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Makemake mākou a pau e makemake ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, makemake mākou e aloha ʻia, ʻōlelo wale lākou i nā mea maikaʻi e pili ana iā mākou. Akā he aha ka makemake e alakaʻi ai? He mea maikaʻi iā mākou iho? A i ʻole ka pahuhopu o ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka maikaʻi e hoʻopaʻi ʻia i ka hemahema ma mua?
Inā ʻoe e nānā i kou puni, e ʻike ʻoe i kahi kanaka e hāʻawi ʻia i ka wehewehe ʻana o ka "maikaʻi". He kanaka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻole ʻo ia, ʻoluʻolu, ʻoluʻolu a aloha mau, mākaukau e kōkua a kākoʻo i kēlā me kēia manawa. A makemake pinepine ʻoe e like. No ke aha mai?
Mai ka wā kamaliʻi, loaʻa iā mākou kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻololi i ke ola ma ke kaiāulu. ʻO kekahi o kēia mau hiʻohiʻona "e maikaʻi." Kōkua ia i ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kākoʻo a me ka ʻike ʻole me ka hoʻoikaika nui ʻole. E aʻo koke nā keiki: e maikaʻi ʻoe, e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi makana mai kou mau mākua mai, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kumu iā ʻoe ma mua o ka mea hoʻoweliweli. I ka wā lōʻihi, hiki ke lilo kēia kumu hoʻohālike i kumu o ko mākou ola āpau, ʻoihana a me nā pilina pilikino. He aha kēia e alakaʻi ai a he aha nā pilikia e kali nei i kahi kanaka "maikaʻi"?
1. E kaumaha ana oe i kou pono iho no ka pono o hai.
ʻO ka politeness a me ka makemake e pale i ka hakakā hiki ke alakaʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kekahi manawa e hoʻomaka mākou e kaumaha i ko mākou pono ponoʻī no ka pono o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO kēia ma muli o ka makaʻu e hōʻole ʻia (e nā hoaaloha ma ke kula, nā hoa hana). He mea nui iā mākou ke manaʻo ua kūpono nā mea a pau me mākou a aloha ʻia mākou, no ka mea, ʻo ia ka mea e hāʻawi ai i kahi manaʻo palekana.
ʻO ka makemake e ʻoluʻolu i ka poʻe a puni mākou e mālama i kā mākou brand i nā manawa a pau a me nā wahi āpau, e maikaʻi ma kahi kaʻa, hale kūʻai, subway. Makemake mākou e hana i kahi mea e leʻaleʻa ai ka mea hoʻokele, a i kēia manawa ke hāʻawi nei mākou i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka pono. A hana mākou me ka manaʻo ʻole no mākou iho. A i ʻole e hoʻomaka mākou e hoʻokipa i ka lauoho me nā kamaʻilio, ma kahi o ka hoʻomaha wale ʻana ma kahi noho. A i ʻole ʻaʻole mākou e hana i kahi ʻōlelo i ka manicurist nāna i hoʻohana pono i ka varnish - ʻo kā mākou salona punahele kēia, no ke aha e hōʻino ai i ka manaʻo maikaʻi iā ʻoe iho?
E hōʻeha mākou iā mākou iho ma ka hana ʻana i kahi mea a mākou makemake ʻole, a i ʻole ma ka noho mālie ʻana i ka wā e uhai ʻia ai ko mākou mau pono.
ʻO ka hopena, hoʻololi ko mākou manaʻo mai loko a i waho: ma kahi o ke kuhikuhi ʻana i nā kumuwaiwai e hana iā mākou iho, hoʻolilo mākou i kā mākou mau hana āpau ma nā hōʻailona waho. ʻOi aku ka mea nui iā mākou i ka manaʻo a me kā lākou ʻōlelo e pili ana iā mākou, a ke hana nei mākou i nā mea āpau e hōʻoia i ka mahalo a ʻae ʻia mākou.
ʻOiai ʻo ko mākou pono ponoʻī ʻaʻole ia he mea hoihoi iā mākou: hoʻopōʻino mākou iā mākou iho ma ka hana ʻana i kahi mea a mākou i makemake ʻole ai, a i ʻole mākou e hāmau i ka wā e uhai ʻia ai ko mākou mau pono. Hāʻawi mākou iā mākou iho no ka pono o kekahi.
ʻO kekahi manawa ʻo ia ke kumu o ka hoʻololi ʻana i ke ʻano o ke ʻano, i ka wā e lilo ai kahi kanaka hakakā ʻole a maikaʻi hoʻi i loko o ka ʻohana i monster maoli. He mea maʻalahi ka maikaʻi me nā malihini, akā ma ka home mākou e wehe i ka mask a lawe aku i waho i nā mea aloha - uē mākou, hoʻohiki, hoʻopaʻi i nā keiki. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua aloha ka ʻohana iā mākou a "ʻaʻole e hele i nā wahi āpau", ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kū i ka hui, hoʻomaha a lilo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho.
Pono nā kānaka a pau e aʻo i kēlā ʻano hana - he luna nui a i ʻole ke kākau ʻōlelo liʻiliʻi, keiki a makua paha. No ka mea, he nīnau ia o ke kaulike o ko mākou ola, ʻo kā mākou iho e hāʻawi a loaʻa. A inā ʻaʻole mākou e pane like i ka poʻe kokoke iā mākou e hāʻawi nui iā mākou, hiki i ko mākou ola ke hāʻawi i kahi ʻōwili: e hāʻule ka ʻohana, e huli nā hoaaloha.
2. E lilo ʻoe i mea hoʻohui i ka ʻae ʻana o kekahi.
Hoʻokumu kēia ʻano hana i ka hilinaʻi ʻeha i ka ʻae ʻana o kekahi. Mai kakahiaka a pō, pono kākou e lohe i nā ʻōlelo hoʻomaikaʻi, ka ʻike ʻana i ke kālena a i ʻole ka nani. Ma kēia ala wale nō mākou e manaʻo ai i ka hilinaʻi, hoʻoikaika, hiki iā mākou ke hana i kekahi mea. Hana ʻia e like me ka dope ikehu. Hoʻomaka mākou e pono e hoʻopaʻa i ka hakahaka o loko.
Lilo ka waho i mea nui, a nalowale nā waiwai o loko, nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo i ke kua.
Ke alakaʻi nei kēlā ʻano hoʻolālā i kahi ʻike categorical o nā mea āpau e hiki mai ana iā mākou. ʻO kahi hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi ke kanaka e pane ʻeha i kekahi ʻōlelo, ʻoiai i ka hoʻohewa ʻana. Ma kāna kumu hoʻohālike, ʻike ʻia nā manaʻo i ʻelua mau hōʻailona: "Ua maikaʻi wau" a i ʻole "ʻino wau." ʻO ka hopena, hoʻōki mākou i ka wehewehe ʻana ma hea kahi ʻeleʻele a ma hea kahi keʻokeʻo, ma hea kahi ʻoiaʻiʻo a ma hea kahi paʻi. Ke piʻi aʻe nei ka paʻakikī o ka poʻe e kamaʻilio me mākou - no ka mea, i ka poʻe i mahalo ʻole iā mākou, ʻike mākou i ka "ʻenemi", a inā hoʻohewa kekahi iā mākou, hoʻokahi wale nō kumu - lili wale ʻo ia.
3. E hoʻopau ʻoe i kou ikaika
Ua hakaka kou mau hoaaloha, a makemake ʻoe e noho maikaʻi me nā mea ʻelua? ʻAʻole hiki mai kēlā. Ma ka ʻōlelo a ka haku mele, "ʻaʻole hiki ke noho me kēlā, a me kēlā, me ke kumakaia ʻole ʻana i kēlā a me kēlā." Inā ho'āʻo ʻoe e maikaʻi ma laila a ma laila, a i ʻole e lawe mau i kahi kūlana kūʻokoʻa, ma hope a ma hope paha e alakaʻi kēia i kahi manaʻo pōʻino. A e manaʻo paha nā hoa ʻelua e kumakaia, a e nalowale ʻoe ʻelua.
Aia kekahi pilikia ʻē aʻe: ke hoʻāʻo nui nei ʻoe e lilo i mea pono no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hana nui ʻoe iā lākou, a i kekahi manawa e hoʻomaka ʻoe e koi i ka ʻano like iā ʻoe iho. Aia kekahi hopohopo i loko, huhū, hoʻomaka ʻoe e hoʻohewa i kēlā me kēia. Hana ʻia kēia hoʻohui e like me nā mea hoʻohui ʻē aʻe: alakaʻi ia i ka luku. Nalo ke kanaka iā ia iho.
ʻAʻole haʻalele ka manaʻo o ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, ka manawa, ka ikaika iā ʻoe. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua hoʻohana nui ʻoe, akā ʻaʻohe ʻāpana. A he banekorupa ʻoe, ikaika a pilikino. Manaʻo ʻoe i ka loneliness, irritation, me he mea lā ʻaʻohe mea i hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe. A i kekahi manawa oki loa oe i ka hoomaopopo ana.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hana i kekahi mea kūikawā e loaʻa ai ke aloha o kou mau mākua, kumu, a mau hoa papa.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, makemake nā mea a pau e hoʻopuniʻia e "nā kānaka maikaʻi". Akā, ʻo ke kanaka maikaʻi maoli, ʻaʻole ia ka mea e hahai mau ana i ke alakaʻi o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a ʻae i ka manaʻo o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i nā mea āpau. ʻO kēia ka mea iʻike i kaʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka pololei, hiki iā ia ke lilo iā lākou iho, ua mākaukau e hāʻawi, akā i ka manawa like e pale aku i ko lākou mau pono, nā manaʻoʻiʻo a me nā waiwai, me ka mālamaʻana i ko lākou hanohano.
ʻAʻole makaʻu kēlā kanaka e hōʻike i kona ʻaoʻao pouli a ʻae maʻalahi i nā hemahema o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻIke ʻo ia i ka ʻike pono ʻana i ka poʻe, ke ola, a ʻaʻole koi i kekahi mea no kāna nānā a kōkua paha. ʻO kēia hilinaʻi iā ia iho e hāʻawi iā ia i ka manaʻo o ka holomua ma ka hana a me nā pilina pilikino. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hana i kekahi mea kūikawā e loaʻa ai ke aloha o nā mākua, nā kumu a i ʻole nā hoa papa. Ua kūpono mākou i ke aloha, no ka mea, he kanaka maikaʻi kēlā me kēia iā ia iho.