He aha kāu kiʻiʻoniʻoni punahele i manaʻo ʻia i kēia manawa? ʻOiaʻiʻo kekahi mea āu i nānā ai i kēia manawa? A i ʻole he wā lōʻihi paha? ʻO kēia ke kūlana āu e noho nei i kēia manawa. Wehewehe mai ka psychologist.
Makemake ʻoe e ʻike pehea e pau ai nā mea a pau i kāu moʻolelo a pehea e mālie ai kou puʻuwai? E nānā i ka hopena o kāu kiʻiʻoniʻoni punahele a me ka hopena o kāna mau kiʻi. Mai makemake wale: e alo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ke nānā mākou i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni, hāʻule mākou ma lalo o ke ʻano o kāna mau mea. Akā inā e pāʻani ana ke ʻano like i ke ola maoli, ʻaʻole makemake mākou a pilikia mākou.
Eia kekahi laʻana, ke aloha nei mākou i ka heroine o ka pena kiʻi "ʻAʻole i manaʻoʻiʻoʻo Moscow i nā waimaka" a hauʻoli i kona hui houʻana me Gosha. Eia naʻe,ʻo ke kaikamahine, ka mea i manaʻo i kēia kiʻiʻoniʻoni he mea punahele loa ia a ua lōʻihi ka weheʻana i nā hua'ōlelo, e noho ana i ke ola maoli me ka "Gosha" like. ʻO ka pane ʻana i nā hewa ʻole, ʻaʻole noho ma ka home no ʻelua pule a ma kahi o hoʻokahi manawa i kēlā me kēia ʻeono mahina e hele ana i ka pāʻina. Kāhea ʻo ia i nā haukapila, nā mākaʻi a me nā morgues. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia "Ua hala koʻu ikaika", akā ʻoiaʻiʻo - "Pehea ka lōʻihi o koʻu kali ʻana iā ʻoe ..."
I kēlā me kēia manawa makemake nui ʻoe i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻokomo iā ia i kou ola. A e ʻike ʻoe hiki i kēia palapala ke hōʻeha iā ʻoe
ʻO ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ka loiloi transactional, ʻo Eric Berne, i kākau nui e pili ana i nā hiʻohiʻona ola i kona manawa. Ma hope - kāna poʻe hahai, ka mea i ʻōlelo inā ʻaʻole mākou e ola i ke ʻano o nā mākua, a laila ke ʻimi nei mākou i nā hiʻohiʻona i nā hiʻohiʻona i ʻae ʻia i waho - me ka hale kiʻiʻoniʻoni.
Hoʻopili anei nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni a pau i ko mākou ala? ʻAʻole naʻe. ʻO kā mākou makemake wale nō. ʻO nā mea wale nō a mākou e loiloi pinepine ai. A i ʻole nā mea i paʻa i ka hoʻomanaʻo, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou makemake.
E nānā kākou i kekahi mau laʻana. ʻO kahi wahine ma kahi o kanahā mau moeʻuhane o ka male ʻana, akā ʻaʻohe mea i hiki. Ma hope - kaʻike o nā pilina traumatic, i ka wā i haoʻia aiʻo ia e kāna mau kāne aloha. Ke nīnau au iā ia e pili ana i kāna kiʻiʻoniʻoni punahele e pili ana i ka pilina, ʻaneʻane haʻaheo ʻo ia e ʻōlelo: "Titanic, ʻoiaʻiʻo!" Ma laila mākou e ʻike ai i ka palapala o kāna mau pilina āpau.
Ma ka kiʻiʻoniʻoni Titanic, he mea piliwaiwai ka mea hoʻokūkū, me ka ʻole o kahi noho paʻa, ka manipulator, ka hoʻopunipuni a me ka ʻaihue. Hana ʻo ia i kēia mau mea a pau i ke kiʻiʻoniʻoni i mua o ko mākou mau maka, akā ʻike ka hapa nui o nā wahine he nani, no ka mea, hana ʻo ia no kāna mea aloha: "No laila he aha? E noʻonoʻo wale, ua ʻaihue ʻo ia i kahi kapa ʻoiai e holo ana ma mua. Maikaʻi loa. Pehea inā ʻo kou kapa? A i ʻole ke kapa o kou hoaaloha? A ua hana ke keiki hoalauna - me ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka manaʻo o loko, e like me ka hoʻi ʻana mai o kāna mea aloha? Manaʻo paha ʻoe inā ʻaihue kāu mau mea waiwai? Ma ke ola maoli, no ia mau hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i ka hale paʻahao a i ʻole ka hewa.
E ʻōlelo mākou ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka maikaʻi o kāu hoa i ka bluffing, ʻaihue, a hoʻopunipuni. Akā e hoʻāʻo e noʻonoʻo he aha ka wā e hiki mai ana e kali nei i kā mākou mau koa? Koe wale, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ka wahine nui. E mālama ʻo ia i ka ʻohana? E kūʻai anei ʻoe i hale a lilo i kāne ʻohana hoʻohālike? A i ʻole e nalowale ana kāu kālā āpau, ka hoʻopunipuni a me ka wahaheʻe? “E ke Akua, ʻo kēia hiʻohiʻona ke ʻano o ka hana! wahi a kaʻu mea kūʻai aku. He mea pāʻani koʻu mau kāne a pau. A ʻo kekahi o lākou, he mea pāʻani mākeke, ua pau ka ʻaihue iaʻu i mau miliona. "
A ke ola nei mākou i kēia mau hiʻohiʻona me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole. Nānā mākou i kā mākou kiʻiʻoniʻoni punahele, hoihoi mākou i nā kiʻi
Eia nō naʻe, ke komo mākou i loko o lākou, pau kā mākou makemake iā lākou. A no laila, hoʻoikaika pinepine mākou e komo i loko o ke ʻano like - no ka mea makemake mākou iā ia ma ke ʻano o kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni.
Ke lohe kaʻu poʻe kūʻai e pili ana i kēia, ʻo ka pane mua i loaʻa iā lākou ʻo ke kūʻē. Aloha nui mākou i nā meʻe! A he nui ka poʻe, no laila ʻaʻole wau e kuhi e pili ana i kā lākou palapala, e hoʻāʻo nei e hana i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni ʻē aʻe.
Akā ʻo nā mea a lākou i hana ai, ua hoʻomaka mua kā lākou mau neural pili e ʻimi i kā lākou ʻano punahele o nā ʻano mai ke ola maoli. Hōʻike mau ka psyche i ke ʻano a me ke ala o ke kanaka. I kekahi manawa kāhea mai ka mea kūʻai iaʻu i ʻekolu kiʻiʻoniʻoni i ka lālani - akā like lākou a pau i ka mea like.
ʻO nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni ʻaʻole e pili ana iā mākou, ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike. ʻAʻole lākou e waiho i kahi ala i ka psyche. Eia kekahi laʻana, e nalo ana kekahi kiʻi "Dune", akā makemake paha kekahi. ʻO ka poʻe i hele i kahi wā o ka ulu ʻana, hoʻomaka a kaʻawale paha - ma ka ʻaoʻao o ke keiki a ma ka ʻaoʻao o ka makuahine. A i ʻole ka poʻe e noho ana ma ka hoʻouna piha ʻana.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni punahele he ʻōlelo. He hōʻailona wale nō kēia o kahi e hele ai ʻoe ma kahi pae subconscious.
Ma ka conscious level, hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i alakaʻi o ka mea kanu a ʻike i ka mea āu e makemake ai mai ke ola, a ma ka pae subconscious, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻimi i ka «Gosh» ka mea e hele mai i kou hale me ka noi ʻole.
"He aha ke ʻano o ke kiʻiʻoniʻoni i mea maʻamau ke ʻano o ke ola?" ninau mai lakou ia'u. Noʻonoʻo lōʻihi wau i ka pane. Pēlā paha: ʻoluʻolu, ʻoluʻolu, ʻo wai ka mea makemake e hoʻōki i ka nānā ʻana mai ke kekona mua. ʻAʻohe mea pāʻani, pōʻino a me nā mea wahaheʻe maikaʻi loa. Akā ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, aia nā poʻe koa maʻamau - nā poʻe maikaʻi a aloha e hana i kahi ʻoihana maikaʻi me ka ʻole o ka hana ʻenemi. Ua hālāwai ʻoe i kēia mau mea?