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Hoʻohou ʻApelila 2012 - Hoʻolaha i ka poʻe i makemake i nā pilina aloha manuahi me ka hakakā ʻole: ʻo ka kaohi ʻana i ka huhū hiki ke hoʻopōkole i ka lōʻihi o ka manawa o ka wahine.
Ma hope o kahi hoʻopaʻa haʻawina1 kahaha nui ʻia i ka makahiki 2008 ma 192 mau kāne ma kekahi kaona liʻiliʻi ma Michigan, United States, ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o ka make ʻana no nā kāne e hana ana i kahi kāne kahi e kāohi ʻia ka huhū a pale ʻia ka hakakā.
ʻO kēia hopena ka hopena o nā makahiki 17 o ka nānā ʻana ma kahi i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ai nā kāne e like me nā ʻano i hōʻike ʻia e nā kāne i nā hanana hakakā.
Ma waena o nā kāne he 26 i hui pū ʻia me nā hoa i pale i ka hakakā a i kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi paha, ʻehā mau manawa ke kiʻekiʻe o ka make o nā kāne ʻelua ma mua o kēlā mau mea i hōʻike pinepine kekahi o nā kāne ʻelua i kona huhū.
ʻOi aku ke kikoʻī, ma 23% o nā kāne "me nā hakakā ʻole", ua make nā kāne ʻelua i ka wā o ke aʻo ʻana me 6% i nā kāne ʻē aʻe. Pēlā nō, 27% o nā kāne "kū ʻole i ka hakakā" i nalowale i kahi wahine, hoʻohālikelike ʻia me 19% i waena o nā kāne ʻē aʻe. Ua hoʻomau kēia mau hopena ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā kumuhana ʻē aʻe no ka make.
Nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine
I loko o ka manawa like (1971 a i ka 1988), 35% o nā kāne no kahi mau kāne kahi i ʻole kahi ikaika nā kamaʻilio waha i make, ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia me 17% i waena o nā kāne ʻē aʻe. Ma waena o nā wahine, 17% e noho nei i kahi kāne kūʻē ʻole i make, i hoʻohālikelike ʻia me 7%.
Wahi a ka mea kākau o ka noiʻi, ʻo ka hoʻonā hakakā ma ke ʻano he kāne he pilikia olakino lehulehu ia mai ka kaohi ʻana iā ia, hoʻohui ka huhū i nā kumu ʻē aʻe o ke koʻikoʻi a hāʻawi i ka pōkole o ke ola.
"Ma muli o ka hiki ʻole i nā hakakā, ʻo ka crux ke ʻano e hoʻoponopono ai kēlā me kēia wahine: inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia, palupalu ʻoe," i pau ai ʻo Ernest Harburg, polofesa psychology ma ke Kulanui o Michigan.2.
E haʻalele no ka puʻuwai puʻuwai! Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hoʻoholo i nā hakakā a nā kāne a pau... No ka mea hana, pono ka wā hoʻomaha aloha i kahi downtime "e like me ka wā e maʻi ana ʻoe". ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki i kēlā mau 24 a me lalo ke loaʻa i hoʻokahi lā hoʻomaha i kēlā me kēia makahiki, ʻoiai kēlā mau 25 a 29 hiki ke loaʻa i ʻelua mau lā. ʻO nā puʻuwai haʻihaʻi nona nā makahiki 30 a ʻoi aku ke kuleana i kahi hoʻomaha he ʻekolu mau lā i kēlā me kēia makahiki. Malia paha i kekahi lā e helu ʻia ka lōʻihi o kēia haʻalele ʻana e like me ka ʻelemakule ... o ka wahine! Mai ka Globe & Mail |
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1. Harburg E, Kaciroti N, ¶ AL, Nā Hana Hanana Pair Anger-Coping Hiki ke hana ma ke ʻano he waiwai e pili i ka make ʻana: nā ʻike i loaʻa mua mai kahi aʻo ʻana ma mua, Pai no ke kamaʻilio ʻohana, Ianuali 2008.
2. Ua hoʻokuʻu ʻia ka nūhou i ka lā 22 o Ianuali 2008 e ke Kula Nui o Ke Kula Nui o Ke Kula Nui ʻo Michigan: www.ns.umich.edu [kiʻi ʻia ma Pepeluali 7, 2008].