ʻO ka manaʻo o kahi ʻōpio maʻamau e pili ana i kēia ala.
hoʻoiho leo
ʻAʻole i loaʻa iā mākou a pau kahi hoʻonaʻauao maʻamau, akā inā mākou e hana hoʻohālike, pono mākou e kamaʻilio me nā poʻe maʻamau. A ʻo ka poʻe maʻamau, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou e hana i ka hakakā, ma ka liʻiliʻi ma ke kamaʻilio pinepine ʻana e ʻae i ka conflictogens. ʻO Gu.e.st, nā ʻōlelo koʻikoʻi, ka nānā ʻole ʻana, nā huaʻōlelo me kahi kūlana kiʻekiʻe - maikaʻi ʻole kēia a ʻaʻole makemake ʻoe e poina. A pehea e pane aku ai?
ʻIke ʻia ʻo ka mea nui ka pane ʻana i loko me ka mālie, a laila e maʻalahi ke koho ʻana i kahi ʻano kūpono o waho. He mea pipiʻi ka maluhia o loko, akā he mea maoli. ʻO ka mea mua, kōkua ka unuhi ʻōlelo kūloko ma ʻaneʻi - ka hiki ke lohe i ka mea e pili ana iā mākou ma ke ʻano maikaʻi a ʻike paha. Ma mua o ka lele ʻana o nā conflictogens i ko mākou ala me ka manaʻo, i kekahi manawa aia ke kanaka i nā manaʻo a i ʻole hahai wale i kāna ʻōlelo a me kāna ʻōlelo. Akā inā ʻaʻole lawa ʻo ia e ʻōlelo pololei, hiki iā mākou ke naʻauao e unuhi i kāna mau ʻōlelo e like me ke kani ʻana ma ke ʻano ʻoluʻolu. No laila, e haku i ke ʻano o ka unuhi kūloko, a i kēlā me kēia kamaʻilio ʻana e ʻoi aku ka hilinaʻi.
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ʻAʻole loaʻa nā lula like ʻole no kēlā me kēia: ʻaʻole kūpono ka mea kūpono no kekahi. Eia naʻe, e nānā, malia paha he mea hoihoi iā ʻoe.
Moʻomeheu kamaʻilio no nā ʻōpio: Ke aʻo aku nei nā mākua koʻikoʻi i kā lākou mau keiki ʻōpio i kēia mau mea e kamaʻilio ai kekahi i kekahi…
ninau. E haʻi mai iaʻu, e ʻoluʻolu, ʻo ke kaikaina (ʻo ka ʻokoʻa he 9 mau makahiki) ʻae pinepine iā ia iho e hana i kahi maka ʻeha i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a hāʻule wale: ʻAʻole wau hoihoi. ʻO kēia inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia ke kumuhana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana. Me he mea lā he kūlana kiʻekiʻe kēia i koʻu manaʻo. He mea leʻaleʻa loa kēia iaʻu, no ka mea, ʻaʻohe kūlike nā kumuhana, ʻaʻohe negativity. E ʻoluʻolu, e haʻi mai iaʻu pehea e kamaʻilio ai me koʻu kaikuahine i ʻole ʻo ia e ʻae iā ia iho i kēlā kūlana. ʻO ka mea wale nō e komo i ka noʻonoʻo, ʻo ka mālama ʻana i kahi mamao a ʻaʻole hoʻomaka mua i ke kamaʻilio ʻana. E mahalo au no ka pane.
pane. Nui nā koho: ʻakaʻaka, mahana, koʻikoʻi, a paʻakikī. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaka ʻana me ka mahanahana, akā inā ʻaʻole kōkua ia, pono paha e hoʻonohonoho paʻakikī i kāu mau manaʻo. Hiki ke kani kekahi ʻano waena e like me kēia:
“E Lena, he noi ka'u ia oe… Ua kamailio kaua me oe, hoomaka au e kamailio e pili ana i ke kanu ana i ka aina, a he helehelena luuluu kou me ka olelo mai aole oe hoihoi. He mea maʻamau paha kou hoihoi i ke kumuhana, akā ʻo ke ʻano o kāu ʻōlelo ʻana, ke ʻano o kāu ʻōlelo — ʻaʻole wau makemake. Inā ʻoe e ʻapo mai iaʻu a noi ʻoluʻolu iaʻu e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi mea hoihoi iā ʻoe, e ʻokoʻa nā mea a pau… Mai hana i kēlā ʻano helehelena. E Lena, ʻaʻole ʻoe i manaʻo e hōʻeha mai iaʻu, ʻeā?