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ʻOiai he mea nui ka launa pū me kāu mau keiki, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e haʻi aku ʻoe iā lākou i nā mea āpau. He mea nui e mālama iā lākou, kekahi mau mea e pili ana i nā mākua ...
E kūkākūkā i nā mea e pili ana iā ia
Inā ʻike mākou i kēia lā i ke ʻano o nā mea huna ʻohana ʻona, ʻike pū mākou ʻo ke koena o ka ʻike i hāʻawi mua ʻia e like me ka ʻona. No laila pehea mākou e koho ai i ka ʻike kūpono e kaʻana like me kā mākou poʻe liʻiliʻi? He mea maʻalahi loa ia, aia nā keiki i ke kuleana e ʻike pololei i nā mea e pili ana iā lākou. No ka laʻana, hoʻololi ka ʻohana, ka neʻe ʻana, ka make i loko o ka ʻohana, nā maʻi a i ʻole nā mākua. Loaʻa iā lākou ke kuleana e ʻike i nā mea āpau e pili ana i ko lākou kumu, ko lākou wahi i ka filiation, ko lākou hiki ke hāpai ʻia. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole mākou e kamaʻilio i kahi keiki 3 a 4 mau makahiki ma ke ʻano he 15 makahiki ʻōpio! Pono e hoʻokomo iā ia iho, e ʻimi i nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi i hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo a hoʻopaʻa i nā mea kikoʻī e hoʻopilikia iā ia. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻokokoke ʻana i nā pilikia o ke ola me kahi keiki liʻiliʻi, akā pono ia no ka mea he mau maka kona, pepeiao a ʻike ʻo ia i ka pilikia o ka ʻohana. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo ka hele pū ʻana me nā lono maikaʻi ʻole me nā ʻōlelo maikaʻi o ka manaʻolana: “Ua nalowale ʻo Pāpā i kāna hana, akā mai hopohopo, e loaʻa mau iā mākou nā mea e pono ai ke ola, ʻai, loaʻa kahi noho, pā mākou i nā alana. Ke ʻimi nei kou makuakāne i kahi hana hou a loaʻa iā ia. »E hoʻomākaukau pono i kāu mea e ʻōlelo ai, e kali a hiki i kou ikaika e ʻōlelo mālie, me ka hopohopo ʻole, me ka waimaka ʻole. Inā maʻi kekahi mea aloha, e hāʻawi i ka ʻike me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka manaʻo maikaʻi: “Ua hopohopo mākou no ka maʻi o kou kupuna wahine, akā ke hana nei nā kauka i nā mea āpau e hiki ai ke mālama iā ia. Manaʻolana mākou a pau e ola ʻo ia. “
Kau palena
ʻOiai he mea ʻino ke kani ʻana, pono e ʻōlelo ʻia ke keiki liʻiliʻi i ka wā e make ai kekahi kanaka koʻikoʻi o ka ʻohana, me nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi, maopopo, kūpono i ka makahiki: “Ua make kou kupuna kāne. Kaumaha mākou a pau, ʻaʻole mākou e poina iā ia no ka mea e mālama mākou i loko o ko mākou naʻau. “He mea nui ka hoohana ole ana i na olelo hoohalike i manaoia e emi ana ka oolea ma na pepeiao liilii, penei:” Ua hala aku nei ko kupunakane, ua hele i ka lani, ua hele i ka huakai loihi, ua haalele ia kakou, ua. hiamoe mau loa… ”. ʻOiaʻiʻo, lawe maoli ke keiki i nā mea āpau a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia e hoʻi hou mai ka mea make, e ala aʻe, e ʻike hou… E mālama pono e kamaʻilio me ia he alo a he alo, e nānā i kāna mau ʻano, e hoʻolohe iā ia. Inā ʻike ʻoe he ʻano kaumaha, hopohopo, hopohopo, paipai iā ia e haʻi iā ʻoe i kona manaʻo, hōʻoluʻolu a hōʻoluʻolu iā ia.
Ke hāʻawi ʻoe i ka ʻike, i ka manawa āu i pane ai i hoʻokahi nīnau a i ʻole ʻelua, mai hele i nā kikoʻī kikoʻī loa, a i ʻole ke ʻano palaka, nā kikoʻī. ʻO kāu kuleana ma ke ʻano he makua, e like me nā mea āpau, e kau i nā palena: “Ua haʻi aku wau iā ʻoe i nā mea e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike i kēia manawa. Ma hope aku, i kou wā ʻelemakule, hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio hou inā makemake ʻoe. E wehewehe mākou iā ʻoe a e ʻike ʻoe i nā mea a pau āu e makemake ai e ʻike. » No ka haʻi aku iā ia aia kekahi mau mea hiki ʻole iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo no ka mea he liʻiliʻi loa ia e hōʻailona ai i ka palena ma waena o nā hanauna a makemake ʻo ia e ulu aʻe…
E kamaʻilio me ia me ka noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka poʻe āna i aloha ai
He mea nui ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kāu keiki i nā mea e pili ana iā ia, akā he mea maikaʻi anei ke haʻi iā ia i kou manaʻo no nā poʻe mākua a puni ia? Mai kona mau kūpuna mai, no ka laʻana, ʻo ia hoʻi ko mākou mau mākua… He mea nui ka pilina o nā kamaliʻi me ko lākou mau kūpuna a pono kākou e mālama iā lākou. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻōlelo: “Me aʻu, he paʻakikī, akā aloha ʻoe iā lākou a aloha lākou iā ʻoe, a ʻike wau he maikaʻi lākou iā ʻoe! ʻO ka lokomaikaʻi like inā loaʻa kou mau aʻalolo. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e haʻi i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi e hoʻopōʻino ana kou makuahōnōwai wahine i kou ola, ʻoiai inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻAʻole ʻo ia ke kamaʻilio kūpono e hoʻoholo i kāu mau helu… Ma ke ʻano maʻamau, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e noi i kahi keiki e ʻaoʻao ma waena o ʻelua mau mākua āna i makemake ai. Inā ʻaoʻao ʻo ia, manaʻo ʻo ia i ka hewa a he ʻeha loa iā ia. ʻO kekahi kumuhana kapu, ʻo kāna mau hoaaloha a me kāna mau hoaaloha. ʻOiai ʻo kona mau makahiki, ʻaʻole mākou e "haʻihaʻi" i kāna mau hoaaloha no ka mea ʻo ia ka mea i manaʻo ʻia e nīnau ʻia a hōʻeha iā ia. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae i ka manaʻo o kekahi o kāna mau hoa, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo: “ʻO mākou ka manaʻo pēlā, ʻo kā mākou ʻike ia, akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia wale nō ka hihiʻo, a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike. i ole ia. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo ia ke pale mau i nā paʻa ikaika āna i hana ai me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO kekahi mea koʻikoʻi i ke ola o kahi kamaliʻi, kāna haku wahine. Eia hou, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake iā ia, mai hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kona mana i mua o kāu keiki. Inā hoʻopiʻi ʻo ia iā ia a me kāna mau ʻano hana, inā hoʻopaʻi mau ʻia ʻo ia no kāna ʻano i loko o ka papa, mai kau ʻoe i ke kuleana ma luna o ke kumu: “ʻOmo ʻo ia, ʻeha loa, ʻaʻole ʻike i kāna hana, ʻaʻohe ona. hoʻonaʻauao! Akā, e pāʻani i ke kūlana ma ke kōkua ʻana i kāu keiki e hoʻoponopono i kona pilikia, e hōʻike iā ia aia nā hopena, nā ala hana, nā hoʻoponopono. ʻAʻole kēia e pale i ka ʻakaʻaka me ia ma ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke kumu i kahi inoa ʻakaʻaka e lilo i code ma waena o ʻoe a me ia. ʻO ka ʻōlelo maikaʻi e hiki ai iā mākou ke hana i kahi ʻokoʻa.
E noho mālie e pili ana i kāu pilikino
ʻOiai he mea maʻamau ka nīnau ʻana o ka makua i kā lākou keiki i hea lākou e hele ai a ʻo wai hoʻi no ke kuleana o lākou, ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻana. ʻO ke ola aloha a me ka fortiori ke ola wahine o nā mākua, nā pilikia o kā lākou pilina, ʻaʻole pili i nā keiki. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo inā he kūʻē ka male, pono ʻoe e hoʻohālike ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau. ʻAʻohe mea e hoʻopunipuni ʻia ke heluhelu ʻia ka haʻalulu a me ka ʻehaʻeha ma nā maka a hele i loko o nā pores o ka ʻili… Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo i kahi kamaliʻi: “He ʻoiaʻiʻo, he pilikia mākou me kou makuakāne, he pilikia kanaka makua. ʻAʻohe mea pili iā ʻoe a ke ʻimi nei mākou i nā mea e hoʻoponopono ai. ” Manawa. I kēia mau makahiki, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i ka mea e hana ai me nā hilinaʻi, he kaumaha loa a ʻeha hoʻi iā ia no ka mea ua paʻa ʻo ia i kahi hakakā o ka kūpaʻa. Pono kēlā me kēia makua e hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole hiki i ke keiki ke lilo i mea hilinaʻi, ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke kamaʻilio me ia e hoʻomaha ai i kona lunamanaʻo, e hoʻopuka i kona kaumaha a huhū paha, e hōʻino i kekahi makua, e ʻimi i kona ʻae ʻia, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia he pololei a ʻO ka hewa ʻē aʻe, e noi i kāna kākoʻo ... Ma ka laulā, he mea nui ia e pale i kahi keiki mai nā mea ʻaʻole i hoʻoholo ʻia, e mālama iā ia i nā kaʻina hana e holomua nei no ka mea pono ia i nā mea kikoʻī a me nā pae kuhikuhi. ʻOiai e noʻonoʻo ana kona mau mākua inā e kaʻawale lākou, ʻoiai lākou kānalua, mālama lākou iā ia iho! Ke hoʻoholo ʻia ka hoʻoholo ʻana, a pau ka hopena, ʻo ia wale nō ka haʻi ʻana iā ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo: "ʻAʻole aloha ʻo Māmā lāua ʻo Pāpā e hoʻomau i ka noho pū ʻana." ʻAʻole pono e ʻōlelo he haku wahine a makuahine paha he mea aloha! ʻO ka mea e pili ana i ke keiki ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i kona wahi e noho ai a e hoʻomau ʻo ia e ʻike i nā mākua ʻelua. Pili kēia laina o ka noʻonoʻo pono i nā makuahine a me nā makua kāne hoʻokahi. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kā lākou keiki ma waho o ko lākou ola aloha e pono e hoʻomau i kā lākou mea nui inā lōʻihi nā pilina.
E ʻōlelo maʻalahi
ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea koʻikoʻi ke ahonui, akā he mea nui ka ʻōlelo pololei. ʻO ka hiki ʻana mai o kahi kāne i ke ola o ka makuahine he hopena ia i kona ola ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi. Pono e ʻōlelo maʻalahi: "E ʻae mai iaʻu e hoʻolauna iā ʻoe M, hauʻoli nui mākou i ka hui ʻana." E noho pū ʻo M me mākou, e hana mākou i kēia a me kēlā i nā hopena pule, manaʻolana mākou e hauʻoli pū kekahi. "ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e nīnau i kona manaʻo, akā e kau iā ia i mua o kahi kūlana, ʻoiai e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia:" ʻAʻohe mea e loli, e ʻike mau ʻoe i kou makuakāne. ʻAe, maopopo iaʻu, hopohopo a / a huhū paha ʻoe, akā ʻike wau e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. ʻAʻole hiki i ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makua kāne ke noi i kāna keiki no ka ʻae ʻana e loaʻa i ke ola aloha, no ka mea, ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻokomo ai iā lākou i ke kūlana makua. A inā hoʻomau ʻo ia i ka ʻike inā hoʻohilahila ʻia kāna mau noiʻi, e haʻi wale iā ia: "He nīnau kanaka makua, e kūkākūkā mākou i kou wā ʻelemakule." » Kūlike ʻole i ka mea a mākou e ʻike nui ai i kēia lā ma nā hoʻolaha TV, loaʻa iā mākou ke kuleana ʻaʻole e pane i nā nīnau a nā keiki, ʻo mākou nā mākua, ʻaʻole lākou!