"E maʻi au a make," i hoʻoholo ai ke keikikāne (a i ʻole ke kaikamahine). "Make au, a laila e ʻike lākou a pau i ka pōʻino o lākou me ka ʻole oʻu."
(Mai nā manaʻo huna o nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine, a me nā ʻanakala makua ʻole a me nā ʻanakē)
Malia paha, ua noʻonoʻo kēlā me kēia kanaka i hoʻokahi manawa i kona ola e pili ana i kona maʻi a me kona make. ʻO kēia ka manawa me he mea lā ʻaʻohe mea e pono hou iā ʻoe, ua poina nā mea a pau iā ʻoe a ua huli ka laki iā ʻoe. A ke makemake nei au e huli mai nā helehelena a pau iā ʻoe me ke aloha a me ka hopohopo. I kahi huaʻōlelo, ʻaʻole kū mai kēlā mau moemoeā mai kahi ola maikaʻi. ʻAe, ma waena paha o kahi pāʻani leʻaleʻa a i kou lā hānau paha, i ka wā i hāʻawi ʻia ai ʻoe i ka mea āu i moeʻuhane nui ai, hiki mai anei nā manaʻo ʻino? Noʻu, no ka laʻana, ʻaʻole. A ʻaʻohe oʻu mau hoaaloha.
ʻAʻole loaʻa ia mau manaʻo paʻakikī i nā keiki liʻiliʻi loa, ka poʻe ʻaʻole i ke kula. ʻAʻole lākou ʻike nui i ka make. Me he mea lā ua ola mau lākou, ʻaʻole makemake lākou e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole lākou i ola ma mua, a ʻoi aku hoʻi ʻaʻole lākou e noho. ʻAʻole noʻonoʻo kēlā mau keiki i ka maʻi, ma ke ʻano he kānāwai, ʻaʻole lākou i manaʻo iā lākou iho he maʻi a ʻaʻole e hoʻopau i kā lākou mau hana hoihoi ma muli o kekahi ʻano ʻeha ʻeha. Akā, pehea ka maikaʻi o ka noho ʻana o kou makuahine ma ka home me ʻoe, ʻaʻole hele i kāna hana a ʻike i kou lae i ka lā āpau, heluhelu i nā moʻolelo a hāʻawi i kahi mea ʻono. A laila (inā he kaikamahine ʻoe), hopohopo e pili ana i kou wela kiʻekiʻe, ka waihona, i hoʻi mai i ka home mai ka hana, hoʻohiki wikiwiki e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā apo pepeiao gula, nā mea nani loa. A laila lawe ʻo ia iā lākou e holo ana mai kahi mehameha. A inā he keikikāne maalea ʻoe, a laila kokoke i kou moena kaumaha, hiki i ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne ke hoʻolauleʻa mau loa, ʻaʻole i hoʻokō i ka hemo ʻana, akā ua kokoke e ʻākoakoa. A ke ola hou nei ʻoe, e kūʻai lākou iā ʻoe i nā ʻano mea maikaʻi a pau āu, olakino, hiki ʻole ke noʻonoʻo.
No laila e noʻonoʻo e pili ana inā pono ke noho olakino no ka manawa lōʻihi ke hoʻomanaʻo ʻole kekahi iā ʻoe i ka lā āpau. Paʻa nā kānaka a pau i kā lākou mau mea nui, no ka laʻana, ka hana, kahi e huhū pinepine ai nā mākua, hewa, a ʻike wale iā ʻoe iho ʻike lākou i ka hewa i kou mau pepeiao i holoi ʻole ʻia, a laila me nā kuli haki, me he mea lā ua holoi lākou a ʻaʻole i holoi. e hahau ia lakou i ka wa kamalii. ʻO ia, inā ʻike lākou i kou ola ʻana. A laila hūnā kekahi mai nā mea a pau ma lalo o ka nūpepa, "he wahine ka makuahine" (mai kahi kope o kahi kaikamahine liʻiliʻi i haʻi ʻia e KI Chukovsky ma ka puke "From Two to Five") hele i ka lumi lumi e holoi ai, ʻaʻohe āu e hōʻike i kāu diary me nā ʻelima.
ʻAʻole, ke maʻi ʻoe, aia nā ʻaoʻao maikaʻi o ke ola. Hiki i kēlā me kēia keiki akamai ke wili i nā kaula mai ko lākou mau mākua. A i ʻole nā kaula. ʻO ia paha ke kumu, i ka slang ʻōpio, kapa ʻia nā mākua i kekahi manawa - nā kaula kāmaʻa? ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu, akā manaʻo wau.
ʻO ia hoʻi, ua maʻi ke keiki, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ma ke kumu. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e ʻōlelo i nā ʻano ʻano weliweli, ʻaʻole ia e hana i nā ala kilokilo, akā ʻo ka papahana kūloko o ka pōmaikaʻi o ka maʻi mai kēlā me kēia manawa e hoʻomaka iā ia iho inā ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokō i ka ʻike i waena o ko lākou ʻohana ma ke ʻano ʻē aʻe.
He maʻalahi ke ʻano o kēia kaʻina hana. ʻO ka mea e pono ai ke kino a me ke ʻano ma kekahi ʻano e ʻike maʻalahi ʻia. Eia kekahi, i nā keiki, a kokoke i nā mākua a pau, ʻaʻole i ʻike ʻia. I ka psychotherapy, kapa ʻia kēia he hōʻailona makahiki (ʻo ia hoʻi, he hōʻailona hāʻawi pōmaikaʻi).
Ua wehewehe kekahi o kaʻu mau hoa hana i kahi hihia lapaʻau me kahi wahine ʻōpio i maʻi i ka maʻi hānō. Ua hana ʻia ma kēia ʻano. Haʻalele kāna kāne iā ia a hele i kahi ʻē. Ua pili loa ʻo Olga (e like me kā mākou e kapa ai iā ia) i kāna kāne a hāʻule i loko o ke kaumaha. A laila, loaʻa ʻo ia i ke anu, a no ka manawa mua o kona ola ʻana i loaʻa iā ia ka maʻi hānō, no laila ua hoʻi hou mai ke kāne hoʻopunipuni makaʻu iā ia. Mai ia manawa mai, ua hana ʻo ia i kēlā mau hoʻāʻo ʻana i kēlā me kēia manawa, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻoholo e haʻalele i kāna wahine maʻi, ʻo kāna mau hoʻouka ʻana e piʻi nui ana. No laila, noho lākou ma kahi ʻaoʻao - ʻo ia, pehu mai nā hormones, a ʻo ia - haʻahaʻa a ʻeha.
Inā loaʻa i ke kāne ka wiwo ʻole (ma kahi ʻano ʻē aʻe e kapa ʻia ʻo ia he meanness) ʻaʻole e hoʻi, ʻaʻole e hoʻokumu i kahi pilina ʻino a ikaika ma waena o ka maʻi a me ka hiki ke loaʻa i kahi mea aloha, hiki iā lākou ke kūleʻa, e like me kekahi ʻohana ma kahi. kūlana like. Ua haʻalele ʻo ia iā ia i ka maʻi, me ke kuni nui, me nā keiki ma kona mau lima. Ua haʻalele ʻo ia ʻaʻole i hoʻi mai. Ua ʻike ʻo ia i kona noʻonoʻo a ua alo i ka pono ʻino e ola ai, i ka manawa mua ua aneane nalowale kona noʻonoʻo, a laila hoʻomālamalama i kona noʻonoʻo. Ua ʻike ʻo ia i nā hiki āna i ʻike ʻole ai ma mua - ke kaha kiʻi, poetry. A laila, hoʻi ke kāne iā ia, i ka mea makaʻu ʻole e haʻalele, a no laila ʻaʻole makemake e haʻalele, me ka hoihoi a hilinaʻi hoʻi ma hope ona. ʻAʻole ia e hoʻouka iā ʻoe ma ke ala, akā kōkua iā ʻoe e hele.
No laila pehea mākou e hana ai i nā kāne i kēia kūlana? Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole nui nā kāne, akā ʻo nā kūlana like ʻole a nā wahine i lawe ai. Ua hele kekahi o lākou i ke ala o ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i ka naʻau a me ka ʻike ʻole, ʻo ka mea ʻē aʻe i hoʻohana i ka paʻakikī i ala mai i manawa e lilo ai iā ia iho, ʻoiaʻiʻo. Me kona ola, ua ʻike ʻo ia i ke kānāwai kumu o ka defectology: ʻo nā hemahema, nā hemahema, he mea hoʻoikaika ia no ka hoʻomohala ʻana o ke kanaka, ka uku no ka hemahema.
A, e hoi ana i ke keiki mai, e ike kakou ʻoiaʻiʻo, pono paha ʻo ia i kahi maʻi i mea e makemake ai e lilo i olakino, ʻaʻole pono ia e lawe iā ia i nā pono a me kahi ʻano ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ke kanaka olakino. ʻAʻole pono nā lāʻau lapaʻau e ʻono, akā ʻino. ʻAʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma ka sanatorium a me ka haukapila ma mua o ka home. A pono ka makuahine e hauʻoli i kahi keiki olakino, ʻaʻole ia e moeʻuhane i ka maʻi ma ke ʻano he ala i kona puʻuwai.
A inā ʻaʻohe ala ʻē aʻe o ke keiki e ʻike ai i ke aloha o kona mau mākua, koe wale nō ka maʻi, ʻo kona pōʻino nui kēia, a pono e noʻonoʻo pono nā mākua. Hiki iā lākou ke ʻae me ke aloha i kahi keiki ola, ʻeleu, ʻino, a i ʻole e hoʻokomo ʻo ia i kāna mau hormones koʻikoʻi i loko o ke kino aloha e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou a mākaukau e pāʻani hou i ke ʻano o ka mea i pepehi ʻia me ka manaʻolana e hoʻi hou ka mea hoʻokō. mihi a aloha iā ia?
I nā ʻohana he nui, ua hoʻokumu ʻia kahi hoʻomana kūikawā o ka maʻi. ʻO ke kanaka maikaʻi, lawe ʻo ia i nā mea āpau i ka puʻuwai, ʻeha kona puʻuwai (a i ʻole poʻo) mai nā mea āpau. He hōʻailona kēia o ke kanaka maikaʻi a maikaʻi. A ʻo ka mea ʻino, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i manaʻo ʻole, ua like nā mea a pau e like me ka pī i ka pā, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa iā ia i kekahi mea. ʻAʻohe mea ʻeha iā ia. A laila ʻōlelo lākou me ka hoʻāhewa ʻana:
"A ʻaʻole ʻeha iki kou poʻo!"
Pehea e ulu ai kahi keiki olakino a hauʻoli i loko o ia ʻohana, inā ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia kēia? Inā me ka hoʻomaopopo a me ke aloha e mālama wale lākou i ka poʻe i uhi ʻia i nā ʻeha kūpono a me nā maʻi ʻeha mai kahi ola paʻakikī, ʻo wai lā e kauo me ke ahonui i kona keʻa kaumaha? I kēia manawa, kaulana loa ka osteochondrosis, kahi kokoke i ka haki ʻana i nā mea nona ka maʻi lolo, a ʻoi aku ka nui o nā mea nona. A holo ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa, mahalo i ka mea kupanaha ma hope o lākou.
ʻO kaʻu mea kūikawā he psychotherapy. ʻOi aku ma mua o iwakālua mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino a me ka makuahine, ʻo ka ʻike o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kaʻu mau maʻi maʻi maʻi, alakaʻi i ka hopena:
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā maʻi kamaliʻi (ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole o ke ʻano congenital) he hana, adaptive i ke ʻano, a ulu mālie ke kanaka mai loko mai o lākou, e like me ka pōkole pōkole, inā loaʻa iā ia nā ala ʻē aʻe e pili ana i ka honua. No ka laʻana, me ke kōkua o kahi maʻi, ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia e huki i ka manaʻo o kona makuahine, ua aʻo mua kona makuahine e ʻike iā ia i ke olakino a hauʻoli iā ia e like me ia. A i ʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻolauleʻa i kou mau mākua me kou maʻi. Ua hana au ma ke ʻano he kauka ʻōpio no ʻelima mau makahiki, a ua loaʻa iaʻu i kahi ʻoiaʻiʻo - ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka ʻike o nā kāleka maʻi maʻi i loaʻa iā mākou mai nā keʻena o nā keiki a me ke kūlana olakino o nā ʻōpio, i nānā mau ʻia no ʻelua a ʻekolu mau makahiki. . Aia nā kāleka i ka gastritis, cholecystitis, nā ʻano dyskinesia a me dystonia, nā ʻeha a me nā neurodermatitis, umbilical hernia, a pēlā aku. Ma kekahi ʻano, i ka nānā ʻana i ke kino, ʻaʻole i loaʻa i kahi keikikāne kahi hernia umbilical i wehewehe ʻia ma ka palapala ʻāina. Ua'ōleloʻo ia ua hāʻawiʻia kona makuahine i kahi hana, akā,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻoholo, a i kēia manawa ua hoʻomakaʻo ia e pāʻani i nā haʻuki (maikaʻi, mai hoʻonele i ka manawa,ʻoiaʻiʻo). Nalo mālie ka hernia ma kekahi wahi. Ma hea i hele ai ko lākou ʻōpū a me nā maʻi ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ʻike nā ʻōpio hauʻoli. No laila ua puka mai - outgrown.