Manaʻo nā psychologists he kūpono ʻole kēia, a ʻaʻole loa he aloha ʻāina - he pale o ke aloha i ka pōʻino weliweli loa o nā kānaka.
I kēia mau lā, ua komo kaʻu keiki kāne ʻehiku makahiki i ka hoʻokūkū heluhelu āpana. ʻO ke kumuhana, ʻo ia nō, ka Lā Lanakila.
"Pono mākou i kiʻi," i ʻōlelo ai ke kumu-hoʻonohonoho me ka hopohopo.
Kiʻi no kiʻi. Eia kekahi, i nā hale kūʻai o kēia mau kiʻi - keu hoʻi i kēia manawa, no ka lā hoʻomaha - no kēlā me kēia ʻono a me ka ʻeke. Pono ʻoe i kahi pāpale koa, e hele i kekahi hypermarket: ma laila he huahana kau wale nō ia i kēia manawa. Inā makemake ʻoe i kahi lole lole piha, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a me nā ʻoi aku o ka maikaʻi o ka maikaʻi, e hele i kahi hale lole ʻaina. Inā makemake ʻoe i ke kumu kūʻai hou a ʻaneʻane like me kahi maoli - aia kēia ma Voentorg. ʻO nā nui, ʻoiai no ka pēpē hoʻokahi makahiki. ʻO kāu pūʻulu piha kāu e koho ai: me nā pālule, me nā pōkole, me ke kapa komo, me nā binocular o ka luna o ka…
Ma ka laulā, ua ʻaʻahu au i ke keiki. I ke kapa kūlike, ua ʻano wiwo ʻole a paʻakikī hoʻi kaʻu haumāna mua. Ke holoi nei i kahi waimaka, ua hoʻouna wau i ke kiʻi i nā ʻohana a me nā hoa aloha āpau.
"He aha ke kanaka makua ʻoi", - hoʻoneʻe ʻia hoʻokahi kupuna wahine.
"He kūpono iā ia," - mahalo i ka hoa hana.
A hoʻokahi wale nō hoa aloha i ʻae ʻoiaʻiʻo: ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia i nā kapa komo i nā keiki.
“ʻAe, kula koa ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ka cadet corps. Akā ʻaʻole kēlā mau makahiki, ”ʻo ia ka mahele.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu nā mākua e ʻaahu ana i nā keiki ma ke ʻano he koa a kahu kahu paha, e hele wāwae wale ana i waena o nā poʻe koa i ka lā 9 o Mei. Ma ke ʻano he kapa komo keaka - ʻae, ua kūpono ia. I ke ola - ʻaʻole nō.
No ke aha kēia masquerade? E komo i nā aniani o nā kiʻi paʻi kiʻi a me nā wikiō? E hōʻoki i nā mahalo mai ka poʻe ʻelemakule i komo pono i kēia kapa? E hōʻike i kou mahalo i ka lā nui (inā, ʻoiaʻiʻo, pono nui nā hiʻohiʻona kūwaho), ua lawa ka lipine St. George. ʻOiai ʻoi aku ka mahalo o kēia i ke ʻano ma mua o kahi hōʻailona maoli. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, hoʻomanaʻo iki ka poʻe i ka manaʻo maoli o kēia lipine. Maopopo anei iā 'oe?
ʻO nā psychologists, ma ke ala, kūʻē pū kekahi iā ia. Manaʻo lākou he mea kēia e hōʻike ai nā mākua i nā keiki he leʻaleʻa ke kaua.
"He mea aloha kēia a me ka hoʻonani ʻana o ka mea maikaʻi loa i loko o ko mākou ola - kaua, - ua kākau kahi psychologist i kahi ʻano kūlana ma Facebook. Elena Kuznetsova... - ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻo e loaʻa i nā keiki ma o nā hana a nā mākua he kaua nui, he lā hoʻomaha ia, no ka mea laila hopena ia i ka lanakila. Akā ʻaʻole pono ia. Pau ke kaua i ke ola ʻole ma nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua. Luakupapau. Fraternal a kaʻawale. I kekahi mau manawa ʻaʻohe mea e hele e hoʻomanaʻo. No ka mea ʻaʻole koho nā kaua i ka nui o ka noho ʻana mai kekahi ʻohana e lawe i uku no ka hiki ʻole i ka poʻe ke noho me ka maluhia. ʻAʻole koho ʻia nā kaua - kā mākou ʻaʻole kā mākou. E uku wale i nā kumukūʻai. Lawe ʻia kēia i ka maka o nā keiki. “
Hoʻomaopopo ʻo Elena: ʻo nā lole koa ka lole no ka make. E hana i kahi make untimely e hālāwai me ʻoe iho.
"Pono nā keiki e kūʻai i nā lole e pili ana i ke ola, ʻaʻole no ka make," kākau ʻo Kuznetsova. - Ma ke ʻano he kanaka e hana pū ana me ka psyche, maopopo iaʻu ka hiki i ka manaʻo mahalo ke loli. Maliʻa paha he makemake e hoʻolauleʻa like. ʻO ka hauʻoli o ka lokahi - ʻaelike ma ka pae waiwai - kahi hauʻoli nui kanaka. He mea nui ia no kākou e noho pū kekahi mea ... Ma ka liʻiliʻi he lanakila ʻoliʻoli, ma ka liʻiliʻi he hoʻomanaʻo kanikau .... Akā ʻaʻohe kaiāulu e kūpono ke uku aku iā ia ma o nā keiki i ʻaʻahu ʻia i ka lole make. “
Eia nō naʻe, ma kahi ʻāpana, hiki ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻia kēia manaʻo. ʻO ka ʻaʻahu koa ʻaʻole wale no ka make wale nō, akā no ka pale ʻana i ka ʻāina makuahine. ʻO kahi ʻoihana kūpono e hiki ai i kekahi ke hoʻokomo i ka mahalo o nā keiki. Pili paha nā keiki i kēia i ka hilinaʻi i ko lākou makahiki, ka psyche, ka noʻonoʻo i ka naʻau. A ʻo kekahi nīnau pehea e kamaʻilio ai.
He mea hoʻokahi ia i ka wā i hoʻi mai kahi makuakāne mai ke kaua mai, kau i kāna pāpale ma ke poʻo o kāna keiki. ʻO kahi ʻē aʻe kahi hana hou i kēia manawa mai ka mākeke lehulehu. Hoʻokomo lākou ia i hoʻokahi manawa, a hoʻolei iā ia i ke kihi o ka waihona. A hiki i ka lā 9 o Mei aʻe. He mea hoʻokahi ke pāʻani nā keiki i ke kaua, no ka mea, ua māʻona nā mea āpau a puni me ka ʻuhane o kēlā kaua - he ʻāpana kūlohelohe kēia o ko lākou ola. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe ka implantation ʻimi hoʻopunipuni ʻaʻole o ka hoʻomanaʻo, akā no kekahi idealization o ke kiʻi.
"Hōʻaʻahu wau i kaʻu keiki i mea e like ai ʻo ia me kahi mea pale i ka wā e hiki mai ana o ka Motherland," ua haʻi mai kahi hoa aloha iaʻu i ka makahiki i hala ma mua o ka parade. "Manaʻo wau he aloha ʻāina kēia, mahalo i nā poʻe kūpuna a mahalo hoʻi i ka maluhia."
Ma waena o nā paio "no" ke ʻano, ma ke ʻano he hōʻailona o ka hoʻomanaʻo o nā ʻaoʻao weliweli o ka mōʻaukala, kahi hoʻāʻo e hānai i kēlā "manaʻo mahalo" loa. "Hoʻomaopopo wau, haʻaheo wau", a ʻoi aku i ka ʻōlelo. ʻAe mākou. E noʻonoʻo mākou e noi lākou e hele mai i nā lole i nā kula a me nā kindergartens e komo i nā kaʻina ʻoliʻoli. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo
Eia wale nō ka nīnau: he aha ka mea i hoʻomanaʻo ʻia i loko o kēia hihia, a he aha ka haʻaheo o nā pēpē ʻelima mau mahina, i ʻaʻahu ʻia i kahi ʻano liʻiliʻi no ka pono o kekahi mau kiʻi. No ke aha? No nā mea makemake ʻē aʻe i ka ʻoihana pūnaewele?
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Pehea kou manaʻo no kēia?
ʻAʻole wau ʻike i kekahi mea kūpono ʻole me ka pālule o ke keiki, akā ʻaʻole wau e ʻaʻahu iaʻu iho.
A kūʻai mākou i nā hoʻopiʻi no ke keiki, a hoʻoneʻe ʻia ka poʻe kūpuna e ia.
E aho e wehewehe maʻalahi i ke keiki i ke kaua. A ʻaʻole maʻalahi kēia.
ʻAʻole wau e kāhiko i ke keiki, a ʻaʻole wau e hoʻokomo iaʻu iho. Ua lawa ka lipine - ma ka umauma wale nō, ʻaʻole ma ka ʻeke a me ka antenna o ke kaʻa.