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Aia ke aloha kūpono? Inā pēlā, ʻo ia ka a kaikamahine na kona makuakane. Aloha, mahalo, ka pope hemolele a hoʻomāmā mākou i kona mau maka mai ka moena! E ʻike i nā pane i kāu mau nīnau e pili ana ka pilina ma waena o ka makua kāne a me kāna kaikamahine.
He ʻokoʻa ka hana a ka makua kāne inā he kaikamahine a he keikikāne paha kāna?
He ʻokoʻa no kēlā me kēia kāne, pili ia i kona wā kamaliʻi. Manaʻo kekahi e lilo lākou i makua kāne maikaʻi aʻe no kahi keikikāne a ʻo kekahi, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi makua kāne no ke kaikamahine.
Akā, no ka mea, ma hope o ka ultrasound, ʻike ʻia ʻo ia e hoka i ka manaʻo ʻana i kahi kaikamahine, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻo ia he makua kāne maikaʻi. He ʻokoʻa ke ʻano o ka makua kāne inā he kaikamahine a he keikikāne paha ke keiki. ʻO ia ke kumu ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ka makua hea mākou a hiki i ka wā e loaʻa ai ke keiki.
Pehea e pili ana i ka makua kāne i ka wā e hiki mai ana i makemake nui i kahi keikikāne?
I kēia hihia, pono ʻo ia e noʻonoʻo kona pilina me ka wahine. ʻO ke kāne makemake wale i nā kaikamahine, he mea hopohopo ia: makaʻu anei ʻo ia i ka hoʻokūkū?
Akā, he mea kakaikahi ka ʻike ʻana i nā mea ʻoi loa. ʻAʻohe kānalua no ka mea i kēia lā, hōʻike hou ke kanaka i kona mau manaʻo.
He aha ka Electra complex?
Theorized i ka hoʻomaka o ka 20th kenekulia e ka psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung, ka Pākuʻi Electra ua like ia me ka mea kaulana Pākuʻi ʻo Oedipus. E ʻike ʻia i kekahi mau kaikamahine ma kahi o 4 a me 6 mau makahiki. A laila hiki i kahi kaikamahine ʻōpio ke hoʻomohala i kahi manaʻo aloha i kona makuakane. Ke alakaʻi nei kēia i nā ʻano o ke aloha a me ka lili i ka makuahine komo pū.
ʻO ke kiʻi ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā wahine he hopena i ka pilina makua kāne a me ke kaikamahine?
ʻAe, hiki mai kēlā. I kēia mau lā, ke aʻo nei nā wahine, e hana ana i nā hana maikaʻi, hiki ke mālama i ko lākou inoa ma hope o ka male ʻana, a hāʻawi pū i nā keiki.
Akā naʻe, ʻaʻole kēia wale ke kumu. Aia nō nā manaʻo a pau a mākou e "lawe ai": ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kaikamahine, aloha ʻo ia i kona makuakāne, i ka pōkole, ʻoluʻolu iā ia. Akā e makaʻala, aia ka pōʻino inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e kau i nā palena no kēia mea liʻiliʻi e hoʻāʻo e hoʻowalewale iā ia mai 18-20 mau mahina!