Kuhi lākou i nā manamana lima i nā wahine. Hoʻopiʻi ʻia i nā hewa kino a pau. Hoohewa lakou. Ke kānalua nei lākou iā ʻoe iho. Hiki ke manaʻo ʻia e pili ana ka pronoun "lākou" i nā kāne, akā ʻaʻole. E pili ana i nā wahine i lilo i ʻenemi maikaʻi loa no kekahi.
Ma nā kūkākūkā e pili ana i nā pono o nā wāhine, ka wahine a me ka hoʻokae, hoʻokahi a me ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa hoʻokahi i loaʻa pinepineʻia: "ʻAʻole au i hōʻehaʻia e nā kāne,ʻo nā hoʻohewa a me ka inaina a pau i loko o koʻu ola ua hoʻolahaʻia e nā wāhine a me nā wāhine wale nō." Hoʻokomo pinepine kēia hoʻopaʻapaʻa i ke kūkākūkā i kahi hopena make, no ka mea paʻakikī loa ka hoʻokūkū. A ʻo ia ke kumu.
Loaʻa ka hapa nui o mākou i nā ʻike like: ʻo nā wahine ʻē aʻe i haʻi iā mākou he "hewa" mākou no ka hana hoʻomāinoino, ʻo nā wahine ʻē aʻe i hoʻohewa ʻino a hoʻohilahila iā mākou no ko mākou helehelena, ka moekolohe, "ka ʻoluʻolu" makua, a me ka like.
ʻO kēia hoʻopaʻapaʻa me he mea lā e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ke kumu o ka paepae wahine. Inā hoʻokaumaha kekahi i kekahi, no ke aha e kamaʻilio nui ai i ka patriarchy a me ka hoʻokae? He aha ka mea e pili ana i nā kāne?
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole maʻalahi nā mea a pau, a aia kahi ala i waho o kēia pōʻai ʻino. ʻAe, hoʻohewa nā wāhine a "hoʻomoe" kekahi i kekahi me ka huhū, pinepine i ka huhū ma mua o nā kāne. ʻO ka pilikia, ʻo ke kumu o kēia hanana ʻaʻole i loko o ke ʻano "kūlohelohe" hakakā o ka wahine, ʻaʻole i ka "huhū wahine" a me ka hiki ʻole ke hana like a kākoʻo kekahi i kekahi.
Papa lua
He mea paʻakikī ka hoʻokūkū wahine, a ua paʻa i loko o nā hale patriarchal like ʻole a nā wahine e kamaʻilio nui nei. E ho'āʻo kākou e noʻonoʻo i ke kumu o ka hoʻohewa nui ʻana o nā wahine i nā hana, nā ʻano a me nā hiʻohiʻona o nā wahine ʻē aʻe.
E hoomaka kakou mai kinohi mai. ʻAʻole makemake mākou a ʻaʻole paha, ua ulu mākou a pau i loko o kahi kaiāulu i piha i nā hale patriarchal a me nā waiwai. He aha nā waiwai patriarchal? ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole kēia wale nō ka manaʻo ʻo ke kumu o ke kaiāulu he ʻohana ikaika, ʻo ia ka makuahine uʻi, kahi makua kāne akamai a me ʻekolu pēpē papalina rosy.
ʻO ka manaʻo koʻikoʻi o ka ʻōnaehana patriarchal he mahele maopopo o ke kaiāulu i ʻelua mau ʻāpana, "nā kāne" a me "nā wahine", kahi i hāʻawi ʻia i kēlā me kēia o nā ʻāpana i kahi ʻano o nā ʻano. ʻAʻole like kēia mau ʻāpana ʻelua, akā hoʻonohonoho ʻia ma ka hierarchically. 'O ia ho'i, ua ho'onoho 'ia kekahi o lākou i ke kūlana ki'eki'e, a mahalo i kēia, ua loa'a iā ia nā kumuwaiwai hou a'e.
I loko o kēia hoʻolālā, ʻo ke kāne he "ʻano maʻamau o ke kanaka", aʻo ka wahine i kūkulu ʻia mai ke ʻano ʻē aʻe - e like me ke ʻano o ke kāne.
Inā noʻonoʻo a noʻonoʻo ke kāne, noʻonoʻo a noʻonoʻo ka wahine. Inā hoʻoholo ke kāne, ʻeleu a wiwo ʻole, he wahine impulsive, passive a nāwaliwali. Inā hiki i ke kāne ke ʻoi aku ka nani ma mua o ka monkey, pono ka wahine e "hoʻonani i ka honua me ia iho" i kēlā me kēia kūlana. Ua kamaʻāina mākou a pau i kēia mau stereotypes. Ke hana nei kēia ʻano hana ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe: i ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai kekahi ʻano a i ʻole ʻano ʻano hana e pili pū me ka "feminine" sphere, ua nalowale kona waiwai.
No laila, ʻoi aku ka haʻahaʻa o ka noho makuahine a me ka mālama ʻana i ka poʻe nāwaliwali ma mua o ka "hana maoli" i ka hui a me ke kālā. No laila, ʻo ka pilina wahine he twittering naʻaupō a me nā mea hoʻowalewale, ʻoiai ʻo ka pilina kāne kāne he pilina maoli a hohonu hoʻi, ke kaikunāne koko. No laila, ʻike ʻia ka "sensitivity and emotionality" ma ke ʻano he mea pōʻino a me ka superfluous, ʻoiai ʻo "rationality and logic" i ʻike ʻia he mau ʻano mahalo a makemake ʻia.
Misogyny ʻike ʻole
Mai kēia mau hiʻohiʻona, ua ʻike ʻia ua piha ka lāhui patriarchal me ka hoʻowahāwahā a me ka inaina i nā wahine (misogyny), a ʻaʻole pinepine ʻia kēia inaina i nā leka pololei, no ka laʻana, "ʻaʻole he kanaka ka wahine", "ʻino ʻole. e lilo i wahine", "ʻoi aku ka hewa o ka wahine ma mua o ke kāne" .
ʻO ka pilikia o ka misogyny ʻaʻole ia e ʻike ʻia. Mai ka hānau ʻana, hoʻopuni ʻo ia iā mākou e like me ka noe ʻaʻole hiki ke hopu ʻia a hoʻopā ʻia, akā naʻe e hoʻopilikia iā mākou. ʻO kā mākou ʻike ʻike holoʻokoʻa, mai nā huahana o ka moʻomeheu lehulehu a hiki i ka naʻauao o kēlā me kēia lā a me nā hiʻohiʻona o ka ʻōlelo ponoʻī, ua hoʻopiha ʻia me kahi ʻōlelo maopopo ʻole: "he wahine ka lua o ka papa", ʻo ka wahine he mea pono ʻole a makemake ʻole. E like me ke kanaka.
Hoʻopilikia ʻia kēia mau mea a pau i ka wehewehe ʻana o ke kaiāulu iā mākou e hāʻawi ʻia kekahi mau ʻano iā mākou "ma ka hānau ʻana" a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻololi ʻia. No ka laʻana, ua manaʻo ʻia ka noʻonoʻo kāne kaulana a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana he mea kūlohelohe a kūlohelohe, pili pono i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana o nā genital. Maʻalahi: ʻaʻohe penis - ʻaʻohe noʻonoʻo a i ʻole, no ka laʻana, kahi makemake no ka ʻepekema pololei.
ʻO kēia ke ʻano o kā mākou mau wahine e aʻo ai ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokūkū me nā kāne, inā wale nō ma kēia hoʻokūkū e hoʻohewa ʻia ana mākou mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana.
ʻO ka mea wale nō e hiki ai iā mākou ke hana e hoʻokiʻekiʻe i ko mākou kūlana a hoʻomaikaʻi i kā mākou kūlana hoʻomaka, ʻo ia ka hoʻomohala ʻana, kūpono i kēia ʻano inaina a me ka hoʻowahāwahā, inaina iā mākou iho a me ko mākou mau kaikuahine a hoʻomaka e hoʻokūkū me lākou no kahi wahi i ka lā.
ʻO ka misogyny i loko - ka inaina kūpono i nā wahine ʻē aʻe a iā mākou iho - hiki ke puka mai i nā ʻano like ʻole. Hiki ke hōʻike ʻia ma o nā ʻōlelo hewa ʻole e like me "ʻAʻole wau e like me nā wahine ʻē aʻe" (heluhelu: He noʻonoʻo wau, akamai a hoʻāʻo me koʻu ikaika āpau e haʻalele i ke kuleana kāne i kau ʻia ma luna oʻu ma ka piʻi ʻana ma luna o nā poʻo o nā wahine ʻē aʻe) a "He mau hoaaloha wale nō wau me nā kāne" ( heluhelu: ʻokoʻa ke kamaʻilio me nā kāne ma ke ʻano maikaʻi mai ka kamaʻilio ʻana me nā wahine, ʻoi aku ka waiwai), a ma o ka hoʻohewa pololei a me ka inaina.
Eia kekahi, pinepine ka hoʻohewa ʻana a me ka inaina i nā wahine ʻē aʻe i ka ʻono o ka "hoʻopaʻi" a me nā "wahine": e lawe aku i ka nāwaliwali i kēlā mau ʻōlelo hōʻino i hana ʻia e ka mea ikaika. No laila,ʻo ka wahine i hānai mua i kāna mau keiki pono'ī me ka makemake e "uku" i kāna mau'ōhumu a pau i ka "rookies",ʻaʻole i lawa kaʻike a me nā kumu waiwai e kū'ē ai.
E hakakā no nā kāne
I ka wā post-Soviet, ua hoʻonui hou ʻia kēia pilikia e ka manaʻo i hoʻokau ʻia no ka hemahema mau o nā kāne, i hui pū ʻia me ka manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki i ka wahine ke hauʻoli ma waho o kahi hui heterosexual. ʻO ia ke kenekulia XNUMX, akā ʻo ka manaʻo "he ʻeiwa mau kāne mai loko o nā kaikamahine he ʻumi" e noho paʻa ana i ka ʻike ʻole a hāʻawi i ke koʻikoʻi i ka ʻae kāne.
ʻO ka waiwai o ke kāne i loko o nā kūlana o ka liʻiliʻi, ʻoiai he moʻolelo, he kiʻekiʻe ʻole, a noho nā wahine i kahi ea mau o ka hoʻokūkū ikaika no ka nānā ʻana a me ka ʻae ʻana o ke kāne. A ʻo ka hoʻokūkū no kahi kumuwaiwai palena ʻole, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole ia e paipai i ke kākoʻo like ʻana a me ke kaikuahine.
No ke aha ʻaʻole kōkua ka misogyny kūloko?
No laila, ʻo ka hoʻokūkū wahine he hoʻāʻo e hoʻokaʻawale mai ka honua kāne i kahi ʻae liʻiliʻi, nā kumuwaiwai a me ke kūlana ma mua o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia e "ma ka hānau ʻana". Akā, hana maoli kēia hoʻolālā no nā wahine? ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻaʻole, inā wale nō no ka mea aia kahi kūʻē kūʻokoʻa hohonu i loko.
Ma ka hoʻohewa ʻana i nā wahine ʻē aʻe, ʻo mākou, ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ke hoʻāʻo nei mākou e haʻalele i nā kaohi kāne kāne i kau ʻia ma luna o mākou a hōʻoia i ko mākou pili ʻole i ke ʻano o nā wahine, nā mea ʻole a naʻaupō, no ka mea, ʻaʻole like mākou! Ma kekahiʻaoʻao, e piʻi ana ma luna o ko mākou mau poʻo, ke ho'āʻo nei mākou i ka manawa like e hōʻoiaʻiʻo he mau wāhine maikaʻi a pololei mākou,ʻaʻole like me kekahi. He nani mākou (ʻeleʻele, hoʻomaʻemaʻe maikaʻi ʻia), he mau makuahine maikaʻi mākou (nā wahine, nā hūnōna wahine), ʻike mākou i ka pāʻani ma nā lula - ʻo mākou ka maikaʻi o nā wahine. E lawe iā mākou i kāu hui.
Akā, ʻo ka mea pōʻino, ʻaʻole wikiwiki ka honua kāne e ʻae i nā "wahine maʻamau" a i ʻole "Schrödinger wahine" i loko o kā lākou hui, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana i ko lākou ʻano like ʻole a pili ʻole i kekahi ʻano. Maikaʻi ka honua o nā kāne ke ʻole mākou. ʻO ia ke kumu o ka hoʻolālā wale nō no ke ola ʻana a me ka kūleʻa e hana nei no nā wahine, ʻo ia ka wehe ʻana i nā nahele o ka misogyny i loko a kākoʻo i kahi kaikuahine, kahi kaiāulu wahine me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohewa a me ka hoʻokūkū.