5 mau hōʻailona e pili ana kāu hoa e nānā i kāu male

Mai noʻonoʻo inā hana kāu hoa e like me ka nānā ʻana i kāu male, pono ʻoe e pane ma ke ʻano. Aia kahi ala i waho o kēlā me kēia pilikia. Hāʻawi ʻia e kā mākou poʻe loea.

1. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka manawa a puni, ʻaʻole me ʻoe.

ʻO ke ʻano o ka noho ʻana i loko o ka lumi hoʻokahi, akā noho mālie ʻaʻole hana pū kekahi. "ʻAʻole helu kēlā ʻano manawa," wahi a ka mea hoʻoponopono ʻohana ʻo Aaron Anderson o Denver, Colorado. "Inā ʻoe e noho kokoke ana kekahi i kekahi i ke ahiahi ma hope o ka hana a kamaʻilio kēlā me kēia me kāu mau hoaaloha ma nā ʻoihana pūnaewele, lima ma ka puʻuwai, ʻaʻole anei ʻoe i loaʻa ka manawa no kēia i ka lā?"

Hana: e kiʻi mai i kahi mea e hoʻokuʻu ai i kāna kamepiula a hui pū me ʻoe.

2. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hoʻokomo iā ʻoe i kāna hopena pule a i ʻole ma hope o ka papa hana.

E pili ana i ka nui maanei. ʻO ka hui ʻana i nā hoaaloha a me ka hana ʻana i nā leʻaleʻa he mea pono ia no kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou, akā ʻaʻole pono e lawe i kou manawa kaʻawale. "E hoʻomaka i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka manawa kaʻawale, e hana i nā mea hoihoi iā ʻoe, a ua hala ʻoe i ka hapalua o ke ala e ola ai i kahi ola kaʻawale," wahi a Becky Whetstone, he mea lapaʻau ʻohana mai Little Rock, Arcasas.

Hana: e hoʻomaka i kahi leʻaleʻa hui (e hele ana i ke ahiahi, nā haʻuki a me nā papa hula i ka paka) a haʻalele i kēlā me kēia ahiahi "no ka ʻuhane."

3. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e nīnau, "Pehea kou lā?"

Inā manaʻo kāu kamaʻilio ʻana i ka ʻaina kakahiaka e like me kahi hālāwai ma ka ʻoihana logistic, pono e hana ʻia kekahi mea e pili ana iā ia, i ʻole e lilo ʻoe i mau hoa ʻoihana. «Kahea i ka paipu? — Ae aloha. A lawe ʻoe i nā keiki a kauoha i ka ʻaina ahiahi. Aia nō ʻoe, kou mau manaʻo a me kou ʻike, kou mau manaʻo i kēlā me kēia lā. He mea nui ia i ka wā i hoʻomaka ai ʻoe i ka launa pū ʻana, a ʻaʻole i emi iki ka mea nui i kēia manawa.

Hana: "Ma hope o nā mea a pau, no ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i kou ola ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo pono ʻoe e hāʻawi i kahi pane symmetrical," wahi a Aaron Anderson. — Mai haʻalele me ka hakakā ʻole! E nīnau iā ia pehea i hele ai ka lā, he aha ka hana i kēia lā - e hele i mua. Inā he hana maʻamau ia i haʻalele ʻole iā ʻoe i ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai, ma hope o ka manawa e hoʻi ʻoe i kou hoihoi mua i kekahi i kekahi.

4. Ua hoihoi 'o ia i ka moe kolohe.

Ua hala ka manaʻo, ua hala ka hoʻokele - a me he mea lā ua hauʻoli loa kāu hoa me kēia. Hana kēia no nā kumu he nui. Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo iā lākou i ka wā e noho ana i loko o kou mau lole home i ka lumi kuke a paʻi i kou ʻaoʻao pōʻai.

I ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kahi pilina, ua hopu ʻia ʻoe e kekahi i kekahi e hoʻolilo ʻoe i kēlā me kēia kekona o ke ola me kāna mau hōʻike āpau. ʻO ia ʻano hāmama kona ʻaoʻao: maʻamau, maʻamau a, ma muli o ka hopena, nalowale ka hoihoi. "Holo ʻia ka pilina kino ke ʻeha kou mau manaʻo," wahi a Jenny Ingram, he mea lapaʻau ʻohana ma Nashville, Tennessee. — Mai wehe loa, waiho i kekahi mau «lumi» i paniia. ʻAʻole ʻo ka frankness a me ka naivety ka hoʻomaka maikaʻi loa i kahi pilina lōʻihi.

Hana: e hoʻi i ka wahine, e kamaʻilio me kāu hoa ma ke ʻano he kāne.

5. Hoʻohewa mau ʻo ia i kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana.

ʻO kāu hoa pili kekahi o kou ʻohana i kēia manawa, akā ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia i ʻano maikaʻi e like me lākou. E ho'āʻo e hoʻomaopopo i kēlā mau manaʻo i haʻi ʻia i kekahi o kou ʻohana, ʻo wai paha lākou, ma kekahi ʻano, ʻōlelo ʻia nā manaʻo iā ʻoe. He ʻano ʻae ʻole kēia.

Hana: "E haʻi koke aku," wahi a Becky Whetstone. "Mai hoʻomaka ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a mai ʻae i kāu hoa e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana, no ka mea, ma ia ala lākou e hele ai i kou mau palena a haʻalele iā ʻoe me ke kākoʻo ʻole." No laila ʻaʻole ia e huli i ka hopena aia ʻo ia - ka mea kūpono, a aia kekahi - ʻo kou ʻohana, me ʻoe.