E noʻonoʻo ʻoe ua ʻōlelo ʻia ʻoe ua ʻoi aku ka ʻino o ka ʻaoʻao hema o kou kino ma mua o ka ʻākau, a no laila e hilahila ʻoe i kou lima hema a me kou wāwae, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka wehe ʻole ʻana i kou maka hema. Hana ʻia ia e ka hānai ʻana, e hoʻokau i nā stereotypes e pili ana i ke kāne a me ka wahine. Eia ka manaʻo psychoanalyst ʻo Dmitry Olshansky e pili ana i kēia.
I kekahi manawa ua hele mai kahi kaʻa kaʻa "hana ma ke kūkulu ʻākau" iaʻu no kahi kūkākūkā. ʻO kahi kanaka olakino, nui, ʻumiʻumi i kūpono ʻole ma luna o ka sofa a hoʻopiʻi me ka leo bass: "E haʻi mai nā hoaaloha iaʻu he wahine nui wau." Me ka hūnā ʻole ʻana i koʻu pīhoihoi, nīnau wau iā ia i ke ʻano o kēia. “ʻAe, pehea? No nā kāne, he ʻeleʻele ke kapa lalo; ma laila, he ʻaʻahu ʻeleʻele kāu e kau ana. A kūʻai au i ka lole ʻulaʻula noʻu iho. I kēia manawa, hoʻohenehene nā mea a pau iaʻu me kahi wahine.
He ʻakaʻaka ka laʻana, akā ʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e hoʻokumu i ko lākou ʻano kāne ma muli o ke kumu "kū'ē".
ʻO ke kāne, ʻaʻole ia e hana i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia he wahine. ʻO ka wahine ʻo ia ka hōʻole ʻana i kou mau ʻano kāne a pau.
He mea lapuwale ia i ka poʻe i kamaʻāina i ka psychoanalysis. Akā, ua kūkulu ʻia ka ʻōnaehana hoʻonaʻauao o kēia wā ma ke ʻano e loaʻa ai i nā keiki ka ʻike kāne kāne ma o ka hōʻole ʻana: "ʻaʻole he kaikamahine ke keikikāne", a "ʻaʻole he keikikāne ke kaikamahine". Ua aʻo ʻia nā keiki e hana i kā lākou kiʻi ma o ka negation o ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia hoʻi, ma ke ʻano maikaʻi ʻole.
Ma ka mua, ua kū koke ka nīnau: "ʻaʻole he kaikamahine" a "ʻaʻole he keikikāne" - pehea ia? A laila ua hoʻokumu ʻia ka nui o nā stereotypes: ʻaʻole makemake ke keikikāne i nā kala ʻulaʻula, hōʻike i nā manaʻo, ʻaʻole makemake e noho i loko o ka lumi kuke ... ʻOiai ua maopopo mākou ʻaʻole pili kēia i ke kāne. ʻO ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i nā pēpē a me nā kaʻa he mea ʻē aʻe e like me ke kūʻē ʻana i ka "ʻalani" a me "kanakolukumamāono".
ʻO ke koi ʻana e hoʻopaʻa i kahi ʻāpana o kou ʻuhane, ua like ia me ka pāpā ʻana i ke kino kāne e hana i ka hormone estrogen.
Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka nā hiʻohiʻona wahine a me ke kāne. A like nā hormones i hana ʻia, ʻoi aku ka estrogen o kekahi, ʻoi aku ka testosterone i kekahi. ʻO ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, he quantitative wale nō, ʻaʻole qualitative, ʻoiai mai ka manaʻo o ka physiology, ʻaʻole hoʻi e haʻi i nā mea noʻonoʻo, ʻo ia hoʻi no nā kāne ʻelua, e like me ka Freud i hōʻike ai.
No laila, he mea hoʻohenehene nā manaʻo a pau e pili ana i ke kumuhana o ka psychology kāne a me ka wahine. Inā i ka makahiki XNUMX ua ʻae ʻia ke ʻōlelo ʻana ua hānau ʻia nā kāne ma ke ʻano he ʻokoʻa mai nā wahine, i kēia lā, ʻaʻole ʻepekema kēia mau manaʻo āpau a koi ʻia ke kanaka e kāohi i kahi ʻāpana o kona ʻano i loko ona e like me ka pāpā ʻana i ke kino kāne. hana i ka hormone estrogen. Pehea ka lōʻihi o kona noho ʻole me ia? I kēia manawa, hoʻoikaika wale ka hānai iā ʻoe e kaomi, e hilahila a hūnā i nā ʻike me ka wahine ʻē.
Inā makemake ke kanaka i kekahi mea wahine, ke kala ʻulaʻula like, no ka laʻana, nānā koke lākou iā ia ma ke ʻano he pervert a hana i nā mea paʻakikī nona. Inā kūʻai ka wahine i ka lole ʻeleʻele, ʻaʻohe mea hoʻokele kaʻa e mare iā ia.
He pupule paha? A ʻo kēia ka mea lapuwale i hānai ʻia e nā keiki.
ʻO ka lua, ʻo nā manaʻo like ʻole o ke kāne a pau. ʻO wai ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻo ka ʻike ʻole ʻana i nā manaʻo he hōʻailona ia o ke "kanaka maoli"? A makemake paha e pepehi i ke ʻano o ke kanaka? A i ʻole ʻo wai ka mea hiki ke hōʻoia, ma ke ʻano o ka physiology a i ʻole evolution, no ke aha e hoʻokaʻawale ai ke kāne i nā kala liʻiliʻi ma mua o ka wahine?
Pono ka mea hahai holoholona i ka wikiwiki wikiwiki, ka intuition maʻalahi a me nā manaʻo ʻoi aku ma mua o ka wahine, ka mea mālama i ka puʻu ahi, ʻaʻole pono maoli i kēia mau manaʻo, no ka mea, ua kaupalena ʻia kona ola honua i ʻelua mau mika square o kahi ana pōʻeleʻele a mau loa. - ka uwa ʻana o ka ʻohana keiki.
I loko o ia mau kūlana, i mea e mālama ai i ka psyche wahine, pono e hoʻopau ʻia ka lohe ʻana i ʻole e alakaʻi i ka uē ʻana o nā keiki he nui i ka haʻihaʻi hopohopo, hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻia ka ʻala a me ka ʻono i ʻole e koho nui i ka meaʻai, no ka mea ʻAʻohe mea ʻē aʻe, a ʻo ka ʻike ʻana a me ka hoʻopā ʻana i ka wahine i loko o ke ana he mea ʻole, ʻoiai ʻo nā mea a pau o kona wahi noho ua kaulana a ma ka lima mau.
Akā, pono e ʻike ka mea hahai holoholona i nā tausani o nā ʻala a me nā malu o nā pua, he ʻike maka a me ka lohe ʻana, i ʻike ai i kahi pio huna a i ʻole predator he mau haneli mau mika ka mamao i loko o nā ululāʻau paʻa. No laila mai ka manaʻo o ka evolution, ʻo nā kāne ka mea e ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi, hoʻomaʻemaʻe a maʻalahi ma mua o nā wahine. E like me ka hōʻike ʻana o ka mōʻaukala: ʻo nā kāne nā mea ʻala maikaʻi loa, nā chefs, stylists.
Pono ka moʻolelo moʻokalaleo e hoʻokaʻawale i ke ʻano o ke kāne a me ka wahine a hoʻokumu i nā lula no ka pilina ma waena o nā kāne.
Eia naʻe, ke hōʻike nei nā stereotypes i nā mea āpau iā mākou i nā mea āpau: ʻo ke kāne, ʻōlelo lākou, pono e emi iki ka naʻau ma mua o ka wahine. A inā e hahai ʻo ia i kona ʻano kāne maoli a lilo, no ka laʻana, he couturier, a laila ʻaʻole mahalo a kākoʻo paha nā kaʻa kaʻa i kēia.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomanaʻo i nā ʻano stereotypes ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana me ke kumu. No ka laʻana, ma Bulgaria ua loaʻa iaʻu kēia: ʻo nā kuli-kiʻekiʻe kahi ʻano o ka lole wahine, a ʻo ke kāne maʻamau, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokomo iā lākou. "Akā, pehea nā mea pāʻani?" Ninau au. "Hiki iā lākou, e like me ka hana keaka e pono ai ʻoe e pena i kou mau lehelehe a hoʻohana i ka wig." ʻAʻohe ʻāina ʻē aʻe o ka honua i ʻike i kahi stereotype e pili ana i ke kolepa.
ʻO kēia mau mea hana a pau i kū mai ma ka manawa wale nō. Akā, no ke aha? Pono lākou no kēlā me kēia hui kaiaulu i mea e hoʻokaʻawale pono ai i ke ʻano o ke kāne a me ka wahine a hoʻokumu i nā lula no ka pilina ma waena o nā kāne.
I nā holoholona, ʻaʻole kū mai kēia nīnau - hōʻike nā instincts pehea e hana ai i kahi kūlana. No ka laʻana, ʻo ka waihoʻoluʻu a i ʻole ka ʻala e ʻae iā ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine a loaʻa i nā hoa pili. Pono ka poʻe i nā mea hoʻololi hōʻailona no kēia mau hana (e komo ana i nā pūkini kuli a me nā ʻaʻahu ʻulaʻula) e hoʻokaʻawale i nā kāne mai nā wahine.
Ekolu, Hoʻokumu ka hoʻonaʻauao o kēia wā i ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i ke kāne. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ke keikikāne "mai ʻōhumu e like me ke kaikamahine" - he mea ʻino ke kaikamahine, a ʻo kāu ʻāpana kino o kou ʻano he mea maikaʻi ʻole e pono ai ʻoe e hilahila.
ʻOiai ua aʻo ʻia nā keikikāne e kāohi i nā ʻano wahine a pau i loko o lākou iho, a ua aʻo ʻia nā kaikamahine e inaina a hoʻopaʻa i nā kāne āpau i loko o lākou iho, ua kū mai nā hakakā intrapsychic. No laila ka inaina ma waena o nā kāne: ka makemake o nā wahine e hōʻoia ʻaʻole lākou i ʻoi aku ka hewa ma mua o nā kāne, a me ka makemake o nā machistas e "hoʻokomo i nā wahine i ko lākou wahi."
ʻO nā mea ʻelua, ʻoiaʻiʻo, nā hakakā kūloko i hoʻoholo ʻole ʻia ma waena o nā ʻāpana wahine a me nā kāne o ke ʻano.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kūʻē i ke kāne a me ka wahine, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o nā paio ma waena o nā kānaka, a lilo nā pilina i mea hoihoi. Pono e aʻo ʻia nā kaikamahine e ʻae i nā ʻano kāne i loko o lākou iho, a pono e aʻo ʻia nā keikikāne e mahalo i nā ʻano wahine i loko o lākou iho. A laila e hana like lākou i nā wāhine.