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ʻO nā makaʻu hou i nā keiki, ʻike nui ʻia
Makaʻu nā keiki i ka pōʻeleʻele, i ka ʻīlio hae, i ka wai, i ka waiho wale ʻia ʻana… Ua ʻike nā mākua ma ka puʻuwai i kēlā mau manawa e hopohopo a uē nui ai kā lākou mau keiki. Ma keʻano laulā, ʻike lākou pehea e hoʻomaha ai a hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou. I nā makahiki i hala iho nei, ua ala mai nā makaʻu hou i waena o nā ʻōpio. Ma nā kūlanakauhale nui, ʻōlelo ʻia nā keiki e ʻike nui ʻia i nā kiʻi ʻino e hoʻoweliweli iā lākou. Decryption me Saverio Tomasella, kauka i ka ʻepekema kanaka a me ka psychoanalyst, ka mea kākau o "Small fears or big terror", i paʻi ʻia e Leduc.s éditions.
He aha ka makaʻu i nā keiki?
"ʻO kekahi o nā hanana koʻikoʻi e ʻike ʻia e kahi keiki 3 makahiki ke hoʻi ʻo ia i ke kula nursery," wehewehe mua ʻo Saverio Tomasella. Hele ke keiki mai kahi honua palekana (nursery, nanny, makuahine, kupuna wahine…) i kahi honua i noho ʻia e nā kamaliʻi he nui, i hoʻomalu ʻia e nā lula a me nā kaohi. I ka pōkole, komo ʻo ia i loko o ka haunaele o ke ola hui. I kekahi manawa ʻike ʻia he "nahele" maoli, ʻo ke kula ka wahi mua o nā ʻike āpau. ʻOi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka manawa o kekahi mau keiki e hoʻololi i kēia ʻano hou. I kekahi manawa, ʻo kekahi mau kūlana e hoʻoweliweli maoli i ke kanaka liʻiliʻi e hana mua ana i ke kula kindergarten. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mākua e makaʻala loa i kēia wā koʻikoʻi o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ke kula. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ke kuhikuhi nei ka psychoanalyst i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hoʻokau mākou i nā kamaliʻi e mālama iā lākou iho, e lilo i mea kūʻokoʻa, e hoʻolohe i kekahi mau mākua, e hahai i nā lula o ka ʻano maikaʻi, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. i ke keiki uuku. Makaʻu pinepine ʻo ia i ka hana maikaʻi ʻole, ka makaʻu ʻole, ʻaʻole mālama i ka wikiwiki, "wahi a ka loea. Inā hiki i ke keiki ke mālama i kona ʻaʻahu me ia, e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia. "He ala ia e hōʻoluʻolu ai ke keiki iā ia iho, me ka omo ʻana i kona manamana lima, ʻo ia ke ʻano o ka pilina me kona kino he mea nui," wahi a ka psychoanalyst.
Makaʻu hou e hoʻoweliweli i nā keiki
Ua wehewehe ʻo Dr Saverio Tomasella i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki hou aʻe ma ke kūkākūkā e hoʻāla i ka makaʻu i pili i nā ʻano kamaʻilio hou ma nā kūlanakauhale nui (nā kahua, nā alahele metro, etc.). "Ke kū'ē nei ke keiki me kekahi mau kiʻi hoʻomāinoino i kēlā me kēia lā", hoʻopaʻapaʻa ka loea. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hoʻolaha nā pale a i ʻole nā mea hoʻolaha i kahi hoʻolaha ma ke ʻano he wikiō, no ka laʻana ka trailer o kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni weliweli a i ʻole nā hiʻohiʻona o ke ʻano moe kolohe, a i ʻole ka pāʻani wikiō, i kekahi manawa ʻino a ma luna o nā mea a pau i manaʻo ʻia he mau mākua wale nō. . "Ke kū nei ke keiki me nā kiʻi i pili ʻole iā ia. Huli nui nā mea hoʻolaha i nā mākua. Akā ke hoʻolaha ʻia nei lākou ma kahi ākea, ʻike nā keiki iā lākou, "wahi a ka loea. He mea maikaʻi ke hoʻomaopopo pehea e hiki ai ke kamaʻilio pālua me nā mākua. Ua noi ʻia lākou e hoʻomalu i kā lākou mau keiki me nā polokalamu hoʻomalu makua ma ka kamepiula home, e hōʻoia e mahalo lākou i ka hōʻailona o nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni ma ke kīwī, a ma nā wahi ākea, "huna" a ʻaʻole i manaʻo ʻia nā kiʻi. hōʻike ʻia nā kamaliʻi me ka ʻole o ka censorship ma nā paia o ke kūlanakauhale. Ua ʻae ʻo Saverio Tomasella i kēia loiloi. "Ua ʻōlelo maopopo ke keiki: makaʻu maoli ʻo ia i kāna mau kiʻi. He mea makaʻu lākou iā ia, "hōʻoia ka loea. Eia kekahi, loaʻa i ke keiki kēia mau kiʻi me nā kānana ʻole. Pono ka makua a i ʻole ke kanaka makua e hele pū me ia e kūkākūkā pū me lākou. ʻO nā hopohopo ʻē aʻe e pili ana i nā hanana pōʻino ma Paris a me Nice i nā mahina i hala iho nei. I mua o ka weliweli o nā hoʻouka kaua, nui nā ʻohana i hoʻopilikia ʻia. "Ma hope o ka hoʻouka kaua ʻana, hoʻolaha nā televise i nā kiʻi ʻino loa. I kekahi mau ʻohana, hiki i ka nūhou ahiahi ke lawe i kahi wahi nui i nā manawa ʻai, me ka makemake nui e "hoʻomau i ka ʻike". ʻO nā keiki e noho ana i loko o ia mau ʻohana, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā moeʻuhane, ʻaʻohe hiamoe hoʻomaha, hoʻemi iki i ka nānā ʻana i ka papa a i kekahi manawa e ulu aʻe i ka hopohopo e pili ana i nā mea maoli o ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā. "Pono kēlā me kēia keiki e ulu aʻe i loko o kahi kaiapuni e hōʻoluʻolu a hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou," wehewehe ʻo Saverio Tomasella. "Ke alo nei i ka weliweli o ka hoʻouka ʻana, inā ʻōpiopio ke keiki, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻōlelo liʻiliʻi. Mai hāʻawi i nā kikoʻī i nā keiki liʻiliʻi, e kamaʻilio maʻalahi iā lākou, mai hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo a i ʻole nā huaʻōlelo ʻino, a mai hoʻohana i ka huaʻōlelo "makaʻu", no ka laʻana ", e hoʻomanaʻo ana ka psychoanalyst.
ʻO nā manaʻo o nā mākua i kūpono i ka makaʻu o ke keiki
ʻO Saverio Tomasella he categorical: “Noho ke keiki i ke kūlana me ka mamao ʻole. No ka laʻana, aia nā leka a i ʻole nā pale ma nā wahi ākea, kaʻana like ʻia e nā mea a pau, nā mākua a me nā keiki, mamao loa mai ka niu ʻohana hōʻoluʻolu. Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei au i kahi keikikāne 7 makahiki i haʻi mai iaʻu i kona makaʻu i ka metro i kona ʻike ʻana i kahi leka o kahi lumi i hāʻule i ka pōʻeleʻele ”, hōʻike ka loea. Manaʻo pinepine nā mākua pehea e hana ai. “Inā ʻike ke keiki i ke kiʻi, pono e kamaʻilio e pili ana. ʻO ka mea mua, uaʻae ke kanaka makua i ke keiki e hōʻike iā ia iho, a wehe i ka kūkākūkāʻana i ka nui. E nīnau iā ia pehea kona manaʻo ke ʻike ʻo ia i kēia ʻano kiʻi, he aha kāna hana iā ia. E haʻi aku iā ia a hōʻoiaʻiʻo, no ke keiki o kona mau makahiki, he mea maʻamau ka makaʻu, ua ʻae ʻo ia i kāna manaʻo. Hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻohui i ka huhū maoli ke ʻike ʻia i kēia ʻano kiʻi, "wahi āna. "ʻAe, makaʻu, pololei ʻoe": manaʻo ka psychoanalyst ʻaʻole pono e hoʻokaʻulua kekahi e wehewehe pēlā. ʻO kekahi ʻōlelo aʻo, ʻaʻole pono e noʻonoʻo i ke kumuhana, i ka manawa i ʻōlelo ʻia ai nā mea nui, hiki i ke kanaka makua ke neʻe i mua, me ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana i ka mea nui i ka hanana, i ʻole e hoʻokalakupua i ke kūlana. "I kēia hihia, hiki i ke kanaka makua ke hana i kahi ʻano lokomaikaʻi, e hoʻolohe pono i ka mea a ke keiki i manaʻo ai, i kāna manaʻo no ia mea", hoʻopau ka psychoanalyst.