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- Hiki paha ke hāpai a inaina iā ia?
- No ke aha i kapu loa ai keia kumuhana?
- ʻO ka paʻakikī wale nō paha i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā hōʻailona o ka hāpai ʻana paha ka hopena o kēia ʻano, a i ʻole hiki ke noʻonoʻo?
- He aha ka hopena o ia mau manaʻo i kona hāpai ʻana?
- Pehea ʻoe e makemake ai i ka hānau keiki akā ʻaʻole makemake i ka hāpai ʻana?
- He aha nā hopohopo a me nā nīnau pinepine i waena o kēia mau wahine?
Hiki paha ke hāpai a inaina iā ia?
Kūlike ʻole i ka mea e lohe ai, hoʻāla ka hāpai ʻana i nā manaʻo hakakā. He hoao ia, he ʻano pilikia ʻike. ʻO ka manawa koke, pono ka makuahine poina i kona kino opiopio a he paʻakikī ke hoʻomanawanui ʻana o ka hoʻololi ʻana i kekahi manawa. Pono nā wahine e ʻae ʻaʻole lākou i ka mana. Makaʻu kekahi i ka ʻike ʻana i ka loli ʻana o ko lākou kino e like me kēia.
Nalo nō hoʻi nā wāhine hāpai i ke kūʻokoʻa. I ke kolu o ka trimester, pilikia ko lakou nee ana. Hiki paha iā lākou ke hōʻoluʻolu i ko lākou kino. ʻO ka mea ʻino loa, ʻaʻole lākou aʻa e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea, hilahila lakou.
No ke aha i kapu loa ai keia kumuhana?
Noho mākou i kahi hui kahi i loaʻa ai ka hoʻomana o ke kino, ka leanness a me ka mana. Hōʻike ka hoʻolaha pāpaho o ka makuahine i nā mea maikaʻi wale nō o ka hapai. Pono e ʻike ʻia kēia ma ke ʻano he paradaiso. Ke kau nei mākou i nā kaohi a me nā kapu nui i nā wahine hāpai: ʻaʻole pono mākou e inu, puhi a ʻai i kā mākou makemake. Ua noi ʻia nā wahine e lilo i mau makuahine hemolele. ʻO kēia "hoʻohālike ma ka pepa" kahi mamao loa mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻO ka hāpai ʻana he mea hoʻopilikia a ʻano ʻē.
ʻO ka paʻakikī wale nō paha i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā hōʻailona o ka hāpai ʻana paha ka hopena o kēia ʻano, a i ʻole hiki ke noʻonoʻo?
ʻO nā nāwaliwali āpau i loaʻa i nā wahine i loko o lākou, ʻo ia hoʻi ka pēpē lākou, ke kumu hoʻohālike o ko lākou makuahine ponoʻī… lawe mākou i kēia mau mea āpau i ka maka. Kapa au ia a “Ka nalu kai kino”, ho'āla hou 'ia nā mea a pau i nalowale i ka wā hāpai. ʻO kēia ka mea e alakaʻi ai i kekahi manawa i ka pēpē pēpē kaulana. Ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, hāʻawi ʻia nā wahine i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, akā ʻaʻohe manawa me ka psychologist. ʻAʻohe ʻaʻole lawa nā wahi e kamaʻilio ai o keia mau haunaele.
He aha ka hopena o ia mau manaʻo i kona hāpai ʻana?
Aia ʻaʻohe hopena maoli. ʻO kēia mau manaʻo e kaʻana like ʻia e nā wahine a pau, akā, no kekahi, he hana ʻino loa. Pono ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o ka makemake ʻole i ka hāpai ʻana, a me ke aloha i hiki i ka wahine ke loaʻa i kāna keiki. ʻAʻohe ʻaʻohe pilina ma waena o ka hāpai ʻana a me ka makuahine maikaʻi. Loaʻa paha i ka wahine nā manaʻo weliweli i kona wā hāpai a lilo i makuahine aloha.
Pehea ʻoe e makemake ai i ka hānau keiki akā ʻaʻole makemake i ka hāpai ʻana?
He nīnau kēia e pili ana ke kiʻi kino. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka hāpai ʻana he ʻike ia e pakele ai mākou i nā mana āpau o ke kino. I loko o ko mākou kaiaulu, waiwai kēia haku, ʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano he lanakila. ʻO ia ke kumu e ola ai nā wāhine hāpai he hookolokolo poho.
Aia nō hoʻi ka neʻe ʻana o ka egalitarian ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine. Ua makemake kekahi kā lāua kāne e hāpai ana i ka pēpē. Eia kekahi, minamina kekahi mau kāne no ka hiki ʻole iā lākou ke hana.
He aha nā hopohopo a me nā nīnau pinepine i waena o kēia mau wahine?
“Makaʻu wau i ka hāpai ʻana” “Makaʻu wau i ka hānau ʻana o ka pēpē i loko o koʻu ʻōpū, e like me ka malihini” “Maʻu wau i ke ʻano o koʻu kino i ka hāpai ʻana”. Loaʻa iā lākou, i ka hapa nui o ka manawa, makaʻu o hoʻouka ʻia mai loko mai a hiki ole ke hana i kekahi mea. ʻIke ʻia ka hāpai ʻana ma ke ʻano he hoʻouka kaua i loko. Eia kekahi, pilikia kēia mau wahine no ka mea ua kau ʻia lākou i nā kaohi nui ma ka inoa o ka hemolele o ka makuahine.