9 mau ʻōlelo hiki ʻole i nā kāne ke kū

Inā ua ʻōlelo ʻoe i hoʻokahi manawa, e hoʻoikaika a mai haʻi hou. No ka mea, ua aʻo ko mākou ʻohana lapaʻau mai kā lākou mea kūʻai aku ʻo ia nā ʻōlelo weliweli loa āu e lohe ai mai kāu hoa.

1. "ʻAe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e hana wau iaʻu iho"

Manaʻo kōkua: Inā noi ʻoe i ke kanaka e hoʻoponopono i kahi ʻauʻau—a i ʻole e noi wale iā ia e kelepona i kekahi e hoʻoponopono i ka ʻauamo—e hana ʻo ia iā ia iho.

"ʻOiai inā poina kāu hoa hana i kēia i kekahi mau manawa, makemake maoli lākou e kōkua iā ʻoe," wahi a Ann Crowley, he ʻohana psychologist ma Austin. — E hoopakele oia i ka maka, mai olelo aku: "Ua pono, e aho au e hana ia'u iho." He ʻōlelo weliweli kēia. No ke kanaka, ʻo ia ka manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana i kekahi mea, a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe iā ia.

2. "Ua hiki iaʻu ke kuhi…"

ʻAʻole e lilo kēia mau ʻōlelo hōʻeha i mea hoʻoikaika iā ia e hana, no ka mea, ke koi nei ʻoe i ka mea hiki ʻole.

"E hoʻopakele nā ​​wāhine iā lākou iho i ka manawa a me nā aʻalolo inā lākou e hoʻomanawanui i ka hewa o nā kāne i ka heluhelu ʻana ma waena o nā laina a ʻaʻole i manaʻoʻiʻo," wahi a Ryan Howes, kahi psychologist ʻo Pasadena. "ʻAʻole lākou i hana ʻia no kēia, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo hou iā lākou. E haʻi pololei iā ia i kāu mea e makemake ai iā ia.

3. "Pono mākou e kamaʻilio"

ʻAʻole hiki i nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe ke hoʻoulu i ka weliweli nui i loko o ka puʻuwai o ke kanaka e like me kēia ʻōlelo ʻino ʻole, i ka nānā mua ʻana, ka ʻōlelo. He hōʻailona kēia o ke kamaʻilio koʻikoʻi, nā hoʻopiʻi a me nā hoʻohewa.

ʻIke ʻoe i kāna mea e hana ai? "E manaʻo ʻo ia he pio a hoʻāʻo e holo," wahi a Marcia Berger, he mea lapaʻau ʻohana. "Akā, he ʻokoʻa kēia o ka mea āu i makemake ai e noho pū a kamaʻilio."

4. "E lilo i kanaka!"

No kou pono a me kona pono iho, mai hoohana oe i kela mau olelo. He hoʻouka koʻikoʻi kēia i kona ʻano, e nīnau ana i kona ʻano kāne a pili i kahi ʻohana nui o nā miners, nā mea pale, nā mea kūkulu hale a me nā mea hana.

5. E hoʻomaʻemaʻe iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole wau ʻo kou makuahine!"

E noʻonoʻo a ʻimi i kahi ala maʻalahi e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia e kau i nā mea ma ko lākou wahi a i ʻole ka pahu. I ka ʻōlelo ʻana e pono ana ʻo ia i kona makuahine, ʻo ʻoe, me ka ʻike ʻole, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i ka helu - e hoʻomanaʻo iā ia i kona maikaʻi me ia.

6. "E haʻalele hou ana ʻoe me kou mau hoaaloha?"

Mai ʻike ʻoe he mea hoʻoweliweli i kāu male, wahi a Howes. ʻOiaʻiʻo, i kekahi manawa ʻo ka hele ʻana i ka pôpeku me nā kāne he euphemism wale nō ia no ka inu maikaʻi, akā no ka hapa nui o nā kāne, ʻo ka hui ʻana i nā hoaaloha kahi puka e kamaʻilio ai ma kahi wāwae like, hoʻololi i nā manaʻo a me kā lākou mau hōʻailona keikikāne o ka mana a me ke kūlana.

Loaʻa iā ia nā pāʻina bachelor no ʻoe pū kekahi. I kekahi manawa, ma hope o ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā moʻolelo āpau o kā lākou mau hoaaloha, hiki mai kāu hoa pili i ka hopena he kāne maikaʻi ʻo ia. A ʻo ia ʻano kamaʻilio kāne waiwai e haʻalele iā ia i kāu hui.

8. "Manaʻo ʻoe he nani ʻo ia?"

Ke waiho nei ʻoe iā ia i kahi kūlana ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i ka pane kūpono. ʻO ke ʻano o nā kāne ke hōʻailona mau lākou i ke kaikamahine maikaʻi loa. Malia paha, i kēia hihia, ua ʻike mua ʻo ia iā ia iho. A i kēia manawa pono ʻo ia e hoʻoholo pehea e hoʻohui ai i ʻelua mau ʻōlelo like ʻoiaʻiʻo - he nani ke kaikamahine a aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻo ia.

9. "Auwe ka opu!"

Pono ʻoe e makaʻala i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kona helehelena, no ka mea, ʻaʻole i maʻa nā kāne i ka ʻakaʻaka iā lākou iho, ʻaʻole like me mākou. ʻAʻole pono e hoʻopuka ʻia nā mea a pau, i kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hele pololei i ka hana. A ʻo kēia wale nō ka hihia. E ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi inā ʻoe e noho pū ana ma ka paka i kekahi o nā lā e hiki mai ana a noho i kekahi mau hola ma laila, a i nā hopena pule e loaʻa ai ʻoe i nā kaʻa a hele e hele wāwae.