Hiki ke paʻakikī ke hoʻoponopono ʻana me ke kaumaha a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO kahi hoʻopunipuni maʻalahi akā maikaʻi, i wehewehe ʻia e ka meaʻai meaʻai a me ka mea kākau o nā puke e pili ana i ke ola olakino, ʻo Susan McKillan, hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hele i kahi wā paʻakikī.
I kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei, i ka hakakā ʻana o ka mea ʻai meaʻai ʻo Susan McKillan me kāna kāne a huhū nui iā ia, ua aʻo ʻia e ka mea lapaʻau iā ia i kahi hoʻopunipuni maʻalahi: "E nānā i kāu wahine a e noʻonoʻo iā ia he keiki liʻiliʻi - he pēpē wale nō. I ka ʻike ʻana i mua ou ʻaʻole he kanaka makua, akā he keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha iā ia a kala aku iā ia.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo McKillan ua kōkua maoli ia iā ia: ʻaʻole hiki ke manaʻo i ka huhū a me ka huhū i ke keiki e like me ke kanaka makua. Hiki ke hoʻohanaʻia kēiaʻano hana i nā pilina pilikino'ē aʻe, ua maopopoʻo Susan, no ka mea, kōkua pinepine ia e ho'ēmi i ke kiʻekiʻe o ke kaumaha.
"Pehea inā hiki iā mākou ke hana noʻonoʻo i ka manaʻo?" hoomau aku la ia. Wahi a kahi pūʻulu ʻepekema mai ka Hong Kong Polytechnic, Texas a me Hong Kong Baptist Universities, hiki loa kēia a maikaʻi loa.
E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka nānā ʻana i ke kaumaha
Ua noi nā mea noiʻi i ʻelua pūʻulu kumuhana e kākau e pili ana i kahi manawa i kaumaha nui ai lākou. A laila noi lākou i ka hui mua e anthropomorphize i nā manaʻo - e noʻonoʻo i ke kaumaha ma ke ʻano he kanaka a hana i ke kiʻi waha. Hōʻike pinepine ka poʻe komo i ke kaumaha ma ke ʻano he kanaka ʻelemakule, hina hina me nā maka pohō, a i ʻole he kaikamahine e hele mālie ana me ke poʻo i lalo. Ua noi ʻia ka hui ʻelua e kākau wale i ko lākou kaumaha a me kona hopena i ke ʻano.
Ua hoʻohana nā mea noiʻi i kahi nīnau nīnau e ana i nā pae kaumaha o nā mea komo. Ma ka lua o ka hui, kahi iʻikeʻole ai nā kumuhana i ka manaʻo, ua mau kona ikaika i kahi kiʻekiʻe. Akā, ua emi ka pae o ke kaumaha ma ka hui mua. Manaʻo nā mea noiʻi ma o ka "hoʻoulu hou ʻana" i nā manaʻo, hiki i nā mea komo ke nānā iā lākou he mea a i ʻole kekahi mea i hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou iho. Ua kōkua kēia iā lākou ʻaʻole e ʻike iā lākou iho me nā ʻike a me ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻokō ʻana iā lākou.
ʻO ke koho akamai
Ma ka papa aʻe o ka hoʻokolohua, ua ʻike nā mea noiʻi ʻo wai o nā hui e hana i nā hoʻoholo naʻauao e pili ana i ke kūʻai ʻana - ʻoi aku ka «kaumaha» a i ʻole kahi i emi ai ke kiʻekiʻe o ke kaumaha ma hope o ka "humanization".
Ua noi ʻia ka poʻe i komo i nā hui ʻelua e koho mua i kahi meaʻai: hua salakeke a i ʻole cheesecake. A laila ua noi ʻia lākou e koho ma waena o ʻelua kamepiula: hoʻokahi me ka lako polokalamu huahana a i ʻole kekahi me nā polokalamu leʻaleʻa he nui. ʻO ka poʻe i komo i ka anthropomorphized ko lākou mau manaʻo, ua koho lākou i ka saladi a me kahi kamepiula huahua ma mua o ka poʻe i kākau wale i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
Ma hope o ka hanaʻana me ke kaumaha, ua hana nā mea noiʻi i kahi hoʻokolohua like, e ho'āʻo ana i nā hopena o ka hauʻoli anthropomorphizing. Ua ʻike lākou ua emi iho nā manaʻo maikaʻi ma hope o ka hana ʻana o nā poʻe noiʻi iā lākou. No laila no nā kumu maopopo, hoʻohana maikaʻi ʻia kēia ʻano hana e hana me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
kūpono
I ka pau ʻana o ke aʻo ʻana, ua ʻōlelo ka poʻe ʻepekema ua hoʻoikaika ʻia lākou e ke kiʻi kiʻi kaulana "Inside Out" no ka papahana. ʻO nā manaʻo o ke keiki - maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole - ola i laila ma ke ʻano o nā ʻano.
ʻAʻole kēia wale ka ʻenehana psychotherapy e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke nānā ʻokoʻa i kou mau manaʻo. ʻO kahi moʻolelo moʻolelo a me ka art therapy e kōkua i ke kūkulu hou ʻana mai ka manaʻo, e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho. ʻO kā lākou pahuhopu nui ke kōkua iā mākou e hele i kahi wā paʻakikī a hoʻopaʻa i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
E pili ana i ka loea: ʻO Susan McKillan kahi meaʻai meaʻai a mea kākau o nā puke e pili ana i ka meaʻai a me ke ola olakino.