E huli i ka paheʻe, e hōʻaiʻē i kahi māka, e pāʻani ma ka ʻaoʻao o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, no kekahi me he mea maʻalahi loa ia. ʻAʻole no kāu loulou. Inā loaʻa iā mākou ma ka laina o ka toboggan, inā mākou e lawe i kāna mea pāʻani, e mau ana ʻo ia i ka hau, me he mea lā. Eia nō naʻe, ma ka home, ʻike ʻo ia i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana iā ia iho! Akā ke noho ʻo ia me nā keiki ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike hou iā ia. A hopohopo kēlā iā ʻoe.
He nīnau no ke ʻano
Ma ka crèche, ʻike nā mea kōkua mālama keiki i nā hopena o ka empathy, nā kūkākūkā a me ka pilina ma waena o nā keiki mai ka makahiki 6 mau mahina. ʻOiaʻiʻo, no kahi keiki ʻaʻole i komo i kahi kaiāulu a hiki i kēia manawa, ʻo ka hele ʻana i kahi ʻē aʻe he mea hou, a ʻaʻole maopopo loa: "I ka makahiki 3, ʻaʻole e holomua ke keiki ma ka ʻāina lanakila, ʻike ʻo ia i ke ola ʻana o kekahi. , like a ʻokoʻa, "wahi a Nour-Eddine Benzohra, pediatrician a me psychiatrist *. ʻOiai he keiki hoʻokahi ʻo ia, e hoʻopiʻi hou ana kēia i nā mea, ma ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i kona makaʻu, kona manaʻo ʻē i mua o kekahi. Akā ʻaʻole ʻo ka hoʻonaʻauao nā mea a pau: aia kekahi nīnau no ke ʻano. ʻO kekahi mau keiki liʻiliʻi e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā lākou iho me ka leo nui a me ka maopopo, aʻo kekahi poʻe e haʻalele maoli.
ʻO ke kuleana e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole"
ʻAʻole kēia he hana e mālama ʻole ʻia a i ʻole e hoʻomāmā ʻia ma ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana he hilahila nō hoʻi ʻoe, a he ʻano ʻohana ia: pono kāu keiki e aʻo e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole. Pono ʻo ia e ʻike he kuleana kona e hana pēlā. No ke kōkua ʻana iā ia, hiki iā mākou ke komo i kahi pāʻani: hoʻokani ʻoe i ka "huhū", a paipai iā ia e ʻōlelo leo nui: "ʻAʻole! Ke pāʻani nei au! A i ʻole "ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole wau ʻae!" »Ma ka huinahalike, e hana i ka hana pono: e hele pu me ia e ohi i kana mea paani a e hoike ia ia iho.
He puke no nā mākua
"Ka decoder kiʻi liʻiliʻi o ke keiki i ka pilikia", Na Anne-Claire Kleindienst a me Lynda Corazza, ed. Mango, € 14,95. : cʻO kēia puke i hana maikaʻi ʻia, i kākau ʻia ma ke ʻano he alakaʻi kūpono, kōkua iā mākou e hoʻomaopopo maikaʻi i ko mākou mau manaʻo, a hāʻawi i nā ala i hoʻoulu ʻia e ka hoʻonaʻauao maikaʻi.
E kamaʻilio me ke kumu
"I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole ʻaʻa ke keiki e kamaʻilio me ka makua no ia mea, hilahila ʻo ia, makaʻu i ka ʻeha, nānā ka psychiatrist. No laila ke koʻikoʻi o ka nānā ʻana i kona helehelena ke haʻalele ʻo ia i ke kula. ʻOiaʻiʻo, mai ka kindergarten, hiki ke ʻike ʻia nā hanana "Turkish head". Pono kākou e makaʻala. E nīnau iā ia: he aha ka mea i hana? Ua ʻike anei ke kumu iā ia? Ua haʻi ʻo ia iā ia no ia mea? He aha kāna i ʻōlelo ai ? Lawe mākou i ka manawa e hoʻolohe ai me ka mālie. Hoʻomanaʻo ʻia ʻo ia inā huhū ʻo ia, pono ʻo ia e ʻōlelo i ke kumu. Hoʻomaopopo mākou iā mākou iho inā ʻike mākou i kahi ʻehaʻeha i ke keiki. ʻO kēia mau mea a pau me ka hana ʻole ʻana, a me ka ʻole o ka manaʻo hewa, ʻoiai inā loaʻa iā mākou ka manaʻo o ka hoʻoili ʻana i ke ʻano o ka hilahila iā ia! "Inā hewa ka makua, hoʻonui ia i ke kūlana, wahi a Kauka Benzohra: ke manaʻo nei ke keiki i kēia hewa, ʻike ʻo ia iā ia iho ua paʻa ʻia, ʻaʻole kōkua i mua o kahi pilikia e hoʻonui koke ʻia. No ke kōkua ʻana i kāu keiki, pono ʻoe e hoʻokomo mua i nā mea i ke kuanaʻike a pāʻani i ka pāʻani.