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ʻO ka ʻelemakule, ʻo ke koʻikoʻi e pono e holomua
Hōʻike ka ʻelemakule i ke ala no ka mea hana ʻo ia iā mākou i mau mākua a hoʻokumu i ʻohana. Ma mua ona, he mau mea aloha mākou, ma hope ona, he mau mākua mākou, aloha mau i ka papa… Ke hoʻohauʻoli nei kēia ʻike kumu mua iā mākou: mahalo mākou i kāna burp mua, kona niho mua, kāna mau ʻanuʻu mua, kāna ʻōlelo mua. … A ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kiʻi nona ma mua o nā keiki ma hope o ka album ʻohana… ʻO kekahi mea maikaʻi, ʻo kaelder have exclusive parents attention, He mea hauʻoli loa ka ʻike ʻana he mau maka wale nō kona mau mākua iā ia, e hoʻoikaika ana i ka "manaʻo pilikino" maikaʻi. ʻO ia ka ʻaoʻao maikaʻi, akā ʻo ka hānau mua hoʻi e holoi i nā kiola a loaʻa i nā hopohopo a me nā hewa o kona mau mākua hoʻomaka ... Aia ma luna ona lākou e hoʻolālā ai i ko lākou mau manaʻolana a me ko lākou makemake, ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻopiha i ko lākou mau hakahaka a hoʻoponopono i nā mea i hala. E like me ka ʻōlelo a ka poʻe emi, male ka hiapo i "neuropathy makua"! I mua o kēia koʻikoʻi koʻikoʻi o nā mākua, hana nā lunakahiko i nā mea āpau e kūlike me nā makemake makua, ʻoi aku ka hoʻolohe, ʻoi aku ke koʻikoʻi, ʻoi aku ke kuleana. I loko o nā ʻohana nui, hoʻopiʻi pinepine nā kaikamahine kahiko i ka mālama ʻana i nā keiki liʻiliʻi a me ka ʻeha ʻana i ka hana ʻana ma ke ʻano he "makuahine liʻiliʻi" ʻoiai ʻo lākou iho. ʻOi aku ka waiwai o nā keikikāne a hauʻoli pinepine lākou i ka mana alakaʻi kūlohelohe i ka wā makua. ʻO ka hope, ʻo ka hewa e pale aku ai ʻo ke noi ʻana i ka ʻelemakule e hemolele. ʻOiai ʻo ia ka lōʻihi o nā kaikunāne, aia nō iā ia ke kuleana e hana ʻino a huhū. I ka makahiki 3, 4, 5, 6, he kamaliʻi nō ʻo ia! Inā mākou e koi iā ia e "ulu" koke, ʻaʻole e loaʻa iā ia ka manawa e leʻaleʻa ai i kona wā kamaliʻi a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻohewa iā ia inā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e ulu a hana mau e like me ke pēpē i 20 mau makahiki. hala…
ʻO ka ʻōpio, ke kipi akamai
Ina elua wale no keiki, ʻOi aku ka kipi o ke kaikaina ma mua o kona kaikuaʻana a kaikuaʻana paha no ka mea ua kūkulu ʻo ia iā ia iho ma ka ʻimi ʻana e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho.. He hemahema ko ka muli loa. Mai ka makahiki 2, ua ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole loa e loaʻa iā ia ka wahi mua, ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā ia ka exclusivity e like me ka hiapo i hōʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano he kumu hoʻohālike, nona nā kuleana, nāna e hana i nā mea āpau ma mua a ʻoi aku ka hoʻopukapuka ʻia e nā mākua. ʻIke ʻo ia no nā mākua, ʻo ia ka déjà vu, ʻaʻole lākou e hele i nā ecstases e like me ka nui. Inā he kāne like lāua, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka lili ma waena o lāua, akā ʻo ka hui pū kekahi. Inā he kāne ʻokoʻa lākou, hōʻoia kēlā me kēia i kā lākou kuleana ("He penis koʻu" a "E hana wau i nā pēpē" ...), ua hoʻokō lākou a emi ʻole ka lili i kekahi i kekahi. No nā mākua pū kekahi, he loli maoli kēia. Pīhoihoi lākou i ka ʻike ʻana i ka mea a lākou i ʻike ʻole ai me ka mea mua, ʻaʻole ia he "remake". KAKūkulu ʻia ka cadet me ka manaʻo he lohi mau ʻo ia. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻonāwaliwali iā ia, akā e hoʻoikaika pū iā ia no ka mea makemake ʻo ia i ka manaʻolana e ʻoi aku ma mua o kāna kumu hoʻohālike! ʻO ka pōmaikaʻi o ke ʻano ʻōpio ʻo ia ke aʻo ʻana i nā mea he nui ma ka nānā ʻana a me ka hoʻohālike ʻana i kona kaikuaʻana a i ʻole kona kaikuahine nui… ʻAʻole pono ʻo ia e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka ʻāina, ua hana ʻia. ʻO kēia keʻano o ka poʻe kahiko, me ka makemakeʻole, eʻae i nā'ōpiopio e hānai i nā mea a pau a lākou eʻike ai i ka hana. Ke hoʻomau nei mākou i ka hoʻonaʻauao makua, akā aia nō ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana e nā kaikaina, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻike ʻia! Inā ʻekolu keiki, ua paʻa ka muli loa ma waena o ka mahalo pupule i ke kaikuaʻana a me ka pā lili no ke kaikaina. iā ia mākou e hāʻawi i nā mea a pau! No laila ke koʻikoʻi o nā mākua e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia mai ka mea mua a pale i ke kapa ʻana iā ia "ka mea liʻiliʻi".
ʻO ka muli loa, ka poʻokela o ka hoʻowalewale
ʻO ia ka "pēpē ola" a nā kaikunāne no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea makemake e ʻike iā ia e ulu ana. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo ia ka mea hao wale, ka mea i mahalo nui ʻia i nā mea a pau, akā pili ia i ke ʻano o kona hōʻea ʻana e nā mākua. Inā hiki ʻo ia ma hope o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hiki ke hoʻokipa ʻia ʻo ia ma ke ʻano he koa haohao e ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa (me nā kaikunāne nui a me nā kaikuahine), akā, he mea hoʻopilikia hoʻi, ʻo ia ka mea a mākou i manaʻo ʻole ai a koi iā mākou e luʻu hou i loko o nā diaper a me nā ʻōmole a mākou i manaʻo ai ua hoʻopau ʻia! ʻO ka palena koʻikoʻi no kahi cadet e hoʻokō ʻia ʻo ia ka hoʻokipa ʻia. Me ia, pono mākou e kahakaha i kāna holomua, e pale i ka "kamaʻilio ʻana i ke pēpē" iā ia a ʻaʻole e hoʻopaʻa iā ia i ka stereotype o ka ʻōpio capricious ʻaʻohe mea hiki ke hōʻole ʻia. A i ʻole, pilikia ʻo ia i ka hoʻohaumia ʻana i ka wā ʻelemakule ma waho o ka niu ʻohana. ʻO ka mea nui ma ka ʻoihana ʻoihana kahi e pono ʻole ai kāna koi e lawelawe ʻia!
ʻO kahi o nā māhoe i nā kaikaina
ʻO ka hiki ʻana mai o nā māhoe a ʻekolu paha i loko o nā kaikunāne hiki ke pilikia i nā keiki ʻē aʻe. Manaʻo lākou e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia a i kekahi manawa ua lilo lākou i mea ʻino, a i ʻole paʻakikī i ke kula, kahi ala e huki ai ka manaʻo. Ma kekahiʻaoʻao, no ka mea, hoʻohana pono nā māhoe i ka nānā a me ka manawa o nā mākua. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, no ka mea, he mana hoihoi ko nā māhoe ma luna o nā mākua a ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe i manaʻo ʻole he "ʻokoʻa", a no laila ʻaʻole hoihoi. Ke liʻiliʻi ko lākou ʻokoʻa me nā māhoe, ʻike pinepine lākou iā lākou he kāne paʻa a ikaika hoʻi e nīnau i ko lākou wahi. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa i kēia hui, a lākou e hoʻāʻo ai, ma kahi o 7-8 mau makahiki, e hoʻokaʻawale. E kaupalena i keia manao, He mea nui e ʻimi nā mākua i kahi manawa kūikawā - a me kēlā me kēia - me kā lākou mau keiki. Ma ka waiho ʻana i nā māhoe me ko lākou mau kūpuna, no ka laʻana. ʻO ka hope, pono mākou e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i nā mea a pau: ʻo nā māhoe e pau ana ka manawa, ʻoiaʻiʻo nō, akā ʻaʻole e mau.