Luhi i ke kaomi, a i ʻole ka manaʻo ʻole o kāu hana i kēia manawa, makemake ʻoe e hoʻololi i nā hana? He paʻakikī ʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi ke hālāwai… ʻOi loa ke kaohi ʻana o kekahi mau makaʻu iā mākou, ke kāohi nei kekahi mau manaʻoʻiʻo. Ke alo nei me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻoihana, ʻo ka hiʻohiʻona o ka palekana waiwai hiki ke alakaʻi iā mākou e kānalua. A eia nae. He mea nui ka palekana kūloko. E hana i kahi hoʻolālā hana, e pane maikaʻi aku i kou mau manaʻo, e loaʻa ka manaʻo ponoʻī: nui nā ala e hoʻololi i ke ala o ke ola ʻoihana me ka hopohopo ʻole. ʻO ke kumu aʻo aloha aloha, ʻo Nathalie Valentin, nā kikoʻī, no passport ola kino, nā makaʻu he mea nui ia e hoʻopau ...

«Hele pū wau me kahi kanaka e hoʻomaka ana e aʻo hou, wahi a Nathalie Valentin. Ua hoʻonui mua ʻo ia i kona manaʻo i kona kūkākūkā ʻana iaʻu: Ua kōkua nui wau iā ia e lawe i ka puʻuwai, a haʻalele i kāna haku hana e hoʻomaka i kāna papahana. Ma mua, ua hana ʻo ia no kahi hale paʻi puke nui. Ke hele nei ʻo ia i ka ʻōlelo aʻo, me nā mea haʻuki a me nā mākua o nā mea haʻuki ...He kumu aʻoaʻo aloha ʻo Nathalie Valentin, a ua hōʻoia ʻia mai ʻApelila 2019. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i nā mea paahana e like me ka hoʻohui ʻana e like me ka hoʻolālā neuro-linguistic, kamaʻilio non-violent, a i ʻole ka nānā ʻana i nā transactional…

Ua lawe pū ʻo ia i ka plunge i kekahi mau makahiki i hala. I ka makahiki 2015, ua hana ʻo ia ma kahi ʻaelike paʻa i ka ʻāpana digital, kahi i hana ai ʻo ia i nā noi no nā smartphones, akā naʻe, loaʻa iā ia kahi uku maikaʻi… "Akā ua hoʻomaopopo au ʻaʻole i hānai hou kaʻu hana i kaʻu mau waiwai. Ua luuluu au i ka hana, ʻaʻole no kaʻu mea ʻole e hana ai, akā, no koʻu luuluu ʻana i kaʻu hana… ʻAʻole ia i hoʻoluliluli iaʻu!“ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka ʻae ʻana! ʻOiai ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻoihana iā mākou i ka manaʻo "he hana maikai, he aelike mau, he uku maikai, he palekana“… Akā naʻe, ʻōlelo ʻo Nathalie Valentin: ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, no loko mai ka manaʻo o ka palekana. A laila, hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa ka hilinaʻi iā mākou iho, a ʻike i kēlā me kēia mea e hiki mai ana, e loaʻa iā mākou ka mana e hoʻihoʻi i hope.

Hiki ke hōʻike ʻia nā makaʻu like ʻole i ke alo o ka hoʻololi e like me ka radical e like me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻoihana. Aia kekahi nīnau no ka palekana waiwai, pinepine ka makaʻu mua. Hiki i nā poʻe o nā kāne ke hilinaʻi i kā lākou kāne i ka wā o kā lākou hoʻomaʻamaʻa hou ʻana. ʻO kēia makaʻu, kūpono, no laila e hilinaʻi ʻia i kahi ʻano kālā, no ka mea e alakaʻi ʻia kekahi e kahaha pehea e hālāwai ai kekahi i kāna mau lilo ...

Loaʻa mau a ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi, i loko o kēlā me kēia, ke kū'ē i ka loli. He mea nui paha ke hele pū ʻia, ma mua e haʻi i kou mau makaʻu: no ka mea, i ka wā a mākou e kapa ai i ka makaʻu, nalowale kona mana ma luna o mākou. No laila hiki ke kōkua nui ka ʻike. A laila, hiki i nā ʻenehana ke hana i hiki ke circumvent, e lanakila i kēia makaʻu. E like me nā ʻanuʻu liʻiliʻi, ma ka hele mālie, ma ka hoʻokō ʻana i kāna papa hana ...

ʻO ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole ʻana mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe hiki ke hoʻolei. Nui nā manaʻo i kapa ʻia he palena palena ʻia i loko o ke kaiāulu: ʻo nā mea e hana ai, inā ʻoe i ʻike a ʻaʻole paha, i manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe i kekahi mau mea e sabotage iā ʻoe. Hiki ke hopohopo i ka hemahema, a me ka makaʻu i ka kūleʻa ...

Eia kekahi, ʻo ka mea i kekahi manawa e hoʻolōʻihi i kahi papahana ʻo ia ka mea a mākou i kapa ai he "loyalties". A no laila, no ka laʻana, aia kahi kūpaʻa maʻamau i waena o nā wahine, ʻo ia ka hana maikaʻi ʻole ma mua o ka makua kāne ...

Hiki i nā ʻano hana like ʻole, ʻo ia hoʻi nā lāʻau lapaʻau, ke kōkua i ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kumu e hana ai, e hana i ka pae o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hou ʻana. ʻO kekahi o lākou, e like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia, ʻo ke aʻo ʻana, ʻo ia hoʻi ke ʻano o ka lāʻau lapaʻau pōkole. ʻO ka Psychotherapy a i ʻole psychoanalysis e ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka manawa, kahi hana i ka wā i hala, a e manaʻo e hoʻoponopono i kekahi mau pilikia kahiko, i loko o lākou iho. ʻOi aku ka pōkole o ke aʻo ʻana, a pane pinepine i kahi kumuhana kikoʻī.

Ua ʻike mua kekahi i ke ʻano o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hou ʻana a lākou e makemake ai, e hoʻomaka kekahi, i ka wā mua, e ʻimi e ʻike. Pono nā hana like ʻole, e like me, i kekahi manawa, ma hope o kahi papa aʻo. ʻO nā hana hou aʻe, e like me ka hana ʻana i ka manaʻo ponoʻī ...

«Ma ke aʻo ʻana, wehewehe ʻo Nathalie Valentin, Nīnau au, a hoʻomaha nō hoʻi au. Ke wehewehe nei au i ke kumu aʻoaʻo i kekahi mau hana i loaʻa iā mākou a pau i kahi liʻiliʻi i loko o mākou. Ke wehewehe nei au iā ia pehea mākou e hana ai i loko, no ka mea, ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike mau iā ia ... kōkua pū wau iā ia e wehewehe i kāna hoʻolālā hana, ka papa inoa o kona mau ʻano, e ʻike pehea e neʻe ai i mua ... e nīnau aku iā ia i nā nīnau ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka pahuhopu ʻo ia e ʻike i kona ʻike ma kēia ʻano!» 

Ke manaʻo nei ka poʻe i ke kūʻē maoli ʻana i ka neʻe ʻana i mua o kā lākou papahana, hiki i kekahi mau kau me kahi kaʻi ke lawa e kōkua i ka wehe ʻana i nā poloka a neʻe i mua. ʻO ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana me kahi keʻena kālepa a me ka ʻoihana he hana hoʻohiki. Hiki i nā puke hoʻomohala pilikino like ʻole, a i ʻole nā ​​wikiō ma YouTube e like me nā mea a ka haʻi'ōlelo ʻo David Laroche, hiki ke hoʻohana pono ʻia… Ke hoʻohana maoli ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo!

ʻO ka mea nui, ma luna o nā mea a pau, e like me kā mākou i ʻōlelo ai, e hana i kahi hoʻolālā hana, hoʻolālā: hiki i nā poʻe e makemake ana e hoʻomaʻamaʻa hou ke hoʻomaka ma ka hana ʻana i kahi papa inoa o nā mea āpau a lākou e hana ai e kūleʻa i kā lākou papahana, a me nā mea a pau. ka poʻe e hālāwai ai, a i ʻole e kōkua paha iā lākou.

Aia ʻo Nathalie Valentin i kahi kau hoʻomaʻamaʻa, e manaʻo ʻo ia ke kūpono ke koho ʻana o kāna "coachee": "I ka 'oiaʻiʻo, wehewehe ʻo ia, ʻIke au inā e haʻalulu ana ke kanaka. Inā ʻike wau ua hauʻoli ʻo ia i kāna hāʻawi ʻana i kāna mau pane, a i ʻole, hoʻihoʻi ʻo ia. Na ka manaʻo e alakaʻi… A ma laila mākou e ʻōlelo ai, ʻo ia ke koho kūpono! "A e hoʻohui ka loea hoʻomohala pilikino:"Ma o kaʻu mau nīnau, inā e haʻi mai ke kanaka iaʻu "ʻo ia kaʻu makemake e hana", a ʻike wau ua wehe ʻo ia, ʻakaʻaka ʻo ia, hauʻoli ʻo ia, ua mālamalama ʻo ia, ʻōlelo wau iaʻu iho ua maikaʻi, ʻo ia ka mea kūpono. nona“… Eia kekahi, mai ka manaʻo a me ka ikaika o ka manaʻo, ʻo ia hoʻi ua pili ke kanaka i kekahi mea i loko o lākou, kahi e hoʻopili hou ai i kēlā me kēia manawa e kānalua ai lākou, pau ka hilinaʻi… No laila, mākaukau ʻoe e lawe i ka plunge kekahi?