ʻO Thor, Harry Potter, Superman - maopopo ke kumu makemake mākou i nā kiʻi maikaʻi. Akā, no ke aha mākou e ʻike ai i nā mea ʻino? No ke aha ʻoe i makemake ai i kekahi manawa e like me lākou? Hana mākou me ka psychologist Nina Bocharova.
ʻO nā kiʻi hoihoi o Voldemort, Loki, Darth Vader a me nā koa "ʻeleʻele" ʻē aʻe e hoʻopā i kekahi mau kaula huna i loko o mākou. I kekahi manawa ua like lākou me mākou - ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua hōʻole ʻia lākou, hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻia, mālama ʻole ʻia ma ke ʻano like. Aia kekahi manaʻo no ka poʻe "ma ka ʻaoʻao mālamalama o ka ikaika", ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ke ola.
"ʻAʻole ʻike wale ʻia nā koa a me nā mea ʻino: he hui mau ia o ʻelua kūʻē, ʻelua honua. A ma kēia hakakā ʻana o nā mana o nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni honua, ua kākau ʻia nā puke, "wahi a psychologist Nina Bocharova. "Inā maopopo nā mea a pau me nā mea maikaʻi, no ke aha e hoihoi ai ka poʻe hewa i ka mea nānā, no ke aha e lawe ai kekahi i kā lākou ʻaoʻao" pōʻeleʻele a hōʻoia i kā lākou hana?"
Ma ka ʻike ʻana me ka mea ʻino, noho ʻole ke kanaka me ia i kahi ʻike ʻaʻole ʻo ia e ʻaʻa iā ia iho.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo nā "ʻino" he charisma, ikaika, maalea. Aole lakou he ino mau; ʻO nā kūlana i hana pinepine iā lākou pēlā. Ma ka liʻiliʻi loa, ʻike mākou i kumu no kā lākou hana pono ʻole.
"ʻO nā mea maikaʻi ʻole, ma ke ʻano he kānāwai, he manaʻo nui, wiwo ʻole, ikaika, akamai. Hoʻoulu mau ia, hoʻāla i ka hoihoi a hopu i ka maka, "wahi a Nina Bocharova. ʻAʻole hānau nā mea ʻino, hana ʻia lākou. ʻAʻohe mea ʻino a maikaʻi: aia ka poʻe i hoʻoluhi ʻia, ka poʻe i hoʻokuke ʻia, ka poʻe i ʻeha. A ʻo ke kumu o kēia he hopena paʻakikī, hohonu psychological trauma. I loko o ke kanaka, hiki i kēia ke hana i ke aloha, ke aloha a me ka makemake e kākoʻo.
Ke hele nei kēlā me kēia o mākou i nā pae like ʻole o ke ola, ʻike i kā mākou traumas ponoʻī, loaʻa ka ʻike. A ke nānā mākou i nā koa maikaʻi ʻole, e aʻo e pili ana i ko lākou hala, ʻike ʻole mākou e hoʻāʻo iā mākou iho. E lawe kākou i ka Voldemort like - ua haʻalele kona makuakāne iā ia, ua pepehi kona makuahine iā ia iho, ʻaʻole i noʻonoʻo i kāna keiki.
E hoʻohālikelike i kāna moʻolelo me ka moʻolelo o Harry Potter - ua pale kona makuahine iā ia me kāna aloha, a ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i kēia i kōkua iā ia e ola a lanakila. ʻIke ʻia ʻaʻole i loaʻa i ka villain Voldemort kēia mana a me kēlā aloha. Ua ʻike ʻo ia mai kona wā kamaliʻi ʻaʻohe mea e kōkua iā ia ...
"Inā ʻoe e nānā i kēia mau moʻolelo ma o ka prism o ka triangle Karpman, e ʻike mākou i ka wā ma mua, ua hoʻopau pinepine nā mea maikaʻi ʻole i ka hana o ka Victim, a ma hope iho, e like me ka hana ʻana i ka triangle drama, ua hoʻāʻo lākou i ka hana. o ka mea hoʻomāinoino i mea e hoʻomau ai i ke ʻano o ka hoʻololi ʻana, "wahi a ka loea. — Hiki i ka mea nānā a heluhelu paha ke loaʻa i ka meʻe "ʻino" kekahi ʻāpana o kona ʻano. Malia paha ua hele ʻo ia i kahi mea like a me ke aloha me ke ʻano, e pāʻani i kāna mau ʻike.
ʻO ka ʻike ʻana me ka mea ʻino, noho ʻole ke kanaka me ia i ka ʻike ʻaʻole ʻo ia e ʻaʻa iā ia iho. A hana ʻo ia ma o ka empathy a me ke kākoʻo. I ka manawa pinepine, nele mākou i ka hilinaʻi iā mākou iho, a, e ho'āʻo ana i ke kiʻi o ka "ʻino" meʻe, aʻo mākou i kona wiwo ʻole, ka manaʻo paʻa, a me ka makemake.
He ala kānāwai ia e hōʻike aku ai i kou mau manaʻo i hoʻopaʻa ʻia a hoʻopaʻa ʻia ma o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa kiʻiʻoniʻoni a i ʻole ka book therapy.
Ua ala mai kahi kipi i loko o mākou e makemake ana e kipi i kahi honua pono ʻole. Hoʻokiʻekiʻe ko mākou Shadow i kona poʻo, a, e nānā ana i nā "ʻino", ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hūnā hou iā mākou iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
"Hiki ke hoʻowalewale ʻia ke kanaka e ke kūʻokoʻa o ka hōʻike ʻana o ka mea hewa, kona wiwo ʻole a me ke kiʻi kupaianaha, ka mea e makaʻu ai nā mea a pau, ka mea e ikaika ai a hiki ʻole ke lanakila," wahi a Nina Bocharova. — ʻOiaʻiʻo, he ala kānāwai kēia e hoʻolaha i kou mau manaʻo i hoʻopaʻa ʻia a hoʻopaʻa ʻia ma o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa kiʻiʻoniʻoni a i ʻole ka lāʻau lapaʻau puke.
He ʻaoʻao malu ko kēlā me kēia kanaka a mākou e hoʻāʻo ai e hūnā, hoʻopaʻa a paʻi paha. ʻO kēia nā manaʻo a me nā hōʻike e hilahila ai mākou a makaʻu paha e hōʻike. A me ke aloha me nā koa "ʻino", loaʻa i ka Shadow o ke kanaka ka manawa e hele mai i mua, e ʻae ʻia, ʻaʻole naʻe no ka lōʻihi.
Ma ka ʻoluʻolu ʻana i nā mea ʻino, ke komo ʻana i loko o ko lākou mau honua noʻonoʻo, loaʻa iā mākou kahi manawa e hele ai i kahi a mākou e hele ʻole ai i ke ola maʻamau. Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokomo i kā mākou mau moeʻuhane "ʻino" a me nā makemake ma laila, ma kahi o ka unuhi ʻana iā lākou i mea maoli.
"Ke noho nei me ka mea ʻino o kāna moʻolelo, loaʻa i ke kanaka kahi ʻike naʻau. Ma kahi pae ʻike ʻole, ʻoluʻolu ka mea nānā a mea heluhelu paha i kona hoihoi, hoʻopili i kāna mau makemake huna a ʻaʻole e hoʻoneʻe iā lākou i ke ola maoli, "wahi a ka loea.