Ma hope o ka mea kākau o ka manaʻo pili ʻo John Bowlby, ua manaʻo ke kanaka psychologist Kanada ʻo Gordon Neufeld ʻaʻohe mea e pono ai ke keiki no kona ulu ʻana ma mua o kahi pilina paʻa a hilinaʻi i kahi makua. 'A'ole na'e i hana 'akomi 'ia, 'a'ole hiki i nā keiki a pau ke ho'okō i ka pilina o ka na'au a me ka no'ono'o me kahi kanaka makua nui.
E pili ana pehea e hiki ai i nā mākua ke hoʻohana i kēia kumumanaʻo i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa, hiki ke loaʻa, me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā hiʻohiʻona ʻike ʻia, wahi a ka haumāna a Neufeld, psychologist Kelemania ʻo Dagmar Neubronner. Ua wehewehe ʻo ia i ke kumu e pono ai nā keiki e hilinaʻi i ke kanaka makua, he aha ka mea e wehewehe ai i ko lākou mau makaʻu a me nā ʻano ʻino. I ka ʻike ʻana i kēia mau hiʻohiʻona, hiki iā mākou ke kūkulu i ko mākou aloha aloha i kēlā me kēia lā.
Punawai, 136 p.