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ʻO ke aloha mua ma ke kula kindergarten
Wahi a ka psychologist Italia kaulana ʻo Francesco Alberoni, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke aloha o nā keiki i nā loli nui o ko lākou ola. Ke hoʻomaka lākou i ke kula kindergarten ma kahi o 3 mau makahiki, ʻike pinepine lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo mua. Ma kēlā kula haʻahaʻa, hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i ke aloha maoli. He kōkua ia iā lākou i kekahi manawa e manaʻo koʻikoʻi i kahi keiki ʻē aʻe, he hoa nāna e kōkua iā lākou e kūpono me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Me he mea lā he "alakaʻi" ka mea aloha liʻiliʻi, he "kākoʻo" no ka hele ʻana i kahi honua ʻē aʻe.
Mai ʻakaʻaka inā ʻike ʻoe he mea ʻakaʻaka a ma luna paha. ʻO kekahi mau keiki koʻikoʻi loa. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, mai ola ʻoe i kona ola aloha nona ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana e hāʻawi ʻo ia i makana no ka lā Valentine no ka laʻana! E hoʻokele ʻo ia i nā mea i pili i ka ʻoihana pilikino!
Loaʻa iā ia nā ʻeha maoli
He mau manaʻo hohonu loa nā keiki no kekahi mau hoa. Ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia lākou i nā ʻātoma, ʻike ʻia a i kekahi manawa ke manaʻo nei i nā ʻeha maoli. Pēlā lākou e hana ai i "kāne" no ka maikaʻi, nā pāʻani, nā ʻakaʻaka, a no ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e alo i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e hoʻohui i ka hui, ʻaʻole e kaʻawale. Akā ʻo mākou, nā mākua, ka mea e hoʻopiʻi pinepine i kā mākou mau ʻano maikaʻi iā lākou ma ka waiho ʻana iā lākou i ka nīnau hoʻoweliweli: "No laila, he mea aloha liʻiliʻi kāu?" “.
Mai koi iā ia ma ka nīnau ʻana iā ia i kēlā me kēia 5 mau minuke inā he aloha ʻo ia. ʻAʻohe o kekahi mau keiki a makemake paha e mālama iā lākou iho. ʻAʻole pono ʻo ia e manaʻo he kuleana, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, he "ʻano ʻē" ʻo ia no ka mea ʻaʻohe ona.
Nānā ʻo ia i kahi hoaaloha
ʻO Eléonore wale nō ka hoaaloha āna e makemake ai - a ʻae ʻo ia, "no ka mea, he nani ʻo ia a aloha ʻo ia iā ia a e mare ʻo ia iā ia". Inā haʻalele ʻo ia i kekahi lā ma ke kula, kaumaha loa ʻo ia a hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho. He mea hoʻomāʻewaʻewa maoli ia, ʻaneʻane hoʻoweliweli iā ʻoe! Hiki i nā keiki, ʻoiai ʻōpio loa, ke aloha ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa. Hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i ka makemake maoli me kona mau manaʻo a me nā dinchantments. He ʻokoʻa naʻe ia mai ka makemake ma waena o nā mākua no ka mea ʻaʻole i loaʻa i ke keiki kona hopena ma ka lima a hilinaʻi i ka manaʻo a me ka waiwai i kona mau mākua.
Mai ho'āʻo e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia mai kāna alter ego. He mea koʻikoʻi kēia pilina iā ia, ʻoiai inā he mea kūʻokoʻa loa ia iā ʻoe. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka pōʻino o kēia ʻano "couple" ʻo ia ka kaʻawale ʻana e hiki mai ana i kekahi manawa a i ʻole, no ka laʻana i ka wā o ka hoʻololi ʻana o ke kula a i ʻole ka papa. ʻO ka mea kūpono e hoʻomākaukau liʻiliʻi. Ma ke kono ʻana i nā hoa ʻē aʻe, ma ka hana ʻana i nā hana hoʻokaʻawale loa, e like me kahi hui haʻuki i hele ʻole ʻia e kekahi.
Nui kāna mau ipo
I kēia lā ʻo Margot ka ʻulaʻula, ʻoiai i nehinei ʻo Alicia me kona lauoho aliʻi blond lōʻihi. Hoʻololi kāu keiki i nā mea aloha i nā manawa a pau a ʻike ʻia ʻo ia i ke aloha nui i kēlā me kēia manawa! ʻO ia ka helu ʻana i ʻekolu manawa i kēia makahiki. Hiki iā ia ke loaʻa i ka makemake nui me Alicia he "nani e like me ke kamāliʻiwahine" a makemake koke ʻo ia iā Margot no ka mea ke hana nei ʻo ia i ka hale hana pena kiʻi me ia a ke hele nei kēia manawa. E hoʻomanaʻo i ke kuleana o ke ola no ka hoʻokaʻawale pinepine ʻana i nā keiki o ia mau makahiki (neʻe, hemo, hoʻololi papa). ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka "ʻike" pehea e hoʻololi ai! ʻAʻole maikaʻi kēia no ka wā e hiki mai ana. Pono pono e pale aku iā ia i loko o ke aloha i kahakaha ʻia i ka pōhaku. A ʻo kahi koho palekana ʻaʻole loa e lilo ka hūnōna wahine kāu 4 makahiki ʻo Don Juan i aloha ai!
ʻO ka ʻeha mua o kaʻu keiki
ʻO ka ʻeha puʻuwai mua ma 5 mau makahiki. ʻAʻole ʻoe i manaʻo! A he mea maoli nō naʻe. He manaʻo haʻalele a mehameha kāu keiki liʻiliʻi. ʻIke nā kamaliʻi i ka hana ʻana i nā mea e hiki mai ana iā lākou: "Ke kaumaha nei au no ka mea ʻaʻole wau e ʻike hou iā Victor". Hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka ʻeha: "E kono mākou iā ia no ka hopena pule" akā pono e hoʻopaʻa maikaʻi i kā lākou keiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, "ʻAʻole ia e like me ʻoe i ka papa like". Mai hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka ʻeha o ka naʻau no ka mea e hoʻohenehene ʻia kāu keiki. ʻO kāna mea i ʻike ai he ikaika loa, ʻoiai inā hiki ke hala koke. A ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi! E mahalo i kāna kīhāpai huna inā makemake ʻo ia i ka pilikino, akā e hoʻomau. Hiki iā ʻoe ke wehe i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kāu ʻike ponoʻī: "I koʻu wā i kou makahiki, ua neʻe ʻo Pierre i ka makahiki a ua kaumaha loa wau. ʻO ia ka mea e hana nei iā ʻoe? ”.
Hoʻohana ʻo ia i kona lokomaikaʻi
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae i ka nānā ʻana i kāu keiki no ke kanaka makua. No laila, i ka wā e hana ai kāna hoaaloha iā ia e hana i kāna mau makemake a pau, ʻike ʻoe iā ia i ka hoʻokō ʻana i kāna pilina. Hoʻokumu pinepine ʻia ka pilina ma waena o nā kamaliʻi ma luna o kahi pilina mana. Loaʻa i nā kānaka a pau i loko o kēia pilina nā mea i nele iā lākou: ka mana, ka lokomaikaʻi a me ke akahai, ka mana, ka ikaika a me ka wiwo ʻole. Aʻo nui lākou mai kēia mau pilina. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻonohonoho iā lākou iho e pili ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a e ʻike i nā ʻano ʻē aʻe. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻae ʻana i kāu keiki e loaʻa i kona ʻike ponoʻī ʻoiai e wehe mau ana ke kamaʻilio. A laila hiki iā ia ke kamaʻilio me ʻoe e pili ana i nā mea e hoʻopilikia iā ia. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kumu i ka pili o ke aloha a i ʻole ka pilina o nā keiki a ʻōlelo aku iā ʻoe inā ʻike lākou ua pilikia kāu keiki.
Pono ʻo ia i kāu kākoʻo
Makemake nā mākua e leʻaleʻa me kēia mau "aloha". No Francesco Alberoni, poina lākou i nā manaʻo koʻikoʻi i loaʻa iā lākou i ka makahiki o kā lākou keiki, me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana he mea koʻikoʻi nā aloha i hala ma mua o ko kēia mau lā. I kekahi manawa, ʻo ka nele o ka manawa a i ʻole ka mahalo i ka pilikino i makemake ʻole ai ko lākou mau mākua. He mea nui naʻe ka hoʻololi. Pono ke keiki e ʻike he ʻano kūlohelohe kona manaʻo, i loaʻa paha iā ʻoe ka mea like i kona mau makahiki. Pono ʻo ia e hoʻokomo i nā huaʻōlelo i kona puʻuwai liʻiliʻi e kuʻi ikaika loa ana, i nā manaʻo e hiki ke loaʻa iā ia a hoʻoweliweli paha iā ia. Ponoʻo ia e "ʻike i nā mea'ē aʻe": eʻike e ulu anaʻo ia, eʻike e hala paha ia, aʻaʻole paha, eʻike paha e mau ana pahaʻo ia i ke aloha iā ia a iʻole e hālāwaiʻo ia me kekahi. a aia iā ia ke kuleana e hana pēlā… Hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi iā ia i kēia mau mea a pau, no ka mea ʻo ʻoe ka vector maikaʻi loa o ka ʻike.