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Nā makua kāne hou, nā makua moa maoli!
He aha ke ʻano o ka makua kāne i kēia lā?
I loko o kahi noiʻi hou i kapa ʻia ʻo "Being a father today", i paʻi ʻia e UNAF i Iune 2016, kokoke i ka hapalua o nā makuakāne i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i ʻōlelo ʻia he "ʻokoʻa" ko lākou ʻano mai ka makuahine o kā lākou mau keiki. A na ko lakou makuakane no hoi. "'Ōlelo lākou uaʻoi aku ka nānā aku,ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kamaʻilioʻana, e pili kokoke i kā lākou mau keiki,ʻoi aku ka manaʻo, a me ke komoʻana i kā lākou kula ma mua o kā lākou makua kāne i hana ai me lākou", wahi a ka haʻawina. I ka nīnau "He aha ka makua kāne maikaʻi?" ", Hoʻopuka nā kāne i ke ʻano o ka makua kāne ma o ka" hele ʻana, ka hoʻolohe ʻana, ma ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi wahi palekana kahi e ulu ai nā keiki ", a i ʻole ma ke ʻano he makua" nānā a mālama ". Hōʻike kēia noiʻi i ke ʻano o ka makua kāne i kūʻē kūʻē i ka mea i noho aliʻi ma nā makahiki 70, ʻaʻole manaʻo. ʻO kekahi haʻawina: ʻōlelo nā makua kāne ua lilo lākou i kumu hoʻohālike… ko lākou makuahine ponoʻī (43%)! ʻAe, na ko lākou makuahine ponoʻī lākou e hoʻoikaika ai e hoʻonaʻauao i kā lākou mau keiki. ʻO kekahi haʻawina: 56% o "nā makua kāne hou" e manaʻoʻiʻo i ka manaʻo o ke kaiāulu i kā lākou kuleana he "emi koʻikoʻi ma mua o ko ka makuahine". ʻOiai i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka nuanced.
Ua hoʻopukapuka kālā nā makuakāne i kēlā me kēia lā
Hōʻike maopopo ka ʻimi noiʻi i ka makemake "ikaika" o nā makuakāne e komo, ʻoiai inā ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo nā wahine ka mea e hoʻolimalima ʻelua manawa me nā keiki ma mua o nā kāne. ʻO ke kumu nui i hāʻawi ʻia e nā makua kāne i nīnau ʻia ʻo ia ka manawa i hoʻohana ʻia ma ka hana. Hōʻike kekahi: "ʻOi aku au ma mua o ʻumi hola o ka lā ma koʻu wahi hana, me ka helu ʻole ʻana i ke ala a me nā kaʻa kaʻa", a i ʻole: "ʻAʻole au i ka manawa ʻaina awakea, a no nā kumu ʻoihana hoʻokahi pule o ʻelua", hōʻike. - lākou. ʻO kekahi hōʻike ʻē aʻe, ʻo Mathieu, ka makuakāne o kahi Helios liʻiliʻi, he 10 mahina. "He luna hoʻokō wau i ka ʻoihana kamaʻilio o kahi haukapila, no laila he nui kaʻu mau hola hana. ʻO kaʻu mea nui i laila no kaʻu keiki e like me kaʻu hiki, i ke kakahiaka a me ke ahiahi. Mai ka hola 7 am a hiki i ka hola 7:30 am, na ka makuahine e mālama iā Helios, a laila lawe au a hoʻokuʻu iā ia i ka hola 8:30 am ma ka crèche. Hoʻokahi hola au i ke kakahiaka me ia. He manawa koʻikoʻi kēia. I ke ahiahi, hoʻi au i ka hale ma kahi o 18 pm a mālama iā ia no kahi hola maikaʻi pū kekahi. Hāʻawi wau iā ia i ka ʻauʻau me ka makuahine, e kaʻana like i nā mea he nui, "wahi āna.
Hoʻolauleʻa ola ʻoihana a me ka ʻohana
Ma kāna puke "The Big Book of New Fathers", Eric Saban, pediatrician, papa inoa i nā nīnau he 100 a nā makua kāne ʻōpio e nīnau iā lākou iho. Ma waena o lākou, aia nā mea e pili ana i ka hoʻolauleʻa ma waena o ke ola ʻoihana a me ke ola hou me ka pēpē. Makemake nā makua kāne ʻōpio e ʻimi i ke kaulike kūpono ma waena o kā lākou mau koi ʻoihana a me ka hui me kā lākou keiki. ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mua mai ka pediatrician: ka pono e hoʻonohonoho i nā palena maopopo i ka hana. ʻAʻohe hana ma ka pōkole ma ka home, ʻoki i ka pona ʻoihana i nā hopena pule, mai nīnau i kāu mau leka uila ʻoihana, i ka pōkole, pono ke ʻoki maoli e hana i ka hapa nui o kou ʻohana ma waho o nā hola hana. ʻO kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo: e hana i nā papa inoa ma ka hana e hoʻomaka mua i nā pilikia pilikia, nā mea nui a me nā mea hiki ke kali. E like me ka wehewehe ʻana o Eric Saban: "I ka hopena, ʻae kēia i ka mālama ʻana i ka manawa ʻoihana e like me ka hiki i ʻole e komo i ke ola pilikino. Mai kānalua i ka hāʻawi ʻana. Hoʻopoina pinepine mākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hoʻonui mau ʻana e alakaʻi i ka manaʻo ikaika o nā mea a mākou e hoʻokō ai i kēlā me kēia lā, a ke alakaʻi nei i ka lawe ʻana i ka hana i ka home. ʻO ke ʻano he manakia ʻo ia ka ʻike pehea e hilinaʻi ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe o kāu hui. Nau no e puunaue i ka ukana i kou mau hoa. ʻO ka hope, haʻalele mākou i ka hana i nā manawa paʻa. ʻAe, inā paʻakikī i ka hoʻomaka ʻana, hoʻoikaika mākou iā mākou iho e noho ma ka home no kā mākou keiki i ka manawa kūpono i mea e hoʻohana pono ai iā ia, "wahi āna.
E hana i kahi pilina pili loa me kāu keiki
Hoʻomaopopo ka makuakāne ʻo Helios i ka wā lōʻihi i kahi pilina maopopo me kāna keiki: "Ke ʻike nei au i kahi pilina ma waena o mākou, ʻoiai inā i kēia manawa ke hoʻāʻo nui nei ʻo ia, no laila pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo iā ia aia kahi pale hōʻailona. aole e hele kea. I koʻu ala e kamaʻilio ai iā ia, hoʻāʻo wau e lilo i mea maikaʻi, paipai wau iā ia, wehewehe i nā mea iā ia, hoʻomaikaʻi iā ia. Ua kākau piha wau i ka neʻe ʻana o ka hoʻonaʻauao kūpono, "hoʻohui ʻo ia. E like me kona manawa kaʻawale, pili loa kēia makuakāne: “Ua hoʻonohonoho piha ʻia kā mākou hopena pule a puni kā mākou keiki ʻo Helios. Me ka makuahine, hele mākou ʻekolu i ka ʻauʻau pēpē, maikaʻi! A laila, ma hope o ka hiamoe a me ka ʻai ʻana, hele mākou e hele wāwae me ia, a i ʻole e kipa i ka ʻohana a i ʻole nā hoaaloha. Hoʻāʻo mākou e ʻike iā ia i nā mea like ʻole e like me ka hiki, "i wehewehe ʻo ia.
ʻO ka māhele nui o nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā
Hōʻike pū ka noiʻi UNAF e komo kēia mau makuakāne i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā, ʻoi aku hoʻi i nā lā ʻaʻole lākou e hana. Ma keʻano laulā, mālama maikaʻi ʻia nā hana: komo nā makuakāne i nā manawa leʻaleʻa a i ʻole hele pū me kā lākou mau keiki i nā hana, ʻoiai mālama nā makuahine i ka ʻai, ka wā moe a me ka mālama olakino. ʻAʻohe hoʻololi nui ma laila. ʻO ka hapa nui o lākou (84%), ua hōʻike naʻe ʻaʻole pilikia lākou i ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā hana makua. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka nānā ʻana i ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana o ke keiki, ka hele ʻana i kahi moe a me ka hoʻomalu ʻana i ka hiamoe ʻo ia ka mea e pilikia ai lākou. "ʻO ka lōʻihi o ka manawa o ka haʻalele ʻana i ka home, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka nui o nā makua kāne e haʻi ana ua ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu o kā lākou kāne me nā keiki ma mua o ka piʻi ʻana," wahi a ka haʻawina. Akā ʻaʻole like me nā wahine, ʻaʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo i ka hana liʻiliʻi e hoʻolako iā lākou iho. Manaʻo nā mea noiʻi ʻaʻole i pane ʻia kēia nīnau no nā kāne he nui: "He hoʻoilina anei kēia o ka māhele kuʻuna o nā kuleana, kahi e hoʻokani ai ka makuakāne i ke kuleana o ka mea hoʻolako waiwai kālā? A i ʻole ka hewa o ke kūʻē ʻana o ka poʻe hana e ʻae i nā makuakāne e hoʻoponopono i kā lākou mau hola hana, a i ʻole ke ʻano i ka pane ʻana i ka like ʻole o ka uku e waiho nei i ka hapa nui ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine, "i nīnau ai ka noiʻi. Ua wehe ʻia ka nīnau.
* UNAF: National Union of Family Associations