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ʻO ka wehe ʻana i kekahi kanaka mai nā conflictogens he hana noʻonoʻo, ʻaʻole maʻalahi. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke huhū e nā conflictogens ma kāu ʻōlelo, akā inā ʻoe e hoʻomaka e kuhikuhi i ke kanaka i kāna mau conflictogens a aʻo iā ia i ka kamaʻilio syntonic e kūʻē i kona makemake, malia paha ʻo ʻoe iho ke kanaka conflictogenic.
ʻO ka conflictogen weliweli loa he hōʻailona ia i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe o kā lākou conflictogens
No ka wean i kekahi kanaka mai nā conflictogens - hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokaʻawale i waena o nā hana like ʻole: a i ʻole e wean iā ia i ʻole e kamaʻilio me kekahi e like me ia, ʻo kekahi mea ʻaʻole ia e kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe. I ka manawa like, he mea ʻē aʻe ka ukuhi ʻana i nā malihini, ʻo ka ukuhi ʻana i ka poʻe aloha, ʻo ka ukuhi ʻana i kā mākou mau keiki he mea ʻē aʻe ia ma mua o ka ukuhi ʻana i nā mākua.
Pehea e wean ai i nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana mai nā conflictogens
ʻO ke ala maʻalahi a hilinaʻi hoʻi e wehe i nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana mai nā conflictogens ʻo ia ke huli iā lākou no ke kōkua, e noi iā lākou e hahai iā ʻoe, no ka mea makemake ʻoe e kāpae i nā conflictogens. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pilina maikaʻi, inā ʻaʻole paʻakikī ka ʻoihana, ʻoluʻolu a loaʻa ka waiwai - e hoʻomaka lākou e hana, a e hōʻoiaʻiʻo kēia i ka mea nui - e huki ʻia ko lākou manaʻo i kēia kumuhana. E hoʻomaka koke lākou e nānā iā lākou iho, a maʻemaʻe a maʻemaʻe kā lākou ʻōlelo.
Pehea e wean ai i nā malihini mai nā conflictogens i kāu helu wahi
Aia kekahi mau manawa kūpono e kuhikuhi i nā conflictogens i kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi kanaka. E hoʻolohe paha ʻo ia iā mākou a loaʻa paha kēia hopena. A aia kekahi mau manawa i ka kuhikuhi ʻana iā ia e pili ana i kāna mau conflictogens ʻaʻole ia e hāʻawi i kekahi mea akā ʻo ka ʻāʻī a me nā pilikia i ka pilina. No laila:
I ka manawa i ʻae ai ke kanaka i kahi conflictogen i kā mākou ʻōlelo.
- He manawa kūpono kēia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaha, hoʻomaha. E nana i ke kanaka. E hana hou i ka leo i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia, me he mea lā e kaupaona ana i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia, e hoʻolohe ana i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia: "Me he mea lā iaʻu he categorical loa kēia ... (ʻoʻoleʻa)" - A hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo mālie: "Manaʻo wau he mea kūpono ʻole kēlā mau ʻōlelo. ano no ko makou kamailio pu ana me oe «. Akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ka paʻi ʻana, ka ʻimi ʻana a me ke kala ʻana ma aneʻi: hiki iā ʻoe ke holo i ke kūʻē, wehewehe, kūʻē, a pēlā aku, e hoʻopiʻi i ka manawa kūpono. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻakaʻaka, e nānā pono a hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
He mau minuke ma hope o ka hōʻea ʻana o nā conflictogens, i ka wā i ʻike ai ʻoe iā lākou a ʻike ʻoe he ʻeha a hōʻino.
— Poino loa, manawa kupono ole. Aia ʻoe ma ka ʻaoʻao, a ua haʻalele ka hoa i ke kūlana.
I loko o kekahi mau hola a i ʻole kekahi lā, inā hiki.
— He manawa maikaʻi no ke kamaʻilio ʻana, akā pono ʻoe e hoʻolilo me ka mālie a me ka hewa ʻole.
Nā makemake no ka wā e hiki mai ana:
ʻO ka manawa aʻe e hele mai kahi kanaka iā ʻoe me kahi noi a i ʻole kahi manaʻo hoihoi (papahana) nona, a makemake e kūkākūkā me ʻoe.
— Ka manawa kūpono! Ua hauʻoli ʻoe i ke kūkākūkā ʻana i kāna noi, akā e hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe aia nā manawa pōʻino i loko o nā kūkākūkā i ka manawa i hala, a noi aku i nā mea hōʻoia i kēia manawa e pololei ke kamaʻilio.
Mea unuhi waena
Aia nā ʻōlelo honua like ʻole ma kā mākou honua. Ma waho aʻe o nā ʻokoʻa ʻōlelo, aia nā ʻano a me nā ʻano o ke kamaʻilio. Hiki i ka poʻe ke kamaʻilio: me ka mālie a me ke kaohi ʻana, ka huhū a me ka hauʻoli, ke kāohi a me ka hilinaʻi. ʻŌlelo mālie kekahi, a leo nui kekahi, a me ka leo mele. ʻO ke ʻano o ka kamaʻilio ʻana he mahalo, hoʻokuʻu, pāʻani, koʻikoʻi, huhū a lokomaikaʻi. Hiki ke ʻokoʻa nā huaʻōlelo i hoʻohana ʻia e ka poʻe ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
Eia kekahi laʻana: wili ke keiki i ka ʻaina ahiahi a kamaʻilio leo nui. He aha kaʻu e ʻōlelo aku ai iā ia e hoʻomaha ai iā ia?
— E ʻoluʻolu, mai kamaʻilio ma ka papaʻaina;
— E hooki koke i ke kamailio
— Hamau, ano;
ʻO ka mea ʻōlelo i kahi ʻōlelo, ʻaʻohe lua. ʻO ka mea hoʻopuka i ka huaʻōlelo me ka leo nui, ʻaʻole ia e loaʻa i ka compote;
— E pani koke i kou waha;
— Oki i ka olelo ana;
A i ʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, "Paʻa."
ʻO wai o nā koho āu e makemake ai i ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ke keiki? A ʻo wai o nā koho āu i mākaukau ai e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe iho? E nana →