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Ua lohe mākou a pau, ʻo ka manawa ko mākou waiwai nui, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻihoʻi ʻia, ʻaʻole hoʻohuli ʻia, a i ka manawa like ke hoʻomau nei mākou i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i nā minuke makamae, nā hola a me nā lā ʻākau a hema. No ke aha kēia hana? Loaʻa kēia ma muli o kekahi mau hewa cognitive.
Hana kēia iā mākou i kēlā me kēia lā. Hele mai kekahi hoalauna a hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio no ka mea ʻole, a ke kunou nei mākou me ka mahalo, ʻoiai ʻo mākou i ka wikiwiki weliweli. A i ʻole hoʻomaka nā hoa hana e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kekahi mau mea lapuwale, a ʻae mākou iā mākou iho e huki ʻia i ke kamaʻilio me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i ka nui o ka manawa. A i ʻole e loaʻa iā mākou kahi leka mai kahi hoaaloha: “E, makemake wau i kou poʻo ʻālohilohi ma aneʻi. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua?» - a laila ʻae mākou. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hōʻole i kahi hoaaloha kahiko, ʻeā?
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Seneca ka mea akamai i ka naʻaupō a me ka poʻe akamai loa i ka wā e pili ana i ka pale ʻana i ko lākou manawa ponoʻī: "ʻAʻohe o mākou e hāʻawi i kā mākou kālā i ka mea mua a mākou e hālāwai ai, akā ʻehia ka nui e hāʻawi i ko lākou ola! He mea hoowahawaha makou i ka waiwai a me ke dala, aka, he uuku ko makou noonoo i ka hoohana ana i ko makou manawa, oia wale no ka mea e pono ai ke lili.
I kēia lā, 2000 mau makahiki ma hope, ke hoʻokuʻu nei mākou i kā mākou waiwai makamae e paheʻe ma ko mākou manamana lima. No ke aha mai? ʻO ka mea kālepa a me ka mea kākau o How Strong People Solve Problems Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Ryan Holiday he ʻehā kumu o kēia.
Ua maopopo iā mākou ua ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manawa
'Ōlelo lākou ke ola nei mākou ma ka awelika a hiki i 78 makahiki. Me he mea lā he mau loa. He aha kā mākou e hoʻolilo ai i 20 mau minuke ma kēia a i kēlā? E hele i kahi hālāwai ma kahi cafe ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ke kūlanakauhale, e hoʻolimalima i hoʻokahi hola ma ke alanui, a i hoʻokahi hola hoʻi? ʻAʻole he nīnau, no ke aha.
ʻAʻole mākou i ʻike ua pau ko mākou manawa a ʻaʻohe mea e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole e pau nā mea a pau i ka lā ʻapōpō. Akā, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manawa, e like me ke kālā: ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻolimalima i kekahi mau minuke i loaʻa iā mākou i loko o kā mākou "puhi", akā e hoʻemi pū i ka waihona i hōʻiliʻili ʻia.
Makaʻu mākou ʻaʻole makemake kekahi i kā mākou hōʻole.
ʻAʻole mākou makemake e noʻonoʻo maikaʻi ʻia iā mākou, no laila ke pane nei mākou i ka "ʻae" i nā mea āpau - a i ʻole, i nā hihia koʻikoʻi, "paha", ʻoiai inā makemake mākou i ka hōʻole.
Hoʻomanaʻo ʻo Ryan Holiday i ke ʻano o nā keiki i kōkua iā ia e hoʻopau i kēia addiction. I kona lilo ʻana i makua kāne, ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka wā e lawe ai ʻo ia i nā kuleana kūpono ʻole, ʻo kāna keiki ʻelua makahiki ka mea e ʻeha mua ai. He mea nui ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i ka "ʻae" i kekahi, ʻōlelo koke mākou "ʻaʻole" i kekahi, a pinepine i ka ʻohana a me nā mea aloha ʻē aʻe.
Mai makaʻu e haʻalele i kahi leka mai kahi mea āu e makemake ʻole e kamaʻilio me ka pane ʻana me ka "no" paʻa i kahi hāʻawi hoihoi ʻole iā ʻoe a i ʻole kahi noi kūpono ʻole, no ka mea, inā ʻaʻole, e waiho hou ʻia kāu keiki. me ka moolelo kaao ahiahi.
ʻAʻole lawa kā mākou waiwai iā mākou iho
ʻO kekahi o nā kumu i nele ai mākou i ka hilinaʻi e ʻōlelo ʻole i kekahi no ka makaʻu e hōʻeha i kona mau manaʻo, ʻaʻole mākou e manaʻo e hoʻokau i ko mākou pono ponoʻī ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe. I ka nīnau ʻia ʻana no ke aha ʻo ia e hoʻomau nei i ka hana, ua pane ʻo Joan Rivers, kekahi o nā mea hoʻomakeʻe kūleʻa loa o ka honua, ua alakaʻi ʻia ʻo ia e ka makaʻu: "Inā ʻaʻohe helu i kaʻu kalena, ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻohe mea e pono ai iaʻu. ua makehewa nā mea a pau aʻu i hana ai i koʻu ola. No laila, ua poina ka poʻe a pau iaʻu a kokoke paha e poina. Akā, ua ʻoi aku ʻo ia ma mua o 70 a he moʻolelo ola!
ʻAʻole anei he mea kaumaha? A aia kēia pono i loko o kēlā me kēia o kākou.
ʻAʻole mākou i kūkulu i nā ʻiʻo e hakakā no nā palena
Aia mākou a pau i nā nāwaliwali. Lawe mākou i kā mākou kelepona e ʻike i nā mea hou ma ka pāhana kaiapili. Hoʻokuʻu mākou iā Netflix a me YouTube e hōʻike iā mākou i kahi wikiō hou, a laila kekahi, a ʻo kekahi, a ʻo kekahi. Mai noʻonoʻo i ka leka uila iā mākou i ke aumoe i ka ʻoihana wikiwiki.
ʻAʻole mālama ʻia mākou e kekahi a i ʻole kekahi mea: ʻaʻohe kākau ʻōlelo e noho ana i loko o ka lumi hoʻokipa, a ʻaʻohe pā a i ʻole nā pā i nā keʻena keʻena. Hiki i nā mea a pau ke hele mai iā mākou i kēlā me kēia manawa. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou, e like me nā luna o nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni kahiko, e haʻi i ke kākau ʻōlelo: “Mai hoʻopili iaʻu me kekahi i kēia lā. Inā he mea, ua hala wau.
"Ua noʻonoʻo nui au i koʻu makemake e ʻike i koʻu ola," wahi a Ryan Holiday. - Ua noʻonoʻo wau e pili ana i ia mea, e alakaʻi ana i nā kūkākūkā lōʻihi ma ke kelepona, ma kahi o ka palena ʻana iaʻu iho i kahi leka pōkole. A i ʻole e noho ana i kahi hālāwai, hiki ke pani ʻia e ke kamaʻilio kelepona. ʻO kēia manawa pau ʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻolilo i kekahi mea nui: ʻohana, heluhelu. 'A'ole like me Joan Rivers, hau'oli wale au i ka nele o ka'u kalena. ʻIke maopopo wau i kaʻu mea e makemake ai e hoʻolilo i ka manawa, a ʻaʻole wau makemake e ʻaihue ia mai iaʻu. ”
ʻAʻole ia he ʻoi aku ka waiwai o kou manawa ma mua o ka manawa o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. He waiwai ka manawa iā ia iho, a ʻo ia ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai e hoʻomaopopo i kēia.
Eia kekahi, ʻike maopopo ʻo Holiday hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole" a hoʻomau i ke kōkua ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. "ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke pane i kēlā me kēia leka uila, hoʻāʻo wau e koho i nā nīnau i nīnau nui ʻia e ka poʻe a uhi iā lākou i nā ʻatikala. Kōkua au iā lākou e like me kaʻu hiki a ma ka manawa like e mālama i koʻu manawa.
Hāʻawi kekahi philanthropist akamai i nā waiwai nui, ʻaʻole nā waiwai e kōkua iā ia e loaʻa kālā, ʻo ia hoʻi ke hoʻomau nei ʻo ia e kōkua i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia ka loina like i kou manawa ponoʻī.
No laila ʻaʻohe hewa i ka pale ʻana i nā kelepona kikoʻī, hōʻole ʻole e komo i nā hālāwai hoihoi ʻole a maikaʻi ʻole paha, me ka nānā ʻole i ka hapa nui o nā leka uila. He kuleana ko kēlā me kēia kanaka e hoʻokele i ko lākou manawa ponoʻī a ʻaʻole manaʻo hewa a hilahila.
ʻAʻole ia he ʻoi aku ka waiwai o kou manawa ma mua o ka manawa o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. He mea waiwai ka manawa iā ia iho, a ʻo ka manawa kēia e hoʻomaka ai e ʻike i kēia manawa.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Ryan Holiday he mea kālepa a mea kākau o How Strong People Solve Problems and Bestseller. Pehea e hana ai a hoʻolaha i nā papahana hoʻomohala" a me nā mea ʻē aʻe.