ʻO ka makaʻu i ka hāʻule ʻole, ka hoʻohewa ʻana, ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e kāpae iā mākou ʻoiai ke hiki mai nā manaʻo maikaʻi loa i ko mākou noʻonoʻo. Akā hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia kēlā makaʻu me nā hoʻomaʻamaʻa maʻalahi, wahi a ka mea aʻoaʻo hoʻomohala ʻoihana ʻo Lindy Norris. ʻO ka mea nui e hana mau iā lākou.
He aha ka hana ke hana hewa mākou? Hilahila mākou, minamina a hilahila. ʻO ka manaʻo o kahi hemahema hou e hoʻopaʻa nei iā mākou a pale iā mākou mai ka lawe ʻana i nā pilikia. Akā ʻo ka pale mau ʻana i ka hemahema e pale iā mākou mai ke aʻo ʻana i nā haʻawina waiwai mai nā hemahema.
ʻO Lindy Norris, Motivational TED Speaker, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kahi ʻike maikaʻi ʻole i kahi moʻolelo hoʻokiʻekiʻe. Ua neʻe ʻo ia i ʻAmelika e aʻo no kahi papahana MBA. Akā, ua hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia ʻaʻole nona kēia ala, a ua hoʻoholo ʻo ia e hoʻi i ka home.
Akā ma kahi o ka minamina iā ia iho, ua nānā ʻo Lindy Norris i nā kumu o ka hāʻule ʻana a loaʻa iā ia kahi kumu o ka ikaika. Ua ʻike ʻo ia ua hoʻoholo ʻia ʻo ia e hana i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka nui o kāna nānā ʻana i kāna ʻike, ʻoi aku ka nui o kona hoʻomaopopo ʻana ua makemake ʻo ia e kaʻana like me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
"ʻAʻole ka manaʻo o ka hāʻule ʻaʻole mākou i hana i ke ola a pono e haʻalele i ka hoʻāʻo e lilo i mea maikaʻi. He mau manawa wale nō mākou e ʻike ai ʻaʻole holo ka hoʻolālā kumu, ʻaʻole mākou i kuhi pololei i ko mākou ikaika, wahi a Lindy Norris. "ʻAe, ʻo ia ka mea ʻike mākou iā mākou iho a me kā mākou hiki ke ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi."
Ma ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ko mākou hiki ke mālama i ka hemahema e like me ka ʻiʻo, e lilo mākou i mea hilinaʻi i ka lawe ʻana i nā pilikia.
ʻO kekahi mau hana maʻalahi e aloha i ka pilikia
1. Hele maʻamau ʻoe i ka cafe hoʻokahi? E lawe i kahi manawa: e nīnau iā ʻoe iho no ka hoʻemi ʻana ma ke ʻano he malihini maʻamau. Me he mea lā he mea maʻalahi ke piʻi aʻe a ʻōlelo. Akā aia kekahi mea o ka awkwardness iā ʻoe (noi ʻoe i kahi mea ʻaʻole i kākau ʻia ma ka papa kuhikuhi) a no ka cashier (ua koi ʻia ʻo ia e hana e like me ka papahana). Ma ka nīnau ʻana i kēia nīnau, e loaʻa iā ʻoe ma mua o ke kālā i mālama ʻia. E hoʻokiʻekiʻe ʻoe i kou paepae o ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a lanakila i ka pale o loko.
2. Noho ma kahi kokoke i kahi malihini ma ke kaʻa kaʻa hapa hapa, ka tram, a i ʻole ke kaʻaahi. Ke hoʻāʻo nei mākou e haʻalele i kahi ākea ma waena o mākou a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. E ʻike anei ʻoe i ka wiwo ʻole e wāwahi i kēia ʻano? Malia paha e ʻike ʻia kāu ʻano he hoaaloha a hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka i kahi kamaʻilio.
3. E haʻi i kāu kumu ma ke akea. Ua makemake paha ʻoe e hana i kahi mea hoʻomake no ka manawa lōʻihi, kahi mea e koi ai i ka hoʻoikaika nui a me ka hoʻomanawanui? Kāhea i nā hoaaloha a me nā hoaaloha e ʻike, e hoʻolaha ma kāu blog a i ʻole ka palena manawa pūnaewele. Ma ka hana ʻana i kēia, holo ʻoe i ka pilikia e ʻike nā mea a pau e pili ana i ka hiki ʻole. Akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana pono i nā mea āpau, e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe ʻaʻohe mea weliweli e hiki mai a ʻaʻole e huli kou mau hoaaloha iā ʻoe.
4. Kaʻana like i kekahi mea pilikino ma kahi pūnaewele kaiapili. ʻO Facebook (kahi hui extremist i pāpā ʻia ma Rūsia) he hale kūʻai nui kahi e ʻike ai nā mea a pau i kā lākou ʻāpana o ka nānā. Akā, pehea inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e loaʻa i hoʻokahi «like»? Ma kekahi ala a i ʻole, e pōmaikaʻi ʻoe i ke aʻo ʻana e kamaʻilio ākea e pili ana iā ʻoe iho me ka manaʻo ʻole i ka hoʻomaikaʻi a i ʻole ka nānā ʻana. Kaʻana like ʻana no ke kaʻana like ʻana, no ka mea he mea nui ia iā ʻoe ma mua o nā mea āpau, he mākaukau koʻikoʻi.
5. E kamaʻilio me kou luna e pili ana i kāu mea makemake ʻole. He paʻakikī ka nui o mākou e hōʻike i ko mākou hauʻoli i mua o kahi kanaka nona ka mana ma luna o mākou. ʻO ka hopena, i ka manawa koʻikoʻi loa, ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike i nā huaʻōlelo e pale aku i ko mākou kūlana. E ho'āʻo i kēia manawa e hōʻike i nā mea a pau e hopohopo nei iā ʻoe, me ke kali ʻole i ke kumu. Inā ʻo ʻoe iho ka luna, e hoʻāʻo e hāʻawi i nā manaʻo i kāu subordinate me ke ākea a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e like me ka hiki, me ka pale ʻole i ka hoʻohewa.
Eʻike hou aʻe ma Forbes.