pēpē uē manipulative

Hiki ke ʻokoʻa ka uē ʻana o nā keiki: aia ke uē - he noi no ke kōkua, aia ka ʻeha ʻoiaʻiʻo (ʻoiaʻiʻo, uē maoli), a i kekahi manawa - manipulative, hana ʻia e kahi keiki no ...

He aha ke kumu?

I ka hoʻomaka ʻana, ʻo nā pahuhopu nui ʻelua o ka uē manipulative e hoʻohuli i ka manaʻo iā ʻoe iho a i ʻole e kiʻi i kekahi mea mai iā ʻoe (hāʻawi, kūʻai, ʻae ...) Ma hope, i ka wā e kūkulu ai ke keiki i nā pilina me nā mākua, lilo nā kumu o ka uē manipulative, e like me nā ʻano hewa. : pale aku i ka hemahema , ka hoohuli ana i ka noonoo, ka paio no ka mana a me ka hoopai. E nana →

Ma waho, hiki ke kani ka leo manipulative. Ma ke ʻano o ke kaomi ʻana, ʻo ka uē manipulative hiki ke lilo i ka leo mana i manaʻo ʻia, nā waimaka pōʻino i manaʻo ʻia o ka hoʻopiʻi inflammable (e pāʻani ana no ke aloha) a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻole no ka luku ʻana iā ʻoe iho ...

He aha nā mea e pono ai no ka uē manipulative, no ke aha e hoʻomaka ai nā keiki e hoʻomaʻamaʻa?

Aia nā keiki i maʻa i ka uē manipulative mai ka hānau ʻana (nā keiki-manipulators), akā ʻoi aku ka maʻa o nā keiki i kēlā uē inā hana nā mākua i nā kūlana no kēia, ʻoiai inā hoʻonāukiuki ʻia kēlā kūlana. I ka manawa hea e hoʻomaka ai nā keiki e hoʻopunipuni i ko lākou mau mākua? ʻElua kumu nui: ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻae ʻia ka nāwaliwali o nā mākua, ke kū ʻole nā ​​​​mākua i ka hoʻāʻo paʻa (a i ʻole hiki ke lanakila ma ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka like ʻole o ko lākou kūlana), a i ʻole ka rigidity makua nui me ka ʻole o ka maʻalahi: ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻae me nā mākua i kahi ʻO ke ala maikaʻi, ʻaʻole lākou makemake i kēia, a laila ʻoi aku ka nui o nā keiki maʻamau ma mua o ka mea maʻamau e hoʻohana i kahi hopena ikaika, kaomi i ko lākou mau mākua me kā lākou uē.

ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ʻo ke kumu o ka uē manipulative ʻo ka nele o ka nānā ʻana o nā mākua a me ke aloha i ke keiki, akā naʻe, ʻoi aku paha kēia o ka moʻolelo… See →

Pehea e hoʻokaʻawale ai i ka manipulation o ka uē ʻana mai kahi noi ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke makemake nui ke keiki a hiki iā ia ke uē? E like me kā mākou hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā leo o ka noi mai nā leo o ke koi. Ma kahi noi, ʻoiai ma kahi noi e uē mākou, ʻaʻole paʻi ke keiki a ʻaʻole koi. Ua hoʻohuli ʻo ia i kou manaʻo, ʻōlelo ʻo ia i kāna mea e makemake ai iā ʻoe, ʻo ia, ua uē ʻo ia i hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha a uē paha i kona kaumaha - akā ʻike ke keiki ʻaʻole ʻo ia ka mea nāna e mālama, akā ʻo nā mākua. Inā ʻaʻole hele ke keiki i ka "kūkākūkā ʻoiaʻiʻo" a hoʻokau i ke koʻikoʻi i kona mau mākua a hiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o kāna mea e makemake ai, he uē manipulative kēia.

Pehea e hoʻokaʻawale ai i ka uē manipulative mai ka uē ʻoiaʻiʻo inā maʻi maoli ke keiki a ʻeha? ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o kēia mau ʻano uē ʻelua, akā hiki nō. Inā ʻaʻole uē ke keiki me ke kumu koʻikoʻi ʻole, akā i kēia manawa ua paʻa ʻo ia a uē, ʻoiai ʻaʻohe ona pōmaikaʻi mai ia mea, ʻoiai he uē ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia. Inā hoʻomaka koke ke keiki e uē i ka wā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia i kekahi mea a pono ʻo ia i kekahi mea, ʻike ʻia he uē manipulative kēia. Akā naʻe, ʻaʻohe laina akaka ma waena o kēia mau ʻano uē ʻelua: he mea maʻamau ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka uē ʻana me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā hoʻomau (a hoʻomaha paha) ma ke ʻano he manipulative.

Ke hoʻoholo nei i ke ʻano o ka uē ʻana, pono ia e noʻonoʻo i nā ʻano o ka manaʻo o ke kāne a me ka wahine: ʻoi aku ka makemake o nā kāne e ʻike i ka uē ʻana ma ke ʻano he manipulative, ʻo nā wahine - he kūlohelohe, ʻoiaʻiʻo. Inā kū mai kahi hakakā o nā hihiʻo, a laila i ke ola e huli pinepine ka wahine i ka pololei: ma muli wale nō o ka mālama pinepine ʻana o nā kāne maʻamau i nā keiki, a inā luhi a huhū ke kāne, a laila ʻike ʻia kekahi uē iā ia. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā pili pū ka makuakāne i kahi keiki, a laila ʻoi aku ka pololei o ka makuakāne, no ka mea, ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o nā kāne i ke kūlana.

Pehea e pane ai i ka hoʻopunipuni uē?

Pono e mālama ʻia ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i ka uē ʻana e like me ka hana hewa maʻamau. ʻO kāu mau lula kumu: ka mālie, ka paʻa, ke ʻano, a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi. E nana →