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"Ua wehewehe kona makuakāne iā ia ʻaʻole wau e lawe i kahi o kona makuahine."
Marie-charlotte
ʻO ka makuahine hānai o Manaëlle (9 a me ka hapa makahiki) a me ka makuahine o Martin (17 mahina).
“Ma muli o ko Martin hele ʻana ma ʻaneʻi, he ʻohana maoli mākou. Me he mea lā ua hele mai ʻo ia e wili i nā mea a pau, ʻo Manaëlle, kaʻu hūnōna wahine, kaʻu kāne a me māua. Mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kā mākou pilina me kaʻu kāne, i koʻu 23 mau makahiki, ua ʻimi mau wau e hoʻokomo i kāna kaikamahine i ko mākou ola. He 2 a me ka hapa kona mau makahiki i ko'u halawai ana me kona papa. Mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, haʻi ʻo ia i kāna ʻōlelo ʻana mai iaʻu: "Inā makemake ʻoe iaʻu, pono ʻoe e lawe iaʻu me kaʻu kaikamahine". Ua ʻike wau he mea ʻakaʻaka ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi "mākou" i ka wā a mākou i hui ai. Ua ʻike koke māua i kekahi a ua aloha au iā ia. Akā, kali au i ʻelima mahina ma mua o koʻu hālāwai ʻana me kāna kaikamahine. Ma muli paha o koʻu ʻike e hoʻopili hou aku iā mākou. I ka wā mua, ua hana wale nā mea a pau ma waena ona a me aʻu.
He manawa weliweli
I ka makahiki 4-5, ua makemake kona makuahine e neʻe i ka Hema ma o ka lawe ʻana iā Manaëlle. Ua kūʻē kona makuakāne i kēia, me ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ia e hana ma kahi mālama ʻē aʻe. Akā ua koho ka makuahine o Manaëlle e haʻalele a ua hāʻawi ʻia ka mālama ʻana i ka makuakāne. He manawa weliweli. Ua haʻalele ʻo Manaëlle, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike hou i ke ʻano o ka hoʻopili ʻana iā ia iho me aʻu. He lili paha ʻo ia ke hele aku au i kona makuakāne. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i ʻae hou iaʻu e mālama iā ia: ʻAʻohe oʻu kuleana e hana i kona lauoho a lole paha iā ia. Inā wau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ia i ka waiū, hōʻole ʻo ia e inu. Ua kaumaha mākou a pau i kēia kūlana. Na ke kahu psychologist i kōkua iā mākou e ʻimi i nā ʻōlelo. Ua hoʻonoho kona makuakāne iā ia iho, ua wehewehe ʻo ia iā ia e ʻae mai iaʻu, e maʻalahi ia no nā mea a pau, a ʻaʻole wau e lawe i kahi o kona makuahine. Mai laila mai, loaʻa iaʻu ke kaikamahine liʻiliʻi hauʻoli a lokomaikaʻi aʻu i ʻike ai. ʻOiaʻiʻo, i kekahi manawa, hoʻolilo ʻo ia iaʻu i mea pupule a huhū koke wau, akā ua like ia me kaʻu keiki, no laila ua emi koʻu hewa ma mua! Ma mua, makaʻu wau i ka hana ʻino iā ia, e like me koʻu makuahōnōwai wahine! Ua kiola ʻo ia i kaʻu mau mea pāʻani i koʻu hele ʻana, hāʻawi i koʻu mau lole… Ua hoʻokaʻawale mau koʻu makuahōnōwai wahine iaʻu mai nā keiki āna me koʻu makuakāne. Ua noʻonoʻo mau wau i koʻu mau kaikunāne a koʻu makuahine me kāna kāne hou he mau kaikunāne piha. I koʻu makahiki he 18, ua maʻi kekahi o koʻu mau kaikaina ma ka ʻaoʻao o koʻu makuahine. He 5 makahiki ona. I kekahi ahiahi, pono mākou e ʻōlelo "aloha" iā ia, me ka manaʻo ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike hou iā ia e ola ana. I kekahi lā aʻe e kūʻai ana au me koʻu ʻanakē a nīnau mai kekahi iaʻu e pili ana iā ia. Ma hope o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ʻōlelo mai ke kanaka iaʻu: "No ʻoe, ʻaʻohe mea nui, ʻo kou kaikunāne wale nō ia". ʻO kēia ʻōlelo weliweli e hoʻowahāwahā mau iaʻu i ka huaʻōlelo "half". Ua like ʻo Manaëlle me kaʻu kaikamahine. Inā loaʻa mai kekahi mea iā ia, ʻaʻole mākou e "kaumaha" a inā ua hana ʻo ia i kahi mea maikaʻi, ʻaʻole mākou e "haʻaheo". ʻAʻole au makemake e hoʻokaʻawale i waena ona a me kona kaikunāne. Inā hoʻopā kekahi i kekahi o lākou, hiki iaʻu ke nahu. ”
"Ua kōkua ka mālama ʻana iā Kenzo iaʻu e ulu."
Elise
Ka makuahōnōwai wahine o Kenzo (10 a me ka hapa makahiki) a me ka makuahine o Hugo (3 makahiki).
“I koʻu hālāwai ʻana me kaʻu kāne, ʻo 22 wau a ʻo ia ʻo 24. Ua ʻike wau he makua kāne ia, ua kākau ʻo ia ma kāna ʻaoʻao pūnaewele! Loaʻa iā ia ka mālama piha no ka mea ua hoʻomaka ka makuahine o kāna keiki i ke aʻo ʻana ma 150 km mamao. Ua hoʻomaka mākou e launa pū a ʻike koke wau i kāna keiki liʻiliʻi, 4 a me ka hapa, ʻo Kenzo. Ua paʻa koke ma waena ona a me aʻu. He keiki maʻalahi ʻo ia, me ke ʻano hoʻohālikelike! A laila ua loaʻa i ka makuakāne kahi pōʻino i hoʻopaʻa ʻole iā ia ma ka noho huila no kekahi mau pule. Ua haʻalele au i ka hale o koʻu mau mākua e noho pū me lāua. Ua mālama au iā Kenzo mai ke kakahiaka a i ka pō no nā hana i hiki ʻole i kaʻu kāne ke hoʻokō: e hoʻomākaukau iā ia no ke kula, e hele pū me ia ma laila, e kōkua iā ia i kona halepaku, e lawe iā ia i ka paka ... kokoke. Ua nīnau nui ʻo Kenzo, makemake ʻo ia e ʻike i kaʻu hana ma laila, inā wau e noho. Ua ʻōlelo mai ʻo ia iaʻu: "ʻOiai inā ʻaʻohe kino o ka papa, e hoʻomau anei ʻoe e mālama iaʻu?" Ua hopohopo nui iā ia!
Me he kaikuahine nui lā
ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, aia kona makuakāne, hiki iaʻu ke mālama iā ia e like me ke kaikuahine nui, mālama kona makuakāne i ka ʻano "hoʻonaʻauao". Ua hoʻoholo mākou e mare ma hope o hoʻokahi makahiki a me ka hapa a ua hoʻokomo mākou iā Kenzo i ka hoʻomākaukau a pau. Ua maopopo iaʻu e mare ana wau iā lāua, he ʻohana piha mākou. Akā i kēlā manawa, i ke komo ʻana o Kenzo i ka CP, ua koi ka makuahine i ka mālama piha. Ma hope o ka hoʻokolokolo ʻana, ʻekolu pule wale nō kā mākou e hoʻomākaukau ai. Hoʻokahi makahiki a me ka hapa mākou i hui pū ai a ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka kaʻawale ʻana. Ua hoʻoholo mākou e hānau keiki ma hope koke o ka male ʻana, a ʻike koke ʻo Kenzo ua hāpai au. Ua maʻi au i nā manawa a pau a ua hopohopo ʻo ia iaʻu! ʻO ia ka mea nāna i haʻi i ka nūhou i ka Kalikimaka i nā kūpuna. Me ka hānau ʻana o kona kaikunāne, hiki iaʻu ke hana liʻiliʻi me ia, a ua hōʻino mai ʻo ia iaʻu i kekahi mau manawa. Akā ua hoʻokokoke ʻo ia iā ia i kona makuakāne, a maikaʻi nō hoʻi.
Na kaʻu kāne i kōkua iaʻu e ʻimi i koʻu wahi ma waena o lāua
Mālama nui ʻo Kenzo i kona kaikaina. He mau hoapili loa lakou! Ua noi ʻo ia i kiʻi nona e lawe iā ia i ka hale o kona makuahine… Kiʻi wale mākou iā ia i ka wā hoʻomaha a i kēlā me kēia hopena pule, kahi e hoʻāʻo ai mākou e hana i nā mea ʻoluʻolu. Me ka hānau ʻana o kaʻu keiki ʻo Hugo, ʻike wau ua loli wau. ʻIke wau ua hoʻolilo au i nā mea he nui no kaʻu keiki. ʻIke au ua ʻoi aku koʻu paʻakikī iā Kenzo, a ʻo kaʻu kāne e hoʻopiʻi mai iaʻu i kekahi manawa. Iā ia wale nō, aia mākou iā ia i nā manawa a pau, ʻaʻole mākou i hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa me ia: ʻo ia ka mea mua, makemake mākou e hemolele nā mea a pau a aia mau kēia kaomi ʻana a ka makuahine o Kenzo e hoʻopiʻi nei iā mākou no kekahi mea… , ʻaʻole ia i pale iā mākou mai ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi pilina pili loa, ʻo Kenzo lāua ʻo wau. ʻakaʻaka nui māua. ʻOiai, ʻike wau ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana i kēia ala holoʻokoʻa me kaʻu kāne ʻole. ʻO ia ka mea i alakaʻi iaʻu, i kōkua mai iaʻu. Mahalo iā ia, ua hiki iaʻu ke ʻimi i koʻu wahi ma waena o lākou a ma mua o nā mea a pau, ʻaʻole wau i makaʻu e lilo i makuahine. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka mālama ʻana iā Kenzo ua kōkua iaʻu e ulu. ”
"ʻO ka lilo ʻana i makuahōnōwai wahine he hoʻololi i koʻu ola."
Amelia
Ka makuahōnōwai wahine o Adélia (11 makahiki) a me Maëlys (9 makahiki), a me ka makuahine o Diane (2 makahiki).
"Ua hui au iā Laurent i ke ahiahi, me nā hoa aloha, he 32 mau makahiki. ʻO ia ka makua kāne o nā keiki ʻelua, ʻo Adélia lāua ʻo Maëlys, 5 a me 3 mau makahiki. ʻAʻole au i manaʻo e lilo wau i "makuahine". He hoʻololi maoli ia i koʻu ola. No nā mākua hemo a me nā ʻohana hui pū mākou. Ua ʻike mākou ʻaʻole maʻalahi ke kamaʻilio ʻana o ke keiki me kahi kaʻawale, a laila me ka recomposition o kahi ʻohana. Ua makemake mākou e lawe i ka manawa e ʻike ai kekahi i kekahi ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o nā keiki i ko mākou ola. He mea ʻē, no ka mea, ke hana au i ka makemakika, ʻike wau ua kali mākou ma kahi o ʻeiwa mahina ma mua o ka hōʻea ʻana i kēia milestone o ka hālāwai. I ka lā hoʻokahi, ua hyperstress wau. ʻOi aku ma mua o kahi nīnauele hana! Ua ʻaʻahu au i koʻu pālule maikaʻi loa, hoʻomākaukau i nā papa nani me nā meaʻai i ke ʻano holoholona. Laki loa au, no ka mea, mai ka hoomaka ana mai, ua hypergent na kaikamahine a Laurent ia'u. I ka wā mua, paʻakikī ʻo Adelia i ka ʻike ʻana ʻo wai wau. I kekahi hopena pule i ko mākou noho ʻana me nā mākua o Laurent, ua ʻōlelo nui ʻo ia ma ka papaʻaina: "Akā hiki anei iaʻu ke kāhea iā ʻoe he mama?" Ua ʻinoʻino wau, no ka mea, ke nānā mai nei nā mea a pau iā mākou a ke noʻonoʻo nei au i kona makuahine… ʻAʻole maʻalahi ke mālama!
Nui aʻe nā ʻakaʻaka a me nā pāʻani
He mau makahiki ma hope mai, ua komo māua ʻo Laurent i kahi hui kīwila, me ka manaʻo e loaʻa kahi keiki. Ma hope o ʻehā mau mahina, aia kahi "mini-us" ma ke ala. Ua makemake au i na kaikamahine e ike mua. Eia hou, ua hoʻokani ʻo ia i kaʻu moʻolelo pilikino. Ua haʻi mai koʻu makuakāne iaʻu i ke ola ʻana o koʻu kaikuahine… ʻekolu mahina ma hope o kona hānau ʻana! I kēlā manawa, e noho ana ʻo ia ma Brazil me kāna wahine hou. Ua ʻike wau he mea weliweli kēia hoʻolaha, he kumakaia, he haʻalele i kona ola. Ua makemake au i ka ʻokoʻa no Adélia lāua ʻo Maëlys. I ka hānau ʻana o kā māua kaikamahine ʻo Diane, ua manaʻo wau he ʻohana maoli mākou. Ua lawe koke na kaikamahine i ko lakou kaikaina. Mai kona hānau ʻana, hoʻopaʻapaʻa lākou e hāʻawi iā ia i ʻōmole a hoʻololi paha i kāna diaper. Mai koʻu lilo ʻana i makuahine, ua ʻike au i kekahi manawa hiki iaʻu ke hoʻohalahala ʻole i kekahi mau kumuhana hoʻonaʻauao a me nā loina. I kēia manawa ua loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu pēpē, hoihoi au i ka hoʻonaʻauao mālama ʻana, ua aʻo nui au e pili ana i ka lolo o nā keiki, a ke hoʻāʻo nei au e ʻoi aku ka maʻalili… ʻoiai ke kanikau au! ʻO ka hapa nui o ka manawa, ʻae wau iā Laurent e hoʻoholo e pili ana i nā keikikāne nui. Me ka hōʻea ʻana mai o Diane, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ko mākou ola schizophrenic ma mua o ko mākou noho ʻana me ke keiki ʻole i ka hapa nui o ka manawa a me kēlā me kēia pule pule. Ua ʻoi aku ka ʻakaʻaka a me nā pāʻani ma mua o ka wā ma mua, nā tona o nā pūliki a me nā honi. Hiki ke loli nā mea a pau i ka wā ʻōpio, akā me nā keiki, loli mau nā mea a pau… a maikaʻi kēlā! ” ka
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