Contents
- Makuahine hoʻokahi: 7 mau makaʻu nui, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mai ka psychologist
- Ka lili o nā kāne hauʻoli
- Huhū ke keiki a ʻaʻohe mea nāna e pale aku
- ʻAʻole makemake ke keiki i kahi makua kāne hou. E noho mehameha wau
- ʻAʻole ka freshness mua a me kahi keiki
- Ua hewa kekahi mea iaʻu. ʻO wau wale nō no ʻelima mau makahiki
Makuahine hoʻokahi: 7 mau makaʻu nui, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mai ka psychologist
Makuahine kaʻawale - mai kēia mau ʻōlelo pinepine ka hanu me ka hopohopo. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua aʻo lōʻihi nā wahine e hānai pēpē me ke kōkua ʻole o kekahi. Akā he aha ka mommy pono e kū ai, ʻaʻohe mea e noʻonoʻo. Ua hōʻiliʻili mākou i kā lākou mau makaʻu a me nā pilikia maʻamau a noi aku i ka psychologist ʻo Natalya Perfilieva e hāʻawi i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi e pili ana i ka hoʻomanawanui ʻana iā lākou.
ʻAʻole maopopo ka hapa nui o kā lākou ipo aloha e pili ana i nā ʻike a me nā pilikia. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, i ka nānā mua ʻana, ʻo nā pilikia a pau o nā makuahine kū hoʻokahi e hoʻolapalapa i lalo kahi e loaʻa ai ke kālā, me wai e haʻalele i ke keiki a pehea e hoʻomaka ai i ka hilinaʻi hou i nā kāne. Akā ʻaʻole. ʻAʻole kēia wale nō ke kuhi. Makaʻu kekahi makuahine i kāna keiki. A pono ka makaʻu o ka makuahine hoʻokahi no ʻelua, no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea i pale pinepine iā ia. ʻAe, a ʻo kā lākou mau ʻike ponoʻī ʻaʻole hoʻonui i ka hauʻoli i ke ola ...
Ka lili o nā kāne hauʻoli
ʻO ka mea āu e ʻike nei he maʻamau. ʻO ka lili kahi manaʻo luku i kekahi manawa e hoʻonui i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i ka poʻe. ʻAʻohe ou negatib. Liʻiliʻi ke keiki, ʻo ia hoʻi ua haki ʻoe i kēia manawa. ʻO ʻoe, ma ke ʻano he wahine ʻōpio, makemake i ke aloha, mehana, a poʻohiwi ikaika ma hope ou, kahi ʻohana piha no kāu keiki kāne. Ke ʻike nei ʻoe i ka ʻeha o ka noʻonoʻo, kahi e haʻalele ai ʻoe i ka lohi. A hānai ʻoe iā ia! ʻIke piha ʻole i ka mea e hana nei me kēia mau ʻohana. A aia nā pilikia a me nā waimaka. Hoʻomaka e neʻe mai kahi mea hiki ʻole ke hoʻihoʻi ʻia. ʻAe: ʻo ʻoe wale nō me ke keiki. He aha e hana ai? Lilo i wahine hauʻoli a makuahine. He aha aʻe? E hoʻololi i kou ola. Wikiwiki! E kau inoa no kahi pōʻai tango, kūʻai i nā puke hoihoi, e ʻike ai i kahi leʻaleʻa. Hoʻopiha i ka hakahaka me ka pono. E hoʻoholo i ka mea e noho me Maxim no kēia mau hola hoʻokahi a me ka hapalua ʻoiai ʻoe ma ka hulahula. Pono kahi keiki i kahi makuahine hauʻoli. Ke ʻimi nei kahi kāne i kahi ikehu kūikawā i kāna mea i wae ʻia, ʻaʻole i ka ʻeha ʻole a me ka huhū ʻole no ka honua holoʻokoʻa.
Huhū ke keiki a ʻaʻohe mea nāna e pale aku
E Alina, e haʻi i kāu keiki e noho kaʻawale i kēia keiki. E aʻo i nā keiki e kāhea like i ke kumu no ke kōkua ma ia ʻano hoʻouka. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻohi i nā pūlima a nā mākua āpau i ka hui a kāhea i ka hoʻokele. I nā hihia koʻikoʻi loa, he kuleana ko ka luna hoʻomalu, ma ke noi a nā mākua o ka hui, e noi iā lākou e haʻalele i ke kipa ʻana. A hoʻomanaʻo: ʻaʻole ʻoe e noho i kahi ulu lāʻau a i ʻole i kahi mokupuni wao akua. ʻOiai ʻo ka makuakāne o ke keikikāne hiki ke hoʻokuleana ʻia. Mai makaʻu i ka wā e hiki mai ana o kāu keikikāne, hoʻopukapuka iā ia e like me ka nui o ka mehana mehana i hiki. A i ka makahiki 6, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻouna i kāu keiki i kahi ʻāpana kahi e loaʻa ai kahi kaʻi kāne kāne, i loaʻa i kahi keikikāne kahi hiʻohiʻona kāne maikaʻi i mua o kona mau maka mai ka wā kamaliʻi.
ʻAʻole makemake ke keiki i kahi makua kāne hou. E noho mehameha wau
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻolohe i kekahi i kēia mau mea, e kala mai iaʻu, akā ʻōlelo ka ʻōlelo aʻo a koʻu makuahine ua hānai ʻo ia iā ʻoe hoʻokahi wale nō. Lili ke keiki. He hanana maʻamau kēia. Ke loli nei ke ola o ke kaikamahine, ʻaʻole iā ia wale kāna makuahine, a me ka pono e kaʻana like i ka maka o kona makuahine me haʻi. A ʻo kahi makua kāne o haʻi na kēia. He aha e hana ai? Mai haʻalele i ka pilina ma lalo o kekahi ʻano. E hoʻāʻo ʻaʻole e hoʻololi loa i ka nohona o ke keiki. Ma nā Pōʻaono hoʻi e hele i ka pāka a me ke kinima. Kono i nā keiki i ka hale. E hana i kahi hanana i kahi mea hou e kōkua i kāu Katya i kekahi mea. Hoʻonohonoho i nā pāʻani like. A haʻi pinepine aku iā ia i nā huaʻōlelo o ke aloha.
Elena, loaʻa ʻoe i kahi maʻi luhi e ulu nei. Lilo i ka ikaika. Ke hāʻawi wale kahi makuahine, ma muli o nā pilikia, hāʻawi wale a hoʻoili i kāna pono ponoʻī i nā keiki, uhaʻi i kahi uē. Hoʻopili ʻoe i kou huhū me ka lawena o ke keiki, ka capricious a me ka hoʻolohe ʻole. Akā i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, na ke keiki e hana i kēia ala, no ka mea ua manaʻo ʻo ia i kou huhū. Inā ua hiki mua ʻoe i kahi kiko e hoʻolapalapa ai, a laila pono ʻoe e hana i kekahi mea.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻuwā wale. Me ka waha hāmama, i kahi ʻole, me ke keiki ʻole, i ka hakahaka. E hoʻōho i kāu mau pilikia āpau, e hoʻokau i kāu guttural i kou ʻeha. A laila e hemo a ʻōlelo mālie: He makuahine maikaʻi wau, he keiki aloha kaʻu, pono wau e hoʻomaha. Koho i ʻelua a ʻekolu paha lā! Lawe i ka pēpē i kona kupunawahine. A hiamoe wale nō. E nānā i kāu kaikamahine ʻaʻole ma o ka ukiuki, akā ma o ka prism o ke aloha a me ka hauʻoli i loaʻa iā ʻoe iā ia. E ʻike ʻoe i nā manaʻo leʻaleʻa. E kala mau ʻo ia a aloha iā ʻoe - ma ke ʻano i hiki ʻole i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe ke hana. Inā lilo i mea paʻakikī loa me nā naʻau, e ʻike i ka psychologist.
ʻAʻole ka freshness mua a me kahi keiki
ʻO ke kino o ka wahine, auwe, e loli ma hope o ka hānau ʻana. He ʻoiaʻiʻo. Akā ʻike ʻia inā makemake ke kāne i ka wahine a ʻike ʻo ia he keiki kāna, ʻaʻole hiki ke nīnau e pili ana i nā "ʻāpana kino". ʻO ka inaina iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole ia he hopena. Kakau inoa no ka wehe lole, ka hulahula, nā hoʻomaʻamaʻa no nā wahine. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e lilo i ka paona, ʻaʻohe ou kaumaha nui. A e loli ke kino ke loli kou mau manaʻo a me kou ʻano. E ʻike hou iā ʻoe iho. ʻO ka pilikia o nā kaha kauō a me kahi kino moe kolohe wale nō i kou poʻo.
Ua hewa kekahi mea iaʻu. ʻO wau wale nō no ʻelima mau makahiki
Pēlā nō me ʻoe. Akā ʻo ka wikiwiki o ke ola āu e koho ai ma kahi kumukūʻai. ʻO kāu mau waiwai kēia, aia ma ka ʻole. Ka home - hana - home. I kekahi manawa cafe a me nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni. Manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe e kū ka hālāwai e like me ka moʻolelo kaʻao. Kēia manawa koke. Hāʻule ʻoe i kou hainaka, aia kokoke iā ia, lālau ia ... a hele aku mākou. ʻAʻole ʻoe he 20 a 25. He kanaka hana, hana e like me ʻoe e ʻike iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e ʻike i ka hainaka i hāʻule. He aha kāu e pono ai? E hāpai i ka holo. Hele wāwae nui, waiho ka kaʻa. E kipa wale i ka cafe. ʻAʻole me nā ipo wahine. E maʻalahi kēia i ke hoʻokokoke ʻana iā ʻoe. Hoʻomaka e alakaʻi i nā leka hoihoi i ka pūnaewele. Koho i nā pūʻulu hoihoi, e hoʻouna i nā noi a nā hoaaloha. Hoʻopiha hou i kāu kumuwaiwai me nā hana o kēlā me kēia ʻano. He mea nui ke keiki. Akā me he mea lā ua lawe ʻia ʻoe a poina iā ʻoe iho.
Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i hoʻokahi mea nui a waiwai nui nāu - ʻAʻohe mea e pono iā ʻoe! Haʻalele nā makuakāne i kā lākou keiki a uku ʻole i ke kākoʻo keiki. Hoʻonohonoho nā kupuna wahine ʻōpio i ko lākou ola. A he kuleana ko lākou e hana pēlā. Akamai kou kaikuahine! Hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i nā mea kūʻai. Kōkua ka makuakāne i ke kālā. E hōʻeha ʻia e kahi kupuna wahine kahiko ʻoi aku ka hewa. Kōkua kou mau hoaaloha iā ʻoe, a hoʻohewa ʻoe iā lākou no ko lākou hana ʻole. I koʻu manaʻo, ʻo ʻoe, ma ke ʻano he makuahine hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole i hele hewa loa. ʻAʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻo ke ʻōnaehana hoʻomohala ʻia "e ʻaiʻē nā mea āpau iaʻu" e alakaʻi koke ai i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e waiho ʻia ʻoe me ke kōkua ʻole, nā hoaaloha a me nā kākoʻo pū? E aʻo e lawe i ke kuleana ma kou poʻohiwi iho. ʻO kāu keiki kēia. ʻO kēia kou ola. Nāu nō ia mea. A ʻaʻole kahi tūtū wahine a me kahi kāne ma mua.