ʻOiai ka nui o ka ʻike, loaʻa iā mākou nā manaʻo he nui e hiki ke hoʻopili i ke ola pili. Nānā ʻo Sexologist a me psychoanalyst ʻo Catherine Blanc i kekahi o kēia mau manaʻo kaulana i kēlā me kēia mahina.
ʻElua mau kānaka e pili ana i ka moe kolohe, ʻo ia hoʻi, na nā hoa ʻelua ke kuleana no lāua. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ko lākou mau ʻāpana ponoʻī o ka haʻahaʻa, nā palena o ka mea i ʻae ʻia, ʻaʻole like nā manaʻo o ʻelua i nā manawa a pau. Akā, hiki anei ke ʻōlelo he "hewa" kekahi i kēia? No ka laʻana, ʻo ka wahine ʻaʻole lawa ka sexy, inventive, active ... ʻO ia paha ka mea nāna e hānai i ka noʻonoʻo o ke kāne - me he mea lā he kamaliʻi ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i ka mea e hana ai iā ia iho, a ke kali nei i kahi kanaka makua. e kiʻi mai i pāʻani nona? A inā ʻoe e kali i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana mai waho wale nō, mai kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, aia kahi hōʻoiaʻiʻo e lawe mai ia i ka leʻaleʻa? A i ʻole, ʻaʻohe mea i loko o ka mea "ʻoluʻolu" ponoʻī - a ʻo ia ke kumu o kēia luuluu a me nā hoʻopiʻi ʻaʻole hiki i ka hoa ke hoʻōki, ʻoiai ʻo ka nui o kāna hoʻoikaika ʻana?
I kēia lā, ʻo kā mākou honua ka nui o nā laʻana, nā kūlana, nā hiʻohiʻona - a no laila i kēia manawa liʻiliʻi a emi iki ka makemake o ke kanaka e ʻimi i kahi kumu hoʻoikaika erotic iā ia iho a me kāna mau pilina. Eia kekahi, ma ke ʻano, ʻoi aku ka nui o kāna hana ʻana i nā hiʻohiʻona ʻike: ʻaʻole like me ka wahine, hiki iā ia ke ʻike i kāna okana, nānā i kona hauʻoli. Ma muli o kēia hiʻohiʻona, e makemake nui ʻo ia e nānā i waho no kahi mea hoʻoulu ʻike ma mua o ka huli ʻana i loko i ke kumu o ka makemake. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ke ʻano o ka moekolohe ʻana i ka hiki ke loaʻa i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana iā ia iho, e hānai i ka makemake o kekahi, e hele ana e lanakila i kekahi. Hōʻike kēia ʻano hana i loko o ko mākou mau manaʻo a me nā nīnau a mākou e kamaʻilio nei iā mākou iho a me kā mākou hoa.
ʻO ka mea hope loa, ʻo ka luuluu ma kahi moe hiki ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi hauʻoli hohonu - nā pilina ma kahi ʻano ākea. A laila pono ʻoe e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i ka nīnau: he aha ka hewa i loko o lākou? A i ʻole he mea paʻakikī iā ʻoe ke ʻae iā ʻoe iho e hōʻike i ka naʻau - a hiki mai nā manaʻo noʻonoʻo e hoʻopakele i kahi a me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe e ʻokoʻa loa nā mea āpau ...