Ke keiki transgender: pehea e kākoʻo ai i nā mākua?

He kumuhana kapu i kekahi mau makahiki aku nei, ua hoolaha nui ia ka ike ana i na keiki transgender. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo e ʻae maʻalahi kēia pilikia i loko o kā mākou hui a ʻo ka kānalua a i ʻole ka hoʻolaha ʻana o ka transidentity o kahi keiki he mea pahū pinepine ia no ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa. He mea paʻakikī ke hoʻonoho iā ʻoe iho nā mākua, hopohopo e pili ana i ka wā e hiki mai ana a me nā pilikia e kū ai ke keiki, e ʻimi i nā huaʻōlelo kūpono, ka manaʻo kūpono a i ʻole e ʻike pololei i ke ʻano o ka transidentity. Ua manaʻo ʻia kahi hōʻike 2009 mai ka Haute Autorité de santé a puni hoʻokahi i loko o 10 a i ʻole hoʻokahi i 000 he transgender ma Palani.

Wehewehe: trans, transgender, transexual, gender dysphoria, non-binary… ʻO wai nā huaʻōlelo i kūpono loa?

ʻOiai ua hoʻohana nui ʻia ka pōkole "trans" ma ka pāpaho, nā hui a me nā kaiāulu e pili ana, aia nā hewa i ka ʻōlelo Farani e pili ana i nā huaʻōlelo "transgender" a me "transsexual". ʻOiaʻiʻo, inā manaʻo kekahi he ʻano like lākou, wehewehe kekahi i ka huaʻōlelo "transgender". ka lawe ʻana i ke ʻano o ke ʻano o ke kāne ʻē aʻe me ka ʻole o ka hoʻololi ʻana i ke kāne., ʻoiai ʻo "transsexual" e pili wale ana i ka poʻe i hana i ke kaʻina hana lapaʻau a me ke kaʻina hana e hoʻololi i kā lākou wahine.

E akahele, nui nā hui e hōʻole i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo "transsexual" a i ʻole "transsexual" e pili ana i ka manaʻo o ka maʻi - ʻaʻole ia ka hihia me ka transidentity ʻaʻole hiki ke "ho'ōla ʻia", a no laila. he huaʻōlelo i hoʻopaʻa ʻia ʻaʻole pono e hoʻohana hou ʻia, no ka transgender.

ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e nīnau i kāu keiki i nā huaʻōlelo āna e makemake ai e hoʻohana, e like me ia kona mau hua'ōlelo (he / she / iel /…).

I loko o ka papa hana maʻamau, e ʻike kāu keiki i kahi kauka psychiatrist nāna e hōʻoia i ka a dysphoria male. ʻO ia hoʻi, aia maoli ka pilikia ma waena o kāna kāne a me kāna kāne, ka mea i hāʻawi ʻia iā ia ma ka hānau ʻana e like me kona ʻano morphological.

Eia kekahi, ʻo ka huaʻōlelo ʻAʻole pili ka binary mai ka manaʻo ʻole e komo i kekahi o nā ʻano ʻelua i hoʻokumu ʻia, a i ʻole ka manaʻo iki o nā mea ʻelua, ma nā ʻano like ʻole. Hoʻohana pinepine ʻia nā huaʻōlelo ma ka ʻōlelo Pelekania e nā kaiāulu pili e wehewehe iā lākou iho he "gender-fluid", "no-gender", "he kāne" a i ʻole "ke kāne like ʻole".

Nā keiki transgender: i ka makahiki hea lākou e ʻike ai i ko lākou "ʻokoʻa"?

I Kepakemapa 2013, ma Argentina, ua ʻae ʻia nā mākua e hoʻololi i ke kāne o kā lākou keiki 6 makahiki ma kā lākou palapala ʻike. Ua pani ʻia kona inoa mua ʻo Manuel e Luana. Ua wehewehe kona makuahine e like me ke kaikamahine mau ʻo “Lulu”. I kekahi mau mahina ma mua, ua paʻi nā mākua o Coy Mathi, he ʻAmelika liʻiliʻi o ia mau makahiki, i nā poʻomanaʻo. Ma hope o ka loaʻa ʻana hoʻopiʻi hoʻokae, ua lanakila lākou i kā lākou hihia kūʻē i kāna kula. Ua pāpā ʻia ke keiki e hoʻohana i nā halepaku o nā kaikamahine ʻoiai ua manaʻo ʻo ia he wahine. Wahi a kona mau ʻohana, ua hoʻomaka ʻo Coy i ke ʻano he kaikamahine i ka 18 mahina wale nō. Ua loaʻa i nā psychiatrist ʻike ʻia me ka male dysphoria i kona wā he 4 mau makahiki.

Mai ka makahiki hea e hiki ai iā mākou ke noʻonoʻo a ʻōlelo paha he transgender ke keiki ma lalo o kēia mau kūlana? Wahi a Polofesa Marcel Rufo, ʻaʻohe palena makahiki. « Ua hahai au i ka wahine transgender no nā makahiki he iwakālua. Ua hoʻololi ʻo ia i kēia manawa a ua male ʻo ia “. Ua wehewehe ke keiki psychiatrist " mai 4-5-6 mau makahiki, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i kēia pilikia i kahi keiki “. Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi hōʻike ʻo Council of Europe i paʻi ʻia ma 2013 e hiki ke loaʻa ka manaʻo o ka pili ʻana i ka wahine i kēlā me kēia manawa: i ka wā ʻōpio, i ka wā " makahiki mua o ke ola "A i ʻole ma mua o hoʻokahi makahiki, "Me ka hiki ʻole o ke keiki ke kamaʻilio i ka poʻe e puni ana iā ia ".

« Kūlike ʻole i ka manaʻo o ka poʻe he nui. ʻaʻole paʻa ka manaʻo o ke kāne mai ka hānau ʻana, wahi a Professor Rufo. I ka makahiki 1970, ua hana nā mea noiʻi ʻAmelika i nā haʻawina ma nā kahu hānai Kaleponi. A laila ʻike lākou ua hiki i nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi ke hoʻoholo i kā lākou kāne ma mua o nā keikikāne. Mai ka 18 mahina, lawe lākou i nā ʻano ʻano wahine : ma ka pāʻani, ke ala e mālama ai i kā lākou pēpē… kope lākou i ko lākou mau makuahine. Ma ko lakou aoao, ʻike nā keikikāne i kā lākou kāne ma 20 mahina. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua hoʻopili ʻia kēia mau ʻano e ke koho ʻana i ka inoa mua, nā ʻano makua, nā code social… »

Ke keiki transgender: nā hui e kākoʻo iā mākou ma hope o ka hoʻolaha a i ʻole ka "puka ʻana" o kā mākou keiki

« I kekahi manawa noʻonoʻo nā mākua inā hiki iā lākou ke kūʻai i pēpē no ke keikikāne a i ʻole nā ​​kaʻa pāʻani no ke kaikamahine. He lapuwale loa keia! ʻO kēlā ʻaʻole pili i ka ʻike kāne kāne hiki i ke keiki ke loaʻa iā ia iho », Ke koi nei i ke keiki psychiatrist, ka mea i hoʻomanaʻo i ka transidentity, aia ma luna o nā nīnau a pau o ka biology a me nā hormones e pili ana.

He aha nā hōʻailona hiki ke alakaʻi i nā mākua? Wahi a ka loea, he a hoʻonohonoho o nā ʻāpana a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole e kuhikuhi i kahi hōʻailona hoʻokahi, hiki ke alakaʻi hewa. ʻOiai ʻaʻohe mea i paʻa maoli ma mua o ka ʻōlelo ʻana o ke keiki he transgender: " ʻO ke keiki i manaʻo ʻia he kāne ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ia he ʻōpio a he transgender makua. "'Ōleloʻo ia.

ʻO ka poʻe loea i haʻi ʻia ma ka hōʻike ʻana o ka Council of Europe i kēia manaʻo. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka nui o nā loea i komo i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i ka haʻawina e koi nei i ka pono i nā keiki a nā mākua e aʻo ai e "hoʻomanawanui" keia maopopo ole.

'Ōlelo Aʻo: he kaikamahine transgender he kaikamahine i haʻi ʻia he kāne ma ka hānau ʻana akā ʻo kona manaʻo ponoʻī kāne ke ʻano o ke kaikamahine - a ʻo ia hoʻi no nā keikikāne transgender. 

No ka mea, ʻaʻole maʻalahi kēia kūlana me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia a aʻo mua ʻia ma ke ʻano he mau mākua, hiki ke i kēia lā e huli i nā hui lehulehu, ma laila nō hoʻi e alakaʻi i ka poʻe puni. ʻO nā huaʻōlelo koʻikoʻi, noʻonoʻo a me ka hana hoʻokele…Hui OUTrans hāʻawi, no ka laʻana, hui kākoʻo pūʻulu i loko o Paris māhele 'āina, a me kaHui Chrysalis, i hoʻokumu ʻia ma Lyon, nāna i hoʻomohala i kahi alakaʻi no nā mea aloha Loaʻa ka poʻe trans ma ka pūnaewele no ka manuahi. ʻO kekahi laʻana, kaKe ulu nei i ka hui Trans, ma Tours, hoʻopuka i kahi "mea paahana makua»Paʻa loa a hoʻonaʻauao.

He kaikamahine liʻiliʻi transgender a he keikikāne paha: ka mea nui o ka ʻae ʻana i kāu koho

ʻAʻole i hoʻomaopopo pinepine ʻia, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā keiki transgender nā mea i hoʻopilikia ʻia i ke kula a me ka hoʻomāinoino. Ua maʻalahi hoʻi lākou i nā manaʻo suicidal. ʻO ia ke kumu, e like me ka hōʻike o ka Council of Europe, ʻo ia pono e ʻae ka hui, nā mākua, ke kula, nā limahana kahu ka manaʻo o kēia poʻe ʻōpio iā lākou iho. ʻO Erik Schneider, psychiatrist a me psychotherapist mea kākau o ka hōʻike, hoʻopau i kāna loiloi ma ke koʻikoʻi e pono e hana ʻia kēia ʻae " ma ka pae kaiaulu holoʻokoʻa ".

Akā, e like me kā Marcel Rufo i hōʻike ai, ʻaʻole ʻae ka ʻaha kanaka i kēia manawa: " Inā mākou i noho i kahi honua maikaʻi, ʻoi aku ka hoʻomanawanui, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o nā mākua i ka koho a kā lākou keiki, no ka mea. e emi iho ko lakou makau no kona palekana. Akā ʻo ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, ma Farani, ʻaʻole i hana ʻia kahi transgender ma mua o ka hiki ʻana i ka makahiki o ka hapa nui. No nā makahiki e ʻeha ʻo ia i ka hoʻomanawanui ikaika. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au hiki i kekahi ke mahalo i ke koho ʻana o kāna keiki me ka noi ʻana iā ia e mahalo i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻole i hiki ke hana i kāna koho. ", Manaolana ka loea.

Ka hahai noʻonoʻo: pehea e wehewehe ai he ʻoi aku ka nui o nā keikikāne ma mua o nā kaikamahine?

ʻAʻole ʻōlelo mau nā keiki i ko lākou mau manaʻo, ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike ʻia. ʻO kekahi pitfall: hōʻole pinepine nā mākua i ka ʻae ʻana i kēia kūlana a no laila makemake ʻole lākou e nīnau i ke kauka psychiatrist e kākoʻo maikaʻi i kā lākou keiki i ke kulana o ka mai. Eia naʻe, e like me kā Professor Rufo i hōʻike ai, he mea nui ka hahai ʻana i ke kino, " ʻaʻole e hoʻololi i nā keiki akā e kōkua iā lākou e hoʻomau i ko lākou ala ".

Hoʻomaopopo pū ʻo ia aia kahi ʻokoʻa o kekahi mau makahiki ma waena o nā mākua o nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne e kūkākūkā ana no ka transidentity: " ʻIke au i nā keikikāne liʻiliʻi hou aʻe ma ke kūkākūkā. ʻO ka manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻo ke kāne kūpono ke ʻano like ʻole i nā kaikamahine, akā ʻo ka 'tomboy' ʻaʻole i hopohopo nui ʻia no nā mākua ma mua o ke keiki ʻōpio a makemake paha e lilo i kaikamahine. . No nā mākua, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēia kūlana. Ua wehewehe ʻia kēia e ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻO ka sexism ka mea i loaʻa i ko mākou kaiaulu. ʻO nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi aʻu i kamaʻilio ai, ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka lōʻihi a he 7-8 mau makahiki i ka wā kūkākūkā mua ".

He aha nā lāʻau lapaʻau i ka wā o ka hoʻololi wahine?

Inā he haʻahaʻa ko lākou helu ma muli o ka maopopo ʻole o nā mākua a i ʻole ka hāmau ʻana i ka paia o lākou, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā keiki e nīnau ana i ka nā kikowaena lapaʻau kūikawā i ke kōkua hoʻololi. Akā, ma mua o ka hiki ke hoʻololi ʻia, nui nā ʻanuʻu e pono e hoʻokō ʻia e ka poʻe transgender, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka wā e koi ai lākou i ko lākou ʻano trans i ka wā he kamaliʻi wale nō lākou. E holo ana ka hoʻomau noʻonoʻo noʻonoʻo i nā makahiki he nui, akā naʻe, i ka hapa nui o nā hihia ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā mea e pili ana i kēia pilikia: nā maʻi ʻai, nā ʻeha o waho e pili ana i ka laʻana. ka hoʻoweliweli, ke kaumaha, nā pilikia pili kaiaulu, ka haʻalele ʻana i ke kula...

Ua ʻae kekahi mau kānāwai i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā "puberty blockers", kahi ʻenehana i hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻia no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e pale wale i ke ʻano o nā hiʻohiʻona lua e like me ka ulu ʻana o ka lauoho a me ka hoʻololi ʻana o ke kino, akā ʻo ka ulu ʻana a me ka calcification o nā iwi. , fertility… I kekahi mau ʻāina, e like me United Kingdom, Germany, Belgium a me Netherlands, hiki ke hoʻohuli ʻia kēia mau lāʻau lapaʻau a hoʻopau i ka ulu ʻana o ka ʻōpio i nā keiki, e hāʻawi iā lākou i manawa e koho ai. ʻO ka Dutch, ka mea mua i hoʻomaka i kēia ʻano hoʻāʻo, paipai i kēia mau blockers mai ka makahiki 10 a i ʻole 12, a hiki i ka makahiki 16.

I Farani, ʻo nā lāʻau lapaʻau ʻoi loa palapala kauoha d'hormones (testosterone a estrogen paha), ʻaʻohe kumu kūʻai i ke kanaka e neʻe nei inā ʻike ʻia kahi aloha lōʻihi. Eia naʻe, ʻAʻole mālama ʻia ka lāʻau hormonal ma Farani ma mua o ka makahiki 16, a laila koi ʻia ka ʻae ʻana o nā ʻelele o ka mana makua. Hōʻike nā haʻawina hou e mihi ana nā mākua i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kā lākou kāne, ʻoiai inā e hōʻike ana nā helu i kahi hopena liʻiliʻi, ma ke ʻano o 5%. ʻO ia ke kumu i mālama ʻia ai ke kaʻina hana no nā keiki.

Nā Kuleana: pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke kōkua i kaʻu keiki ma ke ʻano he makua?

ʻO ka mea mua, pono e hoʻomanaʻo i kēlā ʻO kekahi ʻōlelo hōʻino - sexist, homophobic a transphobic, he hewa ia e hoʻopaʻi ʻia e nā hoʻopaʻi kalaima. ʻO ka ʻōlelo hōʻino i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka ʻōlelo, ka hoʻōho, ka hoʻoweliweli, ke kākau ʻana a i ʻole ke kiʻi e hoʻopaʻi ʻia e ka uku o 12 euros. Inā mālama ʻia kahi ʻano transphobic, hoʻonui ka hoʻopaʻi i ka uku o 000 euros a me hoʻokahi makahiki o ka hale paʻahao. No laila, mai hoʻokaʻulua e waiho i kahi hoʻopiʻi inā loaʻa kā mākou keiki i ka hoʻomāinoino, ʻoiai ʻo ia no ka manawa "wale" nā ʻōlelo hōʻino.

Hiki ke noi a hoʻololi i ka inoa mua i luna kūlana kivila ʻaʻole hou i ka luna kānāwai, me ka ʻae ʻole i ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka wahine a i ʻole ka hōʻike ʻana i kahi palapala hōʻoia psychiatric. ʻAʻole pono e hoʻohana hou ʻia ka inoa ma ka hānau ʻana a me ka hoʻāla ʻana i ke kāne ʻē aʻe, i kapa ʻia ʻo ka "inoa make", e ka hoʻokele, ke kula a me ke kaiapuni pilikino.

I mea e hoʻololi i ke kāne ma nā pepa ʻike, pono e hooiaio i mua o ka aha hookolokolo o ka home a i ole ke kaona kahi i malamaia ai ka palapala hanau, ua hoike ke kanaka ia ia iho ma ke akea ma ke ano o ka wahine; ʻike ʻia ke kanaka ma ke ʻano he wahine ʻē e kona poʻe pilikino a ʻoihana a puni kula paha; a i ʻole ua loaʻa i ke kanaka ka hoʻololi ʻana o ka inoa mua a makemake ʻo ia e kūlike kā lākou mau pepa ʻike.