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"Ua aʻo ʻia nā wahine e hūnā i ko mākou ikaika"
ʻO Teresa Baró
ʻO ka loea i ka kamaʻilio pilikino ʻana i ka ʻoihana ʻoihana, ʻo Teresa Baró, hoʻolaha «Imparables», kahi alakaʻi kamaʻilio no nā wahine «e hehi ikaika»
He loea ʻo Teresa Baró i ka hana a kamaʻilio pilikino ʻana ma waena o ka ʻoihana ʻoihana. ʻO kahi o nā pahuhopu āna e alualu ai i kēlā me kēia lā he maopopo: e kōkua i nā wahine ʻoihana e ʻike hou ʻia, e loaʻa ka mana hou a hoʻokō i kā lākou mau pahuhopu.
No kēia kumu, hoʻopuka ʻo ia i "Imparables" (Paidós), kahi puke kahi e ʻimi ai i nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka hana a nā kāne a me nā wahine. hoʻohana nā wahine i ka mana kamaʻilio ma ka hana, a hoʻomoe ia i nā kumu no nā wahine e hiki ai ke hōʻike iā lākou iho a lilo i mea mua ma mua o ka mea a lākou e makemake ai, i hiki ke noho i ka wahi like a kā lākou mau hoa e noho ai. «Loaʻa i kā nā wahine kā mākou kaila kamaʻilio i hoʻomaopopo ʻole a ʻae ʻia i nā manawa āpau
ka ʻoihana, ka nohona politika a, i ka nui, i ka lehulehu ākea ”, wahi a ka mea kākau e hōʻike i ka puke. Akā, ʻaʻole e hoʻopili i ka pahuhopu i ka mea i hala, akā haki i nā stereotypes a hoʻokumu i kahi hiʻohiʻona kamaʻilio hou. "Hiki i nā wahine ke alakaʻi me kā lākou kaila kamaʻilio a loaʻa ka mana hou, ka ʻike a me ka mahalo me ka ʻole e lilo i kāne." Ua kamaʻilio mākou me ka loea ma ABC Bienestar e pili ana i kēia kamaʻilio, e pili ana i ka "kaupaku aniani" kaulana, e pili ana i ka mea a mākou e kapa nei ʻo "impostor Syndrome" a me nā manawa hea i aʻo ai nā insecurities hiki ke hoʻolohi i kahi ʻoihana ʻoihana.
No ke aha he alakaʻi wale no nā wahine?
Ma loko o kaʻu ʻike ʻoihana, e aʻoaʻo ana i nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka ʻoihana ʻoihana, ua ʻike wau i ka nui o nā pilikia a nā wahine, nā insecurities e hōʻailona nui iā mākou a he ʻano kamaʻilio kā mākou e hoʻomaopopo ʻole ʻia ai i kekahi manawa i ka ʻoihana, ʻoiai ma kālaiʻāina. ʻO ka lua, ua loaʻa iā mākou kahi aʻo ʻokoʻa, nā kāne a me nā wahine, a ua hoʻoponopono ʻia ia iā mākou. No laila ua hiki i ka manawa e lilo i makaʻala, a no kēlā me kēia mea e hoʻokumu i kā lākou mau alakaʻi kamaʻilio e like me kā lākou e manaʻo ai. Akā ma ka liʻiliʻi pono ʻoe e ʻike i kēia mau ʻokoʻa, ʻike i ke kumu a hiki ke kālailai i kēlā me kēia o mākou, keu hoʻi nā wahine, e ʻike pehea ke ʻano o kēia kaila kamaʻilio a mākou i aʻo ai iā mākou a pehea e hōʻino ai iā mākou.
Aia kekahi mau mea keakea hou aʻe no nā wahine ma ka ʻoihana ʻoihana? Pehea lākou e pili ai i ke kamaʻilio?
ʻO nā mea kūpilikiʻi a nā wahine e kū ai i ka wahi hana, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kāne, he hanganga i kekahi manawa: ʻaʻole i hoʻolālā ʻia ka ʻoihana ponoʻī e nā wahine a i ʻole nā wahine. Aia nō kekahi mau prejudices e pili ana i nā hiki o nā wahine; alakaʻi ʻia nā ʻoihana e nā kāne a makemake i nā kāne ... nui nā kumu i keakea. Pehea kēia ʻano iā mākou? I kekahi manawa hoʻopau mākou i ka haʻalele ʻana iā mākou iho me ka manaʻo ʻo ke kūlana kēia, ʻo ia ka mea a mākou e ʻae ai, akā ʻaʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi ala ʻē aʻe, malia paha hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokō i nā mea hou aʻe. I nā kaiapuni masculinized kiʻekiʻe, makemake nā kāne i kekahi manawa i nā wahine i ʻoi aku ka paʻa, pololei a i ʻole ka mōakāka, no ka mea maʻamau ua manaʻo ʻia kēia kaila ʻoi aku ka ʻoihana, a ʻoi aku ke alakaʻi a i ʻole ka mākaukau, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou e ʻike i ke kaila ʻoi aku ke aloha, ʻoi aku ka lokomaikaʻi. , pili hou aku, ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana, a me ka naʻau. Manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole kūpono kēia no kekahi ʻoihana a i ʻole kekahi mau mea i ka hana. ʻO ka mea aʻu e manaʻo ai i loko o ka puke e aʻo mākou i nā kumumanaʻo like ʻole, nā ʻano hana he nui, i hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻomaʻa i ka interlocutor, i ke kaiapuni a mākou e hana nei, a laila e ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o kā mākou pahuhopu. E pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka moʻolelo kūpono i kēlā me kēia kūlana.
ʻO ka wahine e hoʻoholo, ikaika a ma waho paha o ke kumu a ke kaiāulu e manaʻo nei nona "hoʻopaʻi" ʻia i ka ʻaoʻao ʻoihana, a ʻelemakule paha ia?
ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, ke loli nei kēia, a inā mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi alakaʻi wahine, maopopo ia he pono ia e hoʻoholo, hoʻoholo, e hōʻike pono ʻo ia iā ia iho, e ʻike ʻia a makaʻu ʻole i kēlā ʻike. Akā, i kēia lā ʻaʻole ʻae nā wahine ponoʻī e lawe ka wahine i kēia mau hiʻohiʻona; aʻo maikaʻi ʻia kēia. ʻO ka mea hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho mai nā luna o kāna hui, i kēia hihia ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i nā wahine, ʻaʻole nānā maikaʻi ʻia e ka hui, a hoʻopaʻi ʻia. A laila ʻōlelo nā wahine ponoʻī no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe he ake nui lākou, he poli lākou, ʻo ka hana iki a kaukaʻi nui i ko lākou ʻohana, maikaʻi ʻole lākou ke hoʻokalakupua a loaʻa paha iā lākou ke kālā he nui…
Akā he maikaʻi ʻole paha ia no ka wahine e ʻoi aku ke kaumaha a me ke aloha?
ʻAe, a ʻo ia ka mea e loaʻa ai iā mākou. Nui nā kāne i hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia mai ka wā kamaliʻi e hūnā i ko lākou naʻau a i ʻole insecurities, ʻaʻole ʻike he maikaʻi a kūpono paha i ka wahine e hōʻike i kona nāwaliwali, insecurities a i ʻole kāna mau manaʻo maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. No ke aha mai? No ka mea manaʻo lākou he hua ka wahi hana, a i ʻole kekahi manawa he loea, a kahi kahi i loaʻa ʻole kahi i nā ʻuhane. Hoʻopaʻi ʻia kēia, akā hoʻololi ʻia mākou. I kēia manawa waiwai ʻia ia i nā kāne a me nā alakaʻi kāne i ʻoi aku ke aloha, ka mea palupalu a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi, ʻike mākou i kahi kāne e uē ana i kahi hālāwai kūkā, nāna e haʻi i kēlā mau nāwaliwali ... aia mākou ma ke ala kūpono.
ʻLelo ʻoe ma kahi ʻāpana o ka hoʻokele a me ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, ke manaʻo nei ʻoe e aʻo ʻia nā wahine e ʻoi aku ka palekana ʻole?
Paʻa kēia. Ke ulu nei mākou me ka palekana i kekahi mau ʻano o ko mākou ola. Paipai ʻia mākou e paʻa i kekahi kuleana: ʻo ka makuahine, ka wahine, ka hoa, akā ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole mākou i aʻo nui ʻia i ka palekana o ke alakaʻi ʻana, e ʻike ʻia i kahi ʻoihana a loaʻa kālā hou paha. ʻO ke kālā kahi mea e pili ana i ka honua o nā kāne. ʻOi aku mākou i ka lawelawe ʻana o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, o ka ʻohana ... akā ʻo nā mea āpau hoʻi. ʻO nā ʻoihana ʻoi loa ka wahine ʻo ia ka mea e pili ana i ka lawelawe ʻana a kekahi: ke aʻo, ke olakino, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe pono e hūnā iā ia no ka mea, inā ʻaʻole, makaʻu ia, no ka mea, inā ʻaʻole, hiki ke hoʻokumu i nā hakakā me kahi kaikaina me he keiki lā, a laila me kāna hoa a laila me kāna mau hoa hana. ʻO ia ke kumu e maʻa ai mākou i ka hūnā ʻana i ka mea a mākou i ʻike ai, ko mākou ʻike, ko mākou manaʻo, ko mākou kūleʻa, a me kā mākou hoʻokō ʻana; hūnā pinepine mākou i nā kūleʻa i loaʻa iā mākou. Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, maʻa nā kāne i ka hōʻike ʻana i ka palekana inā ʻaʻohe o lākou. No laila ʻaʻole ia he nīnau no ka nui o ko mākou palekana a ʻaʻole paha, akā no ka mea a mākou e hōʻike ai.
ʻOi aku ka pinepine o ka maʻi imposter i nā wahine ma mua o nā kāne?
Ua hana ʻia nā noiʻi mua e pili ana i kēia kumuhana e nā wahine ʻelua, a me nā wahine. Ma hope ua ʻike ʻia ʻaʻole pili wale i ka wahine, aia kekahi mau kāne i loaʻa i kēia ʻano ʻano palekana akā ʻo wau, mai ka ʻike i loaʻa iaʻu, ke hele wau i kaʻu papa a kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i kēia pilikia a hala mākou i nā hoʻokolohua, nā wahine mau. e haʻi iaʻu: «Ke hoʻokō nei wau iā lākou āpau, a aneane paha nā mea āpau». Ua ola au i nā manawa he nui. ʻO ke kaupaona o ke aʻo a me nā hiʻohiʻona i loaʻa iā mākou i hoʻohuli nui iā mākou.
Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana e lanakila ma luna?
Maʻalahi e ʻōlelo, paʻakikī e hana, e like me kēia mau pilikia pili i ka naʻau a me ka manaʻo pilikino. Akā ʻo ka mea mua e hoʻolōʻihi i kahi manawa me mākou a loiloi pehea ka lōʻihi o kā mākou ʻoihana, he aha nā haʻawina i loaʻa iā mākou, pehea mākou i hoʻomākaukau ai. ʻO ka hapanui o mākou i kahi moʻolelo hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i kā mākou kahua. Pono mākou e nānā i nā mea i loaʻa iā mākou i kā mākou mōʻaukala, akā ʻaʻole kēia wale nō, a me nā mea a haʻi e ʻōlelo ai i kā mākou ʻano ʻoihana. Pono ʻoe e hoʻolohe iā lākou: i kekahi manawa me he mea lā, ke mahalo lākou iā mākou, manaʻo mākou no ke kūpaʻa, a ʻaʻole ia. ʻO nā kāne a me nā wahine e hoʻomaikaʻi iā mākou e ʻōlelo maoli nei. No laila ʻo ka mea mua e pili i kēia mau accolades. ʻO ka lua e nānā i nā mea a mākou i hana ai a ʻo ke kolu, ʻo ka mea nui loa, ʻo ia ka ʻae ʻana i nā pilikia hou, e ʻae i nā mea i noi ʻia iā mākou. Ke hāʻawi lākou i kekahi mea iā mākou, no ka mea ua ʻike lākou ua hiki a manaʻoʻiʻo mākou iā mākou. Ma ka ʻae ʻana e holo pono kēia, ke hoʻoikaika nei mākou i ko mākou manaʻo pilikino.
Pehea ke ʻano o ke ala a mākou e kamaʻilio ai, akā e hana iā mākou iho?
Ua lawa kēia kumuhana no nā puke hou ʻekolu. ʻO ke ala o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me mākou he kumu, mua no kēia manaʻo ponoʻī a me ke ʻano o mākou iho no mākou iho, a laila e ʻike ai i nā mea a mākou e hoʻolālā ai i waho. ʻO nā huaʻōlelo o ke kaila pinepine pinepine: "He naʻaupō wau", "maopopo iaʻu ʻaʻole lākou i koho iaʻu", "Aia ʻoi aku ka poʻe ma mua oʻu" ... ʻo kēia mau huaʻōlelo āpau, maikaʻi ʻole a hoʻoliʻiliʻi iā mākou ʻO ka hailona, ke ala maikaʻi ʻole e hōʻike ai i ka palekana ma waho. Ke pono mākou, e laʻa, e kamaʻilio i ka lehulehu, e komo i kahi hālāwai, e hāpai i nā manaʻo a i ʻole nā papahana, ʻōlelo mākou me kahi waha liʻiliʻi, ke ʻōlelo mākou pēlā. No ka mea ua ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole mākou iā mākou iho, ʻaʻole mākou e hāʻawi iā mākou iho i kahi manawa.
A pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻolilo i ka ʻōlelo i mea kōkua i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka hana?
Inā mākou e noʻonoʻo i ke kaila kamaʻilio kuʻuna kāne ʻoi aku ka pololei, akāka, ʻike, ʻike a me ka hana, hoʻokahi koho no nā wahine e hoʻohana i kēia kaila i nā hanana he nui. Ma kahi o ka lawe ʻana i nā kekeʻe he nui i nā ʻōlelo, e ʻōlelo ʻole ana, e hoʻohana ana i nā hana hoʻoliʻiliʻi iho, e like me "Manaʻoʻiʻo wau", "ʻae, ʻaʻole wau i ʻike inā manaʻo like ʻoe i ka mea like", "e ʻōlelo wau i kēlā", me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka kūlana… ma kahi o E hoʻohana i kēia mau haʻina, e ʻōlelo wau e ʻoi aku ka pololei, maopopo a me ke koʻikoʻi. Kōkua kēia iā mākou e ʻike hou aʻe a mahalo ʻia.
Pehea e hoʻonāwaliwali ʻole ai nā wahine i ka manaʻolana o, ʻoiai he maikaʻi kaʻu e hana ai, i kekahi manawa e hiki lākou i luna, e hālāwai me ka mea i kapa ʻia ʻo "kaupaku aniani"?
He paʻakikī no ka mea he ʻoiaʻiʻo he nui nā wahine i loaʻa nā mākau, ke ʻano, akā i ka hopena pau lākou i ka hāʻawi ʻana no ka mea nui ka ikaika e lanakila ai i kēia mau ālai. Me he mea lā iaʻu aia kekahi mea a mākou e noʻonoʻo ai, ʻo ia ka evolution, i kēlā me kēia kanaka, keu hoʻi ka nohona Komohana, ke ʻeha nei i kēia manawa. Inā hoʻoikaika mākou āpau e hoʻololi i kēia, me ke kōkua o nā kāne, e hoʻololi ana mākou, akā pono mākou e kōkua kekahi i kekahi. He mea nui i nā wahine i komo i nā kūlana hoʻokele, nā kūlana o ke kuleana, kōkua i nā wahine ʻē aʻe, he kī kēia. A ʻaʻole pono i kēlā me kēia o mākou ke kaua wale.
He loea ʻo ia i ka kamaʻilio pilikino i ka ʻoihana ʻoihana. He ʻike nui kona i ke kūkā kamaʻilio kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana o nā loea mai nā ʻāpana āpau. Hana pū ʻia me nā hui Sepania a me ʻAmelike ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa a me nā kula, a hoʻolālā i nā papahana hoʻomaʻamaʻa no nā hui like ʻole a loea.
Mai ka hoʻomaka o kāna ʻoihana ua hele pū ʻo ia me nā wahine loea i mea e ʻike ʻia ai lākou, loaʻa ka mana hou a hoʻokō i kā lākou mau pahuhopu.
ʻO ia ka mea hoʻokumu a me ka luna o Verbalnoverbal, kahi loea kūkākūkā i loea i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā mākau kamaʻilio ma nā pae āpau o ka ʻoihana. He mea hāʻawi maʻamau ʻo ia i ka pāpāho a aia ma nā pūnaewele kaiaulu. ʻO ia nō ka mea kākau o "Ke alakaʻi nui i ka ʻōlelo waha ʻole", "Manuahi o ke kamaʻilio pilikino kūleʻa", "Alakaʻi kiʻi ʻia no ka hōʻino" a me ka "ʻike waha ʻole".