He aha inā, i loko o ko mākou ola, hoʻopau mākou i ka ʻike ʻana i ke aniani hapa hapa? I ka ʻike ʻana i ke ola i ka ʻulaʻula, hiki ke maʻalahi ma mua o kou manaʻo! E hōʻike i ka mahalo no ke ola ʻana, me ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana ke ola nei mākou i nā manawa maikaʻi aʻe ma mua o ka wā ma mua, e aʻo ana mai nā ʻike paʻakikī e hoʻolilo iā lākou i waiwai. He aha inā, mai kēia lā, haʻalele mākou i nā kikoʻī liʻiliʻi ma hope o mākou, ʻo ka poʻe a pau e hoʻopilikia i ko mākou ola no ke kumu ʻole, a hoʻomaka mākou i ka maikaʻi, e mahalo, maʻalahi, i ka hauʻoli o ka noho ʻana?

«ʻO ka hauʻoli, ma hope o nā mea a pau, he hana mua i kēia lā, kākau ʻo Albert Camus. ʻO ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo e hūnā mākou i mea e hoʻoikaika ai. No ka hauʻoli i kēia lā e like me ka hewa o ke kānāwai maʻamau: mai hōʻoiaʻiʻo.A inā mākou i ʻike, i ka hopena, pehea e hopu ai i ka hauʻoli i ka wā e loaʻa ai, a ʻae aku iā mākou iho? No ka mea, mai poina kākou: e like me kā Camus i ʻōlelo hou ai: “Pono ʻoe e ikaika a hauʻoli e kōkua i ka poʻe pilikia"...

ʻO ka hopu ʻana i nā leʻaleʻa maʻalahi, no ka laʻana, ka leʻaleʻa i kahi manawa e kaʻana like me kāu keiki. E noʻonoʻo i ke ola piha i ka wā e hele ai, me ka ʻohana a me ka ʻohana, ma ka nānā ʻana i kāna mau pono āpau i ko mākou naʻau, e ala piha i nā ʻala a me nā waihoʻoluʻu, nā leo ʻoluʻolu o nā manu a me nā manaʻo o ka makani a i ʻole ka lā ma ka ʻili ... heluhelu i ka buke i kakau maikai ia. E hauʻoli i kahi manawa me kāna mau hoaaloha. E komo i loko o kahi hoʻomaʻamaʻa hoʻoikaika kino… E hauʻoli loa i ka hoʻolohe ʻana i kahi ʻāpana mele. ʻO kēia mau leʻaleʻa liʻiliʻi i kēlā me kēia lā, ke aʻo mākou e mahalo iā lākou i ko lākou waiwai maoli, ke hoʻokele mākou i ka manawa a ola, e hana i ko mākou ola i kēlā me kēia lā i mea ʻono e ʻono ʻia!

ʻO ka maikaʻi, ʻo ia hoʻi ka mahalo i kāu mea i loaʻa. E ʻike i nā ʻano maikaʻi o ko mākou ola, i ka pōkole, e makaʻala i kā mākou waiwai, e ʻike i ke ʻano o ke aniani i ka hapalua piha ma mua o ke aniani hapa hapa… "ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i ka hauʻoli he ʻoihana i kēlā me kēia lā!", wahi a Tal Ben-Shahar, nāna i aʻo i ka psychology maikaʻi ma Harvard.

A ʻōlelo ʻo ia: "Hoʻokahi wale nō minuke a ʻelua paha i ka lā e ʻōlelo ai iā ʻoe iho 'mahalo wau i ke ola'loa'a nā hopena i mana'o 'ole 'ia“. Ke nānā lākou i kā lākou mau kumu no ka mahalo ʻana, ʻaʻole ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o ka poʻe, akā ʻoi aku ka paʻa, ka ikaika a me ka manaʻo maikaʻi. Ua wehewehe ʻo Tal Ben-Shahar: "ʻOi aku ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka wikiwiki e kākoʻo i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.Hiki iā mākou, i loko o ka male, hoʻomanaʻo mau kekahi i kekahi i ka mea e hoʻoikaika ai iā mākou i ka ʻike ʻana i kā mākou pilina ma ke ʻano he kāne.

A no laila, ke lilo ka mahalo i mea maʻamau, ʻaʻole pono mākou i kahi hanana kūikawā e hoʻolauleʻa ai… Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Oprah Winfrey, mea hana kīwī ʻAmelika: "Inā ʻoe e nānā i kekahi mea, hoʻonui kēlā mea; inā mākou e nānā i nā mea maikaʻi o ke ola, e nui aʻe nā mea maikaʻi. Mai ka manawa aʻu i ʻike ai i ke aloha me ka nānā ʻole i nā mea e hana nei i koʻu ola, ua loaʻa nā mea maikaʻi iaʻu.«

«ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke komo i ka hauʻoli maoli me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka ʻeha o ka naʻau a me nā pae ʻeha", noʻonoʻo pū ʻo Tal Ben-Shahar. Hoʻopuka hou ʻia i nā mele he nui, ka ʻōlelo kaulana a ka mea akeakamai Frédéric Nietzche, ma kāna ʻatikala. Ka Poula o na Kii i paʻi ʻia i ka makahiki 1888, aia ma kēia kiʻi pololei loa: “ʻO ka mea pepehi ʻole iā ʻoe e ikaika ai ʻoe.ʻO ka hauʻoli e manaʻo e lanakila i nā ho'āʻo a me nā pilikia.

ʻO ka hope, no Tal Ben Shahar, "hoʻonui nā hana paʻakikī i ka hiki ke mahalo i nā leʻaleʻa; ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke kāohi nei lākou iā mākou mai ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kēia mau mea he pono, a e hoʻomanaʻo mai iā mākou e pono mākou e mahalo i nā leʻaleʻa liʻiliʻi a me nā hauʻoli nui.“. I kēia manawa, e like me kā Marcel Proust i kākau pololei ai, "hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻōla i kahi ʻeha ke ʻike piha ʻoe“. E ʻike kākou i nā ʻaoʻao maikaʻi o ko kākou mau hemahema, nā ʻeha i hala, a me nā ʻeha, e makaʻala kākou i nā mea a lākou i lawe mai ai iā kākou…

ʻAe, maikaʻi: no laila, ʻo ke kaukaʻi o ka psychology ma Harvard a me ka mea kākau moʻolelo kūleʻa, ʻo Steven Pinker, i manaʻo ʻia ma 2017, ua kūpono ia "e ola maikaʻi i kēia lā ma mua o kēlā me kēia manawa ma mua ". Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia: "Aia kahi mana o ka mōʻaukala hou loa, ʻo ia ka wehewehe ʻana i ke kumu a me ka wā hou i hāʻawi mai iā mākou i nā kaua honua ʻelua, ka Shoah, totalitarianisms, a ʻo kēia mau pūʻali koa e luku nei. kaiapuni a alakai i ke kanaka i kona luku".

Ua koho ka mea kākau moʻolelo e lawe i ka ʻokoʻa o kēia moʻolelo ʻeleʻele, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka honua i kēia mau lā ma mua o ka wā ma mua, ʻaʻohe mea e pili ana i nā koina a mākou e lawe ai. A no laila, i kēia mau lā, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kou make i ke kaua a i ʻole ka hana ʻino. Inā he wahine ʻoe a he keiki paha, ʻaʻole maʻamau ka hoʻomāinoino, a me ka hoʻomāinoino.

A laila helu ʻo Steven Pinker i kahi papa inoa lōʻihi o nā manaʻo e kākoʻo i kāna thesis: "Ua piʻi ka manaʻolana o ke ola, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka mālama ʻana i nā maʻi. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ke keiki hānau hou i ka makahiki mua."A ua hōʻoia kēia psychologist, ʻo ia hoʻi, i kēia lā ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana, ʻoi aku ka nui o kā mākou ʻike, mahalo nui ʻia i ka Pūnaewele. Eia kekahi, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke aʻo ʻana o nā wahine a ʻaʻole e noho hou ma lalo o ka manamana lima o nā kāne, a i ʻole ka emi ʻana. Loaʻa iā mākou ka hiki ke hele, a ʻaʻole i kiʻekiʻe ko mākou ʻoluʻolu waiwai.

Manaʻo hope ʻo Steven Pinker, "i ka pōkole, ua hiki mai ka papahana Enlightenment“. Loaʻa iā mākou nā mea a pau e hauʻoli ai. Ua hōʻoia pū ka mea hoʻokele waiwai ʻo Jacques Attali: inā mākou e hana i nā mea āpau e pale aku i nā pilikia e hiki mai ana, e hoʻomaka ana me ka pilikia o ka pilikia o ke aniau, hiki i ka honua ke kahe me ka hauʻoli! Pono wale mākou e ʻohi i ka rose, e koho i ka lā, e hopu i nā manawa o ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli i hāʻawi ʻia e ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā iā mākou. Carpe diem… E leʻaleʻa kākou i kēia manawa, e hauʻoli kākou i ka wā i laila!