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Hoʻokomo ka wahine i ke kāne ma luna o kahi paepae a poina i kā lākou makemake ponoʻī. No ke aha he mea weliweli ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i kahi hoa a pehea e pale aku ai?
ʻO kahi kūlana maʻamau: hāʻule ka wahine i ke aloha, poina iā ia iho a nalowale kona ʻano pilikino. ʻOi aku ka mea nui o nā mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o kāna ponoʻī, hoʻopili ka pilina iā ia. Hoʻomau kēia a hiki i ka pau ʻana o ke kilokilo o ke aloha mua.
Ua kamaʻāina kēia kūkulu ʻana i nā mea he nui. Ua ʻike mua kekahi i ka lima, ua ʻike kekahi i ke ʻano o kā lākou mau hoaaloha. He maʻalahi ka hāʻule i loko o kēia pahele. Aloha nui mākou. Ua pupule mākou i ka hauʻoli, no ka mea, ua pānaʻi ʻia mākou. Euphoric mākou, no ka mea, ua loaʻa iā mākou kahi kāne. No ka hoʻolōʻihi ʻana i kēia manaʻo no ka lōʻihi o ka hiki, ke koi nei mākou i kā mākou mau pono a me nā makemake i ke kua. Hōʻalo mākou i kekahi mea e hoʻopilikia ai i ka pilina.
ʻAʻole hiki kēia ma ka manawa. Ua hoʻokumu ʻia ko mākou manaʻo o ke aloha e nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni aloha a me nā makasina. Mai nā wahi a pau a mākou e lohe ai: "hapa lua", "hapalua maikaʻi", "ʻuhane hoa". Ua aʻo ʻia mākou ʻaʻole he wahi nani wale ke aloha o ke ola, akā he pahuhopu e hoʻokō ʻia. ʻO ka nele o kahi kāne e "haʻahaʻa".
Hiki i kāu "I" maoli ke hoʻoweliweli i kekahi mau hoa pili, akā mai hopohopo no ia
ʻO kēia manaʻo kuhi hewa kahi e waiho ai ka pilikia. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe i ka hapa maikaʻi, he kanaka holoʻokoʻa ʻoe. ʻAʻole hiki mai ka pilina olakino mai ka hui ʻana i ʻelua ʻāpana haʻihaʻi. ʻO nā kāne hauʻoli i hana ʻia i ʻelua mau kānaka ponoʻī, aia kēlā me kēia o lākou i kā lākou mau manaʻo ponoʻī, nā hoʻolālā, nā moeʻuhane. Inā makemake ʻoe e kūkulu i kahi pilina paʻa, mai kaumaha ʻoe i kāu "I".
ʻO nā mahina mua ma hope o ko mākou hui ʻana, ʻike mākou ʻaʻole hiki i ka hoa hana ke hana hewa. Huli makapō mākou i nā hiʻohiʻona e hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou i ka wā e hiki mai ana, hūnā i nā hana maikaʻi ʻole, poina e hōʻike ʻia lākou ma hope. Hoʻoneʻe mākou i ka pahuhopu i mea e hāʻawi manawa hou aku i kahi mea aloha.
Mahalo i kēia, loaʻa iā mākou kekahi mau mahina o ka hauʻoli a me ka hauʻoli. I ka wā lōʻihi, hoʻopili kēia i nā pilina. Ke hāʻule ka pale o ke aloha, ua ʻike ʻia ua kokoke ke kanaka hewa.
E ho'ōki i ka hoʻopunipuni a e lilo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho. ʻO kāu "I" maoli paha e hoʻoweliweli aku i kekahi mau hoa pili, akā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hopohopo no kēia - ʻaʻohe mea i hana ʻia me lākou. Me he mea lā iā ʻoe ua ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka loaʻa ʻana o kāu kanaka. I ka wā mua o ka pilina, e ʻoi aku ka nāwaliwali a me ka palekana. Akā i ka wā ma hope o kēia mau ʻanuʻu, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaha, no ka mea, pili maoli kāu hoa me ʻoe maoli.
ʻEkolu mau helu e kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i kāu "I" i ka wā mua o kahi pilina.
1. E hoʻomanaʻo i nā pahuhopu
ʻO ka hui pū ʻana i ʻelua, hoʻomaka ka poʻe e hoʻolālā. Hiki ke loli a lilo paha kekahi o nā pahuhopu i mea ʻole. Mai haʻalele i kāu mau hoʻolālā ponoʻī e hōʻoluʻolu i kāu hoa.
2. E hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa no ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha
Ke komo mākou i ka pilina, poina mākou i kā mākou mea aloha. Inā pili ʻoe i kahi kāne hou, e pāpālua i kāu hoʻoikaika ʻana e launa pū me nā hoaaloha a me ka ʻohana.
3. Mai haʻalele i nā leʻaleʻa
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e 100% kaʻana like i nā leʻaleʻa o kekahi. Makemake paha ʻoe e heluhelu, a makemake ʻo ia e pāʻani i nā pāʻani kamepiula. Makemake ʻoe e hoʻolilo i ka manawa ma ke ʻano, a makemake ʻo ia e noho ma ka home. Inā ʻaʻole kūlike kāu mau makemake, ʻaʻole maikaʻi, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka noho pono a kākoʻo kekahi i kekahi.
Source: The Everygirl.