Pehea e hānai ai i kahi keiki wale nō

ʻO ka hoʻoholo e hānau i keiki nāna nāna a ma ka wā e hiki mai ana e hānai iā ia me ke kōkua ʻole o kona makuakāne e hana mau ʻia e ka wahine ma lalo o ke kaomi o nā kūlana. I ka manawa like, alo ʻelua mau pilikia - nā mea a me ka noʻonoʻo.

Hoʻomohala maʻalahi ʻia ka pilikia o nā mea - lawa anei ke kālā e hānai ai, aahu ai me ke kāmaʻa i ka pēpē. Mai hopohopo inā ʻoe e hoʻolilo ia mea naʻauao a mai kūʻai i nā leʻaleʻa kūpono ʻole - lawa kēlā. I mea e hānai palekana ai i kahi keiki wale nō, e mālama i nā mālama kālā liʻiliʻi no ka manawa mua, a ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o kāu pēpē e loaʻa ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua mai ka mokuʻāina.

Mai hoʻoikaika i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā mea leʻaleʻa kaila - hoʻokūkū lākou i ke kūlana o ka makuahine, akā makehewa loa ia no ke keiki. E hoihoi i ka poʻe ʻino mai kou mau hoalauna, ʻaʻohe lua moe, nā kaʻa hele wāwae, nā lole pēpē, nā pale, a pēlā aku.

Ma ke ala, e nānā i nā kolamu kahi e kūʻai aku ai nā māmā i kā lākou keiki. Ma laila e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kūʻai i nā mea hou loa ma ke kumu kūʻai maikaʻi, no ka mea ulu pinepine nā keiki i nā lole a me nā kāmaʻa, me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka manawa e ʻaʻahu ai.

ʻO nā pilikia psychological nui o ka wahine i kū i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hānai ʻana i kāna keiki wale nō ke hana ʻia penei:

1. Ka maopopo ʻole i ko lākou hiki. "E hiki anei iaʻu? Hiki iaʻu ke hana hoʻokahi? He aha inā ʻaʻohe mea e kōkua, a he aha kaʻu e hana ai i kēlā manawa? " Hiki iā 'oe. Kūpono. ʻOiaʻiʻo, e paʻakikī, akā he mau manawa kēia mau pilikia. E ulu aʻe ka ʻōpala a māmā.

2. Nā manaʻo haʻahaʻa. "He mea weliweli kahi ʻohana piha ʻole. He makua kāne kā nā keiki ʻē aʻe, akā ʻaʻohe naʻu. ʻAʻole e loaʻa iā ia kahi hānai kāne a ulu aʻe kīnā ʻole. ”I kēia manawa ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻopūʻiwa i kekahi me ka ʻohana piha ʻole. ʻOiai, pono i kēlā me kēia keiki kahi makuakāne. Akā inā ʻaʻohe makuakāne o ka ʻohana, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo iki e ulu hewa aʻe kāu pēpē. Aia ia i ka hānai ʻana a ke keiki e loaʻa ai, a me ka mālama a me ke aloha i kuhikuhi ʻia iā ia. A e hele mai ia mai kahi makuahine i hoʻoholo e hānau a hānai i kahi keiki me ke kāne ʻole ʻole, a i ʻole mai nā mākua ʻelua - ʻaʻole nui ka mea nui.

3. Ka makaʻu i ka mehameha. "ʻAʻohe mea e mare iaʻu me kahi keiki. E noho hoʻokahi wau, ʻaʻole pono i kekahi. "ʻAʻole hiki i ka wahine i loaʻa kahi keiki maʻalahi i mea ʻole. Pono maoli ʻo ia i kāna pēpē. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻohe ona mea kokoke a aloha hoʻi ma mua o kona makuahine. A he kuhi hewa nui ka manaʻo ʻana he ballast ke keiki no ka makuahine hoʻokahi. ʻO ke kāne e makemake e komo i kou ʻohana a aloha i kāu keiki e like me kāna pono iho e hōʻike ʻia i ka manawa i manaʻo nui ʻole ʻia.

ʻO kēia mau makaʻu āpau loa i kiʻi ʻia a kū ʻia mai kahi kānalua ponoʻī. Akā inā maikaʻi ʻole nā ​​mea, a laila e lilo ia i mea pono no ka makuahine e manaʻo ana e hele i kahi manawa me kahi psychologist. I ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa, poina kēia mau makaʻu āpau me ka loaʻa ʻole o kahi kikoʻī, ke lele wale ka wahine i nā hana postpartum.

ʻIke paha ka pēpē a palupalu a makaʻu ʻoe e hoʻopā iā ia? E noi i kāu mea kipa olakino e hōʻike iā ʻoe pehea e ʻauʻau ai a holoi ai i kāu pēpē, hoʻololi i kāna diaper, hana i nā gymnastics, a me ka hānai pono ʻana i ka umauma. A e nānā iā ia inā ʻoe e hana pololei i nā mea āpau. A i kekahi mau lā, e lawe wiwo ʻole ʻoe i ka pēpē a hana i nā hana pono a me nā hoʻoikaika pono ʻana.

Pono ʻoe e lawe i kāu keiki e hele wāwae? I ka manawa mua, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele palekana ma ka pāpale. A inā he loggia kāu, hiki iā ʻoe ke huki i ka stroller ma laila a hoʻomoe i ke keiki i loko o ka lā. E hōʻoia wale nō aia ka kaʻa kaʻa kaʻa me ka pēpē i kahi kahi kikoʻī.

Mai hoʻolōʻihi i kahi kipa ʻana i ke kula mālaaʻo no kekahi manawa lōʻihi. I mea e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai i kāu pēpē e hele i nā holoholo i ka manawa āu e makemake ai, e koho i kahi manawa e hiki ai. Hana kekahi makuahine i kēia i ka wā hāpai.

Akā ʻo ka mea nui e pono ʻoe e mākaukau no ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e loaʻa iā ʻoe nā hola ʻole a me nā minuke o ka manawa pilikino. ʻO kahi ʻānela nani e hiamoe momona ana ma waena o nā lole lacy swaddling nani, a me kahi makuahine hauʻoli, hauʻoli i loko o kahi keʻena maʻemaʻe, hoʻomākaukau leʻaleʻa i kahi papa kuhikuhi papa ʻehā maikaʻi loa. Akā e maʻa mau ʻoe iā ia, komo i ka mele, a laila e like paha kēia mau paʻakikī me he mea liʻiliʻi a mea ʻole ʻole i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana me ka hauʻoli āu e ʻike nei i ka nānā ʻana i ka mea aloha i ka honua holoʻokoʻa.

E like me kāu e ʻike ai, hiki nō ke hānai ʻana i kahi keiki wale nō. Pono wale ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo mau ʻaʻole ʻoe he mea mehameha, akā he makuahine aloha a mālama hoʻi i kahi keiki kupaianaha, ʻoiai, me nā mea āpau, e ulu aʻe mai iā ia ma ke ʻano he kanaka kupaianaha.