ʻAʻole ke keʻena he wahi no nā kaua? ʻAʻohe mea pehea! ʻO nā kelepona a pau mai ka moʻo "E noho pū kāua" e hoʻopaʻi ʻia i ka hāʻule ʻole, no ka mea, ʻo kā mākou mea hana maʻamau ka hakakā, manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo psychologist Tatyana Muzhitskaya. Akā ke hoʻomaopopo mau nei mākou i nā kumu kumu e alakaʻi ai i nā hakakā, a hiki ke hōʻemi ʻia?
I nehinei wale nō, hoʻomaka koke nā hoa aloha maluhia i kēia lā e uwē e like me nā tigers, ʻoiai ʻaʻohe hōʻailona o ka huhū. Ke hāʻule nei nā kūkākūkā mākaukau i mua o ko mākou mau maka, a lele ka ʻaelike i loko o ka hīnaʻi. Ma kahi hālāwai, hikiwawe, no ke kumu ʻike ʻole, uē ka poʻe a pau i hele mai, a laila ʻaʻole hiki ke wehewehe i ka mea i hiki mai ma luna o lākou. He aha ke kumu o ka hakakā ʻino a pehea e pale aku ai iā lākou?
Psychologies: ʻAʻole hiki ke hana me ka hakakā ʻole? ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻae?
ʻO Tatyana Muzhitskaya: He aha ʻoe! ʻO nā paio hana ma nā ʻoihana i loaʻa ma kahi o ʻelua mau kānaka ʻaʻole hiki ke pale ʻia, inā ʻaʻole ia he ʻōnaehana inanimate. Hoʻokomo ʻia ka mokomoko i kā mākou pūʻolo kumu. ʻO ka pinepine e pili ana me ka teritori a me ka hierarchy.
Eia kahi kūlana maoli: hele mai kahi luna kūʻai a me kahi luna papahana e kūkākūkā. ʻŌlelo ʻia iā lākou: "E hele i ka lumi hālāwai, e lawe i nā kīʻaha āu e makemake ai, e noho i lalo i kahi kūpono." Lawe kekahi i ke kīʻaha hina a noho ma luna o kahi noho maʻamau. A ua koho kekahi i kahi mug me ka palapala "I love London" a lawe i ka noho ʻili wale nō. ʻO ia ka noho o kekahi o nā alakaʻi, ka mea i noho kūʻē i ka wā o ke kūkākūkā ʻana (ʻo ia hoʻi ma ka ʻōlelo waha ʻole, ʻo ia hoʻi ke kūʻē), a ʻo ke kīʻaha no ke poʻo o ka ʻoihana HR, nāna i hoʻopā i nā malihini me nā nīnau paʻakikī.
Ua hāʻule nā kūkākūkā. Ua hele kekahi luna papahana i ka hālāwai aʻe, lawe i ke kīʻaha hina, noho ma luna o kahi noho. ʻAʻole i loli ka hōʻike ʻana i ka ʻike, paʻi ʻokoʻa wale ʻia. Ua ʻae ʻia ka papahana: "ʻAe, he mea ʻē aʻe kēlā!" He mea kēia i kamaʻilio ʻole ʻia e kekahi - e noʻonoʻo wale, he kīʻaha, kahi noho lima ... Manaʻo pinepine ʻia ʻo nā paio i loko o nā hui e pili ana i ka mana, nā kumuwaiwai, nā lā palena.
ʻO ka nui o nā paio e kū mai ma mua o ka hoʻopuka ʻana i nā hana. ʻO mākou me ka ʻike ʻole, ma ke ʻano o kahi holoholona, e noʻonoʻo i kahi mea i kā mākou ʻāina. Ke hoʻopili ʻia kēia, huhū mākou a ʻimi i kahi e hoʻolei aku ai i ko mākou huhū.
I loko o ke keʻena, nā mea hana, nā lako mea nona ka mokuʻāina, ʻoiai ʻo ka wahi maʻamau he wahi ākea. He aha ka mea e kaʻana like?
ʻŌ, nui loa! ʻO ka makemake ʻoihana no kahi ākea, ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, alakaʻi i ka wehe. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hāʻawi ia i nā hakakā huna.
Laʻana: nā limahana o kahi hui kūkākūkā e hele a puni nā kūlanakauhale, a ʻaʻohe o lākou papa ponoʻī, ua like nā mea āpau. A ʻo kahi loea o ka pae kiʻekiʻe loa, me ʻelua mau diploma ʻEulopa, haʻi mai iaʻu: "Ua hana wau ma ka papaʻaina no ʻelua mahina, manaʻo wau iaʻu iho, a lele koke mai kahi hoa hana i ka pō a lawe. Wahi a nā lula, pono nā mea a pau, akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke kōkua iaʻu iho - ua hoʻonāukiuki kēia kanaka iaʻu, a nui ka hoʻoikaika ʻana iaʻu e hoʻi i ke ala kūpono i ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
Piʻi ka nui o nā paio ma muli o ka nui o nā poʻe e huikau i kahi noi me kahi koi.
ʻO kekahi laʻana. Ma kahi hui IT, pono ʻoe e haʻalele i kahi hana maʻemaʻe ma hope. Akā ʻoiaʻiʻo e hoʻopoina kekahi i kahi peni a i ʻole diary - mākou pū kekahi e hōʻailona i nā sunbeds i nā hōkele me nā kāwele. A huhū mākou inā noho kekahi i ko mākou moena lā, ʻoiai ka hōʻailona.
ʻO ka hana ma kahi ākea, ʻoi aku hoʻi no ka poʻe hoʻomaka, piha i nā paio. Ke kamaʻilio nui nei kekahi ma ke kelepona, ua ʻala kekahi iā ia iho me ka ʻala ikaika, a ʻo kēia ke kumu o ka huhū holoholona i loko o mākou. ʻAʻole mākou ʻike i kahi i hele mai ai, akā ke ʻimi nei mākou i kahi ala no kēia a, ma ke ʻano he lula, hoʻokuʻu i ka mahu i nā mea hana.
A makemake nā hoa hana e lawe i kahi stapler a peni me ka noi ʻole. A huhū mākou ma mua o ko mākou ʻike ʻana he mea lapuwale. ʻAʻohe mahalo i nā palena i kā mākou moʻomeheu, no laila ka nui o ka haʻalulu pono ʻole. A he nui kā mākou e hana ai.
Pehea e hoʻemi ai i kēia haʻalulu?
E hoʻolohe iā ʻoe iho: no hea mai kēia manaʻo? E like me ke kula kindergarten, kau inoa i kāu mau mea. E wehewehe i kou kūlana. E ʻae ʻo kēia noho a me ka pākaukau kahi kahua o kahi hui hana hou ʻo Workplace, a ua lawe ʻoe i kēia lā. Inā he keʻena kēia me nā keʻena, a laila kikeke i ka puka a komo me ka ʻae.
E nīnau: "Hiki iaʻu ke lawe i kāu mau limahana?" ʻO ka nīnau, ʻaʻole ka hoʻolaha a koi ʻole. Inā hoʻokokoke mai iaʻu me kahi noi, manaʻo ʻo ia penei: "Ua maopopo iaʻu aia paha kāu mau hana ponoʻī a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae a hōʻole paha." Nīnau au mai lalo i luna. He helu nui o nā paio e kū mai ana ma muli o ka huikau ʻana o ka poʻe he nui i kahi noi me kahi koi i ʻōlelo ʻia "mai luna a lalo."
A inā ʻae ʻia kēlā leo no ka luna, a laila e hoʻomaka koke ka huhū ma waena o nā hoa hana "kūlike". "No ke aha la oe e kamailio mai nei ia'u pela?" - ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻōlelo leo nui ʻia kēia, akā hoʻomaka kekahi mea e paila i loko.
Eia ka hakaka kahiko. Ke poʻo o ka ʻoihana kūʻai: "No ke aha i loaʻa ʻole ai iā Samara kahi hoʻouna mai iaʻu?" Ke poʻo o ka ʻoihana logistic: "No ke aha ʻoe e haʻi mai nei iaʻu e pili ana iā Samara i kēia manawa, ʻaʻole ʻelua pule i hala?" ʻAʻole i hoʻoponopono nā mea ʻelua i ka pilikia, ua paʻakikī lāua ʻelua. Keʻike nei nā kānaka a pau i ka ho'āʻo e kamaʻilio "mai luna mai" e like me ka huiʻana me ko lākou'āina pono'ī, kahi e hoʻomehana wale ai i ka hakakā aʻaʻole e hoʻoholo i ka pilikia.
Hoʻopuka? E aʻo e kūkākūkā: “He pilikia maʻamau kāu a me kāua, ʻoiai, ʻaʻole mākou i noʻonoʻo i kekahi mea, ʻaʻole i ʻae i kekahi mea. He aha kā mākou e hana ai i kēia manawa e kiʻi i kā mākou huahana ma Samara?
Nui ka poʻe i kēia manawa e hana mamao. He mea kōkua paha kēia e hōʻemi i nā paio?
ʻAʻole, hoʻomaka kāna kaua ponoʻī no ka hierarchy - nona nā lula e pāʻani ai mākou. Ua kākau ka mea mua: "E nā hoa, i mea e kākau ai i kahi hōʻike, pono mākou i ka ʻikepili mai kēlā me kēia keʻena no nā lā ʻekolu." ʻO ka pane ʻelua: "ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole kēia ka mea e pono ai no ka hōʻike." ʻEkolu: “Makaukau e hāʻawi i ka ʻikepili. Pono anei kekahi? » ʻEhā: "Ua hāʻawi mākou i nā mea āpau i kēia ʻikepili ma mua. No ke aha mākou ma kēia papa inoa leka?
ʻAʻohe o nā pane i ke kiko. A ʻo nā pane āpau mai ka pūʻulu "Ua kiʻekiʻe mākou i ka hierarchy. A ʻo wai ʻoe ma ʻaneʻi? ʻO nā huaʻōlelo "ʻoiaʻiʻo" i loko o kekahi kikokikona e makemake koke ai ka ʻaoʻao e hoʻopaʻapaʻa. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi ma ke keʻena: nānā lākou kekahi i kekahi a neʻe. A ma ka palapala, ke pii nei keia nalu, a maopopo ole ka uku ana.
E hele i kekahi kamaʻilio makua a ʻike i ke ʻano o ke kaua e hoʻomaka inā pono ʻoe e koho i makana no nā kaikamahine i ka lā 8 Malaki. Hoʻopuka koke nā kānaka a pau i ko lākou manaʻo loea. "ʻOiaʻiʻo, pono e hāʻawi ʻia nā kaikamahine i nā lauoho lauoho." "ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono nā kaikamahine i nā lauoho, he mea lapuwale!" ʻO kēlā me kēia hui ikaika e pili ana i ke kaua ma luna o wai ma ka hierarchy e hoʻoholo i ka hoʻoholo.
No laila he moʻolelo pau ʻole…
E pau ʻole inā hāʻawi ka mea hoʻonohonoho o ke kūkākūkā i ke kūʻokoʻa mai ka moʻolelo "E hoʻoholo kākou i kekahi mea". Hoʻomaka koke kēia i ke kaua no ka mea nāna e hāpai i nā lula a ʻo wai ka mea e hoʻoholo hope. ʻO kēlā mau kamaʻilio kahi i kākau ʻia ai: "Ma ke ʻano he luna o ke komite makua, ke haʻi aku nei au iā ʻoe ua hoʻoholo mākou e hāʻawi i ke kumu i kahi palapala hōʻoia a me kahi bouquet i waiwai ʻia he 700 rubles, hana pono. ʻO wai ka mea ʻae ʻole - hāʻawi i kāu mea ponoʻī.
Moʻolelo like ma nā hālāwai. Inā aia lākou ma kahi kumuhana abstract: "E pili ana i ke kūlana o ka mea kanu", a laila ʻaʻohe pilikia e hoʻonā ʻia a hoʻopaʻa ʻia ke kaua no ka hierarchy a i ʻole kahi kahawai i ka ʻāʻī ʻana. Pono ka hana e hāʻawi i kahi hopena. No ka laʻana, inā hōʻuluʻulu ka mea hoʻolālā nui i nā ʻenehana e ʻike i ke kuhi hewa a me ke kumu o ka male ʻana, a laila e hoʻopau ʻia ka pilikia.
ʻO ia hoʻi, me ka hana ʻole, makehewa ka hālāwai?
ʻO ka pilina ma nā hui o kēlā me kēia pae e kū ana ma nā koʻi ʻekolu: ke axis o nā hana, ke axis o nā pilina a me ke axis o ka ikehu. I koʻu ola ʻoihana, ua ʻike au i nā hālāwai he nui ʻaʻole no ka mea he mau hana, akā no ka mea ua hoʻoholo mua lākou: i kēlā me kēia Pōʻakahi ma 10:00 pono ʻoe i ka "hoʻokumu kakahiaka". Inā ʻaʻohe hana maʻemaʻe, hoʻomaka koke ka pilina a me ka ikaika. Hoʻomaka ka poʻe e ana ʻo wai ka mea.
I kekahi manawa ʻo ka hakakā wale nō ke ala e hoʻonui ai i ka ikehu i ka hui, a hoʻohana kekahi mau alakaʻi i kēia, me ka ʻike ʻole i nā ala ʻē aʻe - e alakaʻi i nā mea āpau i ka pahuhopu, kaʻana like i nā hana, hoʻoikaika. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi no lākou e māhele a hoʻoponopono.
I kēlā me kēia manawa ke komo ʻoe i kahi kūlana o ka launa pū ʻana, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo: he aha kaʻu pahuhopu? He aha kaʻu e makemake ai e pili ana i nā hana, nā pilina a me ka ikaika? He aha kaʻu e makemake ai e puka i waho?
Ke pololei mākou, ʻike mākou i ke kiʻekiʻe o ka hierarchy, ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻoi aku ka mana, inā i loko o ka ʻohana a i ʻole ka hui.
Inā hele mai au me kahi pepa bypass i ka "mea ahi", a nīnau mai ʻo ia iaʻu: "No ke aha ʻoe i hōʻike ʻole mai ai iaʻu?", A laila hiki iaʻu ke hāʻule no kāna hoʻonāukiuki a hoʻomaka e wehewehe iā ia ʻo wai ʻo ia, akā hiki iaʻu. e ʻōlelo: " Eia kaʻu mea hana, hāʻawi wau. E kakauinoa i ka bypass.»
Inā ʻaʻole - ma ke ʻano o nā hana - hiki ke hoʻohuli e like me Gogol's Ivan Ivanovich a me Ivan Nikiforovich: makemake kekahi e noi i kekahi no kahi pū kahiko, akā hakakā lākou no nā makahiki he nui.
Pehea inā ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻae?
Ke hele ka degere ma ka axis ikehu, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i ka ʻenehana «ʻae me ka ʻae ʻole". No ka laʻana, manaʻo kāu ʻoihana he hana maikaʻi ʻole mākou, akā manaʻo ko mākou ʻoihana he hana maikaʻi mākou. Loaʻa ka ʻaelike i hoʻokahi ʻōlelo. "I koʻu hoʻomaopopo ʻana, ʻaʻohe oʻu manaʻo like ʻole e pili ana i ka maikaʻi o ka hana. ʻAe ʻoe? ʻŌlelo nā kānaka, "ʻAe, ʻae." I kēia manawa, lilo nā hoa paio ikaika i mau kamaʻilio kūpono e hiki ai i kekahi ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā hana.
ʻO nā kaua koko ke kaua ʻia no ka pono. No ke aha mākou e huāhuʻi ai i ka waha e hōʻoia i ko mākou pono? No ka mea, ke kūpono mākou, ʻike mākou i ke kiʻekiʻe o ka hierarchy, ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻoi aku ka mana, inā i loko o ka ʻohana a i ʻole ka hui. He kaua ʻike ʻole kēia, a ma kaʻu mau hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana, no ka laʻana, aʻo mākou e lawe i ka ʻike. ʻO kahi huaʻōlelo e hoʻopau pinepine i kahi hakakā: "ʻAe, manaʻo wau ua pololei ʻoe." He mea maʻalahi iaʻu ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kēia, akā ʻaʻole hele ke kanaka i kona ala e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iaʻu.