No ke aha i hoihoi nui ai nā kaikamāhine i nā kāne ʻumiʻumi? He aha nā mīkini hohonu i hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o nā wahine i ka ʻike ʻana i nā mea kanu ma ke alo o kahi hoa pili? ʻO kekahi mau manaʻo koʻikoʻi no ka pale ʻana i nā ʻumiʻumi.
Ua hoʻi hou ka ʻumiʻumi i ke ʻano a i ʻole ʻaʻole lākou i hele i waho o ke ʻano? Mai ka manaʻo o ka evolution - ka lua. I ka hoʻokūkū no ka nānā wahine, hoʻomaka nā kāne ʻumiʻumi a lanakila.
Nui nā hōkū, mai nā mea keaka a i nā kiʻi pōhaku, e ʻumiʻumi. Aia nā ʻumiʻumi ma nā wahi a pau, akā makemake ʻole kekahi poʻe iā lākou. Me ka ʻike ʻole e pili ana i ke kanaka, wikiwiki lākou e huki i nā manaʻo e pili ana iā ia, ʻaʻohe manawa a makemake ʻole e ʻike i kahi ʻano ma hope o nā mea kanu.
"Akā naʻe, ʻo ka mea makemake e ʻae i kēlā ʻano hoʻohālikelike a lele i nā hopena ma ke ʻano he kūpono e ʻike ʻo ia aia ʻo ia i loko o nā stereotypes," hoʻomanaʻo ʻo Wendy Patrick, ka mea kākau o How to Read People.
Nā mea huna o ka nani kāne
E ulu a ʻaʻole e ulu? ʻO kahi koho a nā kāne he nui i kēlā me kēia manawa. I ka wā e hana ai, he mea nui iā lākou e noʻonoʻo i ko lākou kūlana pilikino, nā ʻano, nā ʻano ola, kahi o ka hana, ka manaʻo o ka wahine a me nā mea ʻē aʻe.
Hoʻololi nui ka ʻumiʻumi i ke ʻano o ke kāne, a hoʻohana pinepine ʻia kēia, no ka laʻana, i ka ʻoihana kiʻiʻoniʻoni, e hoʻololi i ke ʻano o nā mea keaka me ia. No ka hapanui, aia kāna mea hoʻonani i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo inā luhi ʻo ia a ʻaʻole hele wale, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopau iā ia i loko o nā minuke. Akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia wale nō: ua hōʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi hou i ka ʻike ʻana o nā wahine i nā kāne me ka lauoho helehelena he uʻi a koʻikoʻi ma ka nohona a me ke kino.
Ua helu ʻia nā kāne ʻumiʻumi me nā hiʻohiʻona kāne ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e nā mea komo.
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana o ke Kulanui o Queensland he 919 wahine mai 18 a hiki i 70. Ua hōʻike ʻia lākou i nā kiʻi o nā kāne me nā ʻano lauoho helehelena like ʻole a noi ʻia e helu i kēlā me kēia. Nānā nā mea komo i nā kiʻi kāne 30: paʻi mua ʻia kēlā me kēia me ka ʻumiʻumi ʻole, a laila me ka ʻumiʻumi ulu; ua hōʻike pū ʻia nā kumuhana i nā ʻano kiʻi i hoʻoponopono ʻia i ka nānā ʻana o nā helehelena i ke kāne. Ua helu nā wāhine iā lākou no ka ʻike ʻana i ka nani no ka wā pōkole a me ka pilina lōʻihi.
He aha nā hopena? ʻO ka nui o ka lauoho ma ka maka, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā kāne, ua hiki mai nā psychologists i kēia hopena. Ua helu ʻia nā kāne ʻumiʻumi me kahi hiʻohiʻona kāne ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ʻoi aku hoʻi no nā pilina lōʻihi.
ʻumiʻumi a ʻulaʻula
Ua hoʻoholo ka poʻe noiʻi e manaʻo mākou i kahi helehelena kāne ʻoi aʻe he hōʻailona e noho ana ke kanaka i kahi kūlana koʻikoʻi i ke kaiāulu a he ikaika kino. Hoʻokūpaʻa ka lauoho maka i nā hiʻohiʻona kāne ma ka uhi ʻana i nā wahi nani ʻole.
Ua hōʻoia nā mea kākau o ka papahana i ka pilina ma waena o nā hiʻohiʻona kāne kāne a me ka ikaika kino, nā mana hakakā a me kahi kūlana kiʻekiʻe. I ko lākou manaʻo, e nānā ana i ka helehelena kāne, hoʻoholo nā wahine e pili ana i ka ikaika a me ke olakino o ke kāne, ʻo ia hoʻi, hiki ke hoʻololi i kā lākou makemake male.
ʻIke ʻia ma ka ulu ʻana i ka ʻumiʻumi, hiki i ke kanaka ke hoʻoikaika i kāna kāne ponoʻī? Me he mea la. Hōʻike ka noiʻi ʻana i nā kāne ʻumiʻumi iā lākou iho e ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kāne a hoʻonui i ka testosterone serum, ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻonui ai i nā pae o ka noho aupuni.
ʻAʻole makemake nā wahine a pau i ka ʻumiʻumi
I ka manawa like, ʻaʻole makemake nā wahine a pau i ka pāhana i nā maka me nā mea kanu: ʻoiai, hopohopo kekahi i ka hele ʻana o nā parasites i ka lauoho a i ka ʻili paha o nā kāne. Manaʻo kekahi poʻe he hōʻailona ʻaʻole hahai ke kanaka i kona helehelena.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hana ka pilina ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe - ʻo nā wahine me kahi kiʻekiʻe o ka pale ʻana i nā pathogens i makemake nui i nā kāne ʻumiʻumi, e hōʻike ana paha lākou i ka lauoho maka he hōʻailona o ke olakino maikaʻi.
ʻOi aku ka makemake o nā wahine hoʻokahi me nā manaʻo hoʻohua i nā maka kāne i kahi maʻemaʻe.
Ua ʻike pū nā mea kākau o ka papahana ʻaʻole makemake nā wahine me nā "manaʻo hoʻohua nui" i nā kāne ʻumiʻumi. Eia naʻe, i ka wā i noʻonoʻo ai ka poʻe ʻepekema i ke kūlana male o ka poʻe i komo i ka papahana, ua ʻike ʻia, ma ke ʻano he nui, ʻo nā wahine male kāne a me nā wahine i makemake e hānau i loaʻa nā wahine ʻumiʻumi i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o nā wahine i moeʻuhane ʻole i ka makuahine.
ʻO nā wāhine hoʻokahi me nā manaʻo hoʻohua hānau ʻoi aku ka makemake i nā maka kāne i kahi ʻia maʻemaʻe, ʻoiai nā wahine male i hōʻike i ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole iā lākou.
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka ʻike o ka ʻike ʻana o nā lālā o ka wahine ʻē aʻe he mea ʻono ia, i hana ʻia ma lalo o ka mana o nā kumu he nui. Akā me he mea lā ua hōʻoia hou ka poʻe ʻepekema ua alakaʻi nui ʻia mākou e ke ʻano a me nā mīkini i waiho ʻia i nā haneli, inā ʻaʻole he mau tausani o nā hanauna i hala. A i kēia manawa, no ka nānā ʻana, no ka laʻana, nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni me Sean Connery, hiki i kekahi ke hoʻomaopopo hope i ke kumu i ʻike ʻole ʻia ai ka nani o ka Bond maʻemaʻe ma mua o nā kiʻi i hoʻokani ʻia e ka mea keaka i nā makahiki he nui ma hope me ka ʻumiʻumi hanohano a maikaʻi.
No ka mea kākau: He loio hoʻokolokolo ʻo Wendy Patrick, ʻepekema forensic, a me ka mea kākau o How to Read People.