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ʻO ka nīnau, pehea ʻoe i haʻi aku ai i kou mau mākua e pili ana i ka hāpai keiki, pili no nā wahine he nui.
ʻAneʻane ʻo kēlā me kēia wahine i loaʻa ka hānai maʻamau e hele a ma hope paha nā hoa aloha a me nā hoaloha me ka nīnau: "Pehea ʻoe i haʻi aku ai i kou mau mākua e pili ana i ka hāpai?" A ʻo ka pane, ʻaʻohe mea maʻalahi e like me kā mākou e makemake ai. No ka mea he mea pono e noʻonoʻo i ke kūlana o kēlā me kēia kanaka. No laila, e noʻonoʻo mākou i nā koho nui hiki.
ʻO ka hāpai ʻana he nūhou maikaʻi ʻole ia no nā mākua a me ka ʻohana.
Pehea ʻoe i haʻi ai i kou mau mākua e pili ana i ka hāpai keiki?
ʻAʻole kahi ola moʻolelo moʻolelo maikaʻi, a i kekahi manawa he mea ʻino ka helehelena o ke keiki no ka makuahine a me kona ʻohana. Hiki ke nui nā kumu, no ka laʻana, ka makahiki ʻōpio o ke kaikamahine, ke kūlana kālā paʻakikī o nā mākua. Ma ke ʻano maʻamau, i loko o ia kūlana he paʻakikī psychologically e pane i ka nīnau pehea e haʻi ai i nā mākua e pili ana i ka hāpai keiki, akā aia kahi ala i waho.
I kēia hihia, pono ʻoe e koho i kahi kamaʻilio pilikino me ka makua a ka wahine e hilinaʻi nui ai (ʻo ka maʻamau ka makuahine), a hoʻomākaukau ʻo ia i kekahi hoahānau ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka hapanui paha, ʻaʻole ia e hana me ka ʻole o kahi hōʻino. Akā i ka hopena, e launa nā kūpuna, a maikaʻi nā mea āpau.
ʻO ka hāpai he lā hoʻomaha no nā mākua a me nā ʻohana āpau
Ke hoʻonohonoho pono nei ke kūlana kālā, aia ke kaikamahine i ka makahiki kūpono, a hoʻolālā ʻia ke keiki i kēlā me kēia ʻano, a laila wehe ʻia kahi kuanaʻike ʻokoʻa loa. I kēia hihia, nā ala e haʻi ai i nā mākua e pili ana i ka hāpai ʻana he mau hana ʻoluʻolu; ʻo nā loea o kēia au i ka nui. E noʻonoʻo i nā mea i makemake nui ʻia:
1. ʻAina ʻaina awakea. Maʻamau nā mea āpau ma aneʻi: hele mai ka poʻe, ʻai a inu, a laila i ke aumoe o ke ahiahi e hoʻolaha ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine i ka nūhou maikaʻi.
2. Kiʻi kiʻi laulā. I kēia hihia hoʻi, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana me ka ʻole o ka meaʻai. Ke kokoke i ke ahiahi, hāʻawi nā mea nui e kiʻi i kiʻi me he mea hoʻomanaʻo, a i ka manawa koʻikoʻi e ʻōlelo lākou i nā huaʻōlelo i aloha nui ʻia: "... hāpai (ka inoa o ke kaikamahine)!"
3. Puzzles. No nā mākua sophisticated a inventive, hiki iā ʻoe ke kauoha i nā puʻupuʻu puʻupuʻu, e ʻohiʻohi ana i nā hoahānau e aʻo e pili ana i ka loli i ko lākou kūlana.
ʻO kekahi ala e hōʻike ai i ka hāpai ʻana he "maʻamau"
I ke au e pupule ai ka poʻe e pili ana i nā keiki a kūkulu i ko lākou ola a puni lākou, makemake paha kekahi e hana me ka ʻole o nā pathos a me ka hanohano. I kēia hihia, hiki iā ʻoe ke kāhea i kou mau mākua a me nā hoaaloha pili a hōʻike i ka hanana hauʻoli. A ʻo ka superstitious makemake e haʻi i nā ʻohana wale nō i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki (ʻoiai ke hiki i ke keiki mua). ʻO ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki kahi hanana koʻikoʻi i ke ola o kēlā me kēia kāne, no laila ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha e hoʻāʻo pinepine ka poʻe e lawe i nā helu āpau.