ʻO ke aloha kahi ʻike huna i ke ola o kēlā me kēia kanaka. He ʻano ikaika ʻo ia o ko mākou mau manaʻo, kahi hōʻike hohonu o ka ʻuhane a me nā pūhui kemika i loko o ka lolo (no ka poʻe i maʻalahi i ka hope). Manaʻo ke aloha pau ʻole i ka hauʻoli o kekahi me ka manaʻo ʻole i kekahi mea. He kani maikaʻi, akā pehea ʻoe e loaʻa ai kēlā manaʻo?
Makemake paha kēlā me kēia o kākou e aloha ʻia ʻaʻole no kāna (a) hana, he aha ke kiʻekiʻe i hiki ai iā ia, ke kūlana āna i noho ai i loko o ke kaiāulu, kāna hana me ia, a pēlā aku. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, e hahai ana i kēia mau "kūikawā" āpau, pāʻani mākou i ke aloha, ma mua o ka manaʻo maoli. I kēia manawa, ʻo kahi ʻano nani wale nō e like me ke "aloha me nā kūlana ʻole" hiki ke hāʻawi iā mākou i ka ʻae ʻana o kekahi i kāna mau kūlana paʻakikī o ke ola, nā hewa i hana ʻia, nā hoʻoholo hewa a me nā pilikia āpau a ke ola e hōʻike mai nei iā mākou. Hiki iā ia ke ʻae, hoʻōla i nā ʻeha a hāʻawi i ka ikaika e neʻe ai.
No laila, he aha kā mākou e hana ai e aʻo ai pehea e aloha ai i kā mākou mea koʻikoʻi me ke ʻano ʻole, a i ʻole ka liʻiliʻi e hoʻokokoke i kēlā ʻano mea?
1. ʻAʻole manaʻo ke aloha ʻole he ʻano hana. E noʻonoʻo i ka moku'āina kahi i wehe loa ai mākou me nā hauʻoli a me nā makaʻu a pau, e hāʻawi ana i nā mea maikaʻi a pau i loko o mākou. E noʻonoʻo i ke aloha ma ke ʻano he ʻano i loko ona, e hoʻopiha ana i ka mea nona ka hana hāʻawi, hāʻawi. Lilo ia i mea kupanaha o ke aloha hanohano a lokomaikaʻi.
2. E nīnau iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia ke ʻano o ka nīnau me ka ʻike ʻole, me ka ʻole o ia mea, ʻaʻole hiki ke aloha ʻole.
3. Lisa Poole (): "Aia kahi kūlana i koʻu ola ʻaʻole wau "ʻoluʻolu" e ʻae. ʻO kaʻu ʻano a me kaʻu mau ʻano, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻopilikia i kekahi, ʻaʻole e hoʻokō i ka makemake o koʻu ulu ʻana. A ua ʻike ʻoe i kaʻu i ʻike ai: ʻo ke aloha ʻole i ke kanaka me ka ʻole o ka manaʻo ʻaʻole e maʻalahi a ʻoluʻolu. Eia kekahi laʻana, aia kāu mea aloha i loko o kahi hoʻopunipuni a huikau paha e pili ana i kekahi kūlana, e ho'āʻo ana e pale aku i mea e pakele ai i ka pilikia o ke ola. ʻO ka makemake e pale iā ia mai kēia mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo, ʻaʻole ia he hōʻike o ke aloha ʻole. ʻO ke aloha, ʻo ia hoʻi ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ka ʻōlelo ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo me ka puʻuwai lokomaikaʻi, akahai, me ka hoʻohewa ʻole.
4. Hoʻomaka ke aloha ʻoiaʻiʻo me… ʻoe iho. Ua ʻike ʻoe i kou mau hemahema ma mua o kekahi a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kekahi. ʻO ka hiki ke aloha iā ʻoe iho me ka ʻike ʻana i kou mau hemahema e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi kūlana e hāʻawi i ke aloha like i kekahi. A hiki i kou manaʻo ʻana iā ʻoe iho he pono ke aloha ʻole ʻia, pehea ʻoe e aloha ai i kekahi?