Hōʻike mai nā mākua: “ʻAʻole like koʻu kala ʻili me kaʻu keiki”

"Ua manaʻo kaʻu kaikamahine ua hānau keʻokeʻo mākou a ua ʻeleʻele mākou i ko mākou ulu ʻana ..."

 Ka hoike a Maryam, 42, a me Paloma, 10

Ua hānai au iā Paloma ma hope o ka make ʻana o koʻu hoahānau. ʻO Paloma ma mua o 3 makahiki. I kona wā liʻiliʻi, manaʻo ʻo ia ua hānau ʻia ʻoe ke keʻokeʻo a ʻeleʻele ʻoe i kou wā e ulu ana. Ua maopopo iā ia e like kona ʻili me koʻu ma hope. Ua hoka loa ʻo ia i kaʻu wehewehe ʻana iā ia ʻaʻole pēlā. Ua haʻi wau iā ia e pili ana i ka miscegenation, koʻu mau mākua, ko mākou ʻohana, kāna moʻolelo. Maopopo loa iā ia. Ua haʻi mai ʻo ia iaʻu i kekahi lā "He keʻokeʻo paha au ma waho, akā ʻeleʻele koʻu puʻuwai." I kēia mau lā, haʻi mai ʻo ia iaʻu "ʻo ka mea nui ka mea i loko o ka puʻuwai". hiki ole ke hookiia !

E like me nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi a pau, makemake ʻo ia i ka mea i loaʻa ʻole iā ia. He lauoho pololei ʻo Paloma a me nā moeʻuhane o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā braids, nā mea hoʻohui, nā lauoho puffy "e like me ke ao", e like me ka lauoho afro i loaʻa iaʻu no kekahi manawa. He nani loa ko'u ihu. Ma kāna ʻōlelo, ma kāna mau hiʻohiʻona, ʻano like ʻo ia me aʻu. I ke kauwela, ʻaʻahu a pau, lawe mākou iā ia no ka lāhui hui ʻia a ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻamau ka manaʻo o ka poʻe ʻo ia kaʻu kaikamahine ola!

Noho mākou i Marseille kahi aʻu i ʻimi ai i kahi kula i kūpono i kona mau pono, i kona moʻolelo kaumaha loa. Aia ʻo ia ma ke kula o nā ʻano like ʻole e pili ana i ka aʻoaʻo Freinet, me kahi aʻo ʻana i kūpono i kēlā me kēia keiki, me nā papa i hoʻonohonoho ʻia e nā papa ʻelua, kahi e hoʻoikaika ʻia ai nā keiki, aʻo pono kūʻokoʻa a ma ko lākou wikiwiki. . Ua like ia me ka hoʻonaʻauao aʻu e hāʻawi aku ai iā ia a hoʻolauleʻa iaʻu me ke kula, aʻu i inaina ai. Ua holo maikaʻi nā mea a pau, aia ʻo ia me nā keiki mai nā ʻano like ʻole o ke ola. Akā, hoʻomākaukau iki wau iā ia no ke kulanui, no nā nīnau e nīnau ʻia iā ia, no nā noʻonoʻo e hiki ai iā ia ke lohe.

Nui nā kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka racism, e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke kala ʻili e hoʻoholo ai pehea e mālama ʻia ai ke kanaka. Ke haʻi aku nei au iā ia ma ke ʻano he makuahine ʻeleʻele, malia paha e nānā ʻia mai au he ʻokoʻa. Kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i nā mea a pau, colonialism, George Floyd, ecology… Noʻu, he mea nui e wehewehe iā ia i nā mea a pau, ʻaʻohe kapu. ʻOkoʻa loa kaʻu mea i ʻike ai me Paloma mai koʻu makuahine keʻokeʻo. Pono ʻo ia e hele i mua i nā manawa a pau, e pale iaʻu, e alo i nā manaʻo racist. I kēia lā, ʻaʻole au i ʻike inā no ka ʻoi aku ka māmā o ka ʻili o Paloma, inā ʻo koʻu mau wāwae ʻeono a me koʻu poʻo i kahi ʻia e hoʻokau ai, ʻo ia ka mea e mahalo ai, inā he mahalo i ka ʻokoʻa Marseille, akā maikaʻi loa ia. “

“Manaʻo wau he mea maʻalahi ia no kaʻu mau keiki, ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā mea aʻu i hele ai i koʻu wā kamaliʻi. “

Ka hoike a Pierre, 37 makahiki, makuakane o Lino, 13 makahiki, Numa, 10 makahiki a me Rita, 8 makahiki.

I koʻu wā kamaliʻi, manaʻo mau ʻia ua hānai ʻia au. Pono mau e wehewehe he keiki au na ko'u makuakane, no ka mea, he keokeo. I ko mākou hele pū ʻana i kahi kūʻai, pono koʻu makuakāne e hōʻoia i koʻu hele ʻana ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana e hele pū ana au me ia. He mea maʻamau ka hahai ʻana o ka poʻe iaʻu a puni ka hale kūʻai a nānā ʻole paha. I ko mākou hele ʻana i Brazil, kahi i hele mai ai koʻu makuahine, pono koʻu makuakāne e hōʻoia hou i ko mākou makua. Ua luhi. Ua ulu au ma kahi ʻano waiwai, ʻaʻole i hui pū ʻia. ʻO wau wale nō ka ʻeleʻele i kaʻu kula. Ua lohe au i nā ʻōlelo ʻōlelo palena palena he nui, i hoʻopaʻa ʻia e ka "oh akā ʻoe, ʻaʻole like". ʻO wau wale nō a pono e lawe ʻia kēia mau ʻōlelo i mea hoʻomaikaʻi. 'Ōlelo pinepine au, me ka hoʻohenehene, i kekahi manawa ke manaʻo nei au he "hoʻopunipuni", he keʻokeʻo i loko o ke kino o kaʻeleʻele.

Loaʻa iaʻu ka manaʻo he ʻokoʻa ia no kaʻu mau keiki, ʻekolu blonde liʻiliʻi! ʻAʻole nui loa kēia manaʻo o ka hoʻokomo ʻana ma ia ʻano. Pīhoihoi paha ka poʻe, e like paha lākou me “hey, ʻaʻole like lākou”, akā ʻo ia nō. Manaʻo wau i ka nānā ʻana i ka wā e hui pū ai mākou ma kahi cafe alahele a kapa mai kekahi o lākou iaʻu he makuakāne. Akā, ʻakaʻaka iaʻu. A pāʻani pū nō hoʻi au: Ua ʻike au e pilikia ana kaʻu keiki hiapo ma ke kula. Hele au e kiʻi iā ia i kekahi lā ma hope o ka haʻalele ʻana i ke kulanui. Me koʻu afro, koʻu mau peʻa, koʻu mau apo, ua loaʻa kona hopena. Mai ia manawa, ua haʻalele nā ​​keiki iā ia. Eia hou, ua haʻi mai ʻo Lino iaʻu, i koʻu hele ʻana e kiʻi iā ia ma ka wai ʻauʻau: “Ua maopopo iaʻu ua lawe lākou iā ʻoe no koʻu kahu hale a i ʻole kaʻu mea hoʻokele”. Implied: keia poe racist morons. ʻAʻole nui kaʻu pane ʻana i kēlā manawa, ʻo ia ka manawa mua āna i haʻi mai ai iaʻu i kekahi mea like, kāhāhā iaʻu. Pono ʻo ia e lohe i nā mea ma ke kula a i ʻole ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe a lilo paha ia i kumuhana, mea hopohopo nona.

ʻO kaʻu mau keiki ʻē aʻe ʻelua ua manaʻoʻiʻo he lāhui hui like lākou, e like me aʻu, ʻoiai he ʻulaʻula a nani hoʻi! Pili pū lākou me ka moʻomeheu Brazilian, makemake lākou e ʻōlelo Pukiki a hoʻolilo i ko lākou manawa i ka hula, ʻoi aku kaʻu kaikamahine. No lākou, ʻo Brazil ka Carnival, mele, hula i nā manawa a pau. ʻAʻole hewa loa lākou… ʻOiai ua maʻa lākou i ka ʻike ʻana i koʻu makuahine e hula ana ma nā wahi a pau, ʻoiai ma ka lumi kuke. No laila ke hoʻāʻo nei au e hāʻawi i kēia hoʻoilina ʻelua iā lākou, e aʻo iā lākou i ka Pukiki. Pono mākou e hele i Brazil i kēia kauwela, akā ua hala ka maʻi maʻi ma laila. Noho kēia huakaʻi ma ka papahana. “

“Pono au e aʻo pehea e kāhiko ai i ka lauoho o kaʻu kaikamahine. “

ʻO ka hōʻike a Frédérique, 46 makahiki, makuahine o Fleur, 13 makahiki.

Ua noho au ma Lādana no iwakālua makahiki a ʻoi aku, a ua hānau ʻia ʻo Fleur ma laila. He lāhui hui ʻia ʻo ia e kona makuakāne ʻo ia ka ʻōlelo Pelekania a me Scottish, me nā kumu Caribbean, mai Saint Lucia. No laila, pono wau e aʻo i ke kāhiko ʻana i ka lauoho maoli o kaʻu kaikamahine. ʻAʻole maʻalahi! I ka hoʻomaka, hoʻāʻo wau i nā huahana e hānai a wehe iā lākou, nā huahana i kūpono ʻole i nā manawa a pau. Ua noi au i koʻu mau hoaaloha ʻeleʻele no ka ʻōlelo aʻo, ua nānā pū wau me nā hale kūʻai kūikawā ma koʻu kaiāulu e ʻike i nā huahana e hoʻohana ai i kēia lauoho. A ke ʻae nei au, pono nō wau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa, e like me nā mākua he nui. I kēia lā, loaʻa iā ia kāna mau maʻamau, kāna mau huahana a hana ʻo ia i kona lauoho nona iho.

Noho mākou ma kahi moku o Lākana kahi i hui nui ʻia nā moʻomeheu a me nā hoʻomana. Ua huikau loa ke kula o Fleur, ma ka pilikanaka a me ka mo'omeheu. ʻO nā hoaaloha maikaʻi loa o kaʻu kaikamahine he Kepani, Sekotia, Karipiana a me ka ʻōlelo Pelekania. ʻAi lākou mai kekahi i kekahi, ʻike kekahi i nā mea kūikawā. ʻAʻole au i ʻike i ka hoʻokae ʻana i kaʻu kaikamahine ma ʻaneʻi. Ma muli paha o ka hui ʻana o ke kūlanakauhale, koʻu kaiāulu a i ʻole ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i hana ʻia ma ke kula. ʻO kēlā me kēia makahiki, i ka manawa o "Black History Month", aʻo nā haumāna, mai ke kula haʻahaʻa, ka hoʻoluhi, nā hana a me nā ola o nā mea kākau ʻeleʻele, nā mele. I kēia makahiki, aia ke aupuni Pelekāne a me ka noho ʻana o ʻEnelani ma ka papahana, he kumuhana e kipi i kaʻu kaikamahine!

Me ka neʻe ʻana o "Black Lives Matter", ua haʻalulu loa ʻo Fleur i ka nūhou. Hana ʻo ia i nā kiʻi e kākoʻo i ka neʻe ʻana, manaʻo ʻo ia e hopohopo. Kūkākūkā nui mākou ma ka home, me koʻu hoa pili pū kekahi, ka mea i pili nui i kēia mau pilikia.

I ko mākou huakaʻi hoʻi a hoʻi i Palani ua ʻike au i nā manaʻo hoʻokalakupua e pili ana i kaʻu kaikamahine, akā, pōmaikaʻi, he anecdotal. I kēia mau lā, ua hoʻopūʻiwa ʻo Fleur i ka ʻike ʻana i loko o kahi hale ʻohana i kahi kiʻi nui o kahi kāne kāne ʻeleʻele, ma ke ʻano lawelawe, me nā mīkina lima keʻokeʻo. Ua nīnau ʻo ia iaʻu inā he mea maʻamau ka loaʻa ʻana o kēia ma ka home. ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole maoli, a ua huhū mau iaʻu. Ua haʻi ʻia mai iaʻu ʻaʻole ia he hana ʻino a hoʻokalakupua paha, aia paha kēia ʻano mea hoʻonaninani i ke ʻano. He hoʻopaʻapaʻa kēia ʻaʻole au i ʻike maopopo loa, akā ʻaʻole wau i ʻaʻa e hoʻokokoke i ke kumuhana poʻo. E ʻaʻa paha ʻo Fleur, ma hope aku… ”

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