Ke manaʻo nei ʻoe ʻaʻole like ʻoe me nā mea ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻohe ou hoaaloha a ua ʻōlelo ʻia ʻoi aku ʻoe ma mua o hoʻokahi manawa he ʻano ʻē ʻoe? He hōʻailona paha kēia o ka maʻi noʻonoʻo? ʻO Ekaterina Mikhailova, he psychotherapist a he loea o ka puke pai Psychologies, pane.
ʻO Ekaterina Mikhailova
No laila, aloha Anonymous: a i ʻole he nīnau maopopo ʻole kāu, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke heluhelu hou aku. Ua ʻano like kēlā me kēia leka me ka mea kākau, a ʻo kāu pū kekahi: lele ka manaʻo, a laila hoʻomanaʻo ʻia kekahi mea, a laila hoʻomanaʻo kekahi ... 'Aʻole hana, akā hele ʻoe - makemake wau i nā hoʻokolohua hou, a ʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻi "e pili ana i ke ʻano pilikino". A no ka pane ʻana i ka nīnau "He pupule wau"?
ʻAʻole naʻe. Ke noi mai nei ʻoe i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe: e haʻi mai iaʻu ʻo wai wau, no ka mea, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu i kēia. Hana ʻia kēia ma 16-17 mau makahiki, akā he 24 ʻoe.
He mea maikaʻi ke ʻike i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi, he aha nā mana i ulu ʻole i loko o kēlā haunaele kamaʻilio kahi āu e hoʻomoe ai i ka alarm.
A e haʻi aku au iā ʻoe i kēia: ʻaʻole ʻoe he "pupule", akā he kanaka mālama ʻole loa. mehameha, hoʻomaha ʻole, a me ka haunaele i loko o koʻu poʻo. ʻAʻole paha i hānai pono kou mau mākua iā ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole lākou e ulu hou. No laila ʻo ke koho wale nō ke aʻo iā ʻoe iho.
A ʻaʻole wau e hoʻomaka me nā hoaaloha, akā me ka nānā, ka noʻonoʻo a me ka ʻōlelo. Inā makemake ʻoe i nā hoʻāʻo - maikaʻi, e ʻimi i kahi ala e hoʻāʻo ai i kou nānā a hoʻoponopono i nā puʻupuʻu loiloi. Inā pono, e ʻimi i nā hoʻomaʻamaʻa no ka nānā ʻana, ʻoiai no nā keiki, ʻaʻohe mea e ʻike. He mea weliweli ka haʻihaʻi ʻana: ʻoluʻolu, luhi, a "ʻoluʻolu loa" ʻoe, ʻae. Akā, a hiki i kou aʻo 'ana ia oe iho ma ka liʻiliʻi loa i kekahi 'ano o ka composure a me ka hoʻomanawanui,ʻaʻohe mea'ē aʻe e hana kekahi, e hoʻomau i ka hoolei 'ana mai ka "makaʻu" i ka "mai mālama" a me ka hope, a hala ke ola.
Nui ka ikehu, akā me ka ʻole o ka pahu hopu, holo ia i loko o ka pōʻai, pili i ka mea ole. He mea maikaʻi e ʻike i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi, he aha nā mana i ulu ʻole i loko o kēlā haunaele kamaʻilio kahi āu e hoʻomoe ai i ka alarm. ʻAʻohe mea hoihoi i kāu mau mea ʻē aʻe, no laila e hoʻōki i ka hoʻomākeʻaka iā lākou, akā pono ʻoe i ke kōkua. ʻAʻole ʻoe i ʻike pehea e loaʻa ai, ʻaʻohe mea i loaʻa. No laila aia nā manaʻolana āpau iā ʻoe iho - e like me ia.