PSYchology

"ʻAe,ʻo Pushkin,ʻae, e ke keiki a ka wahine!" Ua hauʻoli ka haku mele nui iā ia iho. ʻIke mākou: ʻae, he akamai maoli ʻo ia. A ua loaʻa iā mākou nā mea hōʻike ʻaʻole i emi iki ka mea akamai i kāna hoʻomaikaʻi. Pehea kakou na kanaka make? ʻEhia pinepine hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomaikaʻi iā mākou iho? A ʻaʻole hiki i ka hoʻomaikaʻi nui ʻana ke hōʻeha iā mākou?

No ka hapanui o mākou, i kekahi manawa ke hele mai nei kahi kūlana o ka lokahi o loko, ke ʻike ʻia e hiki iā mākou ke haʻaheo iā mākou iho. Ma ka liʻiliʻi hoʻokahi manawa i loko o ke ola, akā ʻike mākou i kēia hauʻoli: kahi manawa kakaʻikahi i ka wā e hoʻopuka ai kā mākou papa mele holoʻokoʻa i kahi mele hoʻomaikaʻi. Haʻalele ka makua i loko i ke keiki o loko wale nō no kekahi manawa, mele pū ka leo o ka puʻuwai me ka leo o ka noʻonoʻo, a emi ka mea hoʻohewa nui mai kēia nani.

He manawa kupua a waiwai. ʻOi aku ka nui o ka lokahi o loko, ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o ke kanaka. Mākaukau mākou e haʻalele i ka ʻike o nā hāʻule ʻole, e kūkākūkā me kekahi, a ma ke ʻano e pōmaikaʻi ai nā mea a pau i ke kūkākūkā ʻana. Makemake pinepine kēia hauʻoli e kaʻana like.

Ke ʻike wau i nā loli like ʻole i ka mea kūʻai aku, ʻike wau i kahi ʻano paʻakikī o nā manaʻo: ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, maikaʻi ka mokuʻāina, huahua, akā i ka manawa like he nui ka pilikia o ka haki ʻana i ka wahie.

Aia ko mākou ola a pau i kahi kaʻina haʻalulu a paʻakikī o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka lokahi, a laila nalowale.

Ua hoʻomaka ʻo Karina i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ʻaʻole i lōʻihi ma mua, a me ia, e like me ka hapa nui, aia ka "hoʻomaka hopena", ke hauʻoli ke kanaka iā ia iho, hauʻoli ʻo ia i hana i kēia hana, a makemake ʻole ʻo ia e ʻike i nā hopena o ka hana i ka hikiwawe. Eia naʻe, mai ka manaʻo o ka mea lapaʻau, hiki mai ka hoʻomaka o ka lāʻau i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka pilina, ka ʻohi ʻana i ka ʻike, ka moʻolelo o ke kumuhana. Hoʻohana pinepine ʻia nā ʻenehana a me nā haʻawina home ma kēia pae.

ʻO kēia mau mea hoihoi a Karina, ʻo ke kaiapuni kākoʻo i alakaʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua noho aliʻi ka lōkahi piha i loko o kona honua i loko.

Ma muli o ke oʻo o ke kanaka i loko o ia ʻano kuʻikahi, hiki i kekahi ke hana i kahi holomua pilikino a i ʻole e hele i ke ala hewa. Ua loaʻa iā Karina ka mea hope loa. Ua haʻaheo ʻo ia e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kona hōʻike ʻana i kona mau ʻōhumu a pau i ka makuakāne a, ma kahi ʻano ultimatum, hoʻonohonoho i nā kūlana no ke ʻano o ka noho ʻana o ko lākou ʻohana.

I ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā kikoʻī o kāna haʻalele ʻana, me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kona hōʻeha ʻana i ka makuakāne, noʻonoʻo wau inā paha ua hele ʻokoʻa kēia kūlana, ʻoi aku ka lōkahi. Makaʻu paha wau. Akā, ua nele wau i ka makaʻala i ka wā i haʻalele ai ʻo Karina i ke keʻena ma nā ʻēheu o ka hoʻoikaika ʻana iā ia iho, e ulu ana i ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho.

He mea maopopo i ka harmonious manao pono ua mamao loa mai ka pou o ka "mea haalulu", akā, mai ka pou o ka "permissiveness" pū kekahi. I loko o ko mākou ola a pau, aia mākou i kahi kaʻina haʻalulu a paʻakikī o ka ʻimi ʻana i kēia lokahi, a laila nalowale.

Kōkua iā mākou i kēia, me nā manaʻo manaʻo mai ka honua. I ka hihia o Karina, ʻo ia ka hopena kālā. Ua hoʻoholo ʻo Pāpā i kēia: inā makemake ke kaikamahine e noho ana ma lalo o kona hale e kuhikuhi i kāna mau lula ponoʻī, a ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia i kāna mau lula, a laila pehea ʻo ia e makemake ai i kāna kālā? I ka hopena, loaʻa iā lākou e like me nā lula i kūpono ʻole iā ia.

I kekahi manawa ʻike mākou iā mākou iho i ke aloha o nā kānana: nā aniani kala a i ʻole nā ​​kānana o ka makaʻu a me ka waiwai ʻole.

A ua lilo kēia i mea ikaika no Karina, he 22 makahiki, e ulu wikiwiki ana. Hiki ke hele ʻokoʻa nā mea a pau, ʻoi aku ka palupalu.

Ke hana nei i nā hewa he nui, i kēia lā ke ola nei ʻo Karina i kona ola, e like me kāna iho, hoʻololi nui i nā lula. Ma ka ʻāina ʻē, me ke kāne, ʻaʻole me ka makuakāne.

ʻO ka paʻakikī o ke ola o Karina i koi iā ia e hoʻopau i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. Kāhea mākou i kekahi i kekahi no ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā nūhou. Nīnau au iā ia: mihi anei ʻo ia i kēlā hana hoʻoholo? Makemake ʻoe e hana ʻē aʻe?

Ua ho'ōki ʻo Karina i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ua maloʻo kāna kiʻi ma ka pale o kaʻu kamepiula. Ke noʻonoʻo nei e pili ana i nā pilikia kamaʻilio, makemake wau e kaomi i ka "reset", akā hiki koke mai ke kiʻi i ke ola, a ʻo Karina, ma hope o ka hoʻomaha lōʻihi loa ʻaʻole ia, ʻōlelo ʻo ia no ka manawa mua i ka manawa lōʻihi ua hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia i nā hopena o kēlā kamaʻilio. me ka makua.

I ka wā mua, ua hōʻeha ʻia ʻo ia, akā i kēia manawa ua hilahila ʻo ia i mua ona. He aha kāna i haʻi ʻole ai iā ia! Maikaʻi ka lilo ʻana o makuakāne i kanaka mākaukau o ke kula kahiko, he noʻonoʻo Hikina, a ua hana ʻo ia i ka mea kūpono i kēlā kūlana. ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole mihi ʻo Karina i ka mea i hana ʻia ma hope, akā minamina nui ʻo ia i kona makuakāne ...

I kekahi manawa, ʻike mākou iā mākou iho i ke aloha o nā kānana: nā aniani ʻulaʻula rose, e like me ke ʻano o Karina, ke manaʻo mākou e like me ka mea akamai a me ka mea nui i ka honua, a i ʻole nā ​​kānana o ka makaʻu a me ka waiwai ʻole. Ke alakaʻi nei ka hope i nā hopena pōʻino no kēlā me kēia kanaka: i ka neʻe ʻana i ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho aia ka neʻe ponoʻī, ʻoiai ma ke ala hewa. ʻAʻohe neʻe i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ʻoe iho, ua hoʻohuli ʻia nā manaʻolana āpau, ma nā hanana maikaʻi hypothetical o ka hopena.

ʻO nā mea a mākou e manaʻo ai, ʻo nā mea a pau e hiki mai ana, he manawa pōkole wale nō. Nā manaʻo no ka manawa, nā ʻike. manaʻoʻiʻo manawa. Nānā manawa. Hoʻololi kēia mau mea i nā ʻano like ʻole i ka wā o ke ola. Noho mau ka manaʻo o kekahi ʻano ʻē aʻe - ko mākou ʻuhane.

He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo, e hana ana i nā manaʻo a i ʻole, e like me ka mea i ʻike ʻia, ma waho o nā manaʻo, inā he mea maikaʻi kā mākou e hana nei no ka ʻuhane a ʻaʻole paha. A inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe iho, ʻo ia ke kumu o ka psychologists.

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