"ʻAʻole wau makemake e aʻo": pehea e hana ai i nā haʻawina home me nā keiki hyperactive

E noʻonoʻo: ahiahi. Nānā ʻo Māmā i nā haʻawina home a ke keiki. ʻApōpō kula.

"Ua kākau ʻoe i nā pane ma kēia mau laʻana mai ke kaupaku?"

"ʻAʻole, ua hana wau."

"Akā, pehea ʻoe i hoʻoholo ai inā loaʻa iā ʻoe ʻelima a ʻekolu, ʻehā?!"

“Ah… ʻaʻole au i ʻike i kēlā…”

"He aha ka hana?"

“ʻAe, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu pehea e hoʻoponopono ai. E hui pu kakou».

“Ua hoao anei oe? A i ʻole nānā i ka puka makani a pāʻani me ka pōpoki?

"ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua ho'āʻo wau," i kū'ēʻo Petya me ka huhū. — Hookahi haneri manawa».

"E hōʻike i ka ʻāpana pepa kahi āu i kākau ai i nā hoʻonā."

"A ua ho'āʻo wau i koʻu manaʻo..."

"He hora hou aku."

“A he aha kā lākou i nīnau ai iā ʻoe ma ka ʻōlelo Pelekania? No ke aha ʻaʻole āu mea i kākau ʻia?

"ʻAʻohe mea i nīnau ʻia."

“ʻAʻole hiki mai kēlā. Ua aʻo kūikawā ʻo Marya Petrovna iā mākou ma ka hālāwai: Hāʻawi wau i nā haʻawina home i kēlā me kēia haʻawina!

“Akā i kēia manawa ʻaʻole. No ka mea, he poʻo kona.

"Pehea ia?"

“A holo kāna ʻīlio no ka hele wāwae ... ʻO ia keʻokeʻo ... Me ka huelo …”

"E oki i ka hoopunipuni ia'u! uē ka makuahine. “No ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe i kākau i ka hana, e noho i lalo a hana i nā hana a pau no kēia haʻawina i ka lālani!"

"ʻAʻole wau, ʻaʻole mākou i noi ʻia!"

"E hana ʻoe, wahi aʻu!"

"ʻaʻole wau e! — Kiola ʻo Petya i ka puke puke, lele ka puke haʻawina ma hope. Hāpai kona makuahine iā ia ma nā poʻohiwi a hoʻoluliluli iā ia me kekahi ʻano o ka ʻōlelo ʻino ʻino, kahi i manaʻo ʻia ai nā huaʻōlelo "haʻawina", "hana", "kula", "janitor" a me "kou makuakāne".

A laila uē lāua ma nā lumi like ʻole. A laila hoʻolauleʻa lākou. I ka lā aʻe, hana hou nā mea a pau.

ʻAʻole makemake ke keiki e aʻo

Ma kahi kokoke i ka hapahā o kaʻu mau mea kūʻai mai i oʻu nei me kēia pilikia. ʻAʻole makemake ke keiki ma nā papa haʻahaʻa e aʻo. Mai noho i lalo no nā haʻawina. ʻAʻole loaʻa iā ia kekahi mea. Inā, eia naʻe, noho ʻo ia i lalo, hoʻopilikia mau ʻo ia a hana i nā mea āpau me ka hewa. Hoʻohana nui ke keiki i nā haʻawina home a ʻaʻohe manawa e hele wāwae a hana i kekahi mea pono a hoihoi.

Eia ke kaapuni a'u e hoohana ai i keia mau hihia.

1. Ke nānā nei au ma ka moʻolelo lapaʻau, aia a i ʻole kekahi nā hōʻailona. ʻO nā leka PEP (prenatal encephalopathy) a i ʻole kekahi mea like.

2. ʻIke au i koʻu mau mākua i ka mea a mākou makemake. Hoʻokaʻawale - i loko o kahi keiki: hopohopo ʻo ia ma kahi liʻiliʻi e pili ana i nā hewa a me nā deuces, a ʻaʻole ʻo ia e mālama iki. Hoʻokaʻawale - mai nā mākua: ehia mau manawa o ka pule e haʻi ai i ke keiki ʻo ke aʻo ʻana ʻo kāna hana, ʻo wai a pehea ʻo ia e lilo ai i mahalo i nā haʻawina home kuleana.

3. Ke ninau nei au ; ʻo wai ke kuleana a pehea no keia hana. E manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole paha, akā i loko o kēlā mau ʻohana kahi i waiho ʻia ai nā mea āpau, ʻaʻohe pilikia me nā haʻawina. ʻOiai, ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi.

4. wehewehe au i na makuahe aha nā mea e pono ai lākou (a me nā kumu) no kahi haumāna kula mua e hoʻomākaukau i nā haʻawina. ʻAʻole pono ʻo ia iā ia iho. ʻO ka maʻamau. E pāʻani maikaʻi ʻo ia.

ʻO ka manaʻo makua "Pono wau e hana i kahi mea hoihoi ʻole i kēia manawa, no laila ma hope, i kekahi mau makahiki ma hope mai ..." ʻike ʻia i nā keiki ma mua o 15 mau makahiki.

ʻO ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o nā keiki "makemake wau e maikaʻi, i hoʻomaikaʻi ai koʻu makuahine / Marya Petrovna" maʻamau e hoʻopau iā ia iho i ka makahiki 9-10. I kekahi manawa, inā hoʻohana nui ʻia, ma mua.

He aha e hana?

Hoʻomaʻamaʻa mākou i ka makemake. Inā loaʻa nā leka neurological e pili ana i ke kāleka, ʻo ia hoʻi, ua nāwaliwali ke keiki ponoʻī (a i ʻole ikaika). Pono ka makua e "kau" ma luna ona no kekahi manawa.

I kekahi manawa ua lawa wale ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kou lima ma ke poʻo o ke keiki, ma luna o kona poʻo - a ma kēia kūlana e hoʻopau pono ʻo ia i nā hana āpau (maʻamau nā mea liʻiliʻi) i 20 mau minuke.

Akā, ʻaʻole pono kekahi e manaʻolana e kākau ʻo ia i nā mea āpau ma ke kula. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e hoʻomaka koke i kahi ala ʻē aʻe o ka ʻike. ʻIke ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka mea i nīnau ʻia ai kāu keiki - a maikaʻi.

Pono e hoʻomohala ʻia a hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia nā mīkini volitional, inā ʻaʻole lākou e hana. No laila, maʻa mau - no ka laʻana, hoʻokahi manawa i ka mahina - pono ʻoe e "kolo liʻiliʻi" me nā huaʻōlelo: "Auwe, e kaʻu keiki (kaʻu kaikamahine)! Malia paha ua lilo ʻoe i mea ikaika a akamai i hiki iā ʻoe ke kākau hou i ka hoʻoikaika kino iā ʻoe iho? Hiki iā ʻoe ke ala i ke kula ma kāu iho?.. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i ke kolamu o nā laʻana?

Inā ʻaʻole i holo pono: “ʻAe, ʻaʻole lawa ka ikaika. E hoʻāʻo hou kāua i hoʻokahi mahina. Inā ua hana - hauʻoli!

Ke hana nei mākou i kahi hoʻokolohua. Inā ʻaʻohe palapala hoʻoweliweli i loko o ka moʻolelo olakino a me he mea lā ua makemake ke keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi hoʻokolohua.

ʻOi aku ka nui o ka "Crawling away" ma mua o ka mea i wehewehe ʻia ma ka paukū mua, a me ka ʻae ʻana i ke keiki e "kaumaha" i nā unahi o ka: "He aha kaʻu e hiki ai?" Inā ʻohi ʻo ia i ʻelua a lohi i ke kula i ʻelua mau manawa, ua maikaʻi.

He aha ka mea nui ma ʻaneʻi? He hoʻokolohua kēia. ʻAʻole hoʻopaʻi: "I kēia manawa e hōʻike wau iā ʻoe i kou ʻano me aʻu ʻole! ..”, akā aloha: “Akā e ʻike kāua …”

ʻAʻohe mea e aʻo aku i ke keiki no kekahi mea, akā ua paipai ʻia a hoʻopaʻa ʻia ka pōmaikaʻi liʻiliʻi iā ia: “Maikaʻi, ʻike ʻia ʻaʻole pono wau e kū hou ma luna ou! ʻO koʻu hewa kēlā. Akā, hauʻoli wau i ka hopena o nā mea a pau!

Pono e hoʻomanaʻo: ʻaʻohe theoretical «ʻaelike» me nā haumāna ʻōpio hana, hana wale.

Ke ʻimi nei i kahi ʻokoʻa. Inā ʻaʻohe palapala lapaʻau a i ʻole ka manaʻo nui o ke keiki, no ka manawa, pono ke waiho ʻia ke kula e ʻimi e like me ia a e ʻimi i kahi kumuwaiwai ma waho - he aha ka makemake o ke keiki a me kāna mea e kūleʻa ai. Aia kekahi mea no kēlā me kēia. E pōmaikaʻi nō hoʻi ke kula i kēia mau makana - mai ka hoʻonui kūpono o ka manaʻo ponoʻī, lilo nā keiki a pau i ke kuleana.

Hoʻololi mākou i nā hoʻonohonoho. Inā loaʻa i ke keiki nā leka, a he manaʻo ko nā mākua: "ʻAʻole no mākou ke kula pā hale, kahi gymnasium wale nō me ka makemakika hoʻonui!", Haʻalele mākou i ke keiki a hana pū me nā mākua.

He hoʻokolohua i hāpai ʻia e kahi keikikāne 13 makahiki

Ua hoʻolālā ʻia ka hoʻokolohua e ke keikikāne ʻo Vasily. He 2 pule. Ua mākaukau nā kānaka a pau no ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole e hana ke keiki i nā haʻawina home i kēia manawa. ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole loa.

Me nā keiki liʻiliʻi, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i kahi ʻaelike me ke kumu: ua ʻōlelo ka psychologist i kahi hoʻokolohua i mea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i ke kūlana o ka ʻohana, a laila e hana mākou, huki i luna, e hana mākou, mai ' t hopohopo, Marya Petrovna. Akā e kau i nā deuces, ʻoiaʻiʻo.

He aha ka hale? Noho ke keiki i lalo no nā haʻawina, me ka ʻike mua ʻaʻole e hana ʻia. ʻO ia ʻaelike. E kiʻi i nā puke, nā puke puke, kahi penikala, penikala, kahi puke no nā kikoʻī ... He aha hou kāu e pono ai no ka hana? ..

E hohola i nā mea a pau. Akā, ʻo ia ke hana i nā haʻawina - ʻaʻole pono. A ua ʻike mua ʻia kēia. AOLE e hana.

Akā inā makemake koke ʻoe, a laila hiki iā ʻoe, ʻoiaʻiʻo, e hana i kahi mea liʻiliʻi. Akā, he mea koho a hiki ʻole ke makemake. Hoʻopau wau i nā ʻanuʻu hoʻomākaukau a pau, noho wau ma ka papaʻaina no 10 kekona a hele, e ʻōlelo kākou, e pāʻani me ka pōpoki.

A laila, i ka pau ʻana o nā pāʻani me ka pōpoki, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele hou i ka papaʻaina. E ʻike i ka mea i nīnau ʻia. E ʻike inā ʻaʻole i hoʻopaʻa ʻia kekahi mea. E wehe i ka puke puke a me ka puke i ka ʻaoʻao kūpono. E huli i ka hooikaika kino. A MAI hana hou i kekahi mea. ʻAe, inā ʻike koke ʻoe i kahi mea maʻalahi hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo, kākau, hoʻoponopono a hoʻoikaika paha i hoʻokahi minuke, a laila e hana ʻoe. A inā ʻoe e lawe i ka wikiwiki a ʻaʻole e hoʻōki, a laila he mea ʻē aʻe ... Akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka waiho ʻana no ke kolu o ke ala.

Hoʻolālā maoli e hele i waho e ʻai. ʻAʻole nā ​​haʻawina… Akā ʻaʻole holo pono kēia hana… ʻAe, i kēia manawa e nānā wau i ka hoʻonā GDZ… ʻAe, ʻo ia ka mea i hana! Pehea lā wau i kuhi ʻole ai i kekahi mea! .. A i kēia manawa he aha - ʻo ka ʻōlelo Pelekane wale nō i koe? ʻAʻole, ʻAʻole pono e hana i kēia manawa. A laila. I ka manawa ma hope? ʻĀ, i kēia manawa e kāhea aku au iā Lenka… No ke aha, i koʻu kamaʻilio ʻana me Lenka, hiki mai kēia ʻōlelo Pelekane pupule i koʻu poʻo?

A he aha ka mea, ua hana mua wau i nā haʻawina āpau?! A ʻaʻole nui ka manawa? A ʻaʻohe mea i koi mai iaʻu? ʻAe, maikaʻi wau! ʻAʻole i manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo Māmā ua pau wau! A laila nānā au, nānā a hauʻoli loa!

ʻO kēia ka hodgepodge a nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine mai ka papa 2 a hiki i ka papa 10 i hōʻike mai i nā hopena o ka hoʻokolohua i hōʻike mai iaʻu.

Mai ka hā o ka "hoʻokokoke i ka projectile" kokoke i nā mea a pau i hana i kā lākou haʻawina home. Nui - ma mua, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi.