«Coupon» — nā manaʻo «hōʻiliʻili ʻia i loko o ka mālama ʻana» no ka uku ʻana i nā pāʻani. ʻO ka psychological «coupon» ka manaʻo o ka loiloi transactional e Eric Berne.
ʻO nā "coupons" noʻonoʻo like loa me nā kāki hoʻemi i hāʻawi ʻia i nā mea kūʻai aku ma nā hale kūʻai no ke kūʻai ʻana i nā waiwai. Hiki ke hōʻiliʻili, mālama ʻia, hoʻolei ʻia a hoʻopunipuni ʻia kēlā mau mea a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. He mea paʻakikī loa i ka poʻe aloha e hōʻiliʻili i nā "coupon" noʻonoʻo e hōʻole iā lākou, e like me ka paʻakikī i ka poʻe aloha i nā coupons kūʻai e puhi wale i nā uku. A ʻo ka hope loa, ma nā hihia ʻelua, pono e uku nā mea paʻa i nā coupon.
ʻO kahi laʻana o ka «coupon»: ka wahine, ua aʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻomaloka o kāna kāne, kipaku iā ia i waho. Akā, ma kāna noi koi, ua ʻae koke ʻo ia iā ia e hoʻi, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana: "ʻAe, hiki iā ʻoe ke ola, akā e hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole ʻo ka mea mua." No laila, no ka kumakaia, ua lawe ʻo ia iā ia iho he "coupon" me ka inoa nui no ka huhū a me ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana me kahi manawa kūpono ʻole (no ke ola) a kūʻai mau ʻia i nā pāʻani ʻohana.
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Hele mai nā mea kūʻai aku i ka lāʻau lapaʻau me nā album mānoanoa o nā peʻa, me nā ipu puaʻa ʻōpū. No nā mea he nui, ʻo ka hōʻiliʻili ʻana i nā "stamps" a me nā "kālā" lilo i kumu hoʻoikaika nui i ke ola. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, hōʻiliʻili nā mea kūʻai aku i nā hōʻailona gula o nā manaʻo maoli ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae iā lākou iho e hōʻike "ma ʻaneʻi a i kēia manawa", akā mālama ʻia, kekahi no ka "lā ua", kekahi no kahi hoʻomaha.
Eia kekahi laʻana maʻamau. Sveta, kauka, 43 makahiki. Ua kapa ʻia kāna "album" "Loving Woman". Ua hūnā ʻia nā manaʻo ʻoliʻoli maoli, nā manaʻolana o ke aloha, ke aloha, ka wahine ma hope o nā manaʻo racket o ka manaʻo ʻole i nā kāne. I loko o ka ʻohana, pāpā ka makuahine i ka "he wahine": hoʻohana i nā mea hoʻonaninani, ʻaʻahu nani. “Mai hānau ʻia ʻoe he nani, akā e hānau ʻia ʻoe me ka hauʻoli”, “ʻAʻole ʻo ka nani, akā ʻo ka lokomaikaʻi ka mea e nani ai ke kanaka”, “Ua hui ʻia e nā lole, ua alakaʻi ʻia e ka manaʻo. Ua hoʻoholo ke kaikamahine e akamai, lokomaikaʻi a kali i ke aliʻi i kona ola a pau. I loko o kāna "album" ua hoʻopaʻa ʻo ia i nā peʻa o kāna mau manaʻo ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻole o ka hauʻoli a me ke aloha. ʻO ke Aliʻi wale nō kāna makana. A ʻo ka «album» ʻo ia kāna makana.
I ka hana ʻana me nā peʻa, nīnau ka mea lapaʻau i nā nīnau he nui i ka mea kūʻai. He aha kāu pēke puaʻa? He aha ke ʻano, ka nui, ka waihoʻoluʻu? He pōpoki a he puaʻa paha? He kaumaha a nele paha? Pehea ka lōʻihi e hoʻomau ai ʻoe e hōʻiliʻili i nā ʻāpana o nā manaʻo unexpressed? He ʻoiaʻiʻo paha kou mau manaʻo? He aha nā hōʻailona āu e hōʻiliʻili ai? ʻEhia nā album āu? Hāʻawi i nā poʻo inoa i kāu mau album. Pehea ka lōʻihi o kāu ʻohi ʻana iā lākou? He aha ka makana āu e makemake ai e loaʻa? I kēia pae, he mea nui e dissociate, e hoʻokaʻawale i ka mea kūʻai mai kona mau manaʻo racket, no ka laʻana, me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā kiʻi ʻike o nā album, nā pana puaʻa. Ma hope aʻe, e nānā ka mea lapaʻau a me ka mea kūʻai aku i nā hōʻiliʻili a me ka hoʻopaʻi i manaʻo ʻia me ka kikoʻī. I ka wā o ka hana, ʻike ka mea kūʻai aku, ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻo ia me ka hōʻiliʻili, ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻo ia me ka hoʻopaʻi. Eia ka mea nui e hoʻokō i ke kaʻina o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, e kono ana i ka mea kūʻai aku e hana i kahi kuʻuna. Hoʻohana mākou i nā ʻenehana trance. Eia kekahi o nā koho kikokikona: “Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i kāu album a me nā peʻa i loko o lākou. Piggy banks. E koho i kahi ala e hoʻopau ai iā lākou. He ahi hoʻomana nui paha ia. Malia paha me he ahi paionia la. He kūpono inā mālama ʻoe i nā peʻa mai ia mau manawa. A i ʻole he ahi shaman nui, kahi e holo ai nā aka, nā ʻano o kou ola, aia lākou i nā masks carnival a me nā lole. E nānā pono iā lākou. ʻO wai ma hope o nā masks, nā mea a lākou e hana ai, nā mea a lākou e kamaʻilio ai. He aha ko lākou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo? Hauʻoli a kaumaha paha lākou? Nānā, hoʻolohe, manaʻo i nā mea e hana nei a puni. A mākaukau ʻoe, a laila e lawe i kāu mau album a hāpai i luna, ʻānō e hoʻolei i nā album i ke ahi. E nānā i ka wehe ʻana o nā ʻaoʻao. ʻO ka laha ʻana o nā peʻa, ʻā aʻe i ke ahi a ʻā ʻia me ka lehu. ʻO wai ma kou ʻaoʻao? E nānā a puni, he aha ka mea i loli. ʻO wai kēia poʻe e kū kokoke ana iā ʻoe? Ke komo nei lākou i nā maka a ʻaʻole paha? E nānā iā lākou. He aha kā lākou hana, he aha kā lākou e kamaʻilio ai, he aha ko lākou ʻano.
He waihona puaʻa kāu? Inā loaʻa, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe e paʻi ana ʻoe iā ia me ka hāmare nui a wāwahi ʻia. A i ʻole e luʻu i ke kai uliuli, e hoʻopaʻa ana i kahi pōhaku koʻikoʻi i kāu "kitty" a i ʻole "puaʻa" punahele.
E hoʻokuʻu i ke kaumaha o nā manaʻo hōʻiliʻili. E aloha aku iā lākou. E hoʻōho nui aku "Aloha!".
Nā manaʻo racket
No ka laʻana, ʻae ke kāne i kāna wahine e ʻimi ikaika nei i kahi ʻoihana. ʻO kona manaʻo maoli o ka makaʻu i ka mehameha, haʻalele, ua hoʻololi ʻia e ka huhū ʻino. ʻAʻole ia e hōʻike ākea i kona mau manaʻo maoli. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e haʻi i kāna wahine i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo:
"Honey, makaʻu loa wau i ka nalowale ʻana iā ʻoe. ʻO ʻoe ka mālamalama i ka puka makani noʻu, ke ʻano o koʻu ola, hauʻoli a me ka maluhia. He mea nui paha ka wahine ma hope o ia mau ʻōlelo ʻaʻole e hoʻomau i ka manaʻo ʻole a e hana i nā mea āpau e pili kokoke i kēia kāne. Eia naʻe, i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hōʻike ke kāne i ka manaʻo ʻole o ka racket a hōʻiliʻili i nā hōʻailona o ka huhū no ka hoʻopaʻi. I ka piha ana o ke kiaha o ke ahonui, hoike mai oia i na mea a pau e pili ana i kona mau ohumu. Haʻalele ka wahine. Noho hoʻokahi ʻo ia. ʻO kāna uku i ka mehameha āna i makaʻu nui ai. E nana →