mau ʻo ia ua hewa kekahi mea. E ʻike ʻo ia i nā waimaka, nā poʻe he nui, ʻo ia hoʻi, e nīnau mau ʻo ia i hea ʻo Dasha. No laila, pono e ʻōlelo ʻia. Eia kekahi, pono e loaʻa kekahi ʻano hana aloha.
Pono kāna poʻe pili e haʻi iā ia - makuahine, makuakāne, kupuna kāne, kupuna wahine.
Pehea ʻoe e ʻōlelo ai: "Alechka, makemake mākou e haʻi iā ʻoe i kahi mea nui loa. ʻAʻole e hele hou mai ʻo Dasha i ʻaneʻi, aia ʻo ia ma kahi ʻē aʻe i kēia manawa, ua make ʻo ia. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻapo iā ia a kamaʻilio pū me ia. Akā, nui nā mea hoʻomanaʻo nona, a e hoʻomau ʻo ia e noho i loko o ia mau mea, ko mākou hoʻomanaʻo a me ko mākou ʻuhane. Aia kāna mau mea pāʻani, kāna mau mea, hiki iā ʻoe ke pāʻani me lākou. Inā ʻike ʻoe e uē ana mākou, ke uē nei mākou ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻopā hou aku i kona mau lima a puliki paha iā ia. I kēia manawa pono mākou e pili kokoke i kekahi i kekahi a ʻoi aku ke aloha i kekahi i kekahi.
Hiki ke hōʻike ʻia ʻo Alya iā Dasha i loko o ka pahu, ma lalo o nā uhi, a ma kahi pōkole paha, pehea ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana o ka pahu i loko o ka lua kupapaʻu. ʻO kēlā mau mea. pono e hoʻomaopopo ke keiki, hoʻoponopono i kona make ʻana a laila ʻaʻole ia e kuhi i loko o kāna mau moemoeā. He mea nui ia e hoʻomaopopo i kahi o kona kino. A ma hea ʻoe e hele ai e ʻike iā ia ma hope? Ma keʻano laulā, he mea nui i ka poʻe a pau e hoʻomaopopo i kēia, eʻae aʻae aku, e ola i kaʻoiaʻiʻo.
Hiki ke lawe ʻia ʻo Alya i ka lua kupapaʻu ma hope, i hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia i kahi o Dasha. Inā hoʻomaka ʻo ia e nīnau i ke kumu ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻeli ʻia ʻo ia a i kāna mea e hanu ai i loko, pono e pane ʻia kēia mau nīnau āpau.
No Ali, hiki ke hoʻohui pū ʻia kēia me kahi kuʻuna ʻē aʻe - no ka laʻana, hoʻolei i kahi baluna i ka lewa a lele aku ia. A wehewehe i kēlā, e like me ka lele ʻana o ka pōleʻa, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike hou, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike hou iā Dasha. ʻO kēlā mau mea. ʻO ka pahuhopu e hoʻomaopopo ke keiki i kēia ma ko lākou pae ponoʻī.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, pono e hōʻoia i ke kū ʻana o kāna kiʻi ma ka home - ʻaʻole wale ma kahi āna i noho ai, ma kāna wahi hana (hiki ke loaʻa me kahi kukui a me nā pua), akā ma kahi o kona wahi i loko o ka lumi kuke. kahi a mākou i noho pū ai . ʻO kēlā mau mea. pono e loaʻa kahi pilina, pono ʻo ia e hoʻomau i ka hōʻike ʻana iā ia - pāʻani me kāna mau mea pāʻani, ʻike i kāna mau kiʻi, nā lole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopā, etc. Pono e hoʻomanaʻo ʻia ʻo ia.
Ka manaʻo o ke keiki
He mea nui ʻaʻohe mea e "pāʻani" i nā manaʻo me ke keiki, e hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia. Akā,ʻaʻole ponoʻo ia e "pāʻani" me kona mau manaʻo. ʻO kēlā mau mea. inā ʻaʻole maopopo ʻo ia i kēia a makemake ʻo ia e holo, e holo ʻo ia.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā makemake ʻoe e holo pū me ia, a ʻaʻole makemake ʻoe i kēia, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻole a kaumaha. Pono nā kānaka a pau e ola no lākou iho. ʻAʻole nāwaliwali loa ka psyche o ke keiki, no laila ʻaʻole pono e pale iā ia "holo loa, piha". ʻO kēlā mau mea. nā hana ke makemake ʻoe e uē, a lele ʻoe e like me ke kao, ʻaʻole pono ma ʻaneʻi.
I mea e hoʻomaopopo ai i ka manaʻo maoli o ke keiki, e maikaʻi ke kaha kiʻi. Hōʻike nā kiʻi i kona ʻano. Na lākou e hōʻike iā ʻoe i ke ʻano o nā mea.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike iā ia i kahi wikiō me Dasha i kēia manawa, i ka hapa mua o ka makahiki, e huikau ia iā ia. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻo Dasha ma ka pale e like me kahi mea ola ... Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i nā kiʻi.
ʻO ka manaʻo o Marina Smirnova
No laila, e kamaʻilio pū me ia, a mai hele i mua o ʻoe iho - ʻaʻohe ou hana o ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka papahana holoʻokoʻa a mākou e kamaʻilio nei ma aneʻi. A ʻaʻohe kamaʻilio lōʻihi.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia i kekahi mea - puliki, lulu. A i ʻole makemake ʻo ia - a laila e hoʻokuʻu iā ia e holo.
A inā makemake ʻoe e pūliki ʻo ia iā ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo: "Hug mai iaʻu, hauʻoli wau me ʻoe." Akā inā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia, pēlā nō.
Ma keʻano laulā, ʻike ʻoe, e like me ka mea maʻamau - i kekahi manawa makemake nā mākua e apo i kahi keiki. A i kekahi manawa ʻike ʻoe he pono iā ia.
Inā nīnau ʻo Alya i kahi nīnau, e pane. Akā, ʻaʻole i ʻoi aku ma mua o kāna mea i noi ai.
ʻO ia kaʻu e hana maoli ai - e haʻi mai iaʻu i kāu mea e hana ai i kēia wā e hiki mai ana i mākaukau ʻo Alechka no kēia. Inā hele mai nā kānaka iā ʻoe, e haʻi mua wau iā ia. E hele mai kēlā poʻe. He aha kā lākou e hana ai. E hele lākou a noho. E kaumaha lākou, akā e pāʻani kekahi me ʻoe. E kamaʻilio lākou e pili ana iā Dasha. E minamina lākou iā Māmā a me Pāpā.
E pūliki kekahi i kekahi. E ʻōlelo lākou "E ʻoluʻolu e ʻae i kā mākou aloha." A laila e haʻi aku ka poʻe a pau iā Dasha - e hoʻokokoke i ka pahu kupapaʻu, e nānā iā ia. Honi kekahi iā ia (ʻo ka mea maʻamau e kau lākou i kahi ʻāpana pepa me ka pule ma kona lae, a honi lākou ma kēia ʻāpana pepa), a laila pani ʻia ka pahu a lawe ʻia i ka ilina, a me nā poʻe hiki ke hele i ka ilina. , a e hele mākou. Inā makemake ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele pū me mākou. A laila pono ʻoe e kū pū me nā mea a pau ʻaʻole e walaʻau, a laila e anu i ka ilina. A pono mākou e kanu i ka pahu me Dasha. Hiki mākou i laila, a hoʻokuʻu i ka pahu i loko o ka lua, a ninini mākou i ka lepo ma luna, a kau mākou i nā pua nani ma luna. No ke aha mai? No ka mea, ʻo ia kā lākou hana mau ke make kekahi. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, pono mākou e hele i kahi, kanu pua.
Ua hōʻoluʻolu ʻia nā keiki (a me nā mākua) e ka wānana o ka honua, i ka wā e maopopo ai ka mea e hana ai, pehea, pehea. E waiho iā ia i kēia manawa (inā pono) me ka poʻe āna i ʻike pono ai. Ke ʻano - inā hiki, like.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka uē pū ʻana ma mua o ka haʻalele ʻana mai iā ia, ka hoʻokuke ʻana iā ia a waiho i ka uē hoʻokahi.
A e ʻōlelo: “ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e noho pū me mākou a kaumaha. Ua ʻike mua mākou ua aloha nui ʻoe iā Dashenka. A aloha mākou iā ʻoe. E hele pāʻani. Makemake ʻoe e hui pū me mākou? "ʻAe, ʻae, hele mai i ʻaneʻi."
E pili ana inā e kuhi ʻo ia i kekahi mea a ʻaʻole paha - ʻoi aku ʻoe i ʻike. A pehea e kamaʻilio pū ai me ia - ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ʻoe. Makemake kekahi o nā keiki e kamaʻilio iā lākou iho - a laila hoʻolohe mākou a pane. E nīnau kekahi i kahi nīnau - a holo me ka hoʻolohe ʻole i ka hopena. E noʻonoʻo hou kekahi a hele mai e nīnau hou. Maikaʻi kēia mau mea a pau. ʻO ia ke ola. ʻAʻole paha e makaʻu ʻo ia inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e makaʻu. ʻAʻole wau makemake i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai nā keiki e pāʻani me ka huhū. Ināʻike wau e makemake ana ke keiki e hele i nāʻike, hiki iaʻu ke'ōlelo i kekahi mea ma keʻano o Nikolai Ivanovich: "ʻae,ʻae, kaumaha. E uē mākou, a laila hele mākou e pāʻani a kuke i ka ʻaina ahiahi. ʻAʻole mākou e uē no ke koena o ko mākou ola, he lapuwale kēlā. Pono ke keiki i nā mākua e hele i ke ola.
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