Hāʻawi ʻia kaʻu ʻatikala i ka poʻe i loaʻa nā keiki i loko o ka ʻohana, a i ʻole ko lākou helehelena. ʻAʻole loa! E hoʻolohe, mai hānai i kāu mau keiki ma muli o ka hoʻopunipuni, mai pāʻani i ko lākou mau manaʻo! Inā makemake ʻoe e ulu maikaʻi kāu mau keiki i ka noʻonoʻo, kūpono, me ka manaʻo ponoʻī maʻamau a ʻaʻole e hōʻeha ʻia iā ʻoe no ke koena o ko lākou ola ʻana, a laila e ʻimi i kahi ala olakino e hoʻonaʻauao ai a hoʻomohala i kahi ʻano.
Ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i ka huhū
Inā ʻaʻole makemake kāu keiki e hana i kāna mau hana a puni ka hale, a i ʻole ke pāʻani me nā hāmeʻa, ʻaʻole wikiwiki e hana i kāna haʻawina home, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e haʻi iā ia ʻaʻole aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe, e make ana ʻoe i ka hana nui. , aka, aole ia e ike. A mai ʻōlelo ʻoe me kēlā ʻano ʻano i ke ola e ulu ʻo ia mai ona aku: "ʻaihue, ʻaihue, maniac a pepehi kanaka". Me kēia mau ʻōlelo, moe ʻole ʻoe polokalamu ola kino. "Ma ka maikaʻi," e ulu aʻe ka mea nalo me kahi paʻakikī haʻahaʻa. No ka pale ʻana i kēia, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻokomo i kahi makana hōʻailona no kēlā me kēia hana i hoʻopau ʻia i ka manawa. E ʻōlelo kākou i ka uku kālā, a i ʻole ka ʻōnaehana helu. No laila, no ka hana i hoʻokō ʻole ʻia, aia kahi ʻōnaehana hoʻopaʻi, e wehe i nā kiko, a i ʻole no kekahi manawa me ka ʻole o nā hāmeʻa. ʻO wau iho, ʻo koʻu manaʻo ʻaʻole pono e hoʻonele i ke keiki i ka hele ʻana a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā hoaaloha, ʻoiai ʻo ka hele wāwae he ea maikaʻi ia no ke olakino, a ʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā hoaaloha ʻo ia ka ulu ʻana o kāu keiki a me kāna mau kamaʻilio kamaʻilio.
Makaʻu i nā mākua
I mea e maopopo ai, e hoʻomanaʻo kākou iā kākou iho i ka wā ʻōpiopio. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo mākou, nā keiki i ulu i ka makahiki 90, ʻaʻohe kamepiula, akā aia nā consoles, e like me SEGA or DENDYkahi a mākou i pāʻani ai, poina i nā mea a pau. A i ʻole, i ka heluhelu ʻana i kahi puke hoihoi, poina lākou i ka holoi ʻana i nā kīʻaha a i ʻole ka holoi ʻana i ka papahele. A laila lohe ʻoe i ka paʻi ʻana o ka puka mua a hoʻi mai kou makuahine i ka home. He aha nā manaʻo e hoʻihoʻi mai iā ʻoe? Makau? Weliweli? Ke kali nei i ka scandal hiki ʻole? Inā ʻo kāu pane: "Ae", a laila ke hoʻomaikaʻi aku nei au iā ʻoe, ua loaʻa iā mākou kahi ʻeha psychological o kahi keiki.
I loko o nā ʻohana i kūkulu pono ʻia ai ka pilina pili kanaka, ʻaʻole hoʻolei ʻia ke keiki i loko o ka hou anu a makaʻu ʻo ia ua hoʻi mai nā mākua a ʻaʻole i hoʻokō ʻia nā hana o ka hale. A ʻo ka mea kaumaha loa, ʻo ʻoe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, hoʻopunipuni i nā manaʻo o kāu mau keiki. ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole ʻoe he mau mākua weliweli, ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi stereotype o ke ʻano i kēlā mau kūlana. A ʻo ka hana mua i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi pilina olakino me nā keiki, ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana e uhaʻi ana ʻoe i ka psyche o ke keiki me kāu mau ʻōlelo a me kāu mau hana. Ke hoʻomaopopo koke ʻoe i kēia a ʻae ʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe iho ua nalowale ʻoe i ka ʻike like ʻana me nā keiki, e aʻo e kūkākūkā me lākou. ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona o ke ʻano i wehewehe ʻia ma kēia ʻatikala. Hoʻokumu pū mākou i ka pilina kūpono me nā keiki, a hiki i ka holo ʻana o nā mea a pau, akā hoʻāʻo nui mākou. A e lanakila ʻoe.
Pehea ʻoe e hānai ai i kāu mau keiki a hana i nā kūlana like ʻole? Kaʻana like i kāu ʻike ma nā manaʻo.
*Ua hoʻouna ʻia ka ʻatikala e kā mākou mea kākau inoa ʻo Alita.